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writes: Dear CupidI've been in a commited relationship for 10 months. My problem is my boyfriend meets with his ex for 1 on 1 occasional dinners exhcanging birthday/Christmas presents which upsets me a lot. I've explained to him that although I trust him this situation isn't right. He doesn't understand my point and seems to think I am out of line and try to erase his past. I don't mind them being friends but I find it uneasy to co-op with their intimate meetings together. Is this really such a normal situation and I'm being mad?What should I do?
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reader, sexseahot  +, writes (22 December 2005):
 I know this situation isn't right. There's no reason for this to be going on. Friends is fine, but having 1 on 1 dinner's and exchanging gifts? There's gotta be a line to draw there and he's crossing it. No, usually in MOST cases, this is not considered normal and I don't really know any woman that would put up with this. You have a reason to be angry, but if you want to make the best of it, do invite yourself along to see what is so great about their meetings. There shouldn't be any reason for him to tell you NOT to go and if he does, he's gotta be hiding something from you or her. What does he usually buy for her? Do you even know? Do you go with him to pick whatever it is out? These are a few questions to ask yourself before getting all angry, but definitely make it a point to go with him, then it can be a 2 on 1. If this doesn't cut it for you, there are MANY more men out there that aren't having dinner with their ex girlfriends and exchanging gifts, maybe you'd be better off with one of them.
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reader, shania  +, writes (22 December 2005):
 I must admit,most women wouldnt put up with that,i mean would he like you to meet up with your ex boyfriends? I bet he wouldnt.If he has nothing to hide then why dont you ask f you could tag along because you would like to get to know her better.If he refuses then he isnt been straight with you.At the end of the day,you are his girlfriend,and he should consider your feelings 1st.Does he still hold a torch for her? Who ended the relationship 1st? fIND OUT.
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