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My real name is obviously NOT Phoebe Halliwell and no, I'm not Alyssa Milano either, though it'd be awesome if I were. I chose this name (Phoebe Halliwell) because she's a strong character and has been through some tough times in love herself, coming out stronger and still believing.
I'm young, single and live in the UK. I don't have any form of qualification, just a big heart and the occassional spare moment!
I have a pretty open mind and can relate to a lot of people. I'm the right side of 25 and have had some serious ups and downs! I'm just here to give you guys a fresh pair of eyes on a situation that seems to have no solution, sometimes that's all you need :)
Peace,
Phoebe
*NOTE* I'm going back to school for a while to try and change my career path. This means I won't be answering as quickly as I usually do but will still accept private e-mails from those seeking my advice. |
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Can chemistry grow with time?
Q. Hello I have been 'seeing' this lovely guy. He is caring, considerate, kind and all the things you could wish for in a guy. He calls and texts everyday. The only problem is I feel no chemistry with him. I should do as he is so lovely. I enjoy hi...
A. 17 April 2011: Hey, it depends what you're looking for in this relationship. I believe Chemistry is a more instant thing, a spark you feel with someone at that moment, and it won't grow over time, it's either there or it's not. Love is different though, I'm pret... (read in full...)
Should I show my boobs to my online boyfriend?
Q. hi i am of 18old .i have a small doubt can i be romantic with my boyfriend? when we generally talk each other in video chat,at that time he asked me to show my boobs(chest without bra and anthing like that) i want to know can i show him what he h...
A. 17 April 2011: If you don't know him in real life, then no. It sounds dangerous and to be frank, having a boyfriend is much better when he's actually there in real life. If you met this man on the internet you have no way of knowing if he really is who he says he ... (read in full...)
If I'm such a great catch why do women not seem to be interested in me?
Q. I'm 25, single and sick of being so lonely. I've never had a girlfriend or even so much as dated anyone. I'm a decent guy, am told I'm good looking, have a college degree, have a stable job and a good group of friends. If I'm such a great catch ...
A. 10 January 2011: I know where you are, I'm in the same position. I bet all your friends are telling you how great you are, and then there's no evidence to prove it! It's so fustrating seeing all your friends coupled up, people around you together and happy, and ... (read in full...)
Crush on a married teacher. He's teaching me yet I still feel nervous when I see him. Help?
Q. Hello everyone. I am currently 15 years old and I will turn 16 this middle of January. I have a real problem right now so I think of asking about my love problem. It all started in August of 2010 when my best friend and me were sending somethin...
A. 10 January 2011: Don't worry about it! It'll pass.
Right now, you're used to watching guys in films and on TV and it's fine to look and fancy them a bit. Younger girls are mostly drawn to older guys because of the maturity they have compared to teenage boys. It coul... (read in full...)
Where is this heading?
Q. ok so there is this girl that i like and has helped me move on from my last ex, we had a thing before my ex and i dated and now after a few weeks of breaking up with my ex i wanna try things again with this girl. Except that i dont know what she ...
A. 18 November 2010: I wouldn't dive right in and say " I want you to be my girlfriend".. it's kind of heavy. You're obviously attracted to her so why not suggest that you take her out on a date? Date for a couple of weeks, if you're still into eachother then go for it ... (read in full...)
When making out...how long does a girl wait before removing her bra?
Q. how long do girls usually wait to take their tops/bras off while making out? i dont want to give him the impression that i want to go faster witht he physical stuff, quite the opposite- weve only known each other for almost 2 months.. and i r...
A. 18 November 2010: pinktopaz is right. If you start taking your clothes off he's probably going to assume that you guys are going to be moving on from kissing to having sex, which I'm guessing you're not ready to do yet. Does he know he's your first boyfriend? If you ... (read in full...)
Do curses and bad spells exist?
Q. Can psychics tell you if you are cursed? I'm not too familiar with psychics, and most explanations are confusing me. I am wondering if good psychics will be able to tell you whether or not there is a curse on you, directly or indirectly, ...
