Should I be angry at my boyfriend for sharing his fantasy??
Q. Last night while I was in bed with my boyfriend making love, he asked me if I had any fantasies lately. I said no but asked him if he did. Earlier on ITR I introduced a little kinkiness to our sex life by talking about fantasies together to turn ...
A. 26 March 2011: You have the right to be jealous / angry / hurt / whatever, but the fact of the matter is that it's just fantasy. To all those saying you shouldn't fantasize about others when you're in a relationship... that's bollocks. Fantasy is an important ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to have sex with a prostitute? I'm married.
Q. I love my wife, and have never cheated on her, and have no fantasies about doing so in the future. However, what if your wife just flat out refuses to do something that you are curious about? What if you want to experience a threesome at lea...
A. 1 September 2010: First of all, you *massively* contradict yourself.
You start out by saying you have no fantasies about cheating on her in the future... but then you go on to detail your fantasy of having threesome sex and anal sex with a prostitute.
Having ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has pictures of naked girls on his phone
Q. Long Story: Please Help! so on thursday that just passed me and my boyfriend were hanging out and me being a girl went through my boyfriends phone and i went to his images and i saw something very surprising i found 2 pictures of a naked ...
A. 31 August 2010: Look, I'm not a man, but...
I think you're slightly overreacting. At the end of the day, they're just pictures. Maybe he wanted them on his phone because carrying around a magazine is inconvenient?
I hardly think this is something worth ... (read in full...)
If he cums in my mouth I feel sick the next day.
Q. me and boyfriend sometimes have oral sex. when he cums in my mouth the next day my body always hurts or my stomache hurts. why is that? ...
A. 15 August 2010: You don't have to swallow if you don't want to. Don't swallow if it makes you feel sick. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend joked with his mate about my trust issues
Q. My boyfriend once broke my trust and met his ex behind my back. It's made me insecure which he says he realises is his fault. But I heard he made a joke about my insecurity to a mate. Now what am I supposed to think?...
A. 15 August 2010: He doesn't seem very respectful. In fact, he seems a bit immature. He needs to know that this is something that shouldn't be joked about, even behind your back. Why don't you tell him this? Have you ever raised the issue with him?
... (read in full...)
My bf's friends are mostly ex girlfriends!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for about 4 months now and I love him dearly. When I met him I didn't know how many friends that he has that are girls, with most of them being ex's. I am having a hard time dealing with them hanging around and calling ...
A. 6 August 2010: I'm always wary of people who stay friends with their exes. To me it seems a little off.
However, think about the nature of these friendships. Have you met many of them?
Are they touchy feely with your boyfriend? Do they send him 'sexy texts'... (read in full...)
Shall I give my cheating husband another chance?????
Q. MOD NOTE...The title you chose has been used in a previous question, so i've tweaked it a bit. While I was back home on vacation by myself, my husband went out, got drunk and went to a hotel with a prostitute. He kept this from me for 5 whole we...
A. 6 August 2010: I'm all for giving people second chances if I feel they deserve it. Think about it: do you think he deserves a second chance?
He screwed up, and he should own that and admit it - which is basically what he's done.
Couples are definitely able ... (read in full...)
Wife Inarticulate about her Desires
Q. MOD NOTE: OP's own title. My wife and I are trying to reconcile but there are problems. Among other problems we're having is this: I find it difficult to forgive her for not having communicated to me, for not having expressed herself. She kept many...
A. 6 August 2010: It sounds like she has poor communication skills, or she's just scared of opening up. It always amazes me how people can just end up married when they're shitty communicators (mainly your wife, I'm referring to).
You're not wrong in wanting ... (read in full...)
Why Men Visit Strip Clubs
Q. Quite a few of you have written to me in regards to your boyfriends (and a few husbands) frequenting the mens den, called Strip Clubs. This issue is a concern for most if not all women in a relationship and I can understand that. So today, I decided ...
A. 3 August 2010: I have a bit of a problem with the way you flippantly proclaim that "real men don't date strippers". Female strippers are women - real, living, breathing women. The men who date them are real, living, breathing men. I think it's problematic that... (read in full...)
Can you get over a threesome gone wrong?
Q. Can you get over a threesome gone wrong? Me and my boyfriend have been going out for 3 years. Our sex life is good and has never become dull. We had in the past (usually after a few drinks) talked about a threesome (with another woman- he wouldn't ...
A. 27 July 2010: His excuse that it was "just a mad night" is crap. In my opinion, he was wanting an excuse to have sex with another woman, and thought he could by going down the "let's have a threesome" route.
I don't have a problem with threesomes if all peop... (read in full...)
Marriage - why should any man bother?
