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Student of Psychology, Degree in Nursing with wide variety of experience. Mother, daughter, sister, wife, ex, neice, grandaughter, student, boss, colleague....you get the picture.
Interested in impulse control disorders, like chocolate, cheese, Tintin, travelling, Pepsi max, Cracker, Tony Soprano, eddie Izzard, toilet humour, Family guy - shall I go on?
Adore my family and friends. Love to help others, abuse survivor, rape survivor, holder of family record for cherry pip spitting......
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I'm 19 - I want a boob job, I lost a baby & my partner thinks I've cheated on him!
Q. I'm a 19 year old woman who hates her body and most all all her breasts. I want a boob job but its ruining my relationships because of my low confidence and self-esteem pls help me makes sense of what i should do? i love my partner of three years an...
A. 27 July 2006: Can I just point out that I thought Martini's advice thoroughly sound. Hotadvice needs to back off as she is being a little judgemental about his swearing, given the tone she takes with some of the other questions askers on here.... (read in full...)
Advice from those people having affairs please.
Q. hello..a question to those of you having affairs(come on you know you're out there)i have begun an affair but have no intention of leaving my husband for my lover and neither does my lover want or expect me to. we are both happy about this decision ...
A. 27 July 2006: That was a bit of a lecture wasn't it....and half the time I am the first to complain at poepl having affairs anyhow. Just not when they ask for advice....
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Am I Bi or is it just a phase?
Q. Well here it goes, i am having a problem. i don't know if i am bi or not. i like boys, infact i like boys alot but for a few years now i have been finding myself attracted to girls. i start having thoughts of being in a female-female relation...
A. 27 July 2006: Hey little miss hot advice dont PM me to send abuse. ... (read in full...)
Advice from those people having affairs please.
Q. hello..a question to those of you having affairs(come on you know you're out there)i have begun an affair but have no intention of leaving my husband for my lover and neither does my lover want or expect me to. we are both happy about this decision ...
A. 27 July 2006: wild thaing, I wasn't having a go at you, so I think it would be unfair for you to *have a go* at me.....
This person has asked for ADVICE off people who have experience of this situation. If they had asked to be talked out of it, or to be lect... (read in full...)
Am I Bi or is it just a phase?
Q. Well here it goes, i am having a problem. i don't know if i am bi or not. i like boys, infact i like boys alot but for a few years now i have been finding myself attracted to girls. i start having thoughts of being in a female-female relation...
A. 27 July 2006: By the way HOT I was being sarcastic....just in case you didn't get it.... (read in full...)
Advice from those people having affairs please.
Q. hello..a question to those of you having affairs(come on you know you're out there)i have begun an affair but have no intention of leaving my husband for my lover and neither does my lover want or expect me to. we are both happy about this decision ...
A. 27 July 2006: Ah, but some people try evrything in order to remedy a situation and nothing comes of it. AND I do mean EVERYTHING. Until you are in this situation you cannot judge others. If you are lily white in everything you do (and NOBODY is) then you ... (read in full...)
I want to find my father, but don't want to hurt Mum or my stepdad!
Q. Me and my mum had always lived together, just us two, until a few years ago when she remarried. I care about my stepdad but I don't get on with him that well. My mum always said she never wanted me to find my father and I never did too until re...
A. 27 July 2006: A year isn't that long if you don't want to tell them. BUT I would confide iont them about how you are feeling. I think the chances are they have talked over this situation already and know how they are going to deal with it already.
If your pare... (read in full...)
Could I be pregnant because he came and was fingering me?
Q. Ive never done anything with any guys before and was a complete virgin until me and my boyfriend decided to go further. Anyway the other night I slept round his house and things led to another and I ended up tossing him off and he was fingering me ...
A. 27 July 2006: You have been given the wrong advice by the three people who answered this question before me.
There IS a chance you could be pregnant if he ahd 'come/sperm' on his fingers before touching you intimately. Sperm can live for a long time inside and ... (read in full...)
My husband had an emotional affair, so what is missing in our relationship?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been married for nearly 14 years to my husband. We have had the normal ups and downs, but we have made it through stronger than ever. Several months ago my husband had an emotional affair. I was absolutely devastated. My heart...
A. 27 July 2006: I would say that if my husabnd had an 'emotional' affair not a 'sexual' one I would feel more threatened. But that is to do with me and my nature or personality.
What has been going on since you posted your question?
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Am I Bi or is it just a phase?
Q. Well here it goes, i am having a problem. i don't know if i am bi or not. i like boys, infact i like boys alot but for a few years now i have been finding myself attracted to girls. i start having thoughts of being in a female-female relation...