A. 18 October 2010: I don't think anyone can prove or dis-prove spells and curses. It just depends what you want to believe. Some people choose to believe they're real so they have something on which to blame unfortunate events or mistakes they made. I don't think ... (read in full...)
Should I wait for him or not! I need your help please
Q. hi im 14 years old almost 15,ive been talking to this guy since febuary and we have had a few ups and downs and since about august we have been really really cloase,we talk on the phone everynight we text eachother everyday,we have told eachother ...
A. 10 October 2010: I wouldn't hang around. Think of all the lovely, romantic things he's said to you... while he's had a girlfriend. So if you go out with him, what makes you think after a few weeks he's not going to be holding some other girl and saying the exact ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is secret and his best friend, who is my best friend, also likes me, and I like him!
Q. Hi, I have a big problem and nobody to talk to about it, i really need help...This may get confusing but... Well,I'm 14 years old and i'm going out with this guy i've been madly in love with for over a year. In that year we've been 4 times whi...
A. 10 October 2010: This is not as bad as you may think
Problem One - Talk to your boyfriend. Tell him you understand why he wants to keep it a secret but also let him know how it's affecting you. It's keepign you from enjoying your relationship with him because you ... (read in full...)
Stuck in the middle between friends and boyfriend!
Q. I'm at a point of no return with my friends. I have been with my boyfriend for a little over ten months, and we are very in love. I am 17, and he is 19. Before me, my boyfriend dropped out of high-school, and wasn't planning on going back, but I ...
A. 10 October 2010: Hey
You said yourself that they're "bitter people", and it seems likes their bitterness is, for want of a better word, infecting you because you're taking your anger out on your boyfriend. If they can't see how much you've been there for them and ... (read in full...)
Since breaking up with my GF I've been so lonely I don't know what to do!
Q. Since breaking up with my girlfriend I have been so lonely. I met her three months after moving to this city and she became my best friend. Now she's gone, seeing other dudes, and I'm left alone sitting in my room thinking about all the time we ...
A. 10 October 2010: It seems you've answered part of your own question. You're lonely because you became used to having someone around all the time and now that's suddenly stopped it's a bit of a shock to your system.
I think you need time to get over her, beca... (read in full...)
Should I tell him I love him?
Q. Two years ago I found myself suddenly and involuntarily attracted to my then acquaintance, now friend. My feelings appeared to come from nowhere because I'd known him for a while previous and nothing had clicked except that he was a nice guy. At the ...
A. 7 October 2010: There's no law saying you can't be attracted to someone else if you're already in a relationship, it's whether or not you chose to act on it. If you're totally in love with this guy, but in a difficult relationship, trying to forget about him will ... (read in full...)
He dumped me, but is now contacting me every day. I'm a bit confused. Please help!!
Q. Hi all, Please help!! My boyfriend told me he just wants to be friends last week, and no relastionship. I accepted this gracefully, but ever since that day I told him I accept it, and good luck with his future etc, he has been texting me ever...
A. 14 September 2010: There could be several reasons for his behaviour towards you:
1.) He doesn't want you out of his life and he's scared that "just friends" will turn into "not talking anymore" so he's keeping in (very) regular contact so you don't drift.
2.) H... (read in full...)
Best friends for 5 years we kissed and now its all weird!
Q. I am so confused. Lately my best guy friend of 5 years and I have been getting romantically close and tonight I went over to his place and we ended up cuddling a lot while watching tv. We were cuddling for a good couple hours and I decided to ...
A. 12 September 2010: It might be that he doesn't want to risk the friendship that you guys have. He's probably just as confused as you! Tell him how you feel and whether or not you want more, if it turns out you want different things, try and revert back to the banter ... (read in full...)
I want a steady boyfriend and excitement on the side!
Q. I'm 14 and I have one of those boyfriends that everyone says is a 'great guy'. And he is. He's generous, good-looking, absolutely adores me and has never betrayed my trust and I don't think ever wants to. I lost my virginity to him at 13 and we've ...
A. 12 September 2010: Yes, as Jmtmj says, you do. It's not fair to your boyfriend to have gotten yourself into this position in the first place! You're FOURTEEN and already some guy you met a few times has his hands down your pants?? I know you're experiencing strong ... (read in full...)
