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... Send *anniepeg a private message | | | *anniepeg's profile:I am 34, married a second time. My son is 9 years old and 2 cats. He keeps me busy. My hobbies are movies, recreational games like xbox games, darts, badminton and dear cupid of course. I used to play the piano but stopped. I have been here for 6 years. Every year I see myself change. Every day is a surprise, an opportunity for growth while some days are just coasting along wondering what the point is. My relationship views are a mix of traditional values and modern, open minded ones. I still believe in long term monogamy as it feels right to me. Other than that I feel there are too many rules in a relationship that I would like to get rid of. Dearcupid is a source of my learning about relationships. I am too young to form a conclusion of what love is. I guess I will grow old with this site.
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I need advice about my daughter's boyfriend please ?
Q. Hi there, I need advice please about my daughter's boyfriend. First of all, a bit of background info. re. my daughter. We now have no family at all - no aunts, uncles, grandfather's etc. No one. It has been this way for many years and, before t...
A. 1 September 2015: I am almost 35. I would prefer not to talk about relationships with mom but if she gives me advice, she's always right although I know it myself already. Is a man who is rude to mother in law really good for your daughter? Does that coldness ... (read in full...)
I want to ask her out again, but should I?
Q. I seriously don’t know what to do. This is an ongoing story that spans a couple months, but if you’re in the mood to help a guy out, I’d love to hear your thoughts. For the past few months I've been having fun casual conversations wi...
A. 1 September 2015: A bar is not some place to go if you like someone a lot and want to know better. You might think a lunch date is simple but a lot happens subconsciously. It only takes minutes to determine if you are a friend, lover or boyfriend material. She might ... (read in full...)
He's been verbally abusive. My parents call him psycho. Should I move on or try harder in our relationship?
Q. I don't whether I'm still in relationship with him or not but i will say: I am in a relationship with south indian conservative man,though my roots are from south as well but my birth and education is done in different state due to work reason i...
A. 30 August 2015: You should not try harder in the relationship. I believe you value freedom more than trying to pretend you are fine with being a domesticated servant with no friends and whose sole purpose in his life is to feed him, clean and have sex and nothing ... (read in full...)
Can anyone tell me why my mother is behaving this way? I'm 22 but she acts like she does not trust me.
Q. Hello all, I am a 22 year old female college student living at home with my mom. As much as I would love to move out, I can't because my tuition is where almost all of my paychecks are going. My mom and I have always been close, and we've never ...
A. 30 August 2015: She's lonely and is trying to grab onto whatever relationship is left between you two. She's well aware that one day you would get married and she would be all alone. The more you shut her out the more she pries into your business. I suggest you ... (read in full...)
Are there any good guys in the world? If so, where are they?
Q. Am i going crazy? Ive recently deleted all my male list on my messenger app. I find it hard to make male friends. Every male i saw as a potential friend eventually ends up telling me that he is interested in me and wants a relationship. I just went ...
A. 30 August 2015: There are still good guys, although they are getting fewer and fewer. I will give you the answer simply. Now housing prices are soaring so people can't afford to get married in their 20's, if at all. Jobs are hard to come by. Guys cannot date if ... (read in full...)
I can see this guy isn't my future husband but I don't know how to break things off
Q. How do you tell a guy that he is not what you're looking for, without hurting his feelings? I've been with my boyfriend for two years now. I love him and I have no doubt he loves me too. We do get along. We laugh and have fun together while also abl...
A. 29 August 2015: A guy like him knows you are looking someone ambitious, unless he is stupid. I don't think he would be as hurt as you imagine him to be. He is so laid back that he has hope that another woman would love him as he is. I believe you are not too sure ... (read in full...)
We are having problems having sex and not sure why
Q. My boyfriend and I have just started having sex and experiencing difficulties. We have both had partners in the past so were not new to this. We have been seeing each other for just over a month and have had sex four times now. First time we had sex ...
A. 29 August 2015: It sounds like none of the positions worked. The first common assumption made by women is that they are not attractive enough, which is often far from the truth. I believe for sex to be good, both need to be physically fit. I rarely hear about men ... (read in full...)
Did I overreact even though he lied to me?