A. 27 July 2006: Good to see that Hot can give you some good and objective advice.
Does it matter if you are bi or not. If you wish to have a relationship with another individual of either sex then that is your choice and you shouldn't look for 'permission' on this... (read in full...)
My wife makes our family holidays a misery!
Q. Whenever our family go on holiday my wife seems determined to spoil it for everyone. Last year she spent two days looking very annoyed, then, blew up at me for something trivial (the entrance fee to a waxworks would you believe, it wasn't even as ...
A. 20 July 2006: This sounds like a stress reaction. Is she feeling ok about going away or is she worried about something? Before you go I think you should sit down and try to TALK to her about how her behaviour makes you feel and how it is going to ruin your ... (read in full...)
Thinking about sex, or even contraception, makes me physically ill!
Q. Hi, I have this problem and I was hoping if you guys could help me out. I'm a 14 years old girl and afraid of sex. When I have sex education at school and we are disscusing the different types of contraceptives it makes me feel physically sick. Is ...
A. 20 July 2006: This question has been posted before also from the same ISP number. Please go read the other posts.... (read in full...)
Losing your virginity. Does it hurt much?
Q. Does it hurt losing your virginity? I read a book about it and it said it hurt a lot.....
A. 20 July 2006: There are lots of posts dedicated to this. Go and read them. There have been an awful lot of questions about virginity lately and just have the feeling this might be the work of one guy getting *off* on this. Sorry.
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A guy who's 21 says he loves me and wants to spend his life with me... but I'm only 14!
Q. I am 14 and recently spoke to this guy who's 21 at an art gallery. We write each other letters and things and talk on the phone occasionally and on msn and things, although I never see him as he lives quite far away. The thing I'm worried about, w...
A. 20 July 2006: Sweetie, you are confused as you are too young to deal with these sorts of emotions. Confide in YOUR mum and ask for guidance. Do not do anything because you feel sorry for him or pressured by what he wants.
xx... (read in full...)
What do girls look for in a guy?
Q. Girls-what do you look for in guys, like hair, body, personality etc...
A. 20 July 2006: As has been said before but in the what guys like about women thing - this is something that is unique to each and every person. I have to say that I don't believe that reading a book can help you much on this one as I think that it would take a ... (read in full...)
My gf of 10 months has not given me a blow job in 3 weeks! Is this normal?
Q. my girlfriend of 10 month's as not given me a blow job in 3 week's is this normal? i've been down on her so many time's and she just given me hand job's....
A. 20 July 2006: Male anon, you must reallllyyyy lurrrvveee her....
Nice guy...
lol... (read in full...)
After I masturbate, I get depressed...
Q. HELP! I know this must sound sorta wierd but every time I masturbate I feel really depressed and as if I'm a bad person for it. Is it a bad thing to do?...
A. 19 July 2006: Masturbation is completely normal and healthy. Whatever your age or gender. Please don't worry about it.
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After I masturbate, I get depressed...
Q. HELP! I know this must sound sorta wierd but every time I masturbate I feel really depressed and as if I'm a bad person for it. Is it a bad thing to do?...
A. 19 July 2006: Masturbation is completely normal and healthy. Whatever your age or gender. Please don't worry about it.
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I'm worried about my husband's cocaine addiction. He's stealing from me and lying about it!
Q. I met my husband when I was 14 and am now 24. We have been married for 4 years with 4 girls aged 8, 4, 3 and 1. We lost a baby boy in 2004, a few weeks before the 2nd aniversary back in May my husband started taking cocaine. He said he needed it to ...
A. 19 July 2006: The minute your kids start to suffer you ahve to be cruel to be kind. He will never straighten himself out whilst he has you as a crutch to lean on. You think that telling him to go will make him worse...well you could be right, but then you could ... (read in full...)
Will guys care that I have braces? Are they worth it?
Q. I have a pretty bad overbite, and at the end of next month i will be getting braces. But i am really worried that once i get them i am never going to have a boyfriend. And that may sound weird, but it's the decideing factor in weither i am going to ...
A. 19 July 2006: I think any guy worth his salt will see past the braces. I ahd double train tracks fro the best part of four years and before that a head set brace that I had to wear for eighteen hours a day for about 6 months. I ahd a bf and no problems.... (read in full...)
What's the deal with my goth friend? She's starting to annoy me and our other friends...
Q. I am a little worried for my friend because she seems to have a strange personality. She wears clothes which 'stand out' (goth clothes) and when I asked her why she said she didn't know. Her friends outside of school are all in their late teens or...
A. 19 July 2006: Ok.
Whatever
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Im 28 hes 53, were in love but is this age difference too much?
Q. I am 28 and in love with a 53 year old man! He feels the same about me. Is this age dirrerence too much?? I know that my family will ridicule this relationship. What do i do??? HELP!!!...