Q. Women… why should any guy propose marriage? Full disclosure: I have never been married, but several family members and friends have been hurt by divorce, and I know of only a handful of happy marriages over one year old. My feelings for the...
A. 23 July 2010: I'm a young woman, but have a very similar stance on marriage to you. I was actually talking about it with my mum the other day, and I expressed the fact to her (to her annoyance) that I have no real desire to get married. I'm not religious for st... (read in full...)
Checking out other women has nearly destroyed our relationship
Q. Hi everyone, Okay, here's my problem: In the early stages of our relationship, my girlfriend and I were crazy about each other and our sex-life was amazing. Unfortunately, according to her, I also checked out women when we were out, looked at b...
A. 23 July 2010: You... sound like a normal human. You know, because normal humans have a pulse and check out other people from time to time.
I agree with CaringGuy. Your girlfriend seems like she needs some kind of therapy, because it seems from what you've w... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's insecurity is ruining our relationship!
Q. hi. 10 weeks ago while my girlfriend was at work i watched a movie called three, it is classified as a thriller but has 2 sex scenes in it. Before this incident i had been going out with my girlfriend for 2months and she has told me she was insec...
A. 17 July 2010: It sounds like she needs help. As in, therapy.
Self esteem and body issues are common amongst young women (or women in general), but for her to overreact like that to you watching a movie with two sex scenes in it is inappropriate and seems a ... (read in full...)
I'm 13 and have a son with my boyfriend, but I'm attracted to someone else!
Q. I am so confused right now, I have been with my bf for 2 years we have a son together. We love each other very much and our sex life is great. But I am attracted to another man. Am I wrong for this? Its not a sexual attraction. Me and my bf are ...
A. 17 July 2010: Regardless of your age, it isn't wrong to be attracted to somebody else while you're in a relationship. It only becomes a problem if you act on that attraction and betray trust.
There isn't anything wrong with you as such. It sounds like you have... (read in full...)
I dislike being the ugly one..
Q. Hey, I'm a 15 year old girl in New York. I'm 5'5 and I wiegh 110lbs! All my life, i never felt pretty and the problem is people give me compliments all the time which is i don't get! They compliement on my long hair or how "skinny" I am..I just got ...
A. 13 July 2010: 5'5" at 110lbs isn't fat. Going by a weight to height ratio chart, you're technically underweight - the ideal weight for someone of your height is between 115 and 135 (approximately). So I think you should get the notion that you somehow need to ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my girl how much this frustrates me? which it does... immensely without sounding like an ass?
Q. Hey, I have been in this relationship with my girl for several months now (long distance) it isn't often that we get to see each other (month or 2 ) I took a week of leave off of where I am to go see her, so we can see each other, have fun...et...
A. 13 July 2010: I think this is one of those times where you're going to just have to smile and bare it. It may have been inconsiderate for her mother to schedule your girlfriend's surgery right when she knew you were coming to visit, but it is what it is.
I'm g... (read in full...)
28 year old virgin with psoriasis in deep despair
Q. I am extremely depressed I am a 28 year old guy who has never been in a relationship. I have never been kissed. I have never slept with a woman. I am extremely depressed. I am ashamed of who I am. I have absolutely no self-confidence ...
A. 12 July 2010: You're only 28. People these days can live until they're in their 70s, 80s, 90s, 100s. I know people much older than you who are single and have no kids (my uncle is one of them). The only difference between you and, say, my uncle (in his 40s) is ... (read in full...)
28 year old virgin with psoriasis in deep despair
Q. I am extremely depressed I am a 28 year old guy who has never been in a relationship. I have never been kissed. I have never slept with a woman. I am extremely depressed. I am ashamed of who I am. I have absolutely no self-confidence ...
A. 11 July 2010: I think you need to really think about getting therapy. You're depressed, have low self esteem and have been suicidal - you need help, and it's great you've identified that.
For now, I know it's hard, but don't focus on getting a girlfrie... (read in full...)
Is he going to marry me or am I fooling myself?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years. He enticed me to move to another country with him in our second year together and within weeks of living together I knew I wanted to marry him. He moved to further his career and is now 35. Unfortunately, I ...
A. 10 July 2010: Why do you need to get married so badly?
Do you love him, or do you love the idea of being married to him?
If you love him truly, you would enjoy being with him - in general - regardless of whether you're married or not. Marriage is ofte... (read in full...)
Why do women always lie about there sexual past???
Q. Hello everyone, Today im here too really find out why women always under sell their sexual past. I found out two of my good friends and including me, That are wives have liad too us about there sexual past. Ive been married for 13 years and come too ...
A. 8 July 2010: You'd be amazed at how much backlash women tend to get from men - and other women - when they're honest about their sexual past, especially if the number is high. It seems that if a woman's number is "too high", they're called demeaning names ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's family reunion?
