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writes:My wife wants me to watch her have sex with 2 of my buddys Do most girls want to have sex with 2 guys at the same time ??? I don't know what to tell her. If I say no. ??? She may cheat. ?? If I say yes she may always wAnt it. ???
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2015): Tell her she can have sex with ALL your friends, while you go to file divorce then find a new woman who turns you on.
Have some self respect.
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reader, dougbcoll +, writes (11 August 2015):
 if it happens your marriage will not be the same again. tell her why you say NO ! a third party in will not enhance but take away what you two share. if she says she is going too have a threesome anyway after you say know, she is then saying she will do what she pleases. that is the place you need to draw a line in the sand, because she is cheating own the marriage you two have. you will come out on the loosing end if you give in , and you do not want it too happen. you will not have any trust in her no more, you will feel jealous, you will feel like you are nothing special in her life. you need to let her know why you protest to her opening the marriage you two have to a third party.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2015): Not sure if you've seen the havoc wrecked on this marriage by a threesome but it does give you some perspective of just how badly it could go.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/is-it-over-wife-met-up-again-with.html
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (11 August 2015):
 Your predicament is known as a "double bind".... and is the source for cliches like, "damned if you do, damned if you don't".... and "caught between a rock and a hard spot"...
You can control matters simply be saying to wifey: "Hunchy- bunchy, you can do this if you want.... but, don't be surprised, afterwards, if you learn that you will have to live at some other address...." "Oh,.... and, P.S., the divorce papers will stipulate that YOU were adulterous during the marriage..."
Good luck.....
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (11 August 2015):
 If this is something that your wife is desperate to do, then there is no hope for your marriage.
She would rather give you and her marriage up to have sex with other people.
Also, you mention being worried about her possibly cheating if you say NO, sorry to say but regardless of what you say if she is going to cheat she will do so.
Tell her the answer is NO. Once you bring other people into the marriage bed, then relationships deteriorate.
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reader, Garbo +, writes (11 August 2015):
 If you disapprove of that then be firm and tell her. If you think that she will cheat after that then be sure you tellbhervwjat your reaction will be, breakup or what have you. You are not the looser either way because with the disapproval you are preventing a loss and if she cheats you are not a looser but a victim. You should not allow yourself to be a hostage in a blackmail situation, which is what you find yourself in.
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reader, mystiquek + ♥, writes (11 August 2015):
 If this isn't something that you want then put your foot down and say "absolutely not". I would never accept such a situation in my marriage and would go kicking and screaming before I would ever say yes to something I did not want! As the other aunts have stated, you can't stop her from cheating sadly. If she's going to cheat she'll find a way but at least you know you didn't say yes and then have to watch by sickened. If she cheats you file for divorce. Don't agree to anything that you aren't 100% on board with.
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (11 August 2015):
 Are you a doormat? Walk away from her dont let her walk on you with this disgusting dominant behavior.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (11 August 2015):
 I agree 100% with Janniepeg.
If it's not something you WANT in your marriage - say no. Yes, she might cheat and then what? Then you divorce her. IF you agree to it, you give her all the power and keep none.
And no I don't think ALL women wants to be with two guys. If some say they do I think a LOT of them means AS a fantasy but not in reality.
Have some dignity and self-respect.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (11 August 2015):
 Better to lose with dignity than to yield to manipulative spouses. You may think saying yes to her means you are in control of the situation. In reality it is just asking permission to cheat in your face. Say no, than concentrate on improving your sexual side, or other things in your marriage. If she cheats then you gather your proof to the lawyer (save phone texts, receipts, etc) so you can get a divorce and protect your assets at least. I am sure most girls do not want to have sex with 2 guys at the same time. I think it is more painful to watch her doing it than to just end it, to refuse to be cuckolded.
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