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Student of Psychology, Degree in Nursing with wide variety of experience. Mother, daughter, sister, wife, ex, neice, grandaughter, student, boss, colleague....you get the picture.
Interested in impulse control disorders, like chocolate, cheese, Tintin, travelling, Pepsi max, Cracker, Tony Soprano, eddie Izzard, toilet humour, Family guy - shall I go on?
Adore my family and friends. Love to help others, abuse survivor, rape survivor, holder of family record for cherry pip spitting......
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She lied and said she was older, but now I'm a married man in love with a 14-year-old!
Q. What action should I take? I am a married man in my late twenties, who has fallen for someone much younger. We met in a chatroom last year, when her profile stated she was older. After a while, we spoke on MSN when I noticed that she was actu...
A. 10 July 2006: Stop justifying yourself. You are digging a bigger hole for yourself. If you are so intelligent why are you doing this??
Attraction CAN be controlled you know. Out of sight out of mind and all that.... (read in full...)
Sexual attracted to my brother-in-law, should i make my move of not?
Q. Allow me to introduce to you the thought that is way and heavy on my mind I am married to a guy who works and drinks a lot and his older brother is married and his wife isn't doing so well, health wise. My husband's brother stops for a visit he...
A. 25 June 2006: You are just making excuse for your potential behaviour. Leave your hubby, THEN look to start a new relationship. Do not use the prospect of this relationship with your BIL to get out of something which is making you unhappy.
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Having a dilemma about shaving my legs!
Q. Hiya, My friends all have recently been wearing socks to school instead of tights. I'm wearing tights, but I'm boiling! lol. However I've got quite pale skin, and my mam says that if i shave my legs my 'unnoticable' hairs will just get really d...
A. 23 June 2006: I love the fact that everyone on here gets on so nicely....
*skips away to play outside*... (read in full...)
She lied and said she was older, but now I'm a married man in love with a 14-year-old!
Q. What action should I take? I am a married man in my late twenties, who has fallen for someone much younger. We met in a chatroom last year, when her profile stated she was older. After a while, we spoke on MSN when I noticed that she was actu...
A. 23 June 2006: Well come on. Is this really for real? Can you not understand how this must look to an outsider? After all this is a classic story...older married man with no moral fibre (well at least not enough to walk away), young jail bait and a situation ... (read in full...)
She lied and said she was older, but now I'm a married man in love with a 14-year-old!
Q. What action should I take? I am a married man in my late twenties, who has fallen for someone much younger. We met in a chatroom last year, when her profile stated she was older. After a while, we spoke on MSN when I noticed that she was actu...
A. 22 June 2006: lol... (read in full...)
Having a dilemma about shaving my legs!
Q. Hiya, My friends all have recently been wearing socks to school instead of tights. I'm wearing tights, but I'm boiling! lol. However I've got quite pale skin, and my mam says that if i shave my legs my 'unnoticable' hairs will just get really d...
A. 22 June 2006: I ahve David beckham typ hairy legs in the light!!! And if I dont wax or shave them! Being blonde, somewhat dim (!!) and easy to provoke ;-) it was somethign I was told as well when I was younger - that they will go darker!! What do they call ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has had 32 previous sexual partners
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I am 27 and have been going out with a 26 yr old girl for just over 2 months, and I really like her. She is interesting, attractive, sexy, clever and funny, and I am in love with her. I was planning on telling her this last weekend, but in the ...
A. 21 June 2006: There appears to be some people who are very interested in promoting female chastity by renewing these threads and adding the same old answers about what sluts etc their gf/wives are from the same old ISP addresses.....
gets boring after a bit you ... (read in full...)
Will masturbation cause me illness?
Q. i masturbate almost 4-5 times a day . is it normal and would it cause any kind of cancer os some other disease. I am 17...
A. 21 June 2006: No it cannot cause any sort of disease or problems. Except maybe a sore wrist?!!... (read in full...)
Having a dilemma about shaving my legs!
Q. Hiya, My friends all have recently been wearing socks to school instead of tights. I'm wearing tights, but I'm boiling! lol. However I've got quite pale skin, and my mam says that if i shave my legs my 'unnoticable' hairs will just get really d...
