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I'm hopelessly in love with my friend

Q.   I know it's an old problem, but I'm completely, helplessly in love with my freind. But the problem is I know she doesn't feel the same well why would she, she's perfect in every way possible, at least in my eyes, we have pretty much EVERYTHING in ...

A.   19 June 2012: You sound just like me. I love my best friend beyond those words. I couldnt describe how i feel, and how badly i want things to work out between us reletionship wise. But it probably will never happen. At one point she had feelings for me,... (read in full...)

Why can't you just love me back?

Q.   So guys, I've been stuck for five months now on one girl, lets call her M. I really need someone to read this question carefully, and give me some good advice. I really need help with this, more than any relationship. I used to barely notice M,...

A.   15 November 2010: Thank you everyone so much. She's a very confusing girl, ad she's tol me before she didn't like me when I told her I did, but she really did. But your right, there may not be a defenitive solution. Thanks guys so much... (read in full...)

I'm upset about how he reacted to the gift

Q.   My BF and I are very close. He's very special and i care about him so much. Lately I been feeling like he doesn't really have much feelings 4 me when I tell him I don't like certain things. I been feeling like my feelings don't really matter. S...

A.   14 November 2010: A very unfortunate situation. I'm sure he did not mean to come off like that, but its not his fault he received that itouch. So even if the itouch is better than the zune, he should have been a bit more sensitive to you that you put forth the effort ... (read in full...)

Is it wrong for a teen to masturbate?

Q.   im a teenage girl and this past year i have had relationship problems and feel like a part of me is missing without him. i started humping a towel rolled up and waiting until i got a good feeling. is that considered masterbaition? also, is it wrong ...

A.   14 November 2010: Another women would answer this alot better than I. However, masturbating is in no way wrong. Its your choice to do it, many people do it. Its not wrong to do it as a teenager, that is when it is most popular actually. Because teen's hormones are ... (read in full...)

What can I do besides having sex with my boyfriend

Q.   I have been dating my boyfriend for 1 month now and we makeout all the time, recently he tried to finger me and I stoped him. I am virgin and plan to stay one until I get married, but I just felt like fingering is losing your vigintiy. I want to ...

A.   14 November 2010: The only thing that is losing your virginity, is sex. Meaning the act of putting his penis, into your vagina. That is when your virginity will be lost. Anything else, fingering, oral sex, making out, dry humping, all not sex, and its not considered ... (read in full...)

12 year old boy caught "in the act"

Q.   hi, im a single father and i have a question is it ok is my 12 year old son jacks off. I caught him in"the act" yesterday.i need help please help me....

A.   16 September 2010: What exactly is the problem? If you think its wrong, then you have to tell him why you believe so and be very convincing. However, its not really such a bad thing in my opinion, as long as he doesn't get "it" everywhere Just talk with hi... (read in full...)

I have hair in places that I don't want it!

Q.   um well this is awkward but i've been getting ALOT of hair in places it shouldnt be and where it should be but theres alot of it. i use nair, veet, or i shave but it grows back the next daay. Is there anyway i can get rid of it or when i shave it or ...

A.   13 September 2010: This is a part of life, pay more attention in health class. Unless this hair is growing out of your tongue, its probably normal... (read in full...)

Why do guys not like makeup?

Q.   Why do guys not like makeup? Whats wrong with it. i mean if u look like a clown then yes but what if you only wear a lil bit?...

A.   4 September 2010: Some guys love it, some don't Personally a girl without cosmetics or little is more attractive to me. However, some guys like it... (read in full...)

Confused student- Teacher Relationship?

Q.   Hey, I'm new to this. First post. Before I start I guess I should give some background on my situation. For the last 8 years of my life I've lived with my mother, who has untreated mental problem, we think it's bipolar personality ...

A.   21 August 2010: You are a real amazing spirit, your opinion and details described here are those genuine of a true philospher. The way you talk about this man is extravagant, you adore him, he cares about you, he understands you, that means he knows how much him ... (read in full...)

Should I come out to my family? And how do I tell them?

Q.   Dear Readers, I'm a closeted gay and I'm have a difficult situation. Let's start at the begining... Two weeks ago me and my best mate were just walking in the park and we were casually walking and I tripped but his foot was in front of mine and...

