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Should I cancel the trip or not?
Q. I met with this guy at work and we started to date almost for a month and i have not slept with him until last week. We both work at the airlines so taking advantage of free flight benefits his vacation started and after we slept, he asked me out of ...
A. 3 June 2015: He is very passive in this relationship and as it goes on you may see why that is. He may have emotional issues. He is not fighting for the relationship and expects you to drop him any time. Some men ask to be in a relationship not because they want ... (read in full...)
Should I cancel the trip or not?
Q. I met with this guy at work and we started to date almost for a month and i have not slept with him until last week. We both work at the airlines so taking advantage of free flight benefits his vacation started and after we slept, he asked me out of ...
A. 1 June 2015: Yes you should remain contact with him until one of you breaks up with the other. You can express to him that maybe you two have different ideas of what a relationship is. You want him to communicate more. If he doesn't, then you have to decide if ... (read in full...)
Should I cancel the trip or not?
Q. I met with this guy at work and we started to date almost for a month and i have not slept with him until last week. We both work at the airlines so taking advantage of free flight benefits his vacation started and after we slept, he asked me out of ...
A. 1 June 2015: It sounds like his friends, and sex come before your feelings. It sounds like it's one excuse after another. I don't blame you for not wanting to give him another chance. If he feels good enough to have sex and to text his friends, he should have ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend accuses me of being jealous of his niece and blows up at me. Am I wrong to be upset?
Q. I have been in a relationship for three years with a really nice guy. It just seems that I am in limbo. When I ask if we have a future together his response is yes, nothing else. I’ve even asked if I have been wasting his and my time for these ye...
A. 28 May 2015: What does it mean when two strangers in his eyes are jealous of his niece? It means he probably is crushing on his niece but hates to be called out on it. How did I come to this conclusion? All the female friends I know have at least one creepy ... (read in full...)
Do you think being set up on blind dates will help me?
Q. im kinda shy guy....i cant talk to girls. i try and try but i fail. im not that social but the friends i have are very supporting and they are very good to me....like me n my friends have a strong bond. im cool to talk to my female friends but not ...
A. 26 May 2015: My cousin met her husband through a blind date. You never know where one of these dates would lead you so don't dismiss them as just "these dates." On a date you try to get to know each other, like family background, life goals, hobbies etc. You are ... (read in full...)
Ex boyfriend wants to be back in my life
Q. My ex and I have broken up for 3mths. We would tak every now and then but not much. He would initiate all contact. The breakup was pretty crazy as I wasnt ready to accept it and kept tryin to fix it, til one day, I just stopped. He told me he ...
A. 26 May 2015: From your post I am guessing the break up was fear of commitment since he didn't have a job until now. He was unprepared for mature responsibilities and now he realizes having you in his life is better than fun but without purpose. Nevertheless, ... (read in full...)
My ex said he made a mistake breaking up with me and now I can't stop thinking of him
Q. I was in relationship with a guy for a couple of years. I was so crazy on him like I loved him so madly and I trusted him to the core. But he broke up with me and went with other girl. First it was so hard for me even I tried committing suicide. But ...
A. 26 May 2015: You should cut contact with him. His ideal is to have two girlfriends. One official, steady one and the other secretive with no strings attached. He did not regret his break up. He just said it so you would allow him to kiss you and hold you, which ... (read in full...)
With dating, how do you keep yourself from becoming jaded?
Q. At the end of yet another failed relationship, dating situation, whatever, how do you guys keep yourself from becoming jaded? I've dated quite a few women. Some relationships were great and fun, others were awful. About 2 years ago, I got myself i...
A. 26 May 2015: It's normal to feel jaded after a bad relationship. It's okay to take a break and focus on being single for a while. The allure to the mystery of romance, the yearning to connect physically and emotionally to the opposite sex always override our ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend accuses me of being jealous of his niece and blows up at me. Am I wrong to be upset?
Q. I have been in a relationship for three years with a really nice guy. It just seems that I am in limbo. When I ask if we have a future together his response is yes, nothing else. I’ve even asked if I have been wasting his and my time for these ye...
A. 26 May 2015: I would be upset too because I am quite literal about time. It's a courtesy to let the other know you can't make it by a certain time. He is in the wrong here and trying to shift the blame on you. It sounds like you are tagging along in the trip and ... (read in full...)
Does the chemical BOND supposedly experienced during or after sex really exist?
Q. This BOND that apparently bestows everyone, especially women, during sex, the one that does not allow them to freely participate in casual, (and safe, of course) sexual endeavors - does it still count if you are a woman who hardly ever climaxes in ...
