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41-50,
*een
writes:My problem I don’t know how to approach or to deal with my boyfriend or to discuss this issue with him cuz its not very clear to explain it to him ? I feel that I love him loads more than he does, no no its not feeling its true , I keep missing him I feel the time is too slow without him, while he is cold , I feel he doesn’t care about me like before ,I am pretty sure , but once I talk to him about this issue he says no I love you but I am too busy to think of you , oh god . or I know that you are mine so I don’t have to worry if you are here or there Yesterday for instant , he was working all day , once he came home I told him my day was too long without you , he said , you don’t have to wait , as I don’t wait you Is this answer? When you tell someone that I missed you, would he /she says you don’t have too. And he started doing his thing like nobody was waiting for him Ok, we sleep in sperate rooms (his desire), I feel my night is too long and I feel my self is single and many nights I have to cry, and I cant sleep probably or in secure way and I keep dreaming of him, while he is sleeping in such a comfort way without any movements. Are we equal in our feeling toward each others?I used to work some days up to mid night , he never called me to see me what I was doing , whereas , I always call him if he is late or away , and when I reach home I found him that he had his I am always the one who come to him and hug him , he never came to me , few times only , and when I hug , he said that’s enough , do any body hate to receive hugs from his lover , I found my boyfriend hate it Many many issues like this what I am trying to say that I am not living healthy relationship , I don’t want to break up because I love him to the death , I want him to treat me like before ? how ? is this hopeless ? or grim ?I am sad more than happy And I am sick of him Seeking help guys !
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reader, Timothy81  +, writes (26 July 2009):
I'm sorry to say, but he seems not to care for you. He understands perfectly well how you feel, and yet, acts like a kid. He even isn't strong enough to say "No, I want this relationship to end now". So, why are your wasting your time on someone like this? Why can't you move on and find someone who will fully appreciate you for who you are? It's always like this, isn't it? You better find it in yourself: it's either you respect yourself and don't let someone treat you like this, or you keep doing what you are doing now. You deserve a man, not a kid. Good luck!
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (26 July 2009):
 I feel so sad for you after reading your letter. You deserve better than this. You deserve someone who is thinking about you and treating you like you are special. Honestly it hardly sounds like a relationship...you don't have that mutual love and respect and you sleep in separate rooms, what the heck is up with that?
I feel that he does not appreciate your love. I think it's time to step back from him and make yourself happy. He needs to realize that you are not going to wait around for scraps of love. There are plenty of good men out there who will treat you well and will be so happy to think of you.
Good luck.
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