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Do you please your partner before sex or just expect them to be ready?
Q. Some people say that men are always ready for sex and can be ready seconds if they have someone to sleep with. Now I am not saying people aren't like this but I also have a question about not so giving people when it comes to sex. What I am wand...
A. 2 January 2012: Sexual pleasure is a mutual thing, whatever it takes.... (read in full...)
What is the physical disadvantage of not having sex?
Q. whats the physical disadvantage of not having sex, will something bad happen when you stay a virgin for long, and its not like its a choice its just that if there's no right sexual partner?...
A. 2 January 2012: Must agree with "Starlights" that there is nothing bad that happens being a virgin for a long time. However, eventually, when you find the right person, sex is a very healthy activity that has many health benefits, both physically and ... (read in full...)
He is always accusing me! Does this mean he's upto no good? help!
Q. Hello, I have been with my bf 4 yrs now and he's had trust issues from the beginning. For starters I've always been loyal and I show him how much I love him. At first I chalked things off to insecurites, he's very jealous as well. He can be very h...
A. 2 January 2012: Well, based upon your posting, I think he is a control freak who wants to dominate you.... (read in full...)
I'm afraid of sex and relationships! How do I get over this?
Q. I'll get right to the point: I'm a 24 y/o woman afraid of getting into a relationship and I'm afraid of sex. I want to deal with this problem before I hit my thirties. The question is, how to do it? Some backstory: - I've always been tremend...
A. 1 January 2012: Don't worry so much about sex or serious relationships. Just first make good friends with a guy - allow it to start and develop over time - and all else will eventually follow. And find a nicer doctor. ... (read in full...)
My husband has been impotent for 5 years. Should I stay?
Q. What would you do, if your husband 20 years, suddenly goes impotent , without any any medical cause? He is 50 now, but he was 43, when one day to the next he just lost his erection, and ever since, he is unable to get a normal erection. He also lost ...
A. 31 December 2011: Leaving a husband of 20 years is rather drastic. There are many possibilities for the reason, notably medications, and especially high blood pressure meds. Such was the case for me at one point on Atenolol, but there are alternatives. Meanwhile, ... (read in full...)
Deep throating without gagging?
Q. Looking to hear from fellow females on the subject of deep throating. I have been trying to do it for my man but end up gagging within seconds. Is there a good way to do it without gagging? I heard if you lay on a bed with your head hanging over the ...
A. 29 December 2011: You asked for female response, and I'm a man, but I've enjoyed hundreds of blow jobs without one girl really ever deep-throating. Just not necessary. Some let me go in really deep, but there are techniques much more important, such as licking and ... (read in full...)
We haven't had sex for 4 months, but b/f watches porn 4 times a week
Q. ok you all saay don't worry about the porn, it took a while and l have excepted that this man of mine will watch porn till he die, ok what do l do about he can watch pron all day or about 3 to 4 times a week, but l have not had sex for about 4 ...
A. 28 December 2011: Pornography is free speech, but addictive. While I would never condemn or censor it, it is truly a detriment to normal relationships. It is fantasy. Anyone caught up in it is probably not a good mate. ... (read in full...)
Is masturbation okay if you're saving your virginity for marriage?
Q. I am certain on not having sex before marriage as I am a christian, but I masturbate... I know its dirty and i shouldn't do it but I just love it and I can't stop, I maybe do it at least once a week. Will god forgive for masturbating since I am ...
A. 28 December 2011: Masturbation is ok. If you want to, then do it, if not then don't. I think you are belating this issue to nowhere.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend of 4 years started being a prostitute.
Q. i found out my girlfriend started hooking she says she only been doing it for a month.she is a heroin addict that recently was taken off methadone. she says she is only giving blowjobs i know different.she said she started doing this because i am ...
A. 25 December 2011: Well, if I were you, she would be in my rearview mirror.... (read in full...)
Why can't I get wet with my new boyfriend?
Q. I just want to start by saying that I've never had issues getting wet with my previous boyfriends and I also have no problem getting wet when I occasionally watch porn and masturbate. But for some reason, with my current bf, I can't get wet and ...
A. 20 December 2011: Probably the best way to get you really wet is by licking you, but if he is not into foreplay, that may not happen. You are not abnormal, but possibly need a bit more advance activity. Some guys just want their own jollies and are not willing to do ... (read in full...)
Losing my virginity.....what do I need for my first time? How do I make sure I last long enough?
Q. Okay so when I was 16 I promised myself myself if I was 21 and still a virgin that I would lose it to someone of that year. Well here it is 6 years later and its come to the unfortunate time that I was dreading and excited for. This girl who I ...