Q. Dear cupids, I posted a story http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-really-dont-want-to-be-the-victim.html. I want to continue from where I stopped but before that let's just say my healing process has been slow but I am better now. The main point ...
A. 29 August 2015: I think you screamed because last time he took your money you were shocked and stunned. Now after you knew he lied about where he lived to lure you in, you had to let it all out. You finally saw what a liar and thief he was. It's the combination of ... (read in full...)
Got drunk and cheated on my boyfriend. I feel incredibly guilty. What do I do now?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 4 and a half years.I am 27 and he is 29. I love him with all my heart so much so that my friends think it has changed me and I am forever neglecting my own needs. Like many relationships we have had our ups and ...
A. 26 August 2015: I would prefer not to analyze events in relationships because sometimes they may not be related to your inner world. If you want a meaning behind what you did which led to this, may I guess that it's you who subconsciously sabotaging a good ... (read in full...)
Does my boyfriend need space or does he need me to reach out to him?
Q. Hi there, My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 8 months, and we have had a wonderful connection, talk about marriage and kids (he brings it up), text all day--it has been the best relationship I have had and the communication an...
A. 23 August 2015: I think he's genuinely sorry about the missed date. He has deep feelings for you so even if you got angry with him and assumed that he has no time for a relationship, he understands and would not be over you just because of this. Maybe his ex ... (read in full...)
I hate cheating, but not as much as a failure to forgive
Q. IT’s been the story that hasn’t gone away all week. Ashley Madison sent journalists in to a spin trying to access the 9.7 gb of data leaked on to the internet, trying to find any public figures who may be embroiled in the scandal. Suspicious spouses ...
A. 23 August 2015: I think data stealing is a criminal act, but I still wouldn't feel sorry for people being exposed. If it weren't for the Impact Team, someone else would have done it. Wronged spouses also don't have to forgive cheaters. It's empowering if they ... (read in full...)
Should I be concerned? Her actions and her words are affecting my trust in her
Q. Hi first time poster and I have two areas in my relationship that are troubling me. Please offer some helpful advice if you can. 1)My so and I agreed to air our past dirty laundry(wasn't a good idea).At any rate over the last five years more and m...
A. 23 August 2015: Her orientation is heterosexual, although she is only sexual when relationships don't go anywhere, and are unpredictable and exciting for her. That would make a serious relationship with her impossible for you, regardless if she already had been ... (read in full...)
Having doubts about my long term Bf. Are my concerns deal breakers for a future together?
Q. Im in longterm relationship with my boyfriend of 6 years. He proposed for marriage but theres doubts despite i love him so much. Im confused with his character. Im unsure about my future with him. We had go through had times with breakups and get...
A. 23 August 2015: His ego is so fragile that if you want to be in are relationship with him you are going to act like an ego booster machine. Everything you say, act or do has the power to make him or break him as a man. For me this is too much stress to deal with. I ... (read in full...)
What can I do to ensure our relationship can work, without the guilt of feeling selfish about delaying having sex?
Q. Hello all! Please I need your advice on this issue. I and my bf have been dating for over a year now and we have never had sex. I'm a Virgin and he is a Virgin also. We ar both 23yrs. He really wants us to have sex but I don't want to until we...
A. 23 August 2015: If you think marriage is forever, then two years of waiting is worth it. In many places in the world where divorce rate is 50%, waiting two years seems foolish. At your age it can be hard to predict if you will be happy with him all your life, but I ... (read in full...)
Why is my Bf awkward about my gay best friend?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for a little while and I've noticed hes a bit off, about my male gay best friend. My best friend I've known for 6 years and we click on an emotional and intellectual way, obviously not sexually and he's 100% gay. But my ...
A. 22 August 2015: Non homophobic men are intimidated by gay men because they are still men, and look like men. They have qualities that straight guys don't have. Maybe it's their sense of fashion, their sensitivities to art and the ability to listen. Your friendship ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my FWB that I like him?
Q. Hi ok so last night something kinda strange happened. I was hanging out with a guy who I've hooked up with a few times but casually and our friends at a party, I was a little tipsy but not drunk. Anyway we were flirting quite a lot and he kept ...
A. 20 August 2015: If you tell him now he will not believe you. He's the same person as few months ago so he won't understand why you suddenly want a relationship with him. It can be attachment, or not wanting some other girl to have him. I think acting lovey dovey ... (read in full...)