I don't feel anything for my BF anymore!
Q. I don't feel anything for my bf anymore.. like no spark, no shiver nothing. we've been together for 3 months.. i know its not long but this is my first serious relationship. at first i was COMPLETELY in love with him.. everything about him made me ...
A. 12 September 2010: You're making perfect sense! Maybe it's not that there's no spark anymore, it could be there's still something special between you but after 3 months your relationships' got into a bit of a routine and it's not new/exciting any more. The first 3 ... (read in full...)
Does this mean I'm slacking in the good looks department?
Q. This may seem completely pathetic and let me put this out here now... I am not considered weird or out there in my school I have a lot of friends and I have a well known status. I'm a junior in high school and I am so nervous about this year. It ...
A. 4 September 2010: Most teenage girls are insecure about something. Your friends probably look at you and wish they had something you had, be it your legs, eyes or intelligence. It doesn't help that magazines kind of force this unattainable "perfection" on young girls ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to date my former teacher?
Q. I am 19 years old, I graduated high school last year. There has always been a very strong attraction between a teacher at my school (30 years old) and me. My friends would always bug me about how he liked me, but I never told them that I was in ...
A. 4 September 2010: It was unprofessional of him to give you that letter. Mostly girls have a bit of a crush on older male teachers because they're dominant, powerful, in control, and that's something that is attractive to younger girls. 11 years is a big age gap, ... (read in full...)
I'm scared of the man who molested me. Am I being stupid?
Q. is it stupid to be scared of the man who sexually molested you for years and stopped a few months ago? hes my moms bf and im really scared whenever im around him, i just cant help it but i also feel that im being stupid that im scared.....
A. 4 September 2010: It's not stupid that you're scared AT ALL. You have a reason to be scared, he did a terrible thing to you. You have to tell your Mum, he's not only abused you physically but probably also mentally. You're her daughter, and your needs should come ... (read in full...)
Living with my cousin and I think her boyfriend likes me. What do I do?
Q. ok am 15...and i move with one of my 20 year old cousin becuz i got in a fight with my mom. so i came to live with her and i met her bf, (sorry) but he is cute anyways and their going 2 have a baby but I've been noticing that my cousin's bf likes me ...
A. 3 September 2010: Just be as friendly towards him as you are to your cousin. Don't let him feel like you're giving him any special treatment. Touching hands/shoulders isn't to bad, but if he touches your waist or hips just gently move out of the way. If he asks why ... (read in full...)
He keeps asking me to sleep with him but I'm underage!
Q. My boyfriend is 20 and i'm 15. He's been asking me to sleep with him (using a condom) each time we fool around, touch and kiss. He's been asking me this every time we meet. I want to have sex with him but am having doubts about it! I LOVE him ...
A. 3 September 2010: Don't sleep with him. It's not legal for a start. Secondly, how long have you been together? He's aware of how much younger and less emotionally mature you are and yet he's still bugging you for illegal sex. You're obviously not comfortable with the ... (read in full...)
How long do you stay with someone you love if they do not love you?
Q. I am very lonely, don't know how I can be, I have four wonderful children... and a husband. However my husband has not told me he loved me for over a year now. We have been having trouble for quite some time. How long do you stay with someone you ...
A. 3 September 2010: Talk to your husband first, you may be having problems but you can't know for sure what he's feeling. Let him know you love him, spend time without the kids, just you two and talk things out. If he doesn't want to be with you, maybe take a break for ... (read in full...)
I'm having problems giving my boyfriend a nickname!
Q. I'm having problems giving my boyfriend a nickname and I don't want it to be too common but I don't it be really weird......
A. 3 September 2010: Why not pick something that relates to a funny moment or his favourite movie? Example:
I was in a maths revision class back in high school me and my friend Liam were kidding about something. He was like "oh yes, I actually understand this" and we w... (read in full...)
Am I wrong thinking that he is mean watching me and my family struggle to make ends meet?