A. 21 June 2006: Right, ok. Lets just get some facts here. Indeed as you get older your hair may become darker or lighter all over your body. But this IS NOT related to shaving. Go find me some evidence then if you stand by your view! It is a physical ... (read in full...)
Having a dilemma about shaving my legs!
Q. Hiya, My friends all have recently been wearing socks to school instead of tights. I'm wearing tights, but I'm boiling! lol. However I've got quite pale skin, and my mam says that if i shave my legs my 'unnoticable' hairs will just get really d...
A. 20 June 2006: macin bacin, get your facts straight honey....they will not grow back darker!!!!
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My girlfriend has a past and I am not sure what to do
Q. Let me get straight to the point. I have a girl friend whose history is really bad. I will let you be the judge. She is 17 and has been with 23 guys. She started having sex when she was 15. She graduated from high school early, so over the course ...
A. 20 June 2006: Dr Psych has hit it on the head. You sad SOB, get a grip of yourself....*I made her a better person* wowee, I am SO unimpressed!!
Hey you had sex with her after three days....are you a *hoe* to?
Oh, and you are riddled with disease as well....... (read in full...)
Having a dilemma about shaving my legs!
Q. Hiya, My friends all have recently been wearing socks to school instead of tights. I'm wearing tights, but I'm boiling! lol. However I've got quite pale skin, and my mam says that if i shave my legs my 'unnoticable' hairs will just get really d...
A. 20 June 2006: Your basic hair colour will NOT change just because you shave your legs! That would be a miracle of modern science indeed!
They may look slightly more noticable due to the being slightly blunter when they grow back (shaving cuts the hairs off at a... (read in full...)
My best girl friend told me she fancies me, but I wish I didn't know!
Q. My best friend, recently admitted to me that she fancies me. We are both 13 years old. I saw her crying, and I eventually dragged out of her what was wrong. Apparently she has fancied me for ages, and was worried I'd freak out when she told me. I...
A. 19 June 2006: Oh boy. Distance yourself for a while sweetie, then maybe things will click into place later on. Just remember girls mature emotionally earlier than boys, so what she feels now you may be feeling when you are sixteen.
I wish you luck.
xxx... (read in full...)
Could my anger be related to my depression?
Q. I want to know why I keep causing problems with my boyfriend. He's so wonderful and is always there for me, I've never met anyone so nice and I know, deep down, I'm really lucky to have him. However, I keep trying to cause rows and accusing him...
A. 19 June 2006: No you are close to him and taking out your fears and frustration on him. Do not automatically assume you are depressed - you could be suffering from anxiety disorder or a fear of something which isn't fully manifested in your concious ... (read in full...)
I'm 12. Am I too young to make out?
Q. im 12. too young to make out?...
A. 19 June 2006: I like that saying ariel, I really do!!
x... (read in full...)
My neighbour watches me masturbate!
Q. My neighbour's daughter has a habit of hanging around at my place whenever i am alone at home. I have the habit of masturbating and she enjoys watching me. This has been going on for three years or more. Now I am getting attracted towards her and ...
A. 19 June 2006: Oh boy are YOU heading for a fall. Can you not read your post and see you sound like a pervert. Why would you wank in front of a window were somebody can see you in the first place?... (read in full...)
His porn is one thing, but his mate invites young girls back when they go out.. how can I make him see he's crushing my confidence!!
Q. My boyfriend and I are in our 30's. He masturbates to porn regularly and visits the pub twice a week to look at bikini girls who are about 18yrs old. His best mate is 21, they get very drunk and the mate invites young girls home after the pub. ...
A. 19 June 2006: You ahve insecurity issues and in the immortal words of Jennifer Anniston, he is missing his sensitivity chip.
The porn is just that....it is porn, not flesh and blood females to wank over. Maybe he needs visual stimulation.
The issue with the... (read in full...)
Is he still in love with his ex? He didn't delete her photos!
Q. My boyfreind and I was checking his e mail when I saw a folder and asked him to open it. Inside was pictures. One of his ex... Knowing that I saw them and was upset he didn't even delete it. Does that mean that he's still holding on to her and I sh...