A.   21 August 2010: Well coming out is your decision and always will be. Don't feel forced, but most the time telling your family your gay isn't that hard, there are those situations like you see on tv where the father is a manly ex marine and he doesn't want a gay ... (read in full...)

He loves someone else now!

Q.   I go to this sport called speedway well used too, and there was this guy who really likes me and we were gonna finally get together this Monday like officially cause we both really liked each other but he texted me yesterday saying he likes someone ...

A.   21 August 2010: There will be other guys, and if you really like this one try to get his attention focused on you. Flirt with him, but if he's just by into you, move on. There will be others... (read in full...)

Why don't I feel anything during sex?

Q.   Why don't I feel anything during sex? This past time was only my 2nd time. And I don't feel anything, afterwards the first time I felt a little sore. When he fingers me I do feel that. It's really bothering me that there is like no real ...

A.   21 August 2010: I couldn't really tell you, you needs a womens perspective. But I know it's not like you see in porn... (read in full...)

I have feelings for two, don't know what to do!

Q.   so i've been with my bofriend, john, for four months now, and i really really do love him. i have had a few relationships but nothing that has been great, the only thing is, this is his first relationship and its beginning to be a fairly serious one ...

A.   21 August 2010: I believe your too young to be making such decisions about sex and relationships. You have your whole life to find a guy, why are you stressing yourself with drama at this age? You should be enjoying life... (read in full...)

It's like going out with a 14 year old, not a 24 year old!!!

Q.   I'm in a LDR with my boyfriend, and because of the time difference and the fact that his work schedule changed a few weeks ago, we only get to talk for about 10 minutes a day in the week, when one of us is getting up and one going to bed. I was real...

A.   21 August 2010: Jannie is 100% right... (read in full...)

Why is my long-distance boyfriend avoiding me?

Q.   My LDR has stopped talking to me for a week...when I do get him to talk he tells me, "im fine shit chill". And he stopped 3 and replaced that with calling me bro and brah.....to top THAT off, apparently he talks to everyone BUT me! He even puts ...

A.   20 August 2010: End it, if he will barley give you the time of day it's time to move on. An maybe after he realizes your serious he'll talk or start to care. But maily, don't worry about it anymore, end it... (read in full...)

I have difficulty ejaculating while having sex!

Q.   Ok I'm a bit embarrassed about this but I need help!!!! I cannot seem to ejaculate while having sex... I can go for hours and nothing at all... This has happened with the last few girls iv slept with... But last night while I was having sex with ...

A.   20 August 2010: Doctors. If not that, google. Could have something to do with your diet. Doctor would know... (read in full...)

How can I overcome my shyness around boys?

Q.   Hi guys : ) I'm in middle school and I have one problem. I'm totally boy shy!!! I know that everyones hormones are changing and stuff but I have no guy friends and never talked to a boy. I need help on how to stop being so shy. I have no clue ...

A.   20 August 2010: Shyness can be a cute thing. Most guys will come to you, but don't afrai to talk to them. Relax, take a deep breath and think about what you say, because if your like me when I'm nerve I say stupid stuff ... (read in full...)

Is she confused, playing head games, or just not interested?

Q.   I have female co worker whom I have known for about 7 months, we have got on really well since the beginning. Anyway I asked her out on a date 5 weeks ago and the response was yes but she was unable to decide on when to go out saying that she was ...

A.   19 August 2010: Too early for these type of mind games. I just think she's confused, maybe she doesn't understand dating... (read in full...)

Should I be worried about him trying to find his ex?

Q.   I think my boyfriend is trying to find his ex and also find were she lives. I know he talks to his ex's mom on face book. Not sure if I should be worried or not....

A.   19 August 2010: Why do you think he would try to do that?... (read in full...)

Why can't he give me a second chance?

Q.   i'm in love with my ex but he has a new girlfriend and says that he is with her now and cant just leave her now and hurt her. and i asked if he loved me still and would give me a second chance because i was so deeply sorry about what i did....a...

A.   19 August 2010: He is more worried about hurting his new girlfriend then going back to you. Which either means he still loves you but doesn't want to hurt her, or whatever you did hurt him slot and he doesn't want to go back to you. Maybe that's what he means by... (read in full...)

Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?

Q.   ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...

A.   19 August 2010: I don't really see this as a question, and maybe trying paragraphs would help make reading this easier. You should probably discussed this in the forums, but I get where your coming from. I for one wouldn't care about it either as long as it didn'... (read in full...)