A. 19 December 2011: Your obsession with finding a virgin today is unrealistic, in my opinion.... (read in full...)
I don't want my one night stand to be a one night stand!
Q. A year ago at Christmas time I met an interesting man at a party, there as an instant click, spent the evening chatting and flirting and got a cab home together (along with my sister) but he never asked for my number before hopping out at his place. ...
A. 19 December 2011: As one man, I most always had a tremendous regard for any woman who had sex with me. To me, it was meaningful, although I think some of the girls were just screwing around. Maybe this guy thought that you were also just screwing around.
In my opin... (read in full...)
I don't want my one night stand to be a one night stand!
Q. A year ago at Christmas time I met an interesting man at a party, there as an instant click, spent the evening chatting and flirting and got a cab home together (along with my sister) but he never asked for my number before hopping out at his place. ...
A. 19 December 2011: In my opinion there is no reason to feel bad about the sexual interlude. It happens. But I think the next move is up to him. If he wants more he will be in touch with you. ... (read in full...)
Sex with a new person felt like the first time? WHY?
Q. i lost my virginity in june and was sleeping with the same person until october; so i am used to sex by now. so why when i slept with someone else a few days ago did it still not go smoothly? The other person has also lost their virignity so why d...
A. 18 December 2011: "So Very Confused" nailed it. People are slightly different and sexual activities can vary somewhat, but usually about the same. It all usually works, but you have to get used to a new lover. ... (read in full...)
How do I get a girlfriend? Advice needed!
Q. How do i get a girlfriend? I am in all boys junior collage and i hardly get to meet girls. And i don't know how to chat with girls. What can i do to get a girlfriend?...
A. 18 December 2011: Just go wherever the girls are. Clubs, cooking classes, art school, the beach, whatever. ... (read in full...)
Losing my virginity.....what do I need for my first time? How do I make sure I last long enough?
Q. Okay so when I was 16 I promised myself myself if I was 21 and still a virgin that I would lose it to someone of that year. Well here it is 6 years later and its come to the unfortunate time that I was dreading and excited for. This girl who I ...
A. 18 December 2011: Having enjoyed the company of many women, I can assure you that few, if any, will be faithful to you. Sorry if I sound negative, but it is based on lots of experience. If you have a chance to get laid, then do it. All this stuff about saving your ... (read in full...)
What are opinions about male menopause?
Q. I was wondering about your opinion, about male menopause . Some doctors believe it, when man has problems with libido,or getting an erection, it is explained, with this new term. But I have an extreme case of this, if it is true, and my ...
A. 18 December 2011: Dorothyndix offers a few good suggestions, but I think the main thing is to be a man and find a woman who turns you on. I realize that it can be be a challenge. ... (read in full...)
How do I break away from my abusive ex and stay away from him? He confuses me.
Q. i have been with this man for five years, this is our second break up. what led to our break up was he started doing more drinking and smoking weed. he has never done this before. it seems like when we got back together for the second time is when...
A. 18 December 2011: No man who ever hit you is worth a damn. ... (read in full...)
What are opinions about male menopause?
Q. I was wondering about your opinion, about male menopause . Some doctors believe it, when man has problems with libido,or getting an erection, it is explained, with this new term. But I have an extreme case of this, if it is true, and my ...
A. 18 December 2011: As a 64-year-old man, I think that I can relate to some degree, but have not experienced quite a shut-down as you described. In my case, at about your age, too much work, and too many responsibilities, definitely had some negative affects on sex ... (read in full...)
My father does not like the older man I am dating!
Q. I have been seeing this wonderful man for the 10 months, I'm 23 and he's 38, at first I was sceptical about the whole age thing but I couldn't help myself so we'd sneak away and meet each other at the local park or go a drive.. Anywhere as long as ...
A. 17 December 2011: Love is blind. as it should be. It is okay for you to have a relationship with an older man, but it is also okay for your father to object. You are old enough to have a life of your own, however. All I can think of to influence your dad would be for ... (read in full...)
Does he know the pain I go through when I know he's looking at porn?
Q. Hi, Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost a year now and we have always had sex reguarly, its never been the same there was also something to spice it up everytime. But recently within the past few months maybe he would reject hav...
A. 17 December 2011: When I was a younger man, in the 1960s-70s, pornography was fairly difficult to find. If a guy wanted sexual stimulation, a girl was needed. Today, porn is just a click away. I think it deters normal sex, and results in increased masturbation, but ... (read in full...)
I've never dated a guy and I'm ashamed of myself
Q. hey guys! just wanted to ask you a simple question: am i weird just because i'm turning 19 and i never had a boyfriend, not even a date or a kiss...??? cause i really feel lonely and that i'm missing something in this world. i feel that at my ...