A. 19 June 2006: It is his PAST!! He is allowed to have a past isn't he?
Work on your insecurity and try to figure out what makes you feel so threatened by a mere photgraph......... (read in full...)
My new man is dangerously obsessed with my sexual past
Q. I was living with my partner of 6 years when I met someone else through a sports hobby, he was my instructor.There was very clearly something between us which is why after about years deliberation from my side and much discussion with the new man, ...
A. 19 June 2006: There are some very sinister individuals in the world and you have hooked up with one of them. This is no longer about your past and his insecurity, this relationship is dangerous. You will be hurt if you do not walk away now. Do not make ... (read in full...)
Why is his tongue cold!!?
Q. Weird question: Every guy I have kissed so far has had a warm tongue but recently I made out with a guy whose tongue was cold!!What's that all about?...
A. 19 June 2006: It is weird this one....any one else got any ideas?... (read in full...)
Ex boyfriend wants to carry on having sex with me
Q. my x boyfriend keeps asking me to have sex with him i dont wont to but he wont stop going on he keeps saying he still loves me n i have feelings 4 him 2 i have had sex before but i dont feel comfatable with him xxemilyxx...
A. 19 June 2006: If you don't feel comfortable with him do I have to spell it out.....DO NOT DO IT!! It is your body, your life.
jeez........ (read in full...)
She lied and said she was older, but now I'm a married man in love with a 14-year-old!
Q. What action should I take? I am a married man in my late twenties, who has fallen for someone much younger. We met in a chatroom last year, when her profile stated she was older. After a while, we spoke on MSN when I noticed that she was actu...
A. 19 June 2006: If this girl has been raped a couple of times to paraphrase your words then you need to back away....now.
She is either a fantasist who thinks this sort of converstaion will get her symapthy...or she is EXTREMELY damaged goods. Were the hell are ... (read in full...)
I have just found out that I am dying and don't know how to tell my partner
Q. I have just found out that I am dying, but have just got engaged last week. My fiancee has noticed that I am crying all the time and keeps asking what is wrong, she seems to think I have guilty feelings about something and is starting to accuse m...
A. 19 June 2006: Good luck honey!
xx... (read in full...)
I'm 12. Am I too young to make out?
Q. im 12. too young to make out?...
A. 19 June 2006: It depends on what your definition of *making out* is.... (read in full...)
Does he or doesn't he?
Q. how can i tell if my boyfriend mastorbates?...
A. 19 June 2006: Why do you need to know this?... (read in full...)
I am trying to end my affair with a married man
Q. Eventually i thought of ending my affair with this married man. I did not reply his sms and answering his call n did not want to see him as well for three weeks already but the true is i still miss him deeply. Pls advice, i am already suffer ...
A. 19 June 2006: Let us know how you get on.
x... (read in full...)
I am married but I fancy a man at my gym!
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been married for 9 months now to myhusband who I genuinely thought I love. We have been together for 3 years in total. Since we have been together I have always used a local gym and have fancied a guy that attends the gym for ...
A. 19 June 2006: It is completely normal to have these thoughts about other people when you are in a relationship already! Nobody said life was easy. Don't act on this crush, it will pass. You don't know him well enough to love him, it is a crush and it will ... (read in full...)
Sexual attracted to my brother-in-law, should i make my move of not?
Q. Allow me to introduce to you the thought that is way and heavy on my mind I am married to a guy who works and drinks a lot and his older brother is married and his wife isn't doing so well, health wise. My husband's brother stops for a visit he...
A. 18 June 2006: I read your letter and I see a woman who is dreadfully disapointed in her own life and wants what somebody else has got, along with some excitment and fun. You need to Back Off. You would destroy two marriages and why would you want to do ... (read in full...)
Suspisions that i could be pregnant.
Q. Last month i had suspisions that i was pregnant and then my period came three weeks late for only three days. now my period has not come this month and i dont know what to think. i have alot of symptoms but i had my period for three days last month ...
A. 18 June 2006: If you have had unprotected sex the simple answer is yes. If you ahve had sex whilst using some form of contraception then it is less likely....but not completely impossible as no from of contraceptive is a hundred percent foolproof. Get a ... (read in full...)
