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Am I over-reacting or does my new boyfriend just not care?
Q. Hello everyone, Well I have been on a few dates with this guy, and he recently spent the night at my house and we had sex. He then asked me to officially be his girlfriend, but now it seem like he is ignoring me. I called him to just talk, bu...
A. 22 December 2005: The world is a big wide place,your young,you have youth on your side,enjoy it while you can.Have a brilliant time travelling and forget that loser.If he was keen enough he would of contacted you.He seems to have had a change of heart and he needs to ... (read in full...)
Guy I want to be "more than friends" with says he is dating someone... Who is married!
Q. I am friends with a guy who wants to be more than friends. However, when I asked him when he moved from another city if he was dating someone else, he said yes. And she is married to someone else. Do you think that we can ever move from just ...
A. 22 December 2005: Id give this a wide birth if i was you.He might of been honest with you when he said he was dating a married woman but where is his scruples? He doesnt seem too bothered that he could split up a family and if that did happen,do you want to be in the ... (read in full...)
How do I make my vagina tighter??
Q. i really need help on this one if any one can help, my relationship kind of depends on it. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for awhile and we have only had sex a few times but he doesnt seem pleased. i dont know if my vagina is too big for him ...
A. 22 December 2005: Women who have given birth are told to do pelvic floor exercises,which tighten the vagina muscles.What you do is squeeze your muscles down the vagina region for a count of 10 then release.The beauty of this,is you can do it anywhere,at the bus ... (read in full...)
Paranoid that my Internet lover will turn up and reveal all to my husband
Q. this is a really odd question but its really starting to worry me. i have been married for 4 years now and its been up and down most of the time. during one of these down times i met somebody over the internet. we have only ever met twice and chat ...
A. 19 December 2005: I wouldnt worry too much.If you are not on the electoral list and this guy only knows what city you are at then really he hasnt got much to go on.Its just too time consuming.If you want to sever all links with him then do that.Just dont contact him ... (read in full...)
My husband tells me he loves me and doesn't want a divorce... but he won't leave his girlfriend!
Q. My husband and I have been separated for nearly 3 months now and despite all that has happened (he cheated and became very nasty) I am still in love with him, miss him and care very much for him. Over the time we have been getting closer again, b...
A. 19 December 2005: Your husband says he loves you,thats why he is still screwing his girlfriend.Come on,this man is taking you for a fool and you deserve better then that.He wants his cake and eat it.He has got you dangling on a string,just in case things dont work ... (read in full...)
Should he say he loves me?
Q. I know he loves me, but... he just won't say. We've been going out for almost 2.5 years. We're both divorced and neither of us want more kids (ours from previous marrages are grown). I light up when he's around. He makes my heart sing. He says ...
A. 19 December 2005: I think eventually,you are going to want more from him but i cant see him delivering.He said he doesnt want to be in a committed relationship again,so that includes you.You told him that you loved him but he didnt respond back and told you that he ... (read in full...)
Is there really such a thing as "Love At First Sight"?
Q. I'm 32 and divorced and in a relationship but.....a guy I met a few weeks into my new relationship keeps popping up in my life. I'm sad to say that I have cheated with this guy twice in the last few months and then we called it off. However in the ...
A. 19 December 2005: Its probably more like lust at 1st sight.How can you be in love with him when you had cheated on him twice? Maybe where you had a gap on not seeing him you probably have started to appreciate him more,they say that absence makes the heart grow ... (read in full...)
Is it just my boyfriend's stepmom who's getting in the way of our living together?
Q. My boyfriend and I are supposed to move in together, but I haven't heard from him in 10 days. Then I heard that he was leaving the house, he was living in with his stepmom. They keep telling me he doesn't love me, but when I talk to him he tells me...
A. 17 December 2005: He might of had second thoughts in moving in with you.I find it strange that he didnt contact you for 10 days.Has he got cold feet? I think you should sit down and have a good talk on what you both want.He might say that he is fine with you and that ... (read in full...)
Is my ex really in love or am I just being used?
Q. Hi, my partner and I broke up 4 months ago. We were together for 5 years. He was going through a bad time when we broke up as his father had just died and he wasnt in a great frame of mind. He has told me since then that he regrets us breaking...
