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Is this guy just using me, or does he like me ? What would this conversation tell you ?
Q. This is a conversation i had with a guy i liked, i get most of it but not all.Is he using me? Does he like me? Just please tell me what he means? Me: What do you think of me? Him: How do you mean, you have to be more accurate? Me: What am...
A. 30 April 2007: Well it sounds to me like he is using you for sex...why? Because he doesn't see you as a girlfriend but a person to have a leg over once in a while.Lose him.... (read in full...)
He did reply to say he was busy, do you think this is a blow off, or do I still stand a chance ?
Q. a few weeks ago i sent this text to a man i really do like it read, sorry for texting you yesterday i was a little anxious, i know you are a busy man and it wont happen again i must be getting on your nerves, i bet i have put you off that drink now ...
A. 14 April 2007: Ask him again when he wants to meet up for a drink....if he gives out the same excuse then you will know he's not interested.... (read in full...)
Is it true that emotional attachments tend to destroy the creativity of a human being?
Q. Is it true that emotional attachments tend to destroy the creativity of a human being? I am not sure but have felt like this a few times, for in emotional attachment, there are so many do's and do not's that one may feel trapped altogether to have ...
A. 10 March 2007: I agree with the other agony aunts on here but it sounds to me like you would rather be on your own because it sounds like you resent the fact that being in a relationship and getting emotionally involved makes you feel trapped and therefore no room ... (read in full...)
Our sex life is almost non existent, he says he's "going through something", I can't handle it much longer...
Q. I am 21 and my boyfriend is 32, we have been together for almost 2 yrs., lately our sexual activities have been few and far between. He says its because he is "going through something", I guess like a midlife crisis. But, its been like this for ...
A. 10 March 2007: Its a bit premature for your boyfriend to have a mid life crisis as he's only 32,that sort of thing only happens when you reach 40 and onwards.You deserve to know what's going on in his head as you have been together for 2 years,so dont be fobbed ... (read in full...)
Ifa girl hasn't heard from a man for 2 weeks, (no contact at all) does that mean he's a bit of a player?
Q. If a girl hasn't heard from a man for 2 weeks (absolutely no contact at all, no texts, no phone calls, no MSN, no emails) does that mean (he's a bit of a player) that he is leading a double life or has got something to hide? When he does say ...
A. 26 February 2007: Well it could be a number of things but my money is on him either having another girlfriend already or he's living with someone,or even married with kids. Another reason why he doesn't contact her for such a while is because he's not really that ... (read in full...)
Going out of my mind over my workmate!
Q. I am totally going out of my mind for this guy i work with, who is 30. I have been working there since the summer and am not a permanent member of staff. At first i thought he diden't like me, then something happened, he started acting differently ...
A. 18 February 2007: Im surprised he hasn't made the 1st move yet?..The man is 30 years old,so he's not a 16 year old teenager.If you feel that he does like you then take it to the next level and ask him out for a drink at lunch time...strike while the irons hot,if he ... (read in full...)
Do you think its weird for a 32 year old man to be going out with a 24 year old woman?
Q. Hi there...do you think its weird for a 32 year old man to be going out with a 24 year old woman?...
A. 28 January 2007: Big deal....your only talking a 8 year age difference.So what? Your 2 grown adults so whats the problem? Iv dated much older men that that,so dont fret.... (read in full...)
He doesn't answer his phone and makes up excuses as to why he's late. Is it b/c he's older?
Q. hi im 18 my boyfriend is 25.i love him and we get on really well.but he lets me down alot if he goes out he doesnt answer hes phone to me and makes up an excuse why he was late. hes not very romantic either do u think its because he is alot older ...
A. 22 January 2007: No,it hasn't got nothing to do with his age. Now it could be a number of things,1st you might be becoming very needy and constantly phoning him when he is going out on the days he doesn't see you....if he's late on dates,how late are we talking ... (read in full...)