Why didn't he keep in touch? Was he lying to me?

Q.   I have an old friend. I've known him for years but we live in different countries - both of us travel a lot with work so this is part and parcel of the job. There has always been a lot of chemistry between us but we have got on so great for the ...

A.   19 August 2010: Don't land on the first possibility that he's ignoring you, maybe he doesn't have computer acess, or maybe her forgot your email, and got another? Just don't let it worry you... (read in full...)

How do I help my kids though there father leaving?

Q.   My kids are really having a hard time dealing with Daddy moving out. The hard part on finding advice is up until the day he moved out we were clueless that there was a problem. We were not fighting. Every morning he said I love you. I thought and ...

A.   19 August 2010: I don't have the answers you want, and maybe nobody does. Because your in a difficult time, but I do know that if you don't give up, things will work out, somehow they will. Just be there for your kids as much as possible, an hold on to life and ... (read in full...)

Should I confront my girlfriend about knowing she took nude pics to pay off a debt?

Q.   I've been going out with my current girlfriend for a little over a year now. She used to be quite the player and party animal, but since we started going out, she has taken different measures to prove that she is loyal to only me. She no longer goes ...

A.   19 August 2010: Confront her, always bring truth to light. Better than living a lie. Nothing is set in stone yet of this, so you need to ask her, and figure out the whole story. Did she have a problem sending those pics? Was she enthusiastic? It's all upsetting ... (read in full...)

Is this man interested or should I back off?

Q.   I work with a guy who flirts with me all the time. He teases me and is constantly trying to talk to me. He knows I'm interested but told a mutual friend he doesn't feel comfortable dating coworkers. However he did make plans to hang out with me one ...

A.   19 August 2010: I think he really is uncomfortable with dating co workers, and is trying to figure it out and maybe just be friends for now. Try asking him on another date... (read in full...)

How do I make my body smaller and my boobs bigger?

Q.   i am 14 and i have small boobs (38A). i am about 5'6'' and i weigh almost 200 lbs. people always make fun of my weight. and my friends talk about how my boobs are smaller than theirs. most of my friends are C's and DD's. i was wondering how i can ...

A.   19 August 2010: Agreed. A good diet, health food, regular excersise, good sleeping gambits, and a healthy emotional attitude will make you skinnier. And you have more time to develop your women features. But in the end, you don't need to worry about All of t... (read in full...)

Will what I did make him worry more? I don't want to lose him...

Q.   Hi guys :) Well, basically, I've been with my boyfriend for 6 months and we've been going really strong so far. I have two problems that I hope you can help me with: - I have an anxiety disorder which means I get panick attacks. This anxiety dis...

A.   29 June 2009: Talk with him, thats really all I can say. And all guys get jelaous if his girl goes out with another guy. He just has to trust you. You have to trust him, that he wont leave you.... (read in full...)

Can a guy tell if a girl is a virgin during sex?

Q.   Dear cupid, Okay i was just wondering when having sex can guys tell if the girl is a virgin? Would they feel any different? Thanks :)...

A.   29 June 2009: Not that I know of, but being a virgin is nothing to be ashahmed of if thats what your worried about. Take pride in it actually.... (read in full...)

Tongue tied and terrified of what I'll say!

Q.   I'm in love but how can I know without kissing him? He asked me but I was so shocked I was speachless but I took to long so he walked away I wanted to but haven't ever kissed a boy befor (accept spin the bottle but that don't count) and he hasn't ...

A.   27 February 2009: Um, who said your suppose to kiss to start a reletionship? He obviously likes you, but unless you two are going out. Your first kiss wont happen until you do. So wait until he asks you out. Which he will if he wants you. Or he may be shy. If yo... (read in full...)

A little advice from guys out there??

Q.   A little advice from other guys out there... how can a woman ultimately spice up things in the bedroom? I know every man is differant, but how would like your wife or girlfriend to spice it up? My husband doesn't share his fantasies with me, so I'm ...

A.   22 January 2009: Well first ask him if he wants to try somthing new tonight. If he says no then he probably does not feel confident, or he may feel really passionate about sex and does not believe it is neccesary to try new things. If he says yes then either let ... (read in full...)

I'm only 13 and I'm 9 days late!!!!! HELP!