A. 17 December 2005: Personally,i dont think he is using you.He has just lost his dad and his head is all over the place.Grief can do funny things to people.He couldnt deal with it so he has seeked professional help.All you can do is be there for him.I know that it is ... (read in full...)
Have I ruined my chances for a relationship AND friendship?
Q. I am very good friends with a guy i work with, he is a few years younger than me, nothing has ever happened between us but we are very close and other people assume it has. I know that he has strong feelings for me, yet mine are stronger for him. ...
A. 17 December 2005: I think that because you are very keen on this guy,he has noticed it,he is feeling uncomfortable with it and he has started to back away.You havent liked it and therefore the arguments have begun.I know you must be feeling very frustrated but i ... (read in full...)
Met a guy I really connected with, but he seems afraid to fall in love with me!
Q. I met this wonderful guy in Oct 05. I'm 31 and he's 25. He works out of town a lot in the metal pipe/construction business. We hung out a lot for the 2 weeks he was in town and we really hit it off. He stayed over a couple of nights and we r...
A. 17 December 2005: When i read this i did get a warning sign,now i could be completly wrong but i have a feeling that he either has a girlfriend all ready,or worse still a wife.Why do i think that? because if a fella is interested in you then why would he keep playing ... (read in full...)
Did I make a huge mistake by issuing an ultimatum?
Q. I just broke up with my beau after 2 1/2 yrs. I am 38 and he is 37. We had a wonderful relationship but I gave him the ultimatium and he just can't commit. I am devestated. He said he has to think about it and he will call me. It has been almost 3 ...
A. 13 December 2005: Ok, you had this relationship for over 2 years and i guess you thought,was it going anywhere? Was your man just happy with just dating you and nothing else? Did you feel that that you wanted to take the next step? Relationships are like ... (read in full...)
He'd rather go out with his mates and just leave me at home!
Q. my partner of two years makes me feel like he doesn't want to be with me. we live together but the only time we spend together is when we are out together and i always have to get a babysitter. he goes out as often as he can with his mates and ...
A. 13 December 2005: Couples from time to time get bored with each other,and maybe he feels he needs an outlet from time to time,trouble is,its at your expense.There is nothing wrong with spending time with your friends but if he is not showing you any consideration,or ... (read in full...)
He makes sexual remarks about my Mom and Sister..is this normal?.
Q. I've been having a problem with my boyfriend for a little bit now. It seems that he thinks it's ok for him to say sexual remarks about my mom, my sister, and even some girls that he don't know. I'm pretty sure that he would never cheat on me, but I ...
A. 7 December 2005: Ok,i must admit,your fellas sexual comments on your mother and sister are very odd,does he like to shock you? Does he get a kick out of winding you up? He sounds very immature.Now he must know that you dont like his comments but he still does ... (read in full...)
Not sure if my ex is just being polite, or if there's more to it...
Q. How can you tell whether an ex is being just polite or interested in a friendship? I was unofficially seeing a guy for 6 months. It ended in May. We worked together in the same office and sat 5 metres apart, hence it was a very difficult situat...
A. 7 December 2005: Sorry to sound crude but this guy doesnt know whether to go for a shit or a hair cut? You are wasting valuable time on this man.He just wants to be friends,he knew how you felt but he still played mind games with you,going out together etc.If i was ... (read in full...)
Guys..I need your advice. How do I get close to a girl I love and win her heart?
Q. ok this girl and me used to live in india but we had only met each other 1 time, at like when we were 7. But our parents were very good friends and they knew each other for 20 years. so five years ago we came to america and i met her. As they say i ...
A. 7 December 2005: I get the impression that she just sees you as a dear friend.You are obviously smitten with her but she is so out of reach.You cannot make someone fall in love with you and what makes me suspicious is that when you talk about love and the future you ... (read in full...)
This guy sends me mixed messages...I feel so lost!
Q. hi, im totally lost and have no idea what to think about my guy. I have known him for about 3 months but we have began a relationship about a month ago. I was hesitant form the start because he is a player. all the girls like him he's good looking ...
