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Should I just have sex with him since I may never see him again?
Q. He is 29 and I am 30. I fell in love with him for the past one month and I thought he was too, but now I am not sure if he feels love or lust for me.He wanted animalistic sex(no kiss, doggy style) and I refused. I deliberately but not openly avoided ...
A. 31 July 2011: You go girl! There is a good man in your future if you seek truth and love.... (read in full...)
How do I feel better about myself?
Q. Hi, Im never satisfied with my looks, and feel ugly all the time. Some people say im pretty but I never believe them. Im not very popular or outgoing, im very shy. How do I feel better about myself?...
A. 30 July 2011: Ok young lady. Believe it or not, we all feel that way sometimes. But please think about what you DO have. I'll presume that you have the following by twos: eyes, ears, arms, legs, feet, hands, breasts and both halves of some other physical ... (read in full...)
Any tips on how to achieve orgasm through vaginal sex?
Q. Hi guys, i am a 21 year old female. iv been with my boyfriend about 6 months and we have been having sex for a few months now. iv had previuos sexual partners before him. but one thing thats really been bothering my boyfriend is that he can't ...
A. 29 July 2011: Oops, I forgot to mention another method to apply "angle of penetration" to the primary concentration of female nerve endings - the clitoris. It almost seems a design flaw that the clitoris is located outside and above the vaginal opening, which is ... (read in full...)
Any tips on how to achieve orgasm through vaginal sex?
Q. Hi guys, i am a 21 year old female. iv been with my boyfriend about 6 months and we have been having sex for a few months now. iv had previuos sexual partners before him. but one thing thats really been bothering my boyfriend is that he can't ...
A. 29 July 2011: Both "RedAthena" and "person12345" offer very good suggestions - i.e., lead up to penetration via oral and find the position that works best. That can be an exploratory adventure, which leads me to add that the "angle" of penetration can make a big ... (read in full...)
I can't feel any sexual pleasure. So scared it's something unfixable!
Q. I'm currently having problems with my sex life. I'm almost 20, and I've been with my boyfriend awhile now, but I can't feel any sexual pleasure. This isn't a "I don't feel sex" or "I don't feel it sometimes" It is Never. He is the first boyfriend ...
A. 28 July 2011: The "unfixable" part is quite doubtful, and perhaps you have become too anxious (as in trying too hard) to relax enough for sexual climax. I'm concerned that you claim no sexual pleasure at all. Such a situation is not unknown, however, and in fact, ... (read in full...)
I want to quit masturbating!
Q. I find it hard to quit masturbating I do it daily and I mean I just dont want to do it anymore. does anyone have any advice for that, other than just dont do it? because trust me I tried to quit cold turkey but it didnt work. please help...
A. 27 July 2011: Well, to begin with, it's quite normal - especially at your age. Everyone on the planet either masturbates or has a good amount of sex one way or another. While it is probable that you will gradually masturbate less often as you age, and especially ... (read in full...)
Should I just have sex with him since I may never see him again?
Q. He is 29 and I am 30. I fell in love with him for the past one month and I thought he was too, but now I am not sure if he feels love or lust for me.He wanted animalistic sex(no kiss, doggy style) and I refused. I deliberately but not openly avoided ...
A. 27 July 2011: No, there is no way to make this guy appreciate you more than just being a virgin conquest, and you will be deflowered by a jackass.... (read in full...)
I have a great sex drive and my husband has almost none. How can this work?
Q. I was wondering if anyone can relate to being sexually frustrated. I have a great sex drive always have and my husband has next to no sex drive. He says he's very attracted to me and thinks I'm sexy but we hardly have sex. When we do its great but ...
A. 26 July 2011: Ok, well once every two weeks is a bit spare, yet better than many women can expect in marriage. This would seem a situation in which "spicing it up" may be appropriate. ... (read in full...)
Should I just have sex with him since I may never see him again?