Q. I am an unemployed single mother living with an adult daughter who is having a part time job at minimum wages. Money is really tight. I've met this wealthy man 20 years older than me. From the start he says I bring no money into this relationship ...
A. 3 September 2010: Being protective of your money isn't a bad thing. After all, he probably worked really hard to make it. It is mean to sit back and watch people you care about struggle, and I mean REALLY struggle, when you have the solution.
I'm not saying you shou... (read in full...)
We've broken up and now I'm scared that he might do something with the nude photos he has of me.
Q. i am a 19 years old girl who was in a relation with a 26 year old boy. jus 2 days back i broke up with him. v were in a physical relationship. our relation was of 3 years. i dont kno hw wud i forget him. he had my nude photos n m really scared if he ...
A. 3 September 2010: If your ex wants to misuse those photos he has of you, then he will, there's nothing any of us on here can do to stop him. It's very good that you stopped seeing him after you found him cheating, some girls put themselves through hell by staying ... (read in full...)
How do I ask him to hang out without him thinking I "like" him in that way?
Q. I met this guy and we've hung out about four times. We've always hung out in groups but we tended to stick with each other, not in like "we're together" sort of way, but more like "i feel comfortable around you and i know you the most". i want to ...
A. 3 September 2010: I would just text him asking how he's doing and if he wants to come and see a show with you and some of your girlfriends? If he sounds not to thrilled to be hanging out with just a gang of girls and being the only guy, joke with him, saying that for ... (read in full...)
I felt an attraction, but he was just leading me on
Q. This may sound really silly but i like the guy so much I have to ask. I met a really beautiful guy, James, while out the other night, and saw him again another night. He seemed really pleased to see me again and ran up hugging me. We got on so well ...
A. 3 September 2010: The guy's an idiot. He was probably playing with you from the beginning to show off to his friends that he can get any girl he wants to. He may have been beautiful, but he's no good for you! Find someone who makes you happy, not the idiot with a ... (read in full...)
What if we meet and the feels are too good to be true?
Q. I've been trying to avoid these feelings because I know its way to soon to say them, and I still intend on not saying them now. I think I may be in love with my boyfriend. But that's not the bad part...we've never met, he has a daughter, only knew ...
A. 3 September 2010: He sounds a LOT older than you for a start! If you keep putting so many expectations on the time that you meet, even if you do feel something, it won't measure up to these great expectations you both have. You're very young to be getting involved ... (read in full...)
Do you think he will text me back?
Q. I know this is like a duplicate question, but I didn't get enough feedback last time I posted it. So please can it be re-posted :D Basically, me and my boyfriend broke up a few days ago... I cried for hours, it basically ruined my vacation... I st...
A. 3 September 2010: well firstly it probably would have been better to talk to him in person, that kind of ensures you get a response, and it doesn't leave you feeling all nervy waiting for his reply. You don't really know how he's feeling at the moment, and that text ... (read in full...)
Do you think there is a chance that my relationship is strong enough but still casual enough to last through highschool?
Q. Do you think there is a chance that my relationship is strong enough but still casual enough to last through highschool? .. Sorry if this gets long I just really want some peoples advise and thoughts. I am dating this guy and he had liked me sin...
A. 3 September 2010: I know, those types of relationships bug me because it's obviously not sincere, but you've been together for seven months. There's got to be some sincere feelings in there. Don't say it if you don't feel it, but don't let some people's silly actions ... (read in full...)
Will she take me for all I have ???
Q. Heyy ok a few weeks ago a girl I liked asked me for money not alot about £20 now my best mate and one of her friends think that she will keep on asking for more until I cannot give anymore. I am slightly more in the money than she is but firmly ...
A. 3 September 2010: Why don't you tell your friends that you thank them for their concern but you need to come to your own conclusions about your girlfriend and whether or not she has some form of motive. Stop telling people about her asking for money, then you won't ... (read in full...)
Is there such thing as the "one" or is it just a stupid thing people want to believe?
Q. how do you know is someone is the one? i have just broke up with my boyfriend of 2 an a half years.. we have broke up once before but i know now i dnt want to get back with him beacuse he is an ex for a reason now! but all my friend keep sayi...