A. 26 May 2015: I would think it exists even without orgasms. Many women never know what an orgasm is yet they remain with their husbands for a long time. They can't achieve orgasms without clitoral stimulation at the same time. Orgasms are separate from bonding ... (read in full...)
Do we have a chance of making this relationship work?
Q. I have been going out with my boyfriend for 9 months now. We are both introverts and both don't find it easy opening up to other people. A few days ago, we woke up one morning and unexpectedly from nowhere he said he wanted to talk about our rela...
A. 26 May 2015: Loving each other is partly putting an effort but mainly it's a state of being that you emanate from the inside. Introvert means there is a richness in your inner world. If you don't express yourself verbally there is still smiling and being ... (read in full...)
I'm trapped in the past and don't know how to let go
Q. Its been 4 months not seeing or communicating with my ex-bf. I still think of him but this time with anger cause he almost took me virginity for a lie. He lied to me about being single, loving me and caring for me. He was inlove with another girl ...
A. 25 May 2015: You might have thought older guys are more mature and stable but there are quite a few who take advantage of our vulnerability and our naivety. It might be a shock to you how someone can lie and manipulate like this but I would say the pity lies in ... (read in full...)
Why do I never get to meet or spend time with my boyfriends family/friends? He always has excuses!
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend for over 2 years. We have two issues in our relationship. One being hes not affectionate, romantic, and plays videos games non stop when hes off work. The second being ive only met his mom once and that was two years ago, ...
A. 25 May 2015: Your family has become surrogate for him since he doesn't have much of a family himself. You have different family backgrounds. Yours is close knit while his mother is making the most out of her remaining years for romance, which takes priority over ... (read in full...)
How do I be there for my girlfriend when she doesn't like to lean on others?
Q. Thanks for those who are reading this. I just need some advice in a difficult situation. My girlfriend of 6 months had her cousin die in heart surgery a week ago and now her grandmother is paralyzed from the waist down which just happened two days...
A. 25 May 2015: If she's pushing you away then you can't really be there for her except not breaking up. Her style is to mourn alone and to find distraction. She might even feel survivor's guilt and pushes closed ones away. There was another question relating to ... (read in full...)
I feel like I don't deserve my family, my friends or my man. Do I need to see someone about these feelings?
Q. I am struggling for about a month now with extreme guiltiness. I am a nervy wreck most of the time. I feel like such a terrible partner/daughter\sister/friend. I have so many great people in my life and i feel like i dont deserve them. Ive hurt them ...
A. 25 May 2015: I think this is survivor's guilt and is part of your grief for your loss of your father. You feel that it's wrong to feel happy and to look forward in life when there was a family tragedy. If you believe your father's spirit is looking after you, ... (read in full...)
I'm being pushed into a marriage that I don't want! I want out but don't want to hurt anyone
Q. My parents have seen a guy for me to get married.That guy is my relative. he is 10 years older to me.i felt it as so odd.Im 23 and he is 32.We never really talked or met much.All my relatives and my parents forced and brainwashed me to accept that ...
A. 24 May 2015: It seems like people find it easier to immigrate to other countries, to lie about husband being impotent, gay, about wives being not a virgin to get out of a marriage than to say no to parents at the first place.
I myself would not want to do anyt... (read in full...)
Should I cancel the trip or not?
Q. I met with this guy at work and we started to date almost for a month and i have not slept with him until last week. We both work at the airlines so taking advantage of free flight benefits his vacation started and after we slept, he asked me out of ...
A. 24 May 2015: For now you are not sure if he lied about girls being there, or he really didn't know that girls would be there, until the last minute. Or if he lied because he didn't want you to be worried, or he lied because he was deceitful.
You waited a mont... (read in full...)
Help! My 14 yr old daughter is viewing porn
Q. My 14 yr old daughter has been viewing porn on the internet. We have discussed this and she said she was curious, my husband doesn't feel it's a big deal because he had playboys. I am more concerned because I was having sex at her age and don't want ...
A. 23 May 2015: You are right in saying that if you make her feel shameful about sex she is less likely to talk to you when on day she has questions. The parenting style, "I told you it's wrong so you have to stop it" does not work, and it's a thing of the past ... (read in full...)
Almost 9 years together. How should I tell my now nine year old son, that his stepfather will not be in his life after I breakup with his stepfather?
Q. I am in a relationship with a man, and I am confused. I want to break it off with him because he is not a good father to his kids. He has not seen them in two years and is not paying his child support. As a matter of fact, he stopped working ...
A. 23 May 2015: Children are more resilient than you think. If you are happy then he is happy. The best lesson you can teach your son is that relationship loves on, and life moves on. People come and go, and that doesn't have to be a tragedy. Remind him that you ... (read in full...)