A. 16 December 2011: Please do not consider me unkind for suggesting that you give a guy a chance to take you on a date. There is no way for me to know the local circumstances, but I would think that some fellow may be as lonely as you, and may just need a little ... (read in full...)
Losing my virginity.....what do I need for my first time? How do I make sure I last long enough?
Q. Okay so when I was 16 I promised myself myself if I was 21 and still a virgin that I would lose it to someone of that year. Well here it is 6 years later and its come to the unfortunate time that I was dreading and excited for. This girl who I ...
A. 15 December 2011: You may not last very long, but don't worry. All else should come fairly naturally. Just go in and out. If the girl is experienced, as would seem, based on her offer, then she will likely help guide you. Don't count on her living up to the offer, ... (read in full...)
How does one prepare for being fingered?
Q. Preparation for being fingered? I know im supposed to shower and everything, but anything else to smell nice and stuff down there?...
A. 15 December 2011: The answer by "Sageoldguy1465" fairly sums it up. Just don't douche, which is unnecessary and causes an imbalance in your vaginal chemistry that soon causes many more problems than it solves. In order to clean up a little prior, finger yourself a ... (read in full...)
I've never dated a guy and I'm ashamed of myself
Q. hey guys! just wanted to ask you a simple question: am i weird just because i'm turning 19 and i never had a boyfriend, not even a date or a kiss...??? cause i really feel lonely and that i'm missing something in this world. i feel that at my ...
A. 15 December 2011: Then why not give it a try?... (read in full...)
Premature ejaculation with a handjob!
Q. My boy friend is 18 years old. When I give him a hand job, he ejaculates within 2 minutes, sometimes in a minute. How can I stop his quick ejaculation? Should I squeeze his balls? I did it once, he said it hurt. Do you think it will work if I put my ...
A. 14 December 2011: Guys who masturbate a lot are likely to ejaculate quickly. I'm not saying that is the situation here, but it is certainly possible.... (read in full...)
I DON'T know if it's really a relationship I want with my FWB but if I leave, I DO know I'll miss the sex!
Q. Hi agony aunts and uncles. I need a bit of advice that maybe some of you can help me with regarding a no strings attached relationship I've been involved in for almost a year. I know that generally things don't tend to work out in the favor of the ...
A. 14 December 2011: Admitting that I cannot contribute much, I must say that I probably had many FWB relations, but I always cared for the women - probably much more than they cared for me. In my life, a woman who shared such personal intimacy was very special to me, ... (read in full...)
He couldnt cum for our anniversary sex?
Q. I don't know why me and my boyfriend are having such a problem but we just had a nice weekend planned for our anniversary, it was everything I could have asked for except we had sex 3 times over the weekend and kept having the same issue he could ...
A. 13 December 2011: If we were to make a bet, my money would be on anxiousness. In his mind, the anniversary was a big deal, as with you, and he stressed out. It happens when expectations are overwhelming.... (read in full...)
My asexual husband!
Q. My husband went to the doctor with his erection problems, and the doctor suggested it, that the cause of his impotence, psychological./ Because all his medical tests were fine. Also, he have night erections. He is totally asexual in the moment, at ...
A. 13 December 2011: In my opinion, it would be impossible for us to say. Many medications can cause a lack of libido or physical ability, but if he checked out okay medically, then your hubbie may have some kind of trouble with life in general, his job, financial ... (read in full...)
I can't compete sexually with my wife's former lover
Q. My wife's last lover had a bigger penis, greater stamina and could please her with vaginal intercourse. I feel so inadequate and don't know why I should make any more pathetic attempts. Any advice?...
A. 11 December 2011: Easy solution if you have not tried before. Learn expert cunnilingus to bring about at least one orgasm for her, then follow with vaginal sex. It has never, ever, failed me - even with woman past age 50 who had never climaxed before. That's just the ... (read in full...)
Can a man maintain an erection for awhile? Or will he lose it if he doesn't "use" it?
Q. Kinda random question, (but there's a valid reason for me asking, honest!): when a man gets an erection, can he hold on to it for a while before having sex, or does he lose it if he doesn't use it almost straight away? To put it into context, if he ...
A. 11 December 2011: It can come and go, but can almost always be re-erected.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is too shy when it comes to sex
Q. Hey guys. I've been with my girlfriend for a while now. It's nearly been two years and she's way tooooo innocent. Like i dont mind it but it halts us from advancing from anything. Like if i try initiate dirty talk, she would immediately reply with ...