A. 2 September 2010: Ahh.. one of life's many unanswered questions. How do we know if someone is "the one" or even if "the one" exists at all. Some people believe there's one person out there for everyone. Other people believe there are many people out there perfect for ... (read in full...)
Will she take me for all I have ???
Q. Heyy ok a few weeks ago a girl I liked asked me for money not alot about £20 now my best mate and one of her friends think that she will keep on asking for more until I cannot give anymore. I am slightly more in the money than she is but firmly ...
A. 2 September 2010: I wouldn't because that'll make her think you trust your friends more than you trust her. This may be the case at the moment because you're unsure of what she's after, but don't let it show. She may still be genuine. xxx... (read in full...)
Do you think there is a chance that my relationship is strong enough but still casual enough to last through highschool?
Q. Do you think there is a chance that my relationship is strong enough but still casual enough to last through highschool? .. Sorry if this gets long I just really want some peoples advise and thoughts. I am dating this guy and he had liked me sin...
A. 2 September 2010: Yes it sounds like you have good communication, and seven months is pretty good! The only thing that confuses me slightly is that you haven't been able to say "I love you", but you've already slept together? That seems a little backwards to me. The ... (read in full...)
Will she take me for all I have ???
Q. Heyy ok a few weeks ago a girl I liked asked me for money not alot about £20 now my best mate and one of her friends think that she will keep on asking for more until I cannot give anymore. I am slightly more in the money than she is but firmly ...
A. 2 September 2010: It's hard to tell what's going to happen in the future. This may have been just a one time thing. What made your friends come to this opinion about her? Does she have a reputation for getting money out of guys?
Why not let her get away with that... (read in full...)
I'm 21 she's 15. Is morally it ok that I want to date her?
Q. So I've recently met this girl, she's 15, but she seems so nice and mature, but ok she can also be quite childish as well. But she seems really into me and I'm 21, now the legal age for stuff I know is 16 but I wouldnt do anything with this girl ...
A. 2 September 2010: I would stay away. Even if legally it's ok to talk to her and stuff, there'd be a lot of questions from her parents as well as people who know you. It would be very difficult. It's a better option to find someone nearer your own age. I know if I ... (read in full...)
Can I still ask this girl out?
Q. Hey Everyone. My question is this: I used to work in a pet shop with this girl that I always liked, but whenever I told myself "Right, I'm gonna ask her out next time", it's as if my balls dropped off whenever I tried. I THINK she may have liked m...
A. 2 September 2010: I don't see why not! It might be better now you're not working together because there's not that risk of awkwardly bumping into each other a lot should things not work out. Just go for it!... (read in full...)
Help needed flirting!
Q. I need some advice on how to respond to flirty comments! I am so out of practice. Broke up with my ex bf of 8 years 9 months ago, and recently met a guy who seems pretty interested in me. He's really flirty, and I'm not sure how to flirt back. ...
A. 1 September 2010: "every graph has its' limits. How lucky are you feeling? ;)" That's what I do anyway, sort of cheeky word manipulation. It's cute and clever, lets him know you're interested. Use ;) faces as if to say "why yes, I did mean that in a cheeky way" The ... (read in full...)
What are your opinions about teenage romance?
Q. Just wondering how people view it. Doesn't matter whether your old, young, for or against it :) I myself have mixed opinions on it. Do you think people should be in relationships at the age of 15? I have been in a so called "relationship" and it ...
A. 1 September 2010: Everyone is different. There's no set age barrier that suddenly, when crossed, enables you to fall in love. I think teenagers being in relationships with other teenagers is just fine. It's when they get involved with people in their 20's (or even ... (read in full...)
Struggling with my wife’s past.....
Q. Hi I have been married for 3 years, and been in the relationship for 5 years. Before we got married, my wife told me about her past, the number of guys she has slept with which is 4.When she told me I felt uncomfortable proceeding with ...
A. 1 September 2010: So what if she's slept with four guys? A number like four says nothing about her as a person at all... if it were something like 20 I'd be unnerved but it just means she went with four before she found the right one. You have to kiss a lot of frogs ... (read in full...)
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