His words say one thing and his actions another.
Q. My boyfriend of almost 7 months and I are having problems. We've never fought before and we have had an amazing relationship. We were constantly together all last semester then he graduated but we constantly hung out even then. But now since school ...
A. 23 May 2015: I think the argument with his mother has a part in it. The break up may be influenced by her. When people say "I love you" it means they have feelings for you, but when they say they don't love you anymore it means they don't want to continue the ... (read in full...)
Is this normal I love her so much!
Q. I hope I can get some help here because I am getting concern about my feeling towards my fiance. I'm 38 years old and she is 37. She was my classmate back in uni. I was in love with her and she even didn't know that. When I got the ball to tell her ...
A. 19 May 2015: I think that's how it should be. Wonder why not more men are like that. It's because out there many men love shallowly, use women for sex, that you feel you are not normal. You may be afraid to express this, but I assure you, that's what true love ... (read in full...)
Is this touch flirty or friendly?
Q. If a man and a woman were standing opposite but close to each other and he had his arm reached out and his fingers resting on her waist what would you think? Is that flirty or just friendly? ...
A. 17 May 2015: Unless they are in a ballroom then what he's doing is violating personal space. People should read whether others are open to flirting, before touching them. The waist is a sensitive area that only persons dearest to you can touch. ... (read in full...)
Should a guy pay on a date?
Q. I've been seeing this guy for awhile. We've 'hung out' lots of times, but since we hadn't admitted we liked each other during those hangouts, it was like a friend thing and I always paid for myself. Even when I borrowed a few dollars for bus money ...
A. 17 May 2015: I don't think it's so much about going dutch or women's equality thing. If he's struggling with rent then it makes sense that he hurts every time he spends money. He still likes to go out with you, but with a guy like that so conscious about money, ... (read in full...)
My boyfriends ex is like a ghost around us. I wish he would let go
Q. Dear All, I am in a relationship for a year and it goes really well and we are still in love. Of course little arguments happens time to time at the end everything comes to a good sweet end. So I might say things go pretty fine and well. By the way ...
A. 16 May 2015: Your boyfriend told you not to contact his ex because it's not needed. The ex would not succeed in getting him back. If your boyfriend is not over him then no matter what you do to interfere it won't help. He thinks it's better to wait for him to ... (read in full...)
He is no longer interested in me. Do I give up? Or try again?
Q. HELLO EVERYBODY!!! I'm just going to come straight out and say it. I had sex (several times) with a guy who I only now realise I really, really freaking liked. The sex wasn't fantastic (for some reason sex is never that great for me), but he clim...
A. 15 May 2015: The sparks or lack of them he was talking about was probably the fact that you are not as expressive and bubbly as other girls he had met. You are introspective and like to analyze things. He really needs open admiration for anything to work, not ... (read in full...)
Dating 3 years, unexpected pregnancy but he says he will marry me when we are "ready"
Q. I need advice. I am 27 years old my BF is the Same Age. We have been in this relationship 3 years total and 1 1/2 year living together. We found our recently that we are expecting our first baby. It wasn't planned but we feel blessed and happy. ...
A. 15 May 2015: I just heard from coworkers who are saying people who get married just because of kids get divorced eventually, and that is, everyone they know. Maybe your boyfriend wants to avoid that curse. In a sense it's not a curse when people are not really ... (read in full...)
Why did my boyfriend unfriend all these "friends" from Facebook for me?
Q. My boyfriend knows I have trust issues because of a past relationship where an ex cheated on me and broke my heart. So he went ahead an unfriended about half the people on his FB page to "make me happy". It started off with me questioning why ...
A. 15 May 2015: Maybe he wants to stay in this relationship?
Are you asking if he's unfriended people because he had lots to hide? Such as flirtations online that he doesn't want you to see and cause worries?
Unless he has shown himself to be a player, people w... (read in full...)
Does my boyfriend think I'm fat?
Q. I'm worried my boyfriend thinks i'm fat. We're about the same height and he's quite a skinny guy. i'm 5"7 and weigh about 162lbs... i know that since we've got together i've put on a little weight -mainly on my belly, and i do feel a little s...
A. 15 May 2015: I think skinny guys can just be as insecure. You are curvy so at least men can say they love curves. But for skinny guys, little good could be said about them, especially if they don't have muscles too. Body wise you two could be a mismatch but as ... (read in full...)
What can I do? He's shrugged off my complaints about his online contact with his co-worker.
Q. We have been married for 13 years and we love each other and think he loves me more than I do, maybe because he is more expressive than I am. Right from the beginning the only concern I have had is his flirting nature with other women. I don't t...
