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Question about dating and sex in the later years.
Q. I'm a woman of 78 who has been alone a number of years. I joined a Senior Dating site recently. Now, this guy who's 68 contacted me. He is looking for a friend and a lover and asked me if I was interested. His first question to me was I still ...
A. 17 April 2011: In my opinion, all previous responders offered good advice. I'm 63-years-old in Texas and have experienced both good and (not so good) relationships, but it's kind of like fishing. You put a lure out there, and see who/what bites. As "TasteofIndia" ... (read in full...)
I’m in love with a much older man.
Q. I’m in love with a much older man. I myself am only 17, but he is 60. I know that he’s far to honourable to share my feelings but sometimes it feels like he might. We’ll sit on his couch for hours and listen to music, he tells me about the bands and ...
A. 16 April 2011: Well, that's quite an age difference, and I'll be criticized for being biased as an older man myself, but so what? Since the 1960s, and undoubtedly for thousands of years before, couples have paired from all age groups. Who cares? Do whatever makes ... (read in full...)
Tips for lasting longer
Q. Hey guys I have a bit of a sex problem arising. I'm not going to say I am the most gifted at it by any means so here's the problem. I'm dating this girl who has been with a few guys in the past and during sex not one of them has been able to las...
A. 15 April 2011: My "trick" - if you want to call it that - has long been to "please her first." In most cases, several minutes of good lovin' with ten or more minutes of cunnilingus brings her to orgasm. Thereafter, is usually matters little how long it takes you ... (read in full...)
Do men's sex drives decrease after 40?
Q. Do men's sex drives decrease after 40?...
A. 13 April 2011: It depends upon what you mean by "sex drive," often interpreted as, or confused with, "libido." You can also toss in terms such as "desire," "want to" and "ability." All these and other situations apply. As a 60-something with a fairly active past, ... (read in full...)
Shower Time Troubles?
Q. My boyfriend and I do not have sex because we want to wait to marriage, but we do other things and always try to mix it up to add some new fun to the mix. This weekend we took a shower together (both completely naked), but we did not have sex and ...
A. 12 April 2011: Agreed with "DanceInTheDark" - extremely unlikely. Sperm is not going to jump-up your vagina (from any distance) as if like a swarm of fire ants on your ankle. Well, that happens in Texas if you step on a fire ant mound. And you should understand ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend said I was really tight, will this be a problem the first time we have sex?
Q. Hi, I'm 18 and me and my boyfriend who is 19 have been dating for about 7 months. We have talked it over and feel that we are both ready for sex. I'm a virgin while my bf is not so we thought starting with oral sex etc would ease me into it and ...
A. 10 April 2011: Basically a very good thing, but a "tight" vagina preferably requires abundant sexual stimulation in order to produce adequate natural vaginal lubrication, which should allow reasonably comfortable penetration. In simple words, if you are really ... (read in full...)
He said I was tight. Is that a good thing or a bad thing?
Q. Hello. Basically my problem is that I'm seeing this guy, we're not properly together, but we're very close and we've told each other that we love one another. I'm in my last year of school, I finish all together for study leave in a weeks time, I'...
A. 10 April 2011: If your so-called "love" is not also sharing life's enjoyments with you, such as taking you out for dinner, movies, concerts, museum visits - whatever, then I think that you are being used as a "cum-dump."... (read in full...)
Do men ever do this during sex?
Q. Do men ever like to press the head of their penis against their partner's clitoris, and rub it up and dawn hard?...
A. 7 April 2011: Absolutely! But mainly for the partner's pleasure. It works best at the right times and with the correct amount of pressure (usually gentle but sometimes firmly). I've done it for decades, mainly because it very nicely stimulates the clit. This is, ... (read in full...)
Condom or No Condom, Which feels better?
Q. Hey guys, is your amount of pleasure decreased at all by use of a condom? Or do you get the same amount of pleasure either way? Have you ever done it with a woman who used a female condom? What is your best description of the physical sensation when ...
A. 7 April 2011: My first ever use of a "rubber" occurred almost two years ago when I was age 61, and only due to some fear of sexually-transmitted disease from the woman. After some testing, the concern proved futile. To answer your question, after more than 45 ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend smells down there. Why, is this normal, and can it be changed?
Q. Before i start, im a girl, im 16, i have been with my boyfriend now for four months and i am really happy with the way things are going but here it goes... So, my boyfriend is a year older than me, he isn't very experienced, I am the first girl h...
A. 4 April 2011: Agreed, "Cerberus" nailed this one.... (read in full...)
I know I should, but how do I leave my older lover?
