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writes:My Boyfriend said to me last night i need a break..i was shocked at his behaviour..and i still am.i kept saying to him... it means you dont love me anymore, and also i said you have your eye on someone else.you see i have been with this guy for 1 year and 6 months..(we are only 15/16) this is a big shock to me and i am not able to take it in.please tell me what does this mean realtionship wise??
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI wrote this question not long ago, and i am proud to say me and my boyfriend are still happy as ever!
it has been 1year and 8 months, its our aniversary today and its been great.
Thankyou so much, in the end he didnt want to go thorugh with the break.
Turns out the reason of this was because he was going on holiday in like 3 days.
i think he may have been in a rough patch.
Thankyou for all your help x
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2009): I'm sorry that your boyfriend has dropped such a bombshell.Sami gives good advice. Before you make a firm decision ask your b/f what he means by a "break". Will you see each other at all? Will you call/text/email or have no contact at all? What will happen with mutual friends and social events you're both invited to?Will you be able to date/flirt with/kiss/sleep with other people?And (most importantly) How long will the break be for?(It absolutely sucks if you're left in limbo for months not knowing if you're ever going to get back together properly again. Set a date when you will both re-evaluate things)Just find out what he's expecting and then you can make a decision whether you want to have a "break" (or just break up if you can't handle his terms) Maybe after a good chat you can come to some compromise (such as seeing each other less if you,ve been seeing a lot of each other) to keep the relationship going (but don't count on it)Take care. I hope you do reach a compromise.
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reader, -NothingLasts4ever- +, writes (28 July 2009):
 Me annd my boyfriend had a moment like this too. He randomly came out with " we need to have a break" and I was shocked too when he said it.
It doesn't mean he doesn't love you anymore or that he's got his eye on someone else. I wouldn't worry about it too much, it can be a good thing. It was for me.
If it isn't a good thing though and you and him break up, it's probably a good thing. Breaking up with someone is better than staying with someone and it only being one way.
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reader, Samii + ♥, writes (28 July 2009):
 It literally means what is says you have a break from each other, no contact or anything giving each other time to think about what they want from a relationship. Before you do go on a break you need to ask him if you are going to stay faithful to each other though, some people say saty faithful on a break some people say don't but this is up to you two to decide. Good Luck. xx
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reader, Ginalolabridga + ♥, writes (28 July 2009):
 It could mean he is growing tired of the relationship and wants a break to see if he feels the same way about you?
Or he may well be completely over you and does not have the guts to come straight out and tell you so just asks for a break?
I think it is always best to talk these things over it is not fair to tell someone you want a break when maybe deep down you want to finish it ask him why the break.
Gina
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