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Student of Psychology, Degree in Nursing with wide variety of experience. Mother, daughter, sister, wife, ex, neice, grandaughter, student, boss, colleague....you get the picture.
Interested in impulse control disorders, like chocolate, cheese, Tintin, travelling, Pepsi max, Cracker, Tony Soprano, eddie Izzard, toilet humour, Family guy - shall I go on?
Adore my family and friends. Love to help others, abuse survivor, rape survivor, holder of family record for cherry pip spitting......
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What's the deal with my goth friend? She's starting to annoy me and our other friends...
Q. I am a little worried for my friend because she seems to have a strange personality. She wears clothes which 'stand out' (goth clothes) and when I asked her why she said she didn't know. Her friends outside of school are all in their late teens or...
A. 19 July 2006: Ok.
Whatever
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I thought he was cute when I was 13... Now I'm 15 and I keep seeing him everywhere!
Q. I'm gonna start my story a few years back, my first day of high school and i see the cutest guy i have ever seen in my whole entire life. He's good looking to boot, not only that but he is extremely nice! I never approached him, because i was 13...
A. 19 July 2006: I think that you need to call him and tell him you have some pictures. Tell him he can have them if he wants and mention he knows your Mum. When you have done that you can arrange to meet him somewhere to give him the pics, somewhere ... (read in full...)
What's the deal with my goth friend? She's starting to annoy me and our other friends...
Q. I am a little worried for my friend because she seems to have a strange personality. She wears clothes which 'stand out' (goth clothes) and when I asked her why she said she didn't know. Her friends outside of school are all in their late teens or...
A. 19 July 2006: Nothing to do with the fact your friend appears to be more socially confident than you? Or that she has wider interests than the petty bitching of a bunch of 14/15/16 year old girls?
I think that you have had issues with this girl and like to thin... (read in full...)
She fell asleep holding my hand, you think she likes me?
Q. im 16 and i met this girl at a party and we got on great and we flirted alot. she let me hold her in my arms and she held my hand and she fell asleep on me. but nothing happend. and im just woundering what should i do. and does antbody else think ...
A. 18 July 2006: Well she is relaxed and secure around you, so chances are, yep she likes you at least a little bit.
Please do not take on board martyrmachines WHORE/MADONNA complex. There is a little more to women and girls than this honey.
Good luck
xx... (read in full...)
Do women like recieving oral sex?
Q. I really like this one girl, And I'm going to ask her out soon. But what I really fantasize about is giving HER oral sex. I couldn't really care less about her doing anything to me (Although I certainly wouldn't mind it :D ) Is this OK? Or am I ...
A. 18 July 2006: A lot of women like oral sex, but just as many do not. It is a matter of personal taste. So just get to know her first and then see where that leads!
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My fiancee was brutally honest in telling me she thinks my penis is too short!
Q. Dear Cupid, My penis is 4.5" short. I've spent the past several years convincing myself that that's OK. I read up on it and discovered that most women either don't care or prefer medium length. I told myself "size doesn't matter" over and...
A. 18 July 2006: This is a question made up by a st*ned individual who has nothing better to do. Check the ISP address and other *questions* posted form this.
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I'm confused because I think my girlfriend is lying about where she's going!
Q. Me and my gf have been together for 8 months now. We connected and have the potential to have a brilliant and fun future. A month ago she lied to me. She met a guy and was planning to go to a barbeque with him. She told me she was at a girlie f...
A. 18 July 2006: 8 months in and she feels the need to cheat and lie? (Allegedly!!)
C'mon, you must know what she is up to in your heart. I wouldn't be sticking around for more of the same, I would be out of there. Dr Pete is completely right. Go Go GO! Don'... (read in full...)
How can I decide on a future job, aged 50? Any help or comments appreciated!
Q. I'm rapidly appoaching fifty and need a new direction in life.Spent most of it employed in semi-skilled work or starting supposed perfect career choices finding them less than perfect.I have many interests,no kids,no ties-the world is my oyster;so ...
A. 18 July 2006: What do you enjoy most in life?
Take it from there.
I am a registered nurse, aged 35 and have always wanted to study psychology....so last year I bit the bullet and registered on a degree course with a view to becoming a clinical psycholo... (read in full...)
Im 16, my bf told me he's got Herpes, can I get myself checked out without telling my mum ?
Q. Yesterday when my boyfriend was drunk he told me he had herpes. I wasn't sure if he was joking or not, but the more i think about it the more i worry. My genital area has been sore and very ichy recenty and some of the skin is peeling. I had ...
A. 18 July 2006: Get checked out. Go to your GP or the local GUM clinic at your nearest hospital. I am presuming of course you live in the UK. Phone the Brook (number in phone book) they can advise you further.