Q. I am 18, I have been with a man since I was 16 (legal in the UK) and he is now 49. Due to this no one else in either of our lives knows about us being together. In the last 6 months we have tried to end it, but neither of us are able to break it ...
A. 2 April 2011: Well, my opinion on this is admittedly from a much older man who also has had relationships with younger women, so I'm aware there will be criticism. Let's also note that many "older" women these days tend to dabble in young men, thus the so-called ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for a man to go a week or longer without sex?
Q. I'm a 32 yr old female and have a 41 yr old boyfriend. He can go a week or two weeks without sex. Is that crazy? His work schedule is 5am til 9:30pm 3 nights a week. Sad part we stay across the street from 1 another....
A. 30 March 2011: Yes, of course - everyone may be different - but single men often have to endure weeks or months between copulative activities. However, I think that you are questioning his seeming disinterest despite your availability. Well, even under that ... (read in full...)
How can you be good in bed and without your guy thinking you've been around the block with many men?
Q. My boyfriend have been asking me questions lately that makes me feel really bad. Well everyone knows most guys like a freak in the bed they can still take home to momma. Well I consider myself that. There was onne guys I was with in the past that ...
A. 27 March 2011: My view is very much like that of "Danielepew" and "Honeypie," in that it is really none of his business - and he can enjoy your charms or do without. Whatever transpired before he met you, or before his involvement, is simply something that is ... (read in full...)
Are all men after tall women?
Q. I'm 22 years old, less than five feet tall. i am as pretty as any other girl and healthily thin so will any guy be interested in me?its not my fault or anyone else's why i am the way i am. I'm in college for 2 years and no boy has even dared talked ...
A. 26 March 2011: Well I'm of a much older generation I admit, and I'm also a short man in Texas, but a gal's height has never been the least bit a priority to me. ... (read in full...)
How can I stop getting distracted by hot women?
Q. As a single guy how can I stop wanting to date every hot girl I meet?! Its distracting, seriously. Not to mention the ones whose numbers I get we become friends and all the while in my head I'm thinking about how gorgeous they are and how I wanna ...
A. 23 March 2011: Well I think "natasia" has the better advice. Focus on one gal. The only other cures for not wanting to "date" hot women, which I presume really means to "screw" them, is to stay home alone or turn gay. ... (read in full...)
After sex it takes him about 30 minutes to recover,is this normal?
Q. My partner is 20 turning 21 and after he cums hes penis starts to die and it takes him around 30mins or more for him to have another erection is this normal? or dose he have a problem i don't know for he was my first sexual partner please help...
A. 23 March 2011: Wish that I could still recharge after only 30 minutes! lol He is perhaps much better than normal - more like a stud!... (read in full...)
Sweet man or sociopath?
Q. if a man is charming does it always have to mean that they are trying to schmooze? my new guy is rather over the top charming towards me, i have told him it makes me uneasy and he said he flatters me coz he wants me to like him. he is not a silly ...
A. 23 March 2011: I'm not sure about Great Britain, but in the U.S.A. it is fairly easy to check with local and/or national authorities to find out if someone is of questionable or dangerous reputation. ... (read in full...)
We haven't been able to figure out how to make me cum
Q. Hi guys, i'm after some sex advice me and my lovely boyfriend have been having sex for about a month now, but being that i'm quite new to sex we haven't been able to figure out how to make me come. I don't have a G-Spot and when he goes down on me ...
A. 23 March 2011: First of all, you do have a G-spot unless you are a human abnormality, but few women, and even fewer men, especially at young ages, have any idea how to locate or stimulate it. Go here in the Web site's archives: (Double M on G-spot). ... (read in full...)
Is protected sex before marriage alright?
Q. Is protected sex before marriage alright? Or sex after marriage will be better?...
A. 23 March 2011: Well, albeit as an older contributor here, I disagree that "in today's society you won't be judged for whichever one you choose," referring to premarital sex versus abstention from sex before marriage. However, I hasten to add that as a teenager in ... (read in full...)
My wife doesn't give me blow jobs anymore!
Q. so I have a question for you guys on here, I'm sure there are other posts on here about the same subject on here. I have been happily married for 6 years now and wouldn't change a single thing except for one. my wife does not give me blow jobs any ...
A. 22 March 2011: Well I sort of agree with the "anonymous" reply that advises "no BJs for you, no oral for her." However, I would not say anything about it, I just suggest that you simply stop giving her any oral, then if and when she broaches the topic, you can ... (read in full...)
I have been trying to squirt and it just wont happen
Q. I have been trying to squirt and it just wont happen. My husband hits my gspot and I feel like I have to pee but when I try to let it go I cant! I push it out like if im peeing and nothing comes out. Im frustrated because I want to experience that ...