A. 19 July 2006: Didn't mean to offend, just have a *way with words* Ariel....lolx... (read in full...)
Could unprotected sex make my GF's urine smell?
Q. My girlfriend told me that her urine smells bad up to 4 days after we have unprotected sex. She told me that there is something wrong with me, but I am in great health. What should I do?...
A. 19 July 2006: As this is happening several days after you have sex I would suggest that maybe your GF is developing cystitis. She should go to her local pharmacist and ask advice. Failing that take a sample to be tested at the GP.
You can buy over... (read in full...)
Is honesty the best policy?
Q. Earlier thie year I was going out with an American things were cool at first but then she started getting a bit clingy, I tried to break it off but was unsuccessful. As she was leaving in June I let it slide, but now that shes back home she won't ...
A. 19 July 2006: Tell her straight. It's not worth stringing it out or the aggro you will get if you don't. I wish you luck.
xx... (read in full...)
Advice from those people having affairs please.
Q. hello..a question to those of you having affairs(come on you know you're out there)i have begun an affair but have no intention of leaving my husband for my lover and neither does my lover want or expect me to. we are both happy about this decision ...
A. 19 July 2006: Good to see everybody jumped on the band wagon and had a go at this individual who was actually asking for help or advice from people............. (read in full...)
Im 28 hes 53, were in love but is this age difference too much?
Q. I am 28 and in love with a 53 year old man! He feels the same about me. Is this age dirrerence too much?? I know that my family will ridicule this relationship. What do i do??? HELP!!!...
A. 19 July 2006: It is a sort of scare tactic. Look at it this way, I have nursed a woman who had a massive CVA aged 30 and she had three young children. She is know trapped in a body, can't speak, can't see properly and cannot even feel her shildren's ... (read in full...)
Im 28 hes 53, were in love but is this age difference too much?
Q. I am 28 and in love with a 53 year old man! He feels the same about me. Is this age dirrerence too much?? I know that my family will ridicule this relationship. What do i do??? HELP!!!...
A. 19 July 2006: It is a sort of scare tactic. Look at it this way, I have nursed a woman who had a massive CVA aged 30 and she had three young children. She is know trapped in a body, can't speak, can't see properly and cannot even feel her shildren's ... (read in full...)
Im 28 hes 53, were in love but is this age difference too much?
Q. I am 28 and in love with a 53 year old man! He feels the same about me. Is this age dirrerence too much?? I know that my family will ridicule this relationship. What do i do??? HELP!!!...
A. 19 July 2006: It is a sort of scare tactic. Look at it this way, I have nursed a woman who had a massive CVA aged 30 and she had three young children. She is know trapped in a body, can't speak, can't see properly and cannot even feel her shildren's ... (read in full...)
Should I believe what he says?
Q. If a guy tells a girl his feelings then should she believe him or not ???...
A. 19 July 2006: Depends on who he is, who he is saying to and what his reasons are for saying it to be honest. Works both ways.
xx... (read in full...)
My GF doesn't know about my female friend online. Should I risk a meeting with her?
Q. Hi, I have been seeing my g/f for just over a year now. During that time I've been helping a girl on the internet with her problems, which my g/f doesn't know about. But the only problem is that the girl now wants to meet up with me and I want to...
A. 19 July 2006: Hey there nice guy. How would YOU feel if she did this to you?
Now act accordingly....
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Im 28 hes 53, were in love but is this age difference too much?
Q. I am 28 and in love with a 53 year old man! He feels the same about me. Is this age dirrerence too much?? I know that my family will ridicule this relationship. What do i do??? HELP!!!...
A. 19 July 2006: Look, go with your gut feeling on this. Ignore what others say or think. This is your life and at the end of the day it will be you waking up next to him each day....nobody else.
As for the analogy of one partner being in a nursing home and the ... (read in full...)
STD's, how are they caught?
Q. Can u get an STI from someone even if you use a condom? I heard that contact with any part of the genital area can still get you infected....
A. 19 July 2006: Different STD's are caught in different ways. Try these two websites for good and honest information.
http://www.avert.org/teenstd.htm
http://www.rdg.ac.uk/medical_practice/Health/STDs.html... (read in full...)
Advice from those people having affairs please.
Q. hello..a question to those of you having affairs(come on you know you're out there)i have begun an affair but have no intention of leaving my husband for my lover and neither does my lover want or expect me to. we are both happy about this decision ...
A. 19 July 2006: Hey you. Can't help on a personal front but have some experience that I don't really want to share on this bulletin board. So feel free to PM me!!
xxx... (read in full...)
Feeling low, help me out guys!