Q.   OMG!!! Ok I'm only 13 and I let my boyfriend 'stick it in' just once and I don't know, I'm really worried because I'm 9 days late on my period and I don't know how to tell my mom cuz she is very strict and so is my dad. Can you please help me, I'm ...

A.   17 January 2009: Both are great answers. Here is a little advice from me. Dont put it in for a second. He could have pre-ejaculated while it was in and then what would you do? Your so young dont ruin your life, if you think your mature enough, have outercourse... (read in full...)

My b/f can be quite hostile

Q.   i have a small problem that is tearing my relationship apart, i have been with my boyfriend nearly 6months and we love each other, really clicked from day one. the problem lies with one of my close male friends who ive recently been back in tou...

A.   17 January 2009: I dont think i can give a better answer than dazzerg. But i would bring up how much it hurts you. Your boyfriend seems like he is afraid this boy will steal you and his anger takes over and he does all he can(calling him/you names etc..).... (read in full...)

Boyfriend wants me to consider a threesome

Q.   MOD NOTE: Poster is 18, not age stated Just so ya know am not between the ages of 13-15 I thought when you signed up you had to be around that age. Well am 18 and my boyfriend asked me if I would do anal sex and I said no and he was okay with it ...

A.   17 January 2009: The answer above mine is all too right. A reletionship should be with someone who wants just you. Not you, and other women. He is the kind of person who will leave you, cheat on you etc...... (read in full...)

I'm secretly dating waiter at restaurant we frequent

Q.   hi i am going out with this waiter from a restaurant near me but no one knows and last weekend i went in there with my mum my best mate and her mum and he was there and my mate fancied him and she kept starring and that when he went by and we are ...

A.   17 January 2009: If the guy should be approved of your mom then tell everyone about it. I mean you are 16+, no one should stop you from having a reletiomship.... (read in full...)

Would a guy flirt with you if he only wanted friendship?

Q.   I have a male friend who seems to flirt with me quite a bit. I don't see him alot but when I do he winks at me from time to time, he put his arm round my waist when I leant over him to stroke his dog that he had with him, he will happily have crude ...

A.   17 January 2009: At a younger age yes. At your age no. maybe it was him being drunk which made him flirt with you so much.... (read in full...)

I want him to think its his idea to kiss me

Q.   hi i really want my bf to kiss me but i dont want to tell him this so how can i get him to kiss me without telling him ...

A.   17 January 2009: look passionatly in his eyes. Be some where alone . It may be his first kiss so he could be scared or shy. if it does not happen soon you might have to kiss hin. Just close your eyes and slowly move towars his lips he will understand... (read in full...)

He's not texting me back... is this him trying to let me know he doesn't fancy me?

Q.   There's this guy who I really like. He's one of my friends and I tried to get over my crush on him but didnt succeed. He normally texts me and talks to me for hours on end. We are really close and he pokes me, laughs at my stupid jokes, stares at ...

A.   17 January 2009: How long has it been since he texted you back? Or saw him in person. maybe his cell phone has no minutes/broke/lost etc... the answer above mine sounds ridiculous. ... (read in full...)

14 pregnant don't want to tell my mum!

Q.   Ok so i'm 14, and i just found out im pregnant. No body knows yet i definatly don't want to get rid of it but i know my mum she will try and make me if i tell her! And i can't tell my boy friend because i don't know how he will react i'm not sayin ...

A.   5 January 2009: Know, you could ruin this childs life and your own. Chirldren are hard to take care of, and you wont be able to balence school and the baby. And what if you cant support the baby and you still have it? It could suffer mentally by having a teen age ... (read in full...)

I think I might have an infection, please help!

Q.   I lost my virginity on new years....... ever since I have been itching a little bit and there has been like this muddy type substance and the color is like a brownish greyish.... I wash real good and it goes away... but the next morning when I wake ...

A.   4 January 2009: If only i knew about stds as much as i knew about reletionships. well have you tried asking the person you slept with if he had anything?... (read in full...)

Does giving or receiving oral sex mean you're not a virgin any more?

Q.   Hi, I'm a 14 year old virgin and I was just wondering... is oral sex counted as sex and If you do it.. does it mean you've lost your virginity? I have a couple of friends who want to know the answer to that question and so do I. Feel free to input ...

A.   4 January 2009: No, only vaginal intercourse will lose your viginity... (read in full...)

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