A. 19 March 2011: Very few women squirt. Whatever you read must have been in a tabloid.... (read in full...)
After 5 years, how do I tell my husband just how unsatisfied I am with our sex life? Or is it just what married life is about....bad sex that eventually becomes no sex?
Q. I have been married for 5 years. My husband has always tended to be a rather selfish lover. However I am now really struggling with this issue. He rarely does anything to pleasure me, and believes that sex is simply about his orgasm. He r...
A. 18 March 2011: A husband or boyfriend who does not, will not or can not please his woman on a regular basis is not a man - and you may also classify the bloke as selfish and entirely self-centered, based on your posting. That's what you have - make that clear to ... (read in full...)
Why am I a bad person because I use prostitutes?
Q. Dear All, I am going to ask few questions which might offend some of you if they do please pardon me and try understanding my query. I have few basic questions about life which I want you to answer but before that let me give you some insight abo...
A. 18 March 2011: Again, get out and about where the girls are, and you do not have to elaborate about your past. ... (read in full...)
What happened to my G-spot?
Q. ok so i'm 23, and i'm kinda having a problem. When my bf fingers me he can't seem to find my G-spot.He used to be able to find it. I'm kinda scared..whats wrong with me?...
A. 17 March 2011: For maximum results, he should begin with romance (dinner, kissing, snuggling), followed with gentile and erotic stimulation (hands, massage, etc) which eventually progresses to ample oral application (lips and tongue appropriately applied) while ... (read in full...)
Can thrush lay dormant?
Q. I thought I knew a lot about sexually transmitted infections, but now I think I need some advice, please. I know thrush/candidiasis is not a sexually transmitted disease as such, although partners can pass it to one another during sex. So, it ...
A. 15 March 2011: Reportedly, "thrush" is the term typically used in Great Britain for a yeast infection. Men generally catch this malady from infected women, who may also contract the infection from infected men. It can take months to overcome a serious infection, ... (read in full...)
I don't want to be useless at sex when I'm only 17.
Q. Dear all, Im 17 and I have recently began a serious relationship with a lovely guy. We re currently two months in and completely besotted with each other. However I have a problem, I don't think im very good sexually - I've had sexual exper...
A. 15 March 2011: You do not want your guy to climax "instantly" from penetrative sex, but cumming for you after about 15 minutes of oral is quite normal for experienced males. In my experience receiving blow jobs (more than 45 years), I release somewhat faster when ... (read in full...)
Why am I a bad person because I use prostitutes?
Q. Dear All, I am going to ask few questions which might offend some of you if they do please pardon me and try understanding my query. I have few basic questions about life which I want you to answer but before that let me give you some insight abo...
A. 14 March 2011: Well, I think that you could be as successful as most any other man in finding and maintaining a relationship with a female companion who would appreciate you as much as you would enjoy her friendship and pleasures. It is impossible for me to assess ... (read in full...)
I feel disgusted at the male penis. Is it just me or anyone else feel this way?
Q. Penises just completely disgust me. I literally feel like i am going to throw up. And thats just from looking at it. I've been told there's great looking penises and horrible penises, but I just think they are all nasty. I don't want anything to do ...
A. 14 March 2011: Well, some are symmetrical, straight, nice size but not grotesque - yet perhaps some women cannot abide any man's sexuality. My suggestion is to use a mirror and check out your own labia/vulva. Even though it may appear rather fleshy, unbalanced, ... (read in full...)
Should I help the woman next door?
Q. I'll keep this as short as possible. My neighbors are wonderful people. He is very ill and wheelchair bound from MS and another debilitating disease. Last night his wife came onto me, she wants me because as she put it, she feels safe with me. I ...
A. 13 March 2011: I'll agree that this is much like a mine field, into which you may step and find yourself very poorly regarded. Only once, that I can recall and it was recent, did I venture a similar situation, and I ended up losing the woman anyway. Well, I did ... (read in full...)
Could his sexual inexperience be the problem here?
Q. My boyfriend and I are in our 30's. Up until 2 years ago when we met he'd never had any form of sex, including oral sex. He tried once in high school but couldn't perform. Since the beginning when we began having sex erections have been diffic...
A. 12 March 2011: Well, your description is of some very odd behavior on his part, I think, but your perception may be correct that a lack of previous sexual experience with female partners has negatively affected his sexual performance. ... (read in full...)
Do you think doggy style is romantic?
Q. honestly ,do you think doggy style is romantic or it`s just for fun ,animalistic passion . would you have doggy style with a woman that you`re in deep love with ,if she `s the sweet n nice type ,if not which position would u choose ? think u g...