Issues with his ex. Am I crazy?
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend for 10 months, and I love him with all of my heart. We've never had any serious problems. He tells me this is the best relationship he's ever had. About 2 months ago, I looked at his Instagram for the first time. I ...
A. 19 August 2015: Feelings are not something you justify. You either have it or not. I believe crying and having to drink and smoke over this were extreme. The level of anxiety is not normal. It's not about your intellect or maturity but rather your sense of security ... (read in full...)
Please help me see something positive in this high school and help me get over my ex!
Q. Hi, So Recently I've felt very different from how I normally feel. Typically I'm a very generally happy person and even when I'm sad or upset certain people can easily cheer me up and make me happy, as well as I don't normally keep my negative ...
A. 19 August 2015: I don't know any teenagers that like school. Even when I am 18 years out of school, I still occasionally dream about getting lost on campus. The dream theme is anxiety. School, dormitory rooms became an archetype for feeling lost in life in general. ... (read in full...)
She broke up with me because I'm leaving the country for a year to travel. Anyone else experience this?
Q. Hello guys, I have been in a relationship for 9-10 months. We get along very very well, have lots of fun, similar sense of humour, sex is amazing, similar character and from the same "stock", as they say. However, I have been planning ...
A. 19 August 2015: I think a year of distance can work between married couples or those who intend to marry at a later date. If she is the same age as you and want to be a first time mother, she would not risk the relationship not working out because a woman's ... (read in full...)
My wife claims to be bisexual but I'm not sure. Does my wife owe me an explanation?
Q. Hi and thanks in advance for taking the time to read my question. I am a married man in my 30s. My wife is supposedly bi-sexual(although I have never seen evidence). When we first met we actively sought out single women to join us in the bedroom, ...
A. 18 August 2015: Your wife can be attracted to women, but that doesn't mean she won't feel jealous when you get with another woman. She might have hinted she's bisexual making you feel that a FFM threesome is possible in the future so that you both would go ahead ... (read in full...)
I'm a little uncomfortable with her fetish!
Q. Hi there! i have just found somthing out about my girlfreind that i did not know. We have been together for going on six years now. sex has been good, just lately my missus(Sarah) has been having problems becoming aroused and sexually moist. And she ...
A. 18 August 2015: I am only moist for the first 6 months and then my focus is not on sex anymore. I just go ahead and do it and both are happy. I could get wet by cunnilingus or watching porn but I really don't care. Sex is a connection and should not be used as a ... (read in full...)
Half of me is says me is saying keep the baby and concentrate on new partner and new family and the other half is saying to terminate the pregnancy as I still love my ex!
Q. Ive just found out im 5 weeks pregnant. Ive only been with my partner a couple of months. My ex who i was with for 3 years finished with me in March this year and went straight out with someone else. I was so heartbroken by this that I jumped ...
A. 17 August 2015: When it comes to parenthood issues, I would never think of asking strangers for opinion. I had been a single mom and not against abortion. My take is, you will grow to love your boyfriend if you firmly go no contact with your ex and don't care ... (read in full...)
Are her values too at variance with mine for me to consider an ''official'' relationship?
Q. Hey, been courting/dating a girl for 4 months. Nothing to full on but we do have a sexual relationship, looks like things are on the way to being a "official" relationship. Just found out she had a one night stand before we met. (I'm not judging ...
A. 17 August 2015: I would like someone who's thrilled to date me, not because I am just passable and you could deal with my past. For some people this is not an issue, not something to be talked through.
It does sound like you got over it because you don't want a br... (read in full...)
I'm wasting a lot of time obsessing over my ex. What can I do to stop thinking about him?
Q. Hi. I went out with a guy for over 5 years. He was my first great love ; he would've been 'the one'. Things went rough and we broke 13 months ago. I would say I was very happy about the breakup because he did love me and treated me well but the...
A. 16 August 2015: He's bitter that you weren't pining over him and his ego was bruised. His emails were to get your attention. He's a joke. First he said he was single. After he didn't like your reaction he said he's engaged. He's saying everything he could to get a ... (read in full...)
Is my mother and law driving a wedge between my husband and I? Because since my miscarriage I feel like leaving my husband.