Q. He is 29 and I am 30. I fell in love with him for the past one month and I thought he was too, but now I am not sure if he feels love or lust for me.He wanted animalistic sex(no kiss, doggy style) and I refused. I deliberately but not openly avoided ...
A. 26 July 2011: Well I cannot say that lust is never to be fulfilled, as such was the case often in my life - and in the lives of the women involved. Seems a case of just do it, but since it would allegedly be the loss of your virginity, I find that a sad premise. ... (read in full...)
Too good to walk away from
Q. Dear Cupid I have met a man who I have fallen in love with - and to use an over used cliche, I have never felt like this before. I do not love him, I don't know him well enough for that - but I feel that I could and I want to. I want to show him...
A. 26 July 2011: C.K. I do not think that you can advance the process any faster than it should be, except to show that you "stand by the man" if you truly believe all is worth it. Be there when appropriate, but do not be intrusive.... (read in full...)
After I orgasm my boyfriend cant keep touching me as its unbearable for me, do I have a problem?
Q. Hello, When I am masterbating with my boyfriend and he is rubbing my clit or going down on me it feels great and I can cum... But the problem is I can cum then it is unbearable to have him keep touching my clit, like I can't take it anymore~ It f...
A. 26 July 2011: Three previous responses are correct - just wait awhile. Orgasms for both men and women can leave our primary sex parts (glans or clitoris) a bit too sensitive for any immediate stimulus, but can recover after a break (especially for women). ... (read in full...)
Ladies: Any consequences of using whipped cream down there during foreplay??
Q. ok this is a really, really freaky and albeit personal question, well me and my girlfriend want to spice up our love life, by adding sexual foods to our love life, the question I want to ask is well the food we want to add is whipped cream, from the ...
A. 24 July 2011: Let me add that perhaps a most healthy and yet, tasty treat down there is yogurt. It also comes in chocolate (Brown Cow brand for one). Yogurt is an excellent treatment for yeast infections, albeit usually in its most plain form, but I don't think a ... (read in full...)
Ladies: Any consequences of using whipped cream down there during foreplay??
Q. ok this is a really, really freaky and albeit personal question, well me and my girlfriend want to spice up our love life, by adding sexual foods to our love life, the question I want to ask is well the food we want to add is whipped cream, from the ...
A. 24 July 2011: Let me add that perhaps a most healthy and yet, tasty treat down there is yogurt. It also comes in chocolate (Brown Cow brand for one). Yogurt is an excellent treatment for yeast infections, albeit usually in its most plain form, but I don't think a ... (read in full...)
Ladies: Any consequences of using whipped cream down there during foreplay??
Q. ok this is a really, really freaky and albeit personal question, well me and my girlfriend want to spice up our love life, by adding sexual foods to our love life, the question I want to ask is well the food we want to add is whipped cream, from the ...
A. 23 July 2011: Well I'm not a woman, but I would suggest that you do your best to tongue-clean those flaps, and then a simple rinse should avert any potential problem from lingering dairy product.... (read in full...)
Having sex with my new partner but he cant cum, why is this?
Q. i have just started a sexual relationship with my new partner. we were discussing other realtionships in the past etc, he mentioned it had been a few years that hes been with someone after it took a while for him to ejaculate, in fact he didnt and ...
A. 23 July 2011: One possibility - just a suggestion - is that he has grown accustomed to masturbation due to the reported absence of a mutual sexual partner. Even a couple of years of masturbation (only or primarily) may alter sexual response, but the situation can ... (read in full...)
Scared to give him a blow job!
Q. My boyfrined really wants a blow job. He told me he's willing to wait for me, but I feel like I need to do it. Not because he's pressuring me, but because I'm curious and want him knowing he can come to me for pleasure and a relationship. I'm scared ...
A. 19 July 2011: You stated, "My boyfrined really wants a blow job." That sounds like he is pressuring you, and that is no condition in which a young woman should be doing anything! Question: Is he offering oral pleasure for you? First? ... (read in full...)