He's married but will he call me back for a repeat performance?
Q. Question about behaviour of married men.. should I expect a phone call out of the blue in the future from a man I met a little while ago (one night stand, apparently intense feelings on both sides)looking for a repeat performance? Am not familiar ...
A. 21 January 2007: What made you think this bloke had strong feelings for you?
All you were to him was a quick leg over then back to his wife......yes he might come back for seconds but you wont gain nothing out of it,especially if you start to get really keen on him.... (read in full...)
He tells me to grow out my hair and compares me to others. Now he's picky about what I eat! Is this headed into an abusive relationship?
Q. My now fiance always tells me that I should grow my hair long (like how I used to have it). He'll even point out different girls and say things like "You should grow it that long." It made me mad so finally I said something, and he ignored me for ...
A. 15 January 2007: Control freak alert!!!!...Get out now,this man is not the ticket.How about you turned the tables round and told him to lose a few pounds,grow a moustache so that he looks like Tom Selleck from Magnum then bung him a fiver and tell him to go out and ... (read in full...)
Me and my ex are friends with benefits... And now my forthright text made him uncomfortable!
Q. Me and my ex are friends wit benefits. Niether of us dont want a relationship or are messin with no one else. Well earlier 2day i txt him sayin i wanted his body and that i was horny and wanted to gave him head and i asked him if i could. Well he ...
A. 15 January 2007: When you txt him,telling him that you wanted to "give him head" he didn't reply because he was not in the mood,or he was tied up in something else.Now what puzzles me is you said that you two were just friends with benefits with no strings ... (read in full...)
Should I believe that he didn't do anything last night?
Q. My b/f did not want to do anything last night. He lives about 30 minutes from me. I dont drive. He says he just feels beat up/tired and doesnt feel like driving anywhere. So we didnt do anything. I feel somewhat suspicious but feel i shouldnt. I ...
A. 14 January 2007: Well its hard to say whether he was telling the truth or not but lets presume he was.Why would it be strange if he wanted to have a quiet night in? Does he work? Maybe he was very tired and wasn't up to driving.If you start calling him every so ... (read in full...)
He's emotionally unavailable, rarely sees me and lets me down at the last minute..a lot! Stay or walk away?
Q. I have been having seeing a man on and off for a number of years. Orginally we started dating for a couple of years and although we did sleep together in the same bed we never had sex becuase he said he didn't want to take advantage of me. He went ...
A. 14 January 2007: Sounds like he is either married or he has a girlfriend.If he hasn't,he seems rather strange to me.What a feeble excuse to say that he wouldn't have sex with you even though you shared the same bed...how bizarre? This man doesn't want a proper ... (read in full...)
He keeps touching my vagina.... why!?
Q. My problem is this, I have been dating my boyfriend for 2 years now and he has this habit of constantly touching my private parts (vagina), he says that it is his to touch, this is really starting to irritate me, I have spoken to him about it before ...
A. 14 January 2007: Sorry but i dont agree with what Docsilverback has said.You are not a piece of meat and if you were to keep pulling his todger at shopping centres....the local library,his parents house in the street,how would he like it.This man doesn't care about ... (read in full...)
Why does he like to ejaculate on my belly?
Q. Can you tell me why the man in my life always ejaculates all over my stomach, what does it mean?...
A. 14 January 2007: It might be because you are not using any contraception and so therefore he doesn't want you to get pregnant?....Or he might get turned on seeing himself ejaculate on top of you the list is endless.Ask him,its better coming from him then us because ... (read in full...)
Why did my cheating ex-lover say he wanted to be friends then decide to cut all ties?
Q. 2 years ago I started dating a guy, he is a long distance lorry driver and we only saw each other at the weekends. He has recently left a 10 year marriage and was lodging with his best mate. We had a great time every weekend out drinking and ...
A. 14 January 2007: When i read this it sounded to me like you felt it was all your fault that if you never checked his stuff or didn't lose your temper that you two might be still together...wrong! This man was and still is a player,not happy with one woman he has a ... (read in full...)