Good luck.
xx... (read in full...)
Why would she do this?
Q. A friends wife has gone off sex totally and has admitted to not liking to be touched at all. Any ideas?...
A. 17 July 2006: Why don't you try to communicate with her? Aske her why?!?! You may be surprised by the answer.... (read in full...)
My first time and he has a big penis....Any suggestions??
Q. I'm 16 and my boyfriend is the most amazing person in the entire world i love him so much. We've been together on and off for the past 9 months or so, and the time has finally come for us to have sex. I'm not nervous at all as we know eachother ...
A. 17 July 2006: Granny, can I ask were you live?
If 9" is normal were you come from then I am living in the wrong place.
lol
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If I don't fantasise about girls much any more, could it be a sign I'm going gay?
Q. I'm 16 years old and have been out of school for the summer for about a month and I'm stuck at home all day with no contact with my friends or girls. Ever since I can remember I've fantasized about girls and have had girlfriends in the past. Bu...
A. 17 July 2006: At 16 I think you would be a little young to completely pigeon-hole yourself! So what, you haven't had thoughts for a short while....they are not compulsory you know.
Stop worrying and start enjoying life!!... (read in full...)
Can I fix his controlling ways?
Q. I my boyfriend and I have been practically living together for the 4 months since we met. He and I spend nearly every non-work minute together. I love him. He says he loves me. He however is extremely jealous and paranoid and accuses me ...
A. 17 July 2006: Four months you are still in the honeymoon stage of the relationship! And he is acting like this?
You know what you have to do. If you didn't you wouldn't be here questioning the relationship.
Good Luck.
xx... (read in full...)
What does sperm taste like?
Q. Can anyone tell me what sperm tastes like because me and this boy are planning on doing stuff but i dont know if i want him to *** in my mouth in case it tastes nasty. Can anyone help?...
A. 17 July 2006: No comment...
But it smells like bleach!... (read in full...)
The man I'm dating has lots of female friends he's slept with. On my instructions he has dumped two of them but now he blames *me* for how bad he feels!
Q. Normally I’m not a jealous person by nature, but I don’t know what to do about my current situation. I’ve been with my current boyfriend for almost a year and a half. After six months, I moved into his place. I moved out six months later after ...
A. 17 July 2006: This all sounds a little far fetched now???... (read in full...)
My first time and he has a big penis....Any suggestions??
Q. I'm 16 and my boyfriend is the most amazing person in the entire world i love him so much. We've been together on and off for the past 9 months or so, and the time has finally come for us to have sex. I'm not nervous at all as we know eachother ...
A. 17 July 2006: Sorry, but you sound as if you know very little about the male of the species, much less about how their bits work.
I suggest you go get yourslef a basic anatomy book and start again.
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What's the deal with my goth friend? She's starting to annoy me and our other friends...
Q. I am a little worried for my friend because she seems to have a strange personality. She wears clothes which 'stand out' (goth clothes) and when I asked her why she said she didn't know. Her friends outside of school are all in their late teens or...
A. 17 July 2006: You sound like you are jealous of her......... (read in full...)
He's lied constantly for the past 6 months should I still stay ?
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for 6 months. i knew he was married but he said they had separated. i got a phone call ffrom his wife saying that they were still together!!! me and my bf do everything together and i do love him dearly. but he h...
A. 17 July 2006: If YOU can trust him saty. If not go. Simple. Your relationship should be based on trust, without that you have nothing.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend kept putting my hand on his erection and now I get ill just thinking about him!
Q. I've been going out with my bf for over 14 months and last time we were making out he got an erection and kept putting my hand on it. I'm uncomfortable with this but every time I took it off he would put it back. So I just stopped it all together...
A. 17 July 2006: Then pretty much it is too early for you to be thinking about a sexual relationship yet. He is not the guy for you to be experimenting with if he makes you feel sick.
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The man I'm dating has lots of female friends he's slept with. On my instructions he has dumped two of them but now he blames *me* for how bad he feels!
Q. Normally I’m not a jealous person by nature, but I don’t know what to do about my current situation. I’ve been with my current boyfriend for almost a year and a half. After six months, I moved into his place. I moved out six months later after ...
A. 17 July 2006: Good luck with whatever happen sweetie!
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My husbands secret is making me think of divorcing him.
Q. I'm a mother with a 15-year-old son. Recently I found out my husband has been involved in doping in sport with people from work; it's caused furious arguments between me and my husband; with him insisting he has the right to do it, as long as it do...
A. 16 July 2006: Hi there.
As you know about this situation AND if it can be prooved in a court of law that you knew about yet didn't do anything about it, yes, you could get into trouble.
Do you want your husband to be punsihed for this or do you just want you... (read in full...)
Even after 10 years, he wouldn't leave his wife, so I finished it...