Q. My boyfriend wants me to go to his family reunion this Friday... But I don't think I feel comfortable going. It's not that I don't want to meet his family or whatever. It's just every time we're around other people and it's not just us hanging out, ...
A. 8 July 2010: Look, it's a family reunion - it's only for a day, and I don't think it should be a big deal. I know what it's like to want your significant other to pay all attention to you, but be realistic - you're not the only person in his life.
Somet... (read in full...)
I do not mind him viewing and saving porn;but he saved a picture that cleary isn't pornographic and I don't know what to think..
Q. My fiance watches a lot of porn and I don't really mind. He has a fetish for nylons. On a nylon fetish site he found and saved a picture of a group of girls approximately 14yrs old posing for a formal. All in dresses and nylons of course. I ...
A. 4 July 2010: Look - 14 does seem a bit young, and it seems a tad suss if a man of that age thinking about a 14 year old in that way. However, when it comes down to it, was it just the one picture? If he has a nylons fetish, perhaps he's not thinking about y... (read in full...)
I am finding it difficult to fulfill my fantasy!
Q. I masturbate a lot, and it has always been a fantacy of mine to masturbate in front of a woman. I tried to get my wife to watch me, but she thinks I am disgusting. I even tried to let one of her friends catch me masturbating, but it turned out ...
A. 4 July 2010: One of the main issues with this is that your wife finds it disgusting. Is she anti-masturbation or something? Although I feel your wife is being closed minded about watching you masturbate, it is often the case that what goes on in your head may... (read in full...)
Ladies, what parts of a man are most attractive?
Q. Ladies, which body parts of a man do you find most attractive? Abs, legs, arms, eyes etc. ...
A. 2 July 2010: Hands, arms, skin, eyes.... (read in full...)
Do aquarius men ever forgive?
Q. disregard my age please i dated an aquarius guy for 2 years, it was rocky but full of love. now im pregnant, he says he doesnt love me and hasnt loved me for a long time now and that theres no way he will love me again. im hopeless, i love...
A. 2 July 2010: I think you should stop with the horoscope stuff, at least when trying to work out a person's character.
Believe in horoscopes all you want, but understand that people are WAY more complicated than that.
Whether he's forgiving or not has littl... (read in full...)
Do all men fantasize of other women than their girlfriend?
Q. Do all men fanatisize of women other than their girlfriends while masturbating all of the time? Is this a red flag? Does it mean they'd probably cheat too? Is it ok to do this?...
A. 2 July 2010: Men and women alike tend to fantasize about scenarios or people that turn them on.
Therefore, there are probably a lot of men and women out there who fantasize about people other than their current partner.
It isn't necessarily a si... (read in full...)
Girls carrying condoms.
Q. Hi, my boyfriend and I have discussed having sex and agreed that while we both would like to have sex with eachother there isn't a pressure on either of us to do it. This is fine , however a few days ago we were in a position where we were go...
A. 2 July 2010: Carrying condoms isn't "sluttish", it's quite responsible.
If you feel uncomfortable with him knowing you have condoms, he doesn't necessarily need to know you're carrying them -and neither does anybody else. Just keep them discreetly in your wal... (read in full...)
I don't want my son to give the baby up for adoption
Q. I have 2 very serious questions My family has ALWAYS questioned my parentling skills and has ALWAYS given me advice on my "out of control kids". When my oldest son was 16, he got into a little trouble at school, he started hanging out with the wro...
A. 30 June 2010: You need to keep out of it.
It's your son's and his girlfriend's baby, not yours - even though it would be your grand-child.
You can't make decisions for your son, this needs to be sorted out between him and his partner. Putting a child ... (read in full...)
Is hugging another woman after making a fidelity promise immoral?
Q. Is seeing and hugging a soul mate woman immoral when a husband made a fidelity promise to God?...
A. 24 June 2010: I'm not sure I understand your question. Did your husband hug another woman and now you're questioning if it's infidelity?
If that's the case, then no. It's not. Hugging isn't immoral, regardless if you're married or not. ... (read in full...)
Do women worry about their parts the way men worry about theirs?
Q. I love the female form. There are so many variations of the female genitalia. What is the reason some women's labia majoria is hidden and others are larger and seem to hang out. Secondly, do women get hung up on there vaginas like men do with ...
A. 23 June 2010: Some women get hung up on it - some women even have surgery to 'enhance' their vagina or labia to make it look 'better' (I think surgery it's unnecessary in most cases though). Most of my girlfriends, though, don't talk about it.
... (read in full...)
My wife was a teenage slut - accepting her promiscuous past
Q. I just wanted to post this due to all the posts re girls with promiscuous pasts. Here is my story. I fell head over heels for my now wife when she was 22 and I 23. Our relationship progressed and soon we both realized we were utterly in love ...