My parents found out I am having sex-now they won't speak to me! What should I do?
Q. My mom and dad found out about me havin sex, now they are not talkin to me, when i try to, they ignore me..i just cant cope with it no more, i thought that they wud understand..but i guess not=(.. help me plz!! xxxxxxxxxxxxxx...
A. 13 January 2007: My darling,judging by your age you are too young to be having sex.Your parents are shocked and dont know how to approach you....they will in due time come round hopefully but i think that you will find that they are worried about you and feel ... (read in full...)
I'm confused! Not sure what this guy's true feelings are...any advice?
Q. I'm in love with this guy but I dont know if he likes me. He's constantly blowing hot and cold on me and I dont know how he really feels. We go to University together and we've just had our christmas break. I didnt see him for a month and in this ...
A. 13 January 2007: It does appear that you are more keener then him..You met up with him with some friends and he walked you home but he didn't really give much indication that he wanted you as a proper girlfriend.This is what i would do...you back off,you dont txt ... (read in full...)
He keeps touching my vagina.... why!?
Q. My problem is this, I have been dating my boyfriend for 2 years now and he has this habit of constantly touching my private parts (vagina), he says that it is his to touch, this is really starting to irritate me, I have spoken to him about it before ...
A. 13 January 2007: He's just a dirty little git who thinks your just a sex object.You have told him a million times about this but its going in one ear and out the other.Tell him for the last time that you dont like him doing it and if he still fails to listen then ... (read in full...)
Shaken up by seeing my ex out with a woman...
Q. Hello, I need to talk. I was just on a night out with the girls having a good time when I saw my ex out with a woman. I didnt see them until they were leaving fortunately. It has really shaken me. I am still in love with the guy, though I wish I...
A. 13 January 2007: Ok you two split up yet your still in contact.I think its hard if one wants to remain friends still if the other person still wants to rip their clothes off...it doesn't work.You still have feelings for him,your ex im not too sure about,he might ... (read in full...)
Broke my porno habit... but should I tell my fiancee about my secret past?
Q. In regards to pornography and masturbation, my question is opposite of most others on this sight: I began this habit at the age of 13 and did not feel there was any problem with it. My opinion began to change at the age of 18 due to religious bel...
A. 13 January 2007: What would be the point in telling her?...what would you gain out of it? So you started masturbating at 13...so what? and you looked at porn (what man hasn't at some point?) I think your making a too much bigger deal on it.You said you dont do it ... (read in full...)
Worried I'm becoming obsessed by this guy who left me in the lurch... especially after things seemed so good!
Q. Hi, I can t' beleive the way I am feeling. I was seeing a guy who I met back in August and for a few months everything was so great and we were seeing one another 2-3 times a week. He told me he really liked me, thought I was amazing, etc. ...
A. 5 January 2007: I know how your feeling because nearly everyone has been down that road.You like this guy alot,you thought he felt the same but as it turned out he didn't and yes it was a shock when he ended it.Going to his house or trying to make contact with him ... (read in full...)
Do her glances at me..mean that she likes me too?
Q. There is this girl that I fancy (she doesn't know this) and everytime I walk past her she looks at me. I look at her everytime I walk past her and she looks at me to. Could this mean she fancies me? Thanks for yiur help. ...
A. 31 December 2006: Well its possible that she might fancy you but she might be glancing at you because your glancing at her.What i would do is next time say hello to her and see what she does next.....then once you have gone past that hurdle,start a proper ... (read in full...)
Is it cause for concern if your partner doesn't reciprocate, oral-wise?
Q. I haven't seen this certain question asked here, so I am going ahead and ask. If your p artner wants you to give him a bj, but in turn he won't return the favor, with no explanation what so ever. Should there be cause for concern, or not? I want ...