Q. Dear Cupid, I've been seeing John for ten years. It's a love affair. He's married; has been for forty years. They have problems, been married when they were 16 years old. I have always been there for him. I love him. It's wrong, I know. He is repon...
A. 16 July 2006: I think you know yourself what you have to do. In your heart you ahve relaised that it is never gonna happen and he is never gonna leave her. So move on.
Despite what others say you ahve not *wasted* your ten years with john. Look on them as a ti... (read in full...)
I am having unprotected sex at 13!
Q. i am 13 years old and last nite i had sex wid my bf for only about 20 seconds widout protection i finished my period 21 days ago is there a chance i mite be pregnant? is there any pills i can take now to stop it?? plz plz plz help me!!! ...
A. 16 July 2006: NICE!
Everybody on here feels the need to try to scare you into never having unprotected sex again. You seem to be fully aware that you have made a mistake and are now wanting to do something about it. You do not say which country you are in, but ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend just broke up with me and is going on about being bestfriends
Q. Hi, My g/f broke up with me after 4 months. She didn't have a valid reason for it. Yet, she wants to be my best friend. What does that mean/show? ...
A. 16 July 2006: It generally means she wants to keep an eye on you.....or that she wasn't ready for an intense relationship with you. But she is willing to be friends.
If you dont feel up for this then tell her no.
xx... (read in full...)
My boyfriend kept putting my hand on his erection and now I get ill just thinking about him!
Q. I've been going out with my bf for over 14 months and last time we were making out he got an erection and kept putting my hand on it. I'm uncomfortable with this but every time I took it off he would put it back. So I just stopped it all together...
A. 16 July 2006: Can I ask how old you are honey? And how old is your boyfriend?... (read in full...)
Does he love me yet?
Q. A question for the guys: I have been seeing my boyfriend for four months now. We ge on realy well and he is always telling how much he cares for me and wants to always spend time with me and hopes we g out for a long time! Can you tell me how i ...
A. 16 July 2006: This is looking good girlfriend.....
xx
PS. Sorry, not a guy, but an old lady of 35!!... (read in full...)
Sex with a player?How do I stop it?
Q. This boy i know has asked me a number of times to have sex with him and i have turned him down every time. The other week i finaly said yes and we were planning on doing it but i have heard from his sister today that he mighnt be asking another girl ...
A. 16 July 2006: Right two things you should be doing.
1. Ask him outright what his game is
and
2. Say no, don't do it.
You have no relationship with this guy so why would you be having sex with him......?
It is hurting because you ahve been *played* by so... (read in full...)
I said No to a girl because she's only 14, but I still feel jealous of other guys!
Q. I am 18 years old and through friends I've got to know this girl. We get on good and all and she asked me out but I said no because she is only 14. I know I ain't going to try anything with her becuase that ain't the way I am. Yet I'm still fe...
A. 16 July 2006: I have been out with an 18 year old at fourteen and it worked. I think you did the honerable thing by not going out with her. But if the feelings are still there in a couple of years who knows?
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Shall I take the chance on a work-mates word?
Q. Does he like me? Ive been friends with this guy in work for over a year now but recently after a girlie chat with other workmates they suggested we would make a really lovely couple when they mentioned this i laughed it off I thought i would ne...
A. 16 July 2006: You live once. If you dont take a chance you will absolutley never know.
I, for the record think there is a good chance he likes you too.
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Do guys like bitches?
Q. Hiya, I've been friends with this girl for about 2 years now. She used to be such good fun, a really honest person and a really good friend. She has always been pretty, not naturally really, more just good use of make up and takes good care of herse...
A. 16 July 2006: This is a case of each to their own. Don't go changing your personality in order to attract boys to you. People in general prefer honesty and openess, not false behaviour.
xx... (read in full...)
Could a few deleted numbers mean my boyfriend cheating?
Q. Just thinking about something- With my b/f for more than a year and probably shouldn't be thinking about things from last summer b/c it was a long time ago. I remember one time last summer I went through his contact list for his phone and s...
A. 16 July 2006: Any other things that may give you pause for thought?
You cannot seriously doubt your BF after a year on from deleting those numbers? If you do then whta else has made you think like that?... (read in full...)
I'm a lesbian and I love my friend! How do I tell her?
Q. I'm a lesbian, how do i tell my friend i love her?...
A. 16 July 2006: Do you value this freindship at all and are you willing to risk it for the sake of a knockback....cos you will lose the friendship if she doesn't feel the same way.
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After all we've been thru he wants to be a batchelor.
Q. Hi. I ma completely new to this so not really show why i am really even here. basically i have been with a guy for 4+ years.we got engaged last year and WERE due to be married in a couple of months. we have been through a lot of struggles, rangi...