Q. My husband and I just lost our first child through miscarriage, and while my family have been supportive and giving us time, his mother has driven us apart and he can't see any of what she is doing as wrong. First, she told my brother in law a...
A. 16 August 2015: I don't see what your mother in law is doing so wrong either. It is her grandchild too. So should she just tell her son that it's none of his business? It's easy to say it's your hormones and your grief, but your relationship with his side of the ... (read in full...)
Are her values too at variance with mine for me to consider an ''official'' relationship?
Q. Hey, been courting/dating a girl for 4 months. Nothing to full on but we do have a sexual relationship, looks like things are on the way to being a "official" relationship. Just found out she had a one night stand before we met. (I'm not judging ...
A. 16 August 2015: My opinion is to find another girl. Not because she was a slut and you have different morals, but because you would have no issues like that which could drag on forever.
Men and women are conditioned to feel men win if they could get away with... (read in full...)
How do I get my husband to love me again and want sex?
Q. okay so me and my old man have been togather for 2 yeARS and he hasnt been making love to me for the past 3-4 dAYS AND I DIDNT KNOW WHY well he was taking medicine and he was being mean to men for days and he asked me to last night but he couldnt ...
A. 14 August 2015: It's not that you are loose. He is having erection problems and blaming it all on you. It could be health issues or the side effects from the medicine that he's taking. I can understand why he doesn't want sex now, but I don't get why he has never ... (read in full...)
I'm happy but confused with the lady I am dating
Q. Right,I have been seeing an amazing woman for six months. We get on absolutely fantastic,the chemistry is unbelievable and we connect on so many levels. We took things slowly and slept together for the first time last weekend,and,not to sound too ...
A. 14 August 2015: You may interpret it as her not as invested as you are, because she still had feelings for her ex. It's possible that after 6 months, she doesn't know what this relationship status is. Revealing feelings and deep thoughts are good signs but no sign ... (read in full...)
Do I let my wife have a threesome with 2 guys? I feel I'll lose either way
Q. My wife wants me to watch her have sex with 2 of my buddys Do most girls want to have sex with 2 guys at the same time ??? I don't know what to tell her. If I say no. ??? She may cheat. ?? If I say yes she may always wAnt it. ???...
A. 11 August 2015: Better to lose with dignity than to yield to manipulative spouses. You may think saying yes to her means you are in control of the situation. In reality it is just asking permission to cheat in your face. Say no, than concentrate on improving your ... (read in full...)
Could this man even know what true love is? Is he crazy?
Q. I know curiosity killed the cat however, I need to know if I am the only one that thinks my ex is nuts. To recap several yrs. my ex was in an abusive marriage for 14 yrs- the abuse was on both ends, she leaves him for another man and then he hooks ...
A. 11 August 2015: He believes true love means emotional intensity and drama. He thinks a comfortable relationship is boring. He only feels alive when he can provoke people or be provoked. That's why his longest relationship ever was in an abusive one. He can't ever ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has his ex wife and kids stay with him when they are in the area. It feels like I'm the odd man out
Q. Hey everyone. Need advice. I'm in a newish relationship and all is well with us so far but... He has been divorced from his wife and they have two children both under seven. He moved to this city for A job that has been very successful so th...
A. 9 August 2015: Nothing sexual is going on between them. This may be a good thing but also a bad thing because you, and that new boyfriend are what you are there for, since that's the common thing they are lacking in that tight knit group. I know economically it's ... (read in full...)
Does my ex want me to fight for her or leave her alone?
Q. After about a month of chasing after our split, I met my GF at her work recently and she mainly said forget about her. She said continued contact with her brother was ok so long as i didnt mention her name. I agreed. Her tone of voice was playful ...
A. 9 August 2015: If she doesn't want to be back with you, she shouldn't have accepted the gift bag. Her brother does not want to play middle man that's why he blocked his face book. This is between you and her. I don't know why she's being playful but I guess it's ... (read in full...)
How am I supposed to act when a male friend sends me unwanted pics of his privates?
Q. Hello Agony aunts. My first question is what do we say or do about friends that send pictures of their privates to their female friends. I remember the first time my very close friend did that to me, I severed all contact with him. I was ...