Why is his tongue cold!!?
Q. Weird question: Every guy I have kissed so far has had a warm tongue but recently I made out with a guy whose tongue was cold!!What's that all about?...
A. 18 June 2006: Maybe he is a vampire?
lol
xx... (read in full...)
Am I pretty?
Q. This is a weird question but..... Do I have a pretty face? Cause I really dont know. Girls I know say I am ugly, some boys say I am hot then others say I'm a 'dog', My work colleagues think i am pretty, my teacher thinks I'm gorgeous but my frien...
A. 18 June 2006: Nobody here can answer this. Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder and we cannot see you!!... (read in full...)
I have just found out that I am dying and don't know how to tell my partner
Q. I have just found out that I am dying, but have just got engaged last week. My fiancee has noticed that I am crying all the time and keeps asking what is wrong, she seems to think I have guilty feelings about something and is starting to accuse m...
A. 18 June 2006: I am deeply deeply sorry for your situation David and if at any time I cvan help with a message of hope I would hope it would be now. But words fail me. I cannot begin to imagine how you must feel, the frustration and anger and unbearble sadness ... (read in full...)
Coming soon!
Q. i ejaculate too quicly and i wondered if anyone knew of any ways to help me. I've tryed all the pill, creams and penis rings but they don't work. I just want a method. Please help me!...
A. 18 June 2006: *knock one off* In the shower before you go to see her if sex is on the agenda. That should slow you up a bit.... ;-) ;-0... (read in full...)
My wife changed when she was away and I am worried
Q. My wife of three years just returned from a month long trip overseas. She went overseas with a University group and had a wonderful time. While there, she discovered that she likes to go to clubs as well as drink. Prior to going, she never wanted ...
A. 18 June 2006: I think you feel threatened by the change in her. She is obviously happier. hy don't you go out with her and have fun together? Or has this been discussed and she has intimated she doesn't want you there? More information please.... (read in full...)
I am trying to end my affair with a married man
Q. Eventually i thought of ending my affair with this married man. I did not reply his sms and answering his call n did not want to see him as well for three weeks already but the true is i still miss him deeply. Pls advice, i am already suffer ...
A. 18 June 2006: Breaking free of a toxic relationship is never easy. It has a knock on effect that can last for a long time. I applaud you for taking the step of dealing with this now - even tho you have feelings for him still. Stick to your guns honey, it will ... (read in full...)
How do I get my boyfriend to sort out his dental health?
Q. This is a kind of odd post. I have a new boyfriend and everything is absolutely amazing, only his teeth are really really disgusting. When he smiles you can see this nasty whitey yellow stuff acumilating on his gums and teeth. I know it's not a ...
A. 18 June 2006: I think this is a case of being cruel to be kind. You need to tell this guy outright that his poor dental hygiene is off putting. I am sorry, but if doesn't look after his teeth what does the rest of his hygiene routine consist of?... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and his funny ideas!
Q. My boyfriend that I've been with about a year recently started talking about his fantasy of seeing me with another woman. I personally don't find the idea appealing, I can imagine having an emotional relationship with another woman but not a sexual ...
A. 18 June 2006: If you have no inclination to take your sex life this way don't do it. If you do you will regret it. Tell him his fantasies do not appeal to you and that you will never do it. Make sure he understands this. If his fantasies mean that much to ... (read in full...)
I have a nice BF but he is not the most handsome chap!
Q. hi i am 14 years old and i have a bf that is 16. he is the kindest person i have ever met. the thing is he is not the best looking guy out there. i love him to bits and has the nicest personality ever. he gives me hugs and doesnt push me into ...
A. 18 June 2006: It is not just about looks. If he makes you laugh and treats you right and your feelings for him are good, who cares what anyone else thinks? Try not to let *judgememntal* people ruin a good thing.... (read in full...)
My father in law is still harrassing me
Q. Hi, I'm back again with "I am not comfortable with the attention I'm getting from my husband's father!". I know it should tell my hubby about this matter but I am SO AFRAID! DAMN AFRAID! Yesterday, we visited my in-law again as my sis in-law i...