A. 11 December 2011: At your age level, she certainly seems to be the prudent one, but talking is fairly innocent if it proceeds no further. I'm no prude, and was sexually active about your age and still paying for it. Sex can have lifelong consequences.... (read in full...)
Is this guilt stopping me from having an orgasm?
Q. I have a problem with orgasming. Before I started having sex, I used to be able to climax quite easily during masturbation and I thought I'd be able to do so during sex, but I just can't! I've been seeing a guy pretty casually for the last month and ...
A. 10 December 2011: Difficult to say, but just in case, perhaps he needs some advice about how to perform expert cunnilingus. I wrote about some tried and proven methods a few years ago, which was based on years of personal experience. You be the judge. If you think it ... (read in full...)
Been together 10 years, married for 6 1/2 yrs, we have sex 5 times a week, but I'm still a virgin because there's been no vaginal sex!!
Q. I am very in love with my husband, we have been married 6 1/2 years. There is a big age difference between him and I, I am 28, he is 48. His son is older than me, he is 30. My husband was married to his 1st wife, this might sound bad but w...
A. 10 December 2011: Well it sounds like he found someone, you, who would give him blow jobs several times a week, and allow some anal, both of which are apparently his favorites. Nice deal for him.
The question is this: Does he reciprocate with oral to please you?... (read in full...)
What is the best way to get back your husband's sexual attention?
Q. What is the best way to get back your husband's sexual attention? I feel my husband does not look at me with desire. And never really care to have sex with me. I'm not sure what is going on, but I would like to make some changes from my side, an...
A. 9 December 2011: You may possibly consider my response crude, depending on your experience or orientation, but have you tried an occasional blow job? In my experience and obviously with many others, it sparks a sexual relation. However, if desired, it should also be ... (read in full...)
My b/f has never made me orgasm, not even once!
Q. My boyfriend and I have a very active sex life but he can't make me orgasm. He doesn't know it but I,ve never orgasmed once and he was my first! Is this normal?...
A. 7 December 2011: It is neither normal nor abnormal, but unfortunately, many young men do not know how to help a woman orgasm, especially at about your age. In many cases, it requires some expertise in cunnilingus (oral stimulation to the clitoris and labia). Few ... (read in full...)
I'm married, met someone online and thinking of going further. Will I regret it?
Q. Well I have been threw many ups and downs in my relationship . It was very long and ans stressful experience for,but my husband actually made a 360 degree improvement .So I should be happy right ? The truth is I don't really care .He did not care ...
A. 7 December 2011: Probably not a good idea at all, but it sounds like you are not happy in your marriage. An affair is very unlikely to help. We do not know what's going on there, but perhaps you need to reassess. Hope no children are involved . . .... (read in full...)
My lover prefers oral all the time. How can I get him to be less fixated on oral and more on intercourse?
Q. How do I get my man to engage in intercourse at times; instead of oral sex all the time? Am I not doing something I should be doing?...
A. 1 December 2011: Similar to the "male reader" response, you could consider withholding the oral until your pleasure is realized. Me thinks he has become addicted to your oral treatments without having to please you. It is easy to do, and I have been tempted into ... (read in full...)
Sex tips, anyone???
Q. Dear Cupid, I'm gonna make this short and sweet. I'm really looking for male opinions, but females are welcome to respond, too. Basically, I need the best, sexiest, most awesome, most successful tips that anybody can think of for turning on a guy...
A. 29 November 2011: Regarding oral sex, you should also require that your beau perform some oral for you, preferably first. Then, after you enjoy at least on orgasm, you enthusiastically attack his cock with your tongue and lips.
Providing he is clean, STD free and ... (read in full...)
Do married women ever regain their sex drives once it's lost?
Q. Before we got married, my wife and I had been in an on and off relationshipo for quite a few years, and we had initially had sex frequently. She wanted it constantly, and we often had sex several times a day. having sex. Her interest in sex seemed ...
A. 27 November 2011: You asked, "Do women ever regain their sex drive after losing it? Do women really go through "periods" in their life where they're not interessted in sex, but later regain interest?"
Yes, they do. But there is no precise way of knowing when, or... (read in full...)
We had sex for the first time without a condom. Should I be worried?
Q. My girlfriend and me had sex (first time for both) without using a condom. She takes pregnancy pills, and she said it was ok, but i am still worried. Should I be worried? Shes also been complaining of feeling dizzy. but that could be anythin...
A. 27 November 2011: If she is indeed on "the pill," and has been for a few weeks - and IF she has been consistent with it per instructions, then pregnancy is unlikely. Nothing is 100% but I think the pill is somewhere around 90 percent effective, or better, IF properly ... (read in full...)
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