Q. hello guys at the moment Iam feeling low I have failed two units on my college course can't find a job and iam skint most of all I have bad habits I can't shrug off help me here guys thanks...
A. 19 July 2006: Wowee! You are feeling a little sorry for yourself aren't you Angelron??
When are your resits? Right get yourself a revision timetable worked out and stick to it.
Get off your computer and start ringing around EVERYWHERE to find a summer job. Th... (read in full...)
How do I stop myself from liking my bf's friend. If I do anything stupid, they will do serious harm to each other.
Q. I'm so annoyed with myself. I'm going out with a guy who i'm completely in love with and happy, but i've got a massive crush on his best mate. I know it's only because it's 'bad' for me to be interested that i feel the way i do. It happened with ...
A. 19 July 2006: How do you feel about your BF? Do you love him and want to stay with him? If so your own moral com[pass will stop you from straying.
If not than dump him. Let him go find somebody else who won't fancy his mate!!
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I'm not madly in love with my girlfriend of 2 years... and another girl wants me!
Q. I'm 23, male, a lil loopy. OK, I've got myself into a little bit of trouble. I'm currently seeing a girl for the past 2 years. We like everything ( I mean everything ) the same. She loves me and would seriously do anything for me. She's stable and ...
A. 19 July 2006: Then dump the GF of two years and go for the other one. You have no ties or commitments other than the time you ahve spent together so what is stopping you?
xx... (read in full...)
After 7 months, my BF came clean and told me he used to date someone who was pregnant!
Q. My boyfriend after 7 months he told me that before he met me, he was dating this women for 4 weeks and that she was 8 months pregnant. I feel that he should have told me from the beginning of our relationship. I feel that he's been lying to me the w...
A. 19 July 2006: Cna't see what the problem is here. So what if he used to date somebody who was pregnant? Are you thnking that the child is his or are you just offeneded cos he may have had sex with somebody who was pregnant?
Help me out a little here and tell... (read in full...)
He's nice and I'm smitten, but what if I say something and he rejects me?
Q. I am 21 years old. I have been single for 2 years and 9 months. I recently meet this wonderful guy who I seem to be smitten with. I like everything about this guy but I'm afraid if I tell him he will reject me. He acts pretty friendly towards ...
A. 19 July 2006: I would be positive about this and think yep, he ahs a thing for you....
looking good.
xxx... (read in full...)
She says she's falling for my 'plush toy' and I think it means more than it seems to!
Q. I fancy this new girl at work ... She's really nice and we've talked a little. We work on schedules, and she is always asking me if I'm working the next day, and if not she says it's going to be boring cause I'm not there and all kind of stuff li...
A. 19 July 2006: Honey, there is too little info to be going on here. But I would think positively about it. Obviously she likes working with you and she has a laugh with you....so......???
More information please!!... (read in full...)
Am I still protected if I didn't start my Pill on the right day?
Q. I recently started the pill. My period started on Tuesday 7/11 I got the pill on Friday 7/14 and started taking it while I was still on my period. Now I am reading things that say I have to take it either on the DAY my period started OR the Sunday ...
A. 19 July 2006: Chances are yes, but this is not the information you get on the pill packet. New research has shown that this is not as serious as once thought......BUT if pregnancy would be a disaster I would strongly suggest using a barrier method for the next ... (read in full...)
I thought he was cute when I was 13... Now I'm 15 and I keep seeing him everywhere!
Q. I'm gonna start my story a few years back, my first day of high school and i see the cutest guy i have ever seen in my whole entire life. He's good looking to boot, not only that but he is extremely nice! I never approached him, because i was 13...
A. 19 July 2006: I think that you need to call him and tell him you have some pictures. Tell him he can have them if he wants and mention he knows your Mum. When you have done that you can arrange to meet him somewhere to give him the pics, somewhere ... (read in full...)
What's the deal with my goth friend? She's starting to annoy me and our other friends...
Q. I am a little worried for my friend because she seems to have a strange personality. She wears clothes which 'stand out' (goth clothes) and when I asked her why she said she didn't know. Her friends outside of school are all in their late teens or...
A. 19 July 2006: Nothing to do with the fact your friend appears to be more socially confident than you? Or that she has wider interests than the petty bitching of a bunch of 14/15/16 year old girls?
I think that you have had issues with this girl and like to thin... (read in full...)
What's the deal with my goth friend? She's starting to annoy me and our other friends...
Q. I am a little worried for my friend because she seems to have a strange personality. She wears clothes which 'stand out' (goth clothes) and when I asked her why she said she didn't know. Her friends outside of school are all in their late teens or...
A. 17 July 2006: You sound like you are jealous of her......... (read in full...)
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