To give head or not to give head? That is the question!
Q. To give head or to not give head? That is the question. Okay, talk about an icebreaker! Here's my situation. I've been dating a guy officially for a month this coming Saturday. Before officially dating, we casually dated for another month. W...
A. 19 July 2011: Well I'm undoubtedly old school with decades of oral sex experience. While my first bj was not quite as early as one mentioned by "olderthandirt," I was fortunate to have a number of oral girlfriends by about 1965 - and many since.
But for us, it m... (read in full...)
Is weekly sex causing all of this itching and scratching?
Q. This may sound silly but is just the truth. I have being having sex with my guy every week. And recently my vagina{i.e private part} has be scratching me seriously,but yesterday i use mirror to look at it and i found out that there were tiny things ...
A. 15 July 2011: In case your trouble is indeed due to a fungal infection, you could begin applying plain yogurt as a cream - and also consuming some daily. In any case, ir would cause no harm. Yogurt with live lactobacillus culture is a natural remedy for thrush, ... (read in full...)
Is weekly sex causing all of this itching and scratching?
Q. This may sound silly but is just the truth. I have being having sex with my guy every week. And recently my vagina{i.e private part} has be scratching me seriously,but yesterday i use mirror to look at it and i found out that there were tiny things ...
A. 15 July 2011: This could be a yeast infection (thrush) or possibly tinea cruris (also known as jock itch). Both are fungal infections, and the latter is somewhat more likely in males, but can also be transmitted during sex. ... (read in full...)
Kids today indeed!
Q. I made a joke the other day to my boyfriend, and while it was a little sarcastic and crass, it was true. Let me start this off by saying that this site is a wonderful thing, and I have recieved some very valuable advice from it. I've also been t...
A. 14 July 2011: Well, the fact is, sexual urges begin anytime from about age nine or so, and wisdom and common sense may not emerge for another 20 years, if ever. ... (read in full...)
Kids today indeed!
Q. I made a joke the other day to my boyfriend, and while it was a little sarcastic and crass, it was true. Let me start this off by saying that this site is a wonderful thing, and I have recieved some very valuable advice from it. I've also been t...
A. 13 July 2011: Well I was one of those "kids" who in 1960 lost my virginity at age 13, to an older girl (age 14) - but I think the damage, if any, fell more on her than me. Then I became highly sexually active at age 16 and eventually fathered a child, which ... (read in full...)
Do women really enjoy having fingers in their mouths?
Q. A common thing in porn is for the man to put his fingers in the mouth of the woman during foreplay. I have never done this in my sex life. Is this something women enjoy? ...
A. 12 July 2011: Good women, even if very adventurous and naughty, are not stupid and usually not susceptible to such oddball extremes as some of the things depicted in pornography. ... (read in full...)
BF is married and lied to me about being separated from his wife, having sex with her and having another kid that I didnt know of. Does he deserve another chance?
Q. Five months ago I met this guy who seemed like a good guy and was fun to hang around. From the first moment we met he admitted to me that he had a son who was in the first grade, and showed me pictures like any proud father. Even though I myself ...
A. 12 July 2011: You have been played.... (read in full...)
How can I get my fiance to relax during oral sex?
Q. how can i help my fiance relax and cum while im giving him felatio (head) oral sex. He won't do it.dont know why and he cant cum unless im on my stomach laying flat and melicking his hand as if i was eating a pussy please advise and also i get ...
A. 11 July 2011: Your wording does not make much sense to me, especially "he cant cum unless i'm on my stomach laying flat and me licking his hand as if i was eating a pussy." So, either he cums or not? Via hand licking? Anyway, some men can release for a girlfrie... (read in full...)
My Wife cheated two months into our marriage, will we ever be happy again??
Q. Recently I discovered that my wife of nearly ten years had an affair with a co-worker. As if this wasn't painful enough for me to deal with, I also learn't that this happened only two months into or marriage! Now I find myself constantly quest...
