A
female
age
36-40,
*ender
writes:This is a curiosity question mainly for psychologist, and psychology lovers. Keeping in mind this was three years ago.About three - four years ago i was volunteering at youth center there this worker, all the female staff pretty much drooling behinds his back, I really think much of him at first other then another worker. Thing change after this one incident, i;m not tell what happen but i can say it was horrific. Let just say at that time I had new profound respect and amaze by him [he became my secret mentor]. Over the year i started noticing him more first at friends then more, we got along so well. We both hate we call b********t, Just be front. This was our motto. So i told him via email the truth despite the fact he email me back [a month later, on valentines day ] i was still convince he was the one for then. We stay work friends lil award but still good. A year later he left the sector to pursue his music. In time we both change. His not protect for me now. We don;t talk , unless it work related i normal had to start the convo. I sometime wonder what happen despite how he treat me. he was a happy fun guy love for music with always has smile, hint of cockyness which was sweet at the time. Lately i notice he, on his fb post there always complaining about wanting a GF .But to me he has become cold, distance, rude, little more aggressive. Basically his a jerk to me now. I've been over him for while but still him keep on my contact list but as mainly as network shop txt only [he know his stuff] After our last txt i admit it fault i bit annoying with my txt about when his gigs r. both said thing n talk out bit. when i see him online i dont wanna look at his page.What i dont get is why do i feel guilty not talking to someone whom treated me like dirt Reply to this Question
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reader, Fender +, writes (18 December 2012):
Fender is verified as being by the original poster of the question a month go someone posted a photo of him. It made me cry he lost so much weigh can sort of see his bones. I dont think we even talk i cant say we even friends anymore. My heart feel very heavy one i see a new post or email from him. Force myself to turn away but still can't help feeling guilty. I cant talk to him cause i know he wont talk to me. what should i do
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reader, DV1  +, writes (14 November 2012):
 You feel guilty because there's always going to be that part of you that cares about him, and you feel bad because your actions might affect that part of him...
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