A. 7 December 2005: You have only been together for a month,so its still too early to come to any conclusions yet.Im always very wary of players who like playing mind games,you never know what they are thinking or planning and it always seems that you are a sitting ... (read in full...)
She smiles at me, she texts me, she asks me to walk her home...do you think she likes me?
Q. Dear Cupid, I'm just wondering: There is this girl who goes to my school (im 16 in yr 11 by the way) and whenever she sees me she says hi and smiles a real big smile. N she always texts me asking to me to walk home with her - she offered me a ride ...
A. 7 December 2005: Get your hat and coat cos you have just pulled! What are you waiting for? This girl couldnt make it any clearer if she tried.Go on,ask her out and put her out of her misery.oh! to be 16 again!!... (read in full...)
My long distance bf wants to meet my children..but he keeps putting it off.
Q. I am a divorced mom and I have had a long distance boyfriend that I met online a little over a year ago. We have met 2 times. He says he wants to be with me forever, but also says he never wants to marry again. He says he wants to meet my ...
A. 7 December 2005: You have only met this man twice,which makes me think that while you are very keen on him i wouldnt call it love.It is so easy to have these perfect images of someone you are talking to on the net,but you dont really know them as a person,been with ... (read in full...)
Already sleeping with my ex... But should I f*** her too ?
Q. Dear Cupid, My ex-girlfriend happens to be staying over with me. We are still good friends but I suspect things are starting to go further. I live in a 1-bed apartment and she started sleeping on the floor but now sleeps in my bed. She hugs m...
A. 7 December 2005: Well the answer is simple,if you have broken up and you just want to be friends then i suggest that she stops sleeping in your bed otherwise if you do end up having sex together,then you would only be using her and that wouldnt be right.Friends dont ... (read in full...)
He wants me to have sex with another guy!
Q. I have been with this guy off and on for almost 4yrs and he wants me to have sex with another guy before he takes me back i don't know why but he said he wants me to full out of love with him and then full back in love with him but i can't bring ...
A. 4 December 2005: Please dont give in to his perverted fantasy.This man has no respect for you,he is just getting his sexual kicks at the expence of you.What a creep.... (read in full...)
Why won't he introduce me to his friends and family?
Q. My question is quite unusual: I have been dating this guy for 8 months and in all this time he refuses to take me home or introduce me to his friends and family. He always asks to meet in a restaurant or pub etc near where I live "to save me ...
A. 4 December 2005: My instincts tell me that he probably has a wife and a couple of kids waiting at home for him.Or a live in girlfriend.It is rather odd that he hasnt taken you home or dates you where he lives,its just too secretive.Now you said that you are curious ... (read in full...)
Can't stop thinking about a girl at work, but she's engaged...
Q. I’m 21 years old and I haven’t had a steady relationship for the past two years. In that time all I have had is quick flings and a couple of one night stands. But there is a girl at work who I have known for a couple of years and I am absolutely ...
A. 4 December 2005: This letter reminds me of one that i answered before.Anyway going back to you,im afraid it looks like she is out of bounds.She sounds like she is happy with her fiance and unless she has said that she is not happy with her boyfriend i think it would ... (read in full...)
My man wants to "work on" his marriage, but does he still love me too?
Q. I'm not too sure what to make of my relationship with man who has recently decided to work on his marriage (he has been separated for 2.5 years). I have told him that it's best we break off this special relationship, but it seems he wants to ...
A. 4 December 2005: This is the classic case of having your cake and eating it.This man that you have been seeing has now decided to make a go of his marriage but wait for it......he still wants to see you.This man is simply using you.If he truly,wanted to be with ... (read in full...)
Need advice on how to stop thinking about this guy at work!
Q. How can I get this guy out of my mind? Desperatly seeking advice on how i can stop thinking about the guy at work! This situation has been going on for about a year now, very early on I made my interest known and he has never actively discour...
A. 2 December 2005: I would of died of boredom by now.This man is playing mind games,why cant he be more up front with you? If a fella is interested in a girl then you go through the flirting and a bit of chasing and then the fella would ask the girl out but your fella ... (read in full...)