A. 22 June 2010: I agree with the sentiment of your post - that is, you should put the past behind you and move on, and accept it.
But I cannot agree with your choice of words in the title. "Slut" is a very offensive, patronising term used to degrade and shame wo... (read in full...)
She says she's against abortion, but has already had one in the past!
Q. Hi. I have a question with which I desperately need some help. I love my wife very much, but I have found out some information recently that troubles me. I found out, totally by accident, that my wife had an abortion before we met. The thing that ...
A. 22 June 2010: Perhaps the reason she hid her previous abortion from you is because you seem so vehemently against abortion and she didn't want you to judge her, or dislike her for it? Perhaps she thought you wouldn't want to be with her because you seem to be s... (read in full...)
Boyfriend wants a BJ all the time, but I'm not enjoying it...
Q. ok..i love my boyfriend to death and i waould like to give him what he wants but...he wants to get a blow job all the time..i dont like the taste of cum and i dont want to use a condom...what can i do??...
A. 22 June 2010: Ask him not to cum in your mouth. If you don't like the taste full stop, you could also use flavoured lube (although that's also somewhat of an acquired taste, some of them taste terrible).
... (read in full...)
"No hair down there"
Q. "OP Own Title" What is the deal with women shaving their pubic area? I don't mind it being trimmed up and shaved on the sides, but all of it? It use to be a sign of maturity. What gives?...
A. 14 June 2010: Often the main reason why women shave or wax off all of their pubes is to do with their partner's preference. A lot of men, I've found, prefer neater pubes or completely shaved or waxed.
I feel this has to do with porn - a lot of guys start wa... (read in full...)
I really want this threesome!
Q. hey im 26 and my girlfriends 20 . we have been together for 3 years we had our ups and downs but we are pretty good now. we have a baby together. i wanna have a threesome. perferably another girl. but i wouldnt mind if it was another dude. im not ...
A. 14 June 2010: First of all, it's not always the best idea to replicate in real life things you've seen in porn. A lot of mainstream porn is acting and has a large fantasy element to it. I don't have anything against threesomes or group sex, but the thing with t... (read in full...)
Masturbating Question.....
Q. Well, I've been masturbating for about a month now. I'm sixteen years old. I have not broken my hymen; I tend to just stimulate my clitoris and the area around it. When I do masturbate, my stomach tends to feel like it's dropping (that's the only...
A. 21 May 2010: Hmmm... are you sure you haven't been experiencing orgasms?
I know that after I have an orgasm, I get really sensitive and can't go on as much as I may want to. It just hurts or feels uncomfortable. But that's only after I've had an orgasm; ... (read in full...)
I love sex with women but like giving this guy bj's!
Q. I am 27 years old and I am dating this woman right. We have sex all the time and please each other all the time. But thursday night I was at my apartment and I got on craigs list and posted that I wanted to give a guy a bj. Well I did not think any ...
A. 17 May 2010: You like women and men both? Then it seems like you are bisexual.
The fact that you like to give men blowjobs isn't the actual issue, and it shouldn't be an issue. Your sexuality is part of who you are.
If I were you, I'd be more worried abo... (read in full...)
The Question of Contraception
Q. Lila here~ For the past 50 or so years, the burden of contraception has fallen squarely on the shoulders of women. Thanks to the good doctor in Shrewsbury, MA who invented the Pill (his wife was my high school librarian for years-- you might im...
A. 14 May 2010: Hmm, why were you surprised she "wasn't packing" or that he wasn't prepared? I'm not surprised by that. I would imagine there are a lot of people don't think to carry condoms on them 24/7.
... (read in full...)
What is considered small?
Q. Hey well i have alot of ?'s sorry bout it bein long, i turned 15 on march 13th. My bra size is a B cup most the time. But some times i fit into a C cup depanding on what type and where i get it. Does this seem small? Every one always says it d...
A. 13 May 2010: B cups are considered on the smaller side, but it's not abnormal. Personally, when I was 15 I was about a C/D cup, but that is just how my body is.
There is no correct size that corresponds to age. If your boobs are naturally a B cup at age 15, ... (read in full...)
I want to marry him but I am sick of him wanting to know everything about me! How should I deal with this?
Q. hey there friends.. i met a guy a month and half ago, but hes getting too far he want to know everything around me even they way my exes treated me, i told him i am not comfortable with it but he says its nothing big.. if my phone goes off he ...
A. 12 May 2010: I personally don't think you should marry him. At least not yet. You've only been with him for 1.5 months - that's nothing.
Although, he doesn't sound like he'd be a very nice spouse; he sounds too controlling, and if that's something you're n... (read in full...)
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