A. 11 March 2011: Well, in my most enduring marriage of 20 years, we rarely engaged in that style, but each to their own preference, and my wife greatly enjoyed woman-on-top.
With previous and subsequent girlfriends, and previous wives, I have gladly performed dogg... (read in full...)
I satisfy my husband, but he doesn't satisfy me
Q. I satisfy my husband, but he doesn't satisfy me. What can I do? This has gone on for 20 years. I am sick of it! Now he has a heart condition and does not want sex at all. This has gone on for about 3 years. He does not even want to kiss, hold ...
A. 10 March 2011: GeeGee255 provided excellent commentary, and I can offer little more except that men tend to settle into these kinds of selfish and self-serving lifestyles if "we" find a woman willing to go along with it. Some men, however, do realize that love and ... (read in full...)
I am always horny
Q. I'm a 15 year old boy I get horny for most of the day thinking about having sex with girls. I can't help it, but i love thinking about sex and thinking about having it. I masturbate at least 4 times a day I need a girlfriend How can i try and st...
A. 9 March 2011: Disregard most everything "uncle bob" says, it's bullshit. Like "danielpew" says, you are very normal, except that masturbating four times daily might be just a tad bit aggressive. Well, so be it, and do realize that, at your age and for MANY years ... (read in full...)
According to him I am selfish...
Q. To anyone that can help, I am so lost and feel so alone. My husband of 6 years and I have not been in a good place for a while. Many things have happend over the past 2 years that have put a strain on things. Just when I think things are ok, I...
A. 8 March 2011: You describe a seriously strained marriage for sure. particularly with husband's late-night escapades thrice a week. Too bad a child is involved, but based on your post, I think some serious discussion and maybe counseling is advisable. Don't know ... (read in full...)
I'm not a virgin, but I've decided not to have sex again til marriage. This seems to drive men off! Am I being unreasonable?
Q. My problem seems kind of funny, so laugh if you want, but I'm getting a bit frustrated. Although I didn't grow up religious, I'd had a rough time in life and turned to the church. This was a few years ago and I'm now a devout Christian, and have ...
A. 6 March 2011: You have my respect. I'm much older and lived a fairly promiscuous lifestyle throughout the 1960s-70s, then turned faithful during a 20-year marriage, but there should be no concern about your descretion. Many men will hold this in highest regard as ... (read in full...)
I've given him my virginity, and he means so much to me...but I don't know if I trust him completely because of his reputation as a player..
Q. Let's start at the beginning of it all, shall we? (This'll be long, and complicated, but the background story is needed for you to possibly be able to answer the question because it really is complicated. Either bear with me, scroll down to the ...
A. 5 March 2011: You are simply young and probably have been taken advantage by your player friend, and I'll just stand by my original reply. Still, I must express my personal appreciation for a number of young women in the 1960s-1970s, although my interest was ... (read in full...)
I've given him my virginity, and he means so much to me...but I don't know if I trust him completely because of his reputation as a player..
Q. Let's start at the beginning of it all, shall we? (This'll be long, and complicated, but the background story is needed for you to possibly be able to answer the question because it really is complicated. Either bear with me, scroll down to the ...
A. 3 March 2011: Hmm, well to summarize your recent history as you related, you "naturally" were sexually "conquered" by your boyfriend, the "player" mentioned, and perhaps he will stick around for more, but at your age, you may soon enough find that you have been ... (read in full...)
Our finances mean we both have to work. Will it be OK if my wife keeps working as a prostitute?
Q. Hi,to all, my wife looks cute,healthy, and sexy, but i have to work alone (away from home), as we can't fulfill all our financial requirements. My wife has to work too and my wife likes to work as prostitute. If i allow my wife to continue to ...
A. 20 February 2011: You are asking the rest of the world this question?... (read in full...)
Where or what are good places to have sex other than on a bed?
Q. Any good places to have sex besides in bed? Favourite place to do it? Any interesting ways?...
A. 20 February 2011: . . . this is really too dumb to answer . . . ... (read in full...)
I used to love sex and now I can't wait for it to be over
Q. hey, im in a realionship and everything is great but the sex. at 1st it was amazing and we couldnt get enough of each other but now the build up is great but when we are having sex i cant wait for it to b over. me and my boyfriend have noticed this ...
A. 14 February 2011: There's not enough information provided to proffer much advice, such as what he's doing or not doing, and what turns you on. For instance, what was so great in the beginning that is missing now, or is it just that what was new and exciting then now ... (read in full...)
Why do I suddenly want to have sex with other men?
Q. I don't understand why I only found my husband and other women attractive for so long and now I want to have sex with other men too. Why would my wants have changed like?...
A. 12 February 2011: Life is a journey that can lead down many pathways. ... (read in full...)
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