A. 31 December 2006: Ha ha ha!..that was wonderful advice Martini,i totally agree.Happy New Year btw.... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Happy Xmas to everyone, from DearCupid!
Q. It has been a busy year here at DearCupid! We celebrated our 2nd birthday in November and had our 20,000th question and 70,000th answer published... Thanks to everyone who contributes to the site: Those who ask questions, those who answer, and ...
A. 23 December 2006: Merry xmas everyone and a Happy New Year!
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When he's away he never texts me...but when we are together..it's like love at first sight!
Q. heya, omg cant believe im doing this but anyway i like this guy and i think he likes me bcos we went out on a date that went really well, but i only get to see him a few times a month. the problem is when i see him we are in love but then when he...
A. 16 December 2006: It sounds to me like he's not that much into you...your more keener on him and its not love on his part.A guy who's very interested in a girl would want to keep in contact with regular emails...phone calls and txts but he doesn't...he's quite happy ... (read in full...)
Does thinking too much leave you paranoid ? How do I stop this over thinking all the time?
Q. dear cupid I am in my teens and am 16 years old and i seem to be worrying and thinking about things every single day and i dnt know how to stop, i sometimes cry with because of thinking to much, my main concern now is "does thinking too muc...
A. 8 December 2006: You are probably suffering from high anxiety and therefore it has altered the way you think.Its normal to worry about certain things but when its taking over your life then it becomes a hindrance.You should go to your doctor who will refer you to ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend hates it when I'm "on"... Should I let him sleep with other girls? Is there a "third way"?
Q. I'm having some problems with my boyfriend. He's a great guy but, lately, he's been annoying me a bit. I'm 20 and he's 27. We have a good sex life but he moans when I'm on my period. I am usually on for about a week and he moans that we can't have ...
A. 1 December 2006: The man is a total loser...dump him...he's a selfish twat!... (read in full...)
Her one night cheat doesn't bother me! Does that mean I am not in love with her?
Q. i thought that i was in love with my girlfriend of 5 months but since we split up a couple weeks ago, she had a one nighter and at first i was hurt but now it hardly bothers me at all, if i loved her should i still be feeling hurt or is this a sign ...
A. 19 November 2006: You would be jealous as hell if you still loved her...it would of cut you up like a knife but it didn't...You have moved on.... (read in full...)
I want to get over my affair but it's so difficult! Please help me.
Q. Hi all, Firstly, both of us are married, and I have been having an affair. I loved all the attention I was getting and about 1 month ago he broke off with me. It tore me apart intially, but now I am more stable. For the past two weeks, I have be...
A. 15 November 2006: Your wasting your time here....He doesn't want to know,thats why he broke up with you and doesn't return your calls.Get your dignity back and move on.... (read in full...)
Why the heck are so many people cheating all the time?!
Q. Why do people cheat all the time now? All of the sudden Dear Cupid is flooded with I cheated, or I want to cheat, or affairs from all people, men and women. I used to believe that only guys cheated, but then came across here. What's up with ...
A. 15 November 2006: Your right,it does seem like morals have gone down the drain but not everyone is at it.People cheat for a number of reasons..and here they are;
1)Oportunity
2)Boredom
3)The sex with their partners has deteriorated.
4)lack of sexual desire.
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I've developed a deep infatuation for this woman from work and I want more! What should I do?
Q. Hi there, im in abit of a dilemma, i am crazy about this girl i work with in th office. I am 31 years old, and she is 20. The last couple of months there has been some major flirting going on between us which has been great, sharing long glan...
A. 12 November 2006: Whats stopping you then?...Its obvious that she is definately interested in yo,she's a grown woman and i take it, your not married..so what are you waiting for?..Ask her out for a drink and take it from there.The poor girl is waiting for you to ask ... (read in full...)
Anyone tried a vibrating cock-ring?
Q. Me and my boyfriend are thinking of buying a vibrating cock ring and I would like some advice from anyone who has used one of these before. Are they good? Do they make you have an orgasm? Thanks...