A. 18 June 2006: I understand this situation all too well. My father in law to be made a slimy move on me when he had to much to drink at my sister in laws engagement party. I told him to pack it in and threatened to take his fingers off if he did it again. I told ... (read in full...)
She lied and said she was older, but now I'm a married man in love with a 14-year-old!
Q. What action should I take? I am a married man in my late twenties, who has fallen for someone much younger. We met in a chatroom last year, when her profile stated she was older. After a while, we spoke on MSN when I noticed that she was actu...
A. 14 June 2006: as an adult YOU should ahve terminated this friendship the minute you noticed her age. YOU should have taken control and stopped these feelings developing. Obviously you think that this is going to be *for life* but she is 14 and I can guarrantee ... (read in full...)
I am falling for my husbands best mate
Q. iv been married for only a month but have been with my husband for a year and a half but i think that im falling in love with my husbands best friend i love my husband but i have a really good connection with my husbands best friend and i dont know ...
A. 13 June 2006: I can fully understand this. At the moment you feel like you ahve nothing to focus on - that your wedding is over, so what next? Are you craving excitment? Are you a closet commitmentphobe and you are realising what a marriage vow means? There ... (read in full...)
Shes in a relationship of 7 years, but always ends up close to me at meetings, she is always chatting and flirting with me, is she actually interested in me ? (long)
Q. Flirting with a taken woman? I have been in an amateur theater group for about 2 years. Last November(2005), some new members joined our group; one was a young woman, Jessica. From the first moment we saw each other, we engaged in intense, eye con...
A. 11 June 2006: I think the seven/eight/nine year itch has come into play here and you need to be careful you don't get sucked in. If she is truely interested and you are as well, then you need to ask her to finish one relationship before moving onto the next.
x... (read in full...)
How can I get this boy to notice me?
Q. Hi. I really like this guy and I think he likes me too. He just doesn't seem that interested in having a girlfriend at the moment. What can I do to get him to notice me - really notice me??????????...
A. 10 June 2006: Talk to him, simple really.... (read in full...)
My ex and I aren't in good terms, but should I send the picutre of my pregnancy scan anyways?
Q. hi i just wanted some opinions.i am 13weeks pregnant and have recently had my scan although me and my ex fell out over the fact i am pregnant and have not spoken since do u think it would be a good or bad idea to send him the picture of my scan...
A. 9 June 2006: I think you shouldn't. You should tell him you have in and would he like to see it? Then he can make his own decisons.... (read in full...)
I have some bizarre fetishes-does that mean something is wrong with me?
Q. is it weird to have a fetish for people with no legs? i mean its like sooooo sexy and i get horny just thinking about it. is there something wrong with me? i always have these weird dreams about people like that and i always get wet dreams. i also ...
A. 8 June 2006: Yep. It is weird to have a fixation or fetish for something like this....it is hardly the *norm*. But if it doesn't hurt anybody else, why worry?... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants oral, this is new for me...I need advice!
Q. hi my boyfriend wants me to give him a blow job, i've never done this bfore and i'm really nervous has anyone got any tips???...
A. 7 June 2006: This is gonna sound bizzare, but can I ask what makes a bad blow job? Genuinely - being female it would be good to know!... (read in full...)
I need a mole removed on my back but I don't know how to go about it...
Q. can i have more answers plz. i have a finger tip size mole on my back and i am so self conscience about it. im 16. what age do you have to be to get it removed? also i dont wanna ask my mum if i can get it removed cos its embaressing, i dont wanna ...
A. 7 June 2006: Please go and see your GP. Moles are not disgusting they are just there. Discuss this with your Mum and tell her how you feel about it. She won't be embarrassed and you shouldn't either....
Good luck.
xxx... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has had 32 previous sexual partners
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I am 27 and have been going out with a 26 yr old girl for just over 2 months, and I really like her. She is interesting, attractive, sexy, clever and funny, and I am in love with her. I was planning on telling her this last weekend, but in the ...
A. 13 March 2006: I feel for you because you cannot help the way you feel. we all have our moral highgrounds but I think that you are being a little hypersensitive about this.
In an ideal world we would meet our life partner and fall in love and stay in love what... (read in full...)
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