A. 16 July 2006: You ahve both grown up and started to need different things. You questioned out loud to your fiance about your lack of faith in the relationship. He seemed to be ok, never articulating how he felt....then bang out of the blue he wants out!
I am s... (read in full...)
Just lost my virginity and regretting it big time!!
Q. Hey Im a 17 year old girl and... as of last night, no longer a virgin. The trouble I'm having is... they guy I lost it to, would definately not be my first choice. It hurt like crazy, and Ive only known him for 2 weeks. At the time, it seemed l...
A. 16 July 2006: This is an irrational thought. You will be loved again and despite what you read on here sometimes, not all men are so shallow to only look for a virgin!!
You are having regrets over what you have done.....and all you ahve done is get carried away... (read in full...)
My boyfriend being made redundant is making him head towards a breakdown, how can i help him?
Q. I am in bits at the moment, I have been dating this guy for about 3 and a half months. The first three months were wonderful, we talked to each other all the time and were very very happy. Then two weeks ago his staff at work were made redundant, ...
A. 16 July 2006: This is such a new relationship and you have known each other for such a short time I do not see how you can judge if he is heading for a nervous breakdown. I am sorry if this sounds harsh, but he has asked you to leave him alone for a bit and this ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend being made redundant is making him head towards a breakdown, how can i help him?
Q. I am in bits at the moment, I have been dating this guy for about 3 and a half months. The first three months were wonderful, we talked to each other all the time and were very very happy. Then two weeks ago his staff at work were made redundant, ...
A. 16 July 2006: This is such a new relationship and you have known each other for such a short time I do not see how you can judge if he is heading for a nervous breakdown. I am sorry if this sounds harsh, but he has asked you to leave him alone for a bit and this ... (read in full...)
Married and looking my best then i have in years, how to deal with all the extra attention from other woman?!
Q. Hi there. I'm a 33 year old married man. I have a beautiful wife whom I adore and 2 lovely children. For all the world we have a perfect life. I even feel like a bit of a hypocrit claiming i have a problem. You see.. I met my wife when we wer...
A. 16 July 2006: Enjoy the attention. Flirt a little, but do not follow thru and respond. Stay true to your wife if you love her.
xx... (read in full...)
Married and looking my best then i have in years, how to deal with all the extra attention from other woman?!
Q. Hi there. I'm a 33 year old married man. I have a beautiful wife whom I adore and 2 lovely children. For all the world we have a perfect life. I even feel like a bit of a hypocrit claiming i have a problem. You see.. I met my wife when we wer...
A. 16 July 2006: Enjoy the attention. Flirt a little, but do not follow thru and respond. Stay true to your wife if you love her.
xx... (read in full...)
Having second thoughts about getting married to my fiance! Help!
Q. I am engaged and I am having second thoughts. I love him with all of my heart but I dont know if he is the one. How do I tell him?...
A. 16 July 2006: If you love him then you need to have faith in your relationship. Talk to your fiance about how you feel, he may be able to reassure you.
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My husbands secret is making me think of divorcing him.
Q. I'm a mother with a 15-year-old son. Recently I found out my husband has been involved in doping in sport with people from work; it's caused furious arguments between me and my husband; with him insisting he has the right to do it, as long as it do...
A. 16 July 2006: This is ileagal and if you are found to be involved it could have serious implications for you. How is he involved?... (read in full...)
How to tell someone that your divorced and have kids?
Q. How do you tell the guy you just started talking to that you are divorced and have two kids? ...
A. 16 July 2006: 'Did I tell you I have two children?' is always a good start. I mean, are you ashamed or embarrassed about them? NO!! So if he doesn't like this fact he ain't worth liking hun!!
xxx... (read in full...)
It's a been a month and my period hasn't come, majorly worried.
Q. I havent had my period for like nearly a month and i fear it could be the worst. Me and my bf have always been careful, but i am really starting to get worried. I have had a huge amount of stress over the past month and a bit so this could be co...
A. 16 July 2006: Get yourself to the pharmacy and get yourself an early pregnancy test. There is no point putting yourself thru all this stress when you could pee on a stick and find out what is going on for definate!
Nobody on here can reassure you because we cann... (read in full...)
The man I'm dating has lots of female friends he's slept with. On my instructions he has dumped two of them but now he blames *me* for how bad he feels!
Q. Normally I’m not a jealous person by nature, but I don’t know what to do about my current situation. I’ve been with my current boyfriend for almost a year and a half. After six months, I moved into his place. I moved out six months later after ...
A. 15 July 2006: I was going to reply to your message by saying you needed to show a little more tolerance, but after the third and forth reading I have changed my mind!!
I am all for friendships across the genders. I have many friends of different colours, reli... (read in full...)
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