A. 10 July 2011: For one, I admire that decision. While I realize it will be all but impossible to "forget" that long-ago betrayal, please tell her that you forgive and see if she responds with relief and appreciation. If so, then mean it. Best wishes to you and ... (read in full...)
Partner of 17 years dumped me and then found someone else within three weeks. Will I ever recover from the hurt?
Q. I was with my ex Partner for 17 years, when she dumped me and then found someone else within three weeks. It's had really hurt me and it been a few years now but I still think about her. Will I ever recover. She hasnt made contact since the day she ...
A. 10 July 2011: My wife of 20 years, plus the three prior years as live-in lovers, up and left me some 15 years ago when I was about 46-years-old. I'm still getting over it. It is the idea that we would be life-long partners that I so lament, however.
Due to the ... (read in full...)
How do I get intimate when I have no experience ?
Q. I'm twenty three years old and with my first ever boyfriend. i am also his first gf and I want to start getting intimate with my bf a bit more physical we talk about it but I'm proper nervous incase I'm not very good just wondering how you toss a ...
A. 7 July 2011: While I'm unsure what you mean by "toss a guy off," I'll assume it may have something to do with "pleasing" him based on your reference to getting intimate. Well, few young women are really likely to be considered "not very good" with sexual ... (read in full...)
My sex drive is much higher during that time of the month. Is this normal?
Q. I am 20 and have noticed that I am so much hornier when I have my period. It's awfffuullll....... Do other women experience this? Men, do you recognize with the women you're with? Thanks for anything. :)...
A. 7 July 2011: This is known to be the case for some young women. And yes, I've known that with women in my past. You should worry not, just suggest use of condoms if it bothers your lover or yourself. Best wishes. ... (read in full...)
From experience, when do you kiss a girl?
Q. Hi guys I just want to ask, from your experience, how would you know if a girl wants to kiss you? I'm 16 and I've never had a girlfriend or kissed a girl. I like this girl, and according to her best friends, she likes me. But I'm not sure when to...
A. 7 July 2011: As soon as possible. Get that first kiss over with, and all that follows will be easy. One way to get that first kiss out of the way is during a light-hearted moment, when you are both in a good mood and possibly having a laugh or two and she is ... (read in full...)
Pregnant by abusive BF who drinks every night and tried to get me to strip for his friends... but I love him and want to help him change
Q. me and my boyfriend have been living together for 2 months now after 6 months of being together. The 6 months where incredible best 6 months of my life and he really and truly did treat me like a princess but ever since we started living together...
A. 6 July 2011: We cannot cure stupid.... (read in full...)
My Wife cheated two months into our marriage, will we ever be happy again??
Q. Recently I discovered that my wife of nearly ten years had an affair with a co-worker. As if this wasn't painful enough for me to deal with, I also learn't that this happened only two months into or marriage! Now I find myself constantly quest...
A. 5 July 2011: Indeed, that was a nasty "sting" and undoubtedly a devastating realization, but you say that it was about ten years ago. While I agree that devotion to marriage is of ultimate value, I think you should realize it is somewhat "shaky" during the first ... (read in full...)
Third date sex and now no contact
Q. I slept with a guy I met on the third date. He dropped me home yesterday afternoon and i still have not heard from him. Feeling the typical feelings of anxiety, guilt etc Am i freaking out too soon, should I still give him some time to contact ...
A. 4 July 2011: In my opinion, you should not make any effort to contact your new lover - that is entirely up to him if he truly IS more than just a fling. No reason to panic at this point. If nothing happens, then he is not your lover anymore - and you were just ... (read in full...)
Why is Divorce Ok? I am put off if I find a person is divorced.
Q. Im asking the question: Why isnt it shameful to be divorced? Why would anyone admit it? to me it makes the person look selfish and non commital really.. I have to admit it puts me off a person quite a lot. What does everyone else think? ...