A. 12 May 2015: He's making communication difficult. If he were my husband, I would mock him every time he talks to her. I would pick up my phone and pretend I am talking to some man. Whatever he says I would mirror that in a similar fashion. Then after that when ... (read in full...)
I'm sticking to my guns but can anyone tell me what is meant by all of this text?
Q. Me and my boyfriend of a year have recently split up. We had an initial split up a couple of weeks back where he was speaking to another girl and went straight to her after we broke up. But then came running back to me within a week of this break ...
A. 12 May 2015: It basically meant what he said, and there is nothing more to be said by you or him. He shouldn't have run back to you after the break up. He was hesitant, because you did have good times and he's afraid of the unknown future. He also felt guilty ... (read in full...)
She knows I'm upset with her as I've acted off but I haven't told her why. Any suggestions please?
Q. I'm at university at the moment. My girlfriend and I have been going out since late October, before that we were seeing eachother and she went home for the weekend and slept with her friend. They never used to go out they just had sex (f-buddi...
A. 11 May 2015: If she doesn't know why you are upset, then she shouldn't be dating anyone. She can tell you all the time how this is not a big deal, but it is for you so she has to respect your boundaries. I think many people would agree too, that you don't stay ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend dumped me for going to a strip club
Q. My boyfriend dumped me cause I went to a strip club. He's been with friends and though he warned me he was jealous, I never knew he'd go so far. My friend took me and I had no idea we were headed there. I know I could have left but it didn't seem a ...
A. 11 May 2015: I've been to a strip club with my ex-husband. It really was no big deal. I also had a Norwegian friend that went with her mother to a strip club. There are people who look at it as entertainment. If women enjoy watching the bikini section in beauty ... (read in full...)
Boy who is older than me hates/likes me...not dating but very complex dynamics, need advice?
Q. This is all going to sound a little crazy and disorganized and not a very typical situation at all but please bear with me... I just turned 15 and I met a guy (call him H) who is turning 17 in an alternative schooling institution/ment...
A. 10 May 2015: I think H and P can be good people but when relationships are mixed with friendship it's problematic. They are trying so hard to be adults but at the same time they have blurred boundaries. If you really want to keep the friendship try to make it ... (read in full...)
What do you think about coincidences?
Q. I know , it's i not about relationships, but maybe I will find some good answers. So I'm a very logical person, and studied science and psychology for many years. I m not religious. My biggest issue is , that coincidences are driving me crazy...
A. 10 May 2015: I believe the world is more than our 5 senses and what our logical minds can explain. I don't see coincidences as some woo woo, creepy stuff. I just take it for granted that we can sense things that seem paranormal, just like animals can sense ... (read in full...)
I'm starting to worry about our relationship. How can it last the summer considering our communication issues?
Q. Hi, I am 14 and in a almost 4 month relationship with a guy that I like very much, I feel like I love him. Anyways, the reason I am here is because since the beginning of the relationship we we both really liked each other but we're sort of awkwa...
A. 10 May 2015: Maybe some affection here and there is all he's capable of, with a girl. Until he emotionally matures it is a pain to endure awkwardness when he doesn't know how to relate to girls. Or you might find that even at an older age he's still quiet. ... (read in full...)
Why do some affairs last longer than others?
Q. Why do some extra marital affairs last for only a short time, for example, a couple of months or weeks or just a one night stand? As opposed to affairs which last for years and are still going strong? What is the difference? Just curious wh...
A. 10 May 2015: I know it, the answer you want is that the men who have emotionally invested in the other women are the ones who would last longer. ... (read in full...)
How does a person stop caring about another person?
Q. In the beginning of our relationship things were great. A few things came up that caught me off guard, like the fact that he took both of his best (female) friend's virginity, although there was no romantic feelings involved. He also had never been ...
A. 9 May 2015: I think the conflict he has is that he's not into relationships, but he hates the guilty feeling that he's using women for his own ends. For you to stay is just to assuage that uneasy feeling, until he can't stand the pretense anymore. It's not that ... (read in full...)
Clearly we have some kind of emotional affair going on but what now?
Q. I met a guy 3yrs ago through a mutual friend, there seemed to be an instant attraction on both sides the chat was flowing and then he slips out that he has a girlfriend, gutted! Anyway I decided right then to back off. He lives over 2 hrs away ...
A. 9 May 2015: He would not cross the line and physically cheat. He would flirt and play mind games though. He would be subtle in his flirting and be sure no one could call him out on it, because he could always use the defence that you and him are just friends. ... (read in full...)
Clearly we have some kind of emotional affair going on but what now?