A. 9 August 2015: It is disrespectful when you have a boyfriend. I guess they are doing this with an attitude of "nothing ventured, nothing gained." and they don't think it's a big deal if anyone cheats. I am sure it was not meant to disrespect you specifically, like ... (read in full...)
Is being married and having a family all its cracked up to be?
Q. What is it like having your own family (a spouse, a house, with children and pets, etc). I'm just wondering because I had never really found Mr. Right (I thought I did in the past but you know how it is). Can anyone with what I described clue me in? ...
A. 9 August 2015: Getting married should never be just about moving out of the family home, although that's what many people do. You should love your spouse totally. I know the importance of finding Mr. Right. That term had always meant someone who's respectful, obey ... (read in full...)
He is ignoring me after I expressed my interest in getting physically intimate with him?
Q. My neighbor who haven't seen with a girlfriend for like 1 year now.... only 2 who seemed to be random hookups. Met in a bar afew weeks ago and I told him that I wanted us to be F buddies.... exactly that and nothing more. He listened as I went on ...
A. 9 August 2015: Not a bad idea is a gentle way to say it's not a good idea either. Nothing is wrong with him. You may think guys would never reject casual sex but that's not true. There are two worst places to be looking for sex or relationships. The workplace and ... (read in full...)
He has never divorced his wife. It makes me uncomfortable and I'm wondering why he hasn't divorced her!
Q. Hi, I have been dating a guy i met in a social group, for around 4 months. After a few dates, he told me he was married but separated, for 7 years. Now had I known this beforehand I would not have dated him as I didn't want the emotional baggag...
A. 6 August 2015: I won't feel comfortable either. People stay "married" for insurance benefits. If they have kids, during holidays they will have one celebration instead of the inconvenience of travelling to two places. I won't be surprised that married but ... (read in full...)
I feel unloved by my partner and don't know how to fix it
Q. I feel really unloved by my partner of six years and dont know how to fix this. Every night when we get home from work he sits on playstation and I sit downstairs alone. If i get him to spend time with me, he acts ezasperated and like hes doing me a ...
A. 6 August 2015: You outgrew him. You met him in your teens. While you matured and want a quality relationship, he remains a boy. Cheating is bad but it's also a sign that you want out. Being cheated on is a big blow to a guy but it should wake him up about what you ... (read in full...)
How can I convince my girlfriend that my sexual needs do matter?
Q. In college I had a friend named "Jon." He was a stage actor and while he was not conventionally handsome he was a leading man in the style of Gérard Depardieu. He was a decent guy and he had a lot a women interested in him at various points. ...
A. 6 August 2015: Gerard Depardieu is also the guy who drank too much, peed on the aircraft floor and got kicked out.
I read every answer and think everyone has a point. I still think you should leave her. Maybe the sexual conversation with Jon happened before you ... (read in full...)
The condoms, being romantic before sex is so odd and new. Any idea on what's going on?
Q. Something very strange is going on but I don't know what, my boyfriend and I have been dating for over 2 years and we live together, we hardly ever have sex and when we do its quick and boring, any way my boyfriend spent the weekend with his brother ...
A. 3 August 2015: There's not enough to suggest that he cheated but I do give him credit that he's aware you both have to keep up the romance. Many guys think that because they gave up their freedom, other girls to be with you, then the reward would be passionate sex ... (read in full...)
My affair partner is moving on and "dating"!
Q. [Moderator note: a little more background, YOUR background would be helpful. How long have you been married? Are there children involved? How long has this been going on? Do you know for certain she's been on dating sites or is it just a strong ...
A. 3 August 2015: I think for a long term to work, it has to start out the traditional way. Courtship, honeymoon and marriage. If she sees a guy who can do both casual and serious, it makes her feel insecure because there's a chance that you have one foot out the ... (read in full...)
I broke up with him over Whatsapp and now he won't speak to me
Q. I won't go into the whole story its too long to write, but in short I broke up with my boyfriend and now I am trying to get him back. I broke with him through whatsapp as that was our main mode of communication, the tick never turned blue so I do ...
A. 3 August 2015: People who strong others along are selfish, and you would be expecting too much of them to reply with "thank you for you time, I wish you the best." Fact is if he cares enough rather than the benefits he got from you, it would turn into a ... (read in full...)
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