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writes:im with this lad that really gets on my nerves everythin he does annoys me so ive bin thinkin about finishing it but he keeps saying he needs me an he cant live without me an it will break his heart if i finish it we have only bin together 5 an a half months so its gettin a bit much i jus dont no what to say to him anymore i darent say its over cuz he'll go mental please help Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2009): Well, Love, unfortunately, you can skywrite it, put a note ina bucket of roses, or burn it into his front yard, but however you go about it, his heart will be the same amount of broken. The best thing for him is to end it as soon as possible so that he can get on with his life: more healing time less being dragged along on your back bumper. Just be gentle i suppose; no reason to scream it at him or shove him into a blender during the process. You know him better than we do so you would know better what sort of words and actions would best fit his emotional needs as a person.
I guess I can recommend you don't do the whole "I just want to be friends" thing. You can tell him that you understand if he doesn't want to talk to you for a while, but if he wants after a while, you're there for him as a friend. That way it's not just a really bad excuse. Goodluck! And if he makes any threats against his life, tell him you will call social services or the police or something, that way if he's serious, you'll be getting him help and if he's bluffing, it'll shut 'im up.
~Sy.
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reader, trshly  +, writes (24 July 2009):
 Explain to him you are taking time to work on yourself [School, job, famile, ect], leave out the bit that he is clingy and annoying.
Just say it's on you and give him reason to believe that maybe in a few months you will be ready to see him again [even though it's not true!] then he will hopefully give you the space you need.
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reader, jj. +, writes (24 July 2009):
your young and carefree. its time to go and allow this guy to grow up and get dry behind the ears and learn life is to live not stop living ..ms.female ..your better off with out him since its only 5months into the relationship anyway..
move on..tell him to get a life and then move on..take care.
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