Q. I met a guy 3yrs ago through a mutual friend, there seemed to be an instant attraction on both sides the chat was flowing and then he slips out that he has a girlfriend, gutted! Anyway I decided right then to back off. He lives over 2 hrs away ...
A. 9 May 2015: He's basking in your admiration and what you have here is a one sided ego stroke that benefits him only. At least an emotional affair is mutual. He says he likes you, but not in that way. He likes the euphoric feelings that you give him, but not the ... (read in full...)
Are people today really so damaged by the porn culture that they can't even see the difference?
Q. I have a question about porn . Often I see the argument that potn is no differnet to a woman watching movies or novels . However this fails to address the fact that porn is largely based around glorifying calling women bakes like slurs whites and ...
A. 9 May 2015: While it's true that porn has negatively influenced how men treat their wives, there are also many men who just watch porn occasionally for a good laugh and that's all. They still treat their wives with respect and no problems are caused. Maybe the ... (read in full...)
Why does she love me so much!?
Q. My girlfriend of 2 1/2 years loves me endlessly despite everything we have been through. Our road has been rough but its always my fault. I've lied to her, cheated on her, left her and she always welcomes me back with open arms. Why?! I've told her ...
A. 9 May 2015: She is not living in reality and she's attempting to kill you with kindness. It's her kindness that made you stay that long but at the same time making you feel guilty.
The question is, why can't you become the guy she wants? You could debate this... (read in full...)
I'm broken, my husband is watching daddy-daughter porn
Q. Sorry if you get this twice I tried to do it secretly but closed out before I got the secret code. So I signed up to ask my question. My husband has battled porn all his life porn addiction isn't new to this family or the emotional effect it has ...
A. 9 May 2015: I can understand why people crave abnormal sexual stuff. It's taboo. What would stop me is that child pornography is illegal. Don't we all see the ads on buses telling people to report child pornography because it doesn't report itself? Doesn't your ... (read in full...)
My Wife Is So Boring and Lazy in Sex Now - Anyone Else Have a Partner Like This?
Q. I have been married for 07 (seven) years. I love my wife but sex has gotten boring. Don't get me wrong, if SHE would want to do it like we used to it would not be boring for me. I always try to 'get it going' the "old way" but she just makes me no...
A. 9 May 2015: You know what, I don't like it when men lie down expecting a blow job. Why can't they go on their knees so the blood flows there quicker? But, I do it anyways and try to enjoy it.
You haven't mentioned you cumming at all. You have to express to her ... (read in full...)
Am I fit for marriage? My anxiety over my penis size is worrying me. Don't want my bride disappointed in me.
Q. Friends, Need a suggestion from you friends, Im from India aged 28 and getting married to a girl who is 26 in 2 months. From the date of my engagement im worried about my length of my penis, When erect its 5.2 to 5.5 inch. When i measure from...
A. 9 May 2015: I am guessing many Indian women lie about the impotence issue just so they could get away from the arranged marriage and from men they don't really fancy. Maybe they secretly go on birth control then blame the men who can't make them pregnant.
I... (read in full...)
I end it but then take him back. I'm tired of playing this game!
Q. I am living a very unhealthy relationship, i have been with my boyfriend for nearly a year, he is with me but he is not! he is here but he is not ! Our relationship was great during the first 8 months, but since 3 months he became another person! ...
A. 9 May 2015: It might not be a game he's consciously playing, like he's the puppet master pulling the marionette strings. He's just gotten lazy. His actions tell you that he can only be committed when there is a chase. Maybe he doesn't have a clue that women ... (read in full...)
Am I fit for marriage? My anxiety over my penis size is worrying me. Don't want my bride disappointed in me.
Q. Friends, Need a suggestion from you friends, Im from India aged 28 and getting married to a girl who is 26 in 2 months. From the date of my engagement im worried about my length of my penis, When erect its 5.2 to 5.5 inch. When i measure from...
A. 3 May 2015: I doubt she would be concerned, if she is then tell her you are a grower not a shower. My husband just put his shorts back on when he is flaccid even when I tell him it's not necessary. ... (read in full...)
Am I fit for marriage? My anxiety over my penis size is worrying me. Don't want my bride disappointed in me.
Q. Friends, Need a suggestion from you friends, Im from India aged 28 and getting married to a girl who is 26 in 2 months. From the date of my engagement im worried about my length of my penis, When erect its 5.2 to 5.5 inch. When i measure from...
A. 2 May 2015: You have an average sized penis. You are insecure over nothing. What do you mean you are not fit for marriage? You think only men with 9 inches can feel normal and confident as a husband? I guess there are vain men out there who feels if the women's ... (read in full...)
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