The man who loves me is married. He says he's never fallen for anyone else, not even his wife!
Q. I have fallen head over heels with a married man. I've known him for years, and always fancied him but never ever thought he would feel the same. Only a few weeks ago did he tell me that he loves me. He honestly said he didn't fall in love with his...
A. 2 December 2005: Married men always admit their undying love for their mistress because thats what the other woman wants to hear and these married men know that.Now he said that when he married his wife,he wasnt in love with her but he grew to love her in time,so ... (read in full...)
My bf's mate is so hot and I'm tempted to cheat.
Q. Ok. my boyfriend doesn't pressure me to have sex, we're rather content in our relationship, I'm VERY infatuated with him, but his friend and I are more in sync, I really have the hots for this friend, he understands me, he's hot and he's really ...
A. 29 November 2005: How much does your boyfriend really mean to you? You sound yery young to me and at that sge there is so many distractions.Ok,you are happy with your present boyfriend,so why ruin everything for another person you are lusting for? It would be nice if ... (read in full...)
Should I wait or walk away?
Q. I am seperated from my husband and i have 2 kids.I have been seeing a man for over 2 years,he hasnt any children and he works away during the week and comes down to see me weekends.I want him to move in with me but he doesnt really want to because ...
A. 28 November 2005: Sounds to me like he doesn't really want to commit to you. You have been with him for two years and i guess your wondering where this relationship is going? In your eyes has it come to a stand still? Its naturally,that you want to take it one step ... (read in full...)
He won't change but wants me to...what do I do?
Q. Please help. When I first met my boyfriend, it was hearts and flowers. I've since discovered that he can be critical, impatient, judgemental and school teacherish. He has a temper and doesn't cope well with stress. I stand up to him now (didn't ...
A. 27 November 2005: Im afraid this relationship has died a death.You two are not compatable.Didnt he say that he has been trying to get rid of you for months? Charming! Why are you still with him? I get the impression that he likes talking down to you.Why do you have ... (read in full...)
I'm confused! The guy I like ignores me when we see each other but he always text messages me. What's going on with him?
Q. Hey, my problem is that I like this guy but am not sure what he feels for me. Whether its just curiosity or more! I met him a month ago and he got my number, but we have never been on date, because he hasn't asked me out. We have met on a couple of ...
A. 27 November 2005: If that was me in that situation i would of died of boredom by now.This fella is playing games with you,he knows you are keen on him but he still doesnt do anything about it.I would cut my losses and tell him to take a hike! He texts you when he ... (read in full...)
My husband wants to buy a gift for a woman he works with and I'm objecting. Am I right?
Q. I've been married for 18 yrs. My husband has been working with a woman for 3 yrs. and wants to buy her a christmas gift. Is this acceptable? (The thing is, he had an affair 8 yrs ago with a different woman he worked with). I've met this woman and ...
A. 27 November 2005: He could of bought her a present without telling you but he did ask,saying that though,it does seem to me that this woman has her eye on him,why do i think that? well you can have friends of the opposite sex and it doesnt have to lead to anything ... (read in full...)
We were seeing each other just for sex and pleasure...now I've fallen in love with him! Do I tell him?
Q. Mike and I have been friends for 10 years. Over the past year, we have been with each other for sex and pleasure. Neither of us has seen other people and because we are both work-a-holics, we try to get together whenever we can. I am very much in ...
A. 27 November 2005: Tell him how you feel.He might say that he feels the same and that would be great.If on the other hand he likes the way things are then i would have to reconsider the relationship.Yes,you could lose his friendship but then you have already crossed ... (read in full...)
Please help! He dumped me, found another girlfriend...now he wants back in my life again.
Q. Please Help me. Me and boyfriend broke up 2 mounths ago. And then after he dumped me he found a new girlfriend. I was heartbroken, about 2 weeks ago i realized I have to move on. Then just yesterday he said he loves me again, but i don't know wha...
A. 27 November 2005: Is he still with his girlfriend? or has he finished with her? If he has and he has realised its you he wants then fair enough,give it another go but if he keeps going back like a ping pang ball then i would tell him to sling his hook.If on the other ... (read in full...)
