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writes: hi i am 14 years old and i have a bf that is 16. he is the kindest person i have ever met. the thing is he is not the best looking guy out there. i love him to bits and has the nicest personality ever. he gives me hugs and doesnt push me into anything. he takes me out all the time and he is just the best bf inbthe world. if not attracted to his looks should i be with him. should i be with him for his looks or should i love him for been him. any suggestions thanx xxo Reply to this Question
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reader, Hopeful +, writes (19 June 2006):
 Looks aren't everything.
Have you ever seen "Shallow Hal"? I suggest you rent that out, its a funny film but has a good message that it is the inner beauty that really counts.
What would you prefer? Someone who is incrediably sexy and hot but is an idiot or a cheat or a liar? Or would you prefer someone who treats you well like a princess but isn't as physically attractive?
I know which one I would prefer!
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reader, xxemilyxx  +, writes (18 June 2006):
its not all about looks its about personality if you like him go for it whats going to hurt you in the long run horrible looks or horrible personality dont worry what he looks like or what peopl say if hes kind to you try it out xxemilyxx
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reader, willywombat +, writes (18 June 2006):
 It is not just about looks. If he makes you laugh and treats you right and your feelings for him are good, who cares what anyone else thinks? Try not to let *judgememntal* people ruin a good thing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2006): Hiso I think you should stay with him. If he makes you happy and if you love him so much, I know where your coming from when you say he is not the best looking guy. My boyfriend isn't the best looking guy in the world as well but I am still with him because he makes me happy and I love him as well. So if you love him very much I think should try and stay with him. If you want to talk any more just send me a message okfrom miss_nice2006 xxxx
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reader, Wendyg +, writes (18 June 2006):
 He might not be what everyone else calls a looker, but you must fancy him right ? Dont go on what others percieve, if your happy with him, hes right for you and you get on well, then why worry about what he looks like ? We cant all be going out with Brad pitt! give the guy a break, his personality supercedes what he looks like. Some of the most handsome guys out there are complete ar$e's. So stop focusing on what he looks like and be with him because hes fun, caring and kind!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2006): Only shallow relationships are based on looks. The question you have to ask yourself is if you think it's a meaningful relationship or not.
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reader, stan +, writes (18 June 2006):
hi is looks that really important to u ? if ur happy and in love with ur b/f as he is with u then enjoy each outher its the personalty that counts now a days
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (18 June 2006):
Its your decision. If you are HAPPY being with a guy who has a awesome personality but isn't the best looking, then thats ok. If though you find that the looks of your bf are an important aspect then maybe you could consider finiding someone who has a good personaity and that you are attracted too. There is no right or wrong. There is nothing you 'should' look for in a bf/gf.
It all just comes down to what is important to you.
We all have our own personal needs/wants.
But personally, I would say that personaity are very important in a relationship. Because you can have the best looking guy in the world, but that doesn't guarenteee you happines. Because in the end I believe personality will outweigh the person's looks.
good luck and hope you work this out.
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (18 June 2006):
 Beauty is in the eye of the beholder...some girls may find him to be handsome! Whatever the situation, personality is much more important than looks. Sure there has to be a basic physical attraction, but long term relationships are built on friendships and mutual interests. He sounds like a nice mature boy. I dated a few 'lookers' in my time and I can tell you they were boring and it didn't work out because all I got was 'me, me, me...mirror, mirror on the wall, who is the fairest of us all?'. It doesn't matter if you are kissing a frog, so long as he is a prince inside! Take Care
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