A. 3 July 2011: Some of us make mistakes - especially early in life - and it may offer us the opportunity to learn from such mistakes. Therefore, a divorced person may be the wiser, but will also have been sexually experienced. Perhaps it is that previous sexual ... (read in full...)
Pregnant by abusive BF who drinks every night and tried to get me to strip for his friends... but I love him and want to help him change
Q. me and my boyfriend have been living together for 2 months now after 6 months of being together. The 6 months where incredible best 6 months of my life and he really and truly did treat me like a princess but ever since we started living together...
A. 2 July 2011: You cannot help nor make him change.... (read in full...)
Why can't I find a date?
Q. Hi all, I am a 30 year old that have trouble finding a date or even attracting women. I hate to sound conceited but I am described as good looking, I have a good job, dress well, have my own car and place. 1, I have no idea where to look or even ...
A. 2 July 2011: Remember that everyone on the planet likes to talk about themselves, which means that you should avoid talking about you (too much) and let her talk about herself. You do not want to be overly evasive or secretive, but even if you have to chide your ... (read in full...)
I love being fingered and it doesn't hurt, will sex still hurt?
Q. Hey, i was wondering, im still a virgin but my boyfriend fingers me, i love it and i dont feel any pain. Is this good? does this mean sex wont hurt so much for me?...
A. 30 June 2011: Despite the fairly frequent mention of sex being painful for young women on this and other Web sites, most mature women have little or no such issues, with some possible exceptions the first time. Age 16 is of legal age in Great Britain, though ... (read in full...)
Sex hurts so much! How do I make b/f understand?
Q. My boyfriend always wants sex. But recently im really sore that last time we did it I nearly cried. I don't know why im sore its not like I'm allergic to him. He's always going on at me about not having sex but I just can't go through with it. What ...
A. 30 June 2011: You may have a medical condition, such as a yeast infection, which would definitely make sexual activity painful. Do go see your physician.... (read in full...)
I just found out the guy my wife lost her viginity to had a bigger penis
Q. hi just found out the guy my wife lost her virginty to was my 2nd cousin after 22 years of married life when she blurted out his name by mistake i asked her his name and found out he had a bigger penis and said she was sorry had i known this i would ...
A. 25 June 2011: There will always be someone with a bigger one, better muscles, taller physique, smaller butt, cuter nose, tighter abs and a more handsome face. What the hell are you fretting about? She chose you and gave you children! Shut up and take care of your ... (read in full...)
How often do guys think about sex?
Q. Okaay, this is a bit of an odd question, but following this conversation I had with one of my guy friends about how often guys think about sex (7 seconds, or something??) I was wondering: Guys, how often do you think about having sex with girls yo...
A. 23 June 2011: Indeed, it's a weird question and really impossible to answer. Men are generally triggered to think about sex when and if stimulated visually. If we see someone we know, care about or whom we find very attractive, it is likely that some sexual ... (read in full...)
What is the truth about aging men, and their sex drives?
Q. There are so many confusion about middle age man. I would like to know what is the truth. All middle age man have some change in their sex drive, and general sexual function, or there are man, who are not affected at all? They talk about man, who ...
A. 22 June 2011: As others have correctly said, there is a myriad of factors affecting a man's sexual health and desire as we age. For instance, I'm a man now in my 60s having no problems with the equipment, or desire, but heart problems caused by two heart attacks ... (read in full...)
Lies, lies. Should I cut him of my life for lying? Or can he change?
Q. I recently dumped my beloved boyfriend and eventually friend, because he has a bad habit of lying. He doesn't just lie when he needs to in pressure, but he just randomly lies about the most craziest things. Things that aren't important whats soo ...
A. 20 June 2011: Basically, men do not "change" their fundamental ways (and I do not believe that women do either). In my opinion, a history of lying and falsehoods add up to being a "basic nature," and people very rarely alter their basic nature, whatever that may ... (read in full...)
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