I'm feeling sad that he has contacted me in quite a few days. What's going on with him?
Q. I am in a relationship, everything is great so far. It is just that over our Thanksgiving break he has not wrote me an email since Friday November 18, 2005. I can't have phone calls so our communication is emailing. I do call him sometimes. We ...
A. 27 November 2005: Wouldnt life be great if we all felt the same about our partners.That you were keen on him and he returned the favour but im afraid life isnt like that.Of course you feel sad,you want him to miss you, that he cannot wait for you to be with him again ... (read in full...)
My 35 year old boyfriend doesn't want sex with me, anymore..does this just happen to older men?
Q. Hi,my name is rebelgirl1801. I am 18 years old and I am currently in a relationship with a 35 year old man. He never wants to have sex anymore with me. What can i do to make him want me more? Is it me? Or ...
A. 27 November 2005: Ok,you havent said much about the relationship.Is everything else alright,or does he seem to be somewhere else? At 35 your fella isnt a old man and so that wouldnt be the issue.Have you tried talking to him? He might be having doubts about the ... (read in full...)
My husband suspects I had an affair. Now he's always questioning me and I'm denying everything.
Q. I have been married for sixteen years and have two children. I have been having an affair with a married man for the past two years. It has been on and off during those two years. We were friends for about seven years and it evolved into more. I ...
A. 26 November 2005: Honesty isnt always the best policy and you didnt write this letter so that you will get a load of abuse back.Thats sarcastic remarks not constuctive advice.Ok,you had this affair and i expect you found that seeing your lover was more of a pain then ... (read in full...)
I'm giving him his space, but will he come back to me?
Q. Hello everyone, Please tell me is there a phase in the year where people want their space to re-evaluate their lifes and relationships? I've noticed that i am not the only one going thru this, "thank goodness". But my bf has asked for some space ...
A. 26 November 2005: When a fella says he needs more space its usually because he doesnt want to continue the relationship and he is trying not to hurt your feelings.Yes, he may start missing you and then decides,he wants you back but while he is thinking and trying to ... (read in full...)
I love him but how can I get him to want sex again?
Q. We dont seem to have sex anymore and it really upsets me. I have been with a my man for a little over 2 years. Things were always fab with us, sex, laughs so much in common and we are madly in love. We have a great relationship except for the ...
A. 26 November 2005: This could be a number of things on why he has gone off sex.He could be suffering from depression,is he worried about anything like his job etc.Stress can play a major part on sexual appetite.Is he on medication that would dampen his sex drive? I ... (read in full...)
No foreplay, very little oral, and he lasts about a minute... Do I keep working on sex with him?
Q. I wonder if anyone can help me here. I've been with a guy for over two and a half years. The sex I have with him is not too good. He is in his early 40s but he doesn't do much foreplay. He gets funny if I try to kiss him all over, he never explores ...
A. 24 November 2005: If you have told him,countless times and its still not sinking in then i would get my hat and coat and leg it! I would of thought that a man in his forties would by now know roughly how to please a woman.You shouldnt have to beg for affection or ... (read in full...)
My lover can't even cuddle me without it becoming sexual!
Q. Me and my lover of 2 years are happy except when it comes to one thing ... He wants sex all the time. He can't cuddle or be next to me with out touching or being sexual, even when other people are around. I think he has sex with me in my sleep! H...
A. 23 November 2005: This fella of yours need a cold bucket of water thrown at him! While it is nice to be desired,it is not nice to be treated like a sex object or a piece of meat.Why cant he just give u a cuddle or a loving kiss without him trying to get your knickers ... (read in full...)
He hates his ex and just wants to be friends...I want more!
Q. We have a strong emotional connection and both clearly like each other, but he has such a bitter hatred for his ex that he cant get over. They were together for three years and she cheated on him so they broke up this summer. Since then, we have ...
A. 23 November 2005: Right lets get one thing straight,you are not his psychiatrist your his girlfriend,or you WERE.This fella is still holding a torch for his ex and he was on the rebound when he met you.He just wants to be friends,i know you like him alot but theres ... (read in full...)
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