A. 7 November 2006: No iv never tried one but it does bring water to my eyes just by thinking about it.... (read in full...)
My bf doesn't like my pubic hair! How do I go baout shaving it off?
Q. I am a 17 year old girl and i am afraid to shave my pubic hair. My boyfriend doesn't like it and i find it embarrassing but im afraid in case i cut myself or it hurts. How do i go about it?...
A. 31 October 2006: I agree with what the other aunts have said but tell your fella this....He can shave his pubic hair 1st,as YOU dont like it...then you will shave yours.Then watch his reaction!... (read in full...)
He's married but...what signs should I be looking for.. to tell if he wants more than friendship?.
Q. I am married, but am no longer in love with my husband, i have developed feelings for a friend of mine, who is also married, although more happily than me, we spend quite a bit of time together, he is my training partner in the martial arts that we ...
A. 31 October 2006: I would of thought that after 2 years or so,your friend would of made a move on you,but he hasn't.Yes,he probably might find you attractive but he's married and he knows it,also he knows his boundaries and doesn't want to risk his marriage.I think ... (read in full...)
Started an affair with my husband's brother...
Q. I got married 2 months ago to a man I had been living with for 2 years previously. My husband is a wonderful man who I truly love but unfortunately our sex life has never been fantastic. However I thought this was not important as we get on so ...
A. 31 October 2006: I dare say you do love your husband but because you crave a fantastic sexlife,along comes your brother in law and he has been providing the sex that you have always wanted.I personally dont think you love this other man,its just lust and that can be ... (read in full...)
If you give somebody head can you tell if he cums
Q. if you give someoe head can you tell if he cums? (in ur mouth) i gave head the other day, he seemed 2 enjoy it but i couldnttell if he had cum or not lol :S...
A. 27 October 2006: Oh dont worry,you will know if the man has cum or not,while giving head.It will taste vile as it goes into your mouth.Trust me..lol... (read in full...)
Is it acceptable to stay friends with an ex???
Q. HI I was wondering if people thinks its acceptable to stay friends with an ex boyfriend, even if you are unsure about whether he is over you? My ex finished it 6 mths ago after i made it clear i wanted marriage and kids (he is nearly 40 and ha...
A. 26 October 2006: This man wants his cake and eat it.He has got his new girlfriend on one hand and you on the other.You said that you wanted a more committed relationship which involved marriage and children,so to be fair,you made it clear to him but he declined and ... (read in full...)
I feel he is ashamed of us because he never comes round when the kids are awake and hides the fact when he is here!!!
Q. i am going out with a guy for nearly 2 yrs i love him very much but there are times i feel he is ashamed of our relationship because i have 3 kids from an sbusive relationship he is divorced himself and has 2 kids. he never calls round in the day ...
A. 26 October 2006: You have been seeing this man for two years and he hasn't made any attempt to meet your children and getting to know them better? I find that really strange.It appears to me that he cannot or will not accept your children and that he doesn't see you ... (read in full...)
In two weeks, I will be marrying this guy who I think is arrogant and stubborn? Advice needed...quickly!!
Q. Please can you answer this ASAP - im in a bit of a state. I am due to get married in less that 2 weeks. My fiance is driving me totally mad. I know the run up towards a wedding is stressful enough but he is impossible. All the traits I knew he...
A. 25 October 2006: Its far better to stop the wedding then to go through a messy divorce court.Now,is it possible that your fiance is being extra stubborn and arrogant because he is having pre wedding nerves? Or is he being his usual self? You must of known what is ... (read in full...)
I was wondering if agony aunts get paid?
Q. could you please tell me do agony aunts get paid or is it a service they provide for free,thank you....
A. 25 October 2006: Not on here...but there is some agony aunts and uncles who are on the net and do get a wage but not on Dear Cupid...we do it out of the kindness of our hearts..he he!... (read in full...)
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