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Lies, lies. Should I cut him of my life for lying? Or can he change?
Q. I recently dumped my beloved boyfriend and eventually friend, because he has a bad habit of lying. He doesn't just lie when he needs to in pressure, but he just randomly lies about the most craziest things. Things that aren't important whats soo ...
A. 20 June 2011: Basically, men do not "change" their fundamental ways (and I do not believe that women do either). In my opinion, a history of lying and falsehoods add up to being a "basic nature," and people very rarely alter their basic nature, whatever that may ... (read in full...)
When and how will I find a guy to take my virginity?
Q. Ok, virginity question for you all. I'm 17 and freakin out because I haven't lost it yet. I've had 2 proper but relationships but I wasn't with them long enough to go any further than kissing/feeling, one relationship when I was 15 and one when I ...
A. 18 June 2011: Do not be in such a hurry, and this advice from an old foggy who lived though the sex revolution of the 1960s-70s! You are still just a spring chicken, as we say in Texas, and losing your virginity so young will likely prove to be: 1) Disappointing ... (read in full...)
I did not get pregnant after my partner ejaculated within me. Does this mean I won't be able to have kids?
Q. Helpppppppp!!!!!... I had unprotected sex with my partner and he ejaculated inside of me in June 5th, i got my period i believe on june 11th. may i not be able to have kids?...
A. 15 June 2011: The answer to the question is: no.... (read in full...)
I was giving my husband a blow job and my son walked in on us!!
Q. So.. I was having a rather pleasant time pleasuring my man... yes BJ ... we have been together 20 years - married for 14 and have 2 young children.. 2 and 5 yrs. We had not closed our door as we tend not too because we can generally hear o...
A. 14 June 2011: Basically, I agree with most of the responses that suggest this episode will pass if not mentioned again, and of course, keep it private from now on.... (read in full...)
How can I stop my bf's desire to take meds to increase his penis size?
Q. Please help, I'm fine with my boyfriends penis size but he isn't at all. I'm not sure the exact size but i think its like 4 inches. He wants to take meds to make it grow. I know there dangerous and i don't want him to take them but he's the type of ...
A. 10 June 2011: Hmmm, well, you can tell him that a wise old man advises that he will end up being very disappointed and quite a bit lighter in the wallet. However, I doubt he will heed such wisdom and will still believe that some pills can and will effectively ... (read in full...)
White discharge from my girlfriend's vagina. Is that normal?
Q. I was doing cunnilingus on my girlfriend yesterday and noticed some white discharge coming out from her vagina. The color was white and kinda looked like sperm. However, my girlfriend's a virgin, and we never had sex. Only foreplaying. It didn't ...
A. 10 June 2011: Yes, some vaginal discharge is quite normal at various times during a woman's cycle - usually clear, milky-white or white. As long as there is not a strong, unpleasant odor, it is likely innocuous (harmless), except it is not particularly pleasant ... (read in full...)
When would be my most fertile time of the month?
Q. can anyone help me with my most fertile times of the month? as im trying to concive, im on my period now and started it yesterday so i should be finished by saturday as my period lasts for 4days when am i most likely to get pregnant next month? ...
A. 9 June 2011: As "sexlessintheuk" noted, about midway between menstruation is the most fertile time, and it is called ovulation.... (read in full...)
Why do I get sexually stimulated so quickly whenever I make out with my bf?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together over a year and it's only been the last 4 months we've been sexually active. We've done everything but sex; masturbating each other, oral (inc. 69er). I just seem to get so horny as soon as we get in, h...
A. 9 June 2011: "Why do i get so horny so quickly?" Because you are young.
"Is it bad i always want more?" No, but be careful.
"And could it have anything to do with: not having sex yet and wanting to experience an orgasm?" Yes, normal.
"Is it a bad thing that i... (read in full...)
Does it make men mad when they can't finish
Q. How do I last longer in bed I'm 18 and when me an my boyfriend get intimate I always have to stop an he don't get to finish sometimes because it hurts. I want him to be able to finish an be happy. And one more question does it make men mad when they ...
A. 24 May 2011: Normally I would not call it "getting mad," but it must be disappointing for him. Why don't you ask him?... (read in full...)
After 2.5 years I still don't enjoy sex!
Q. hi im 20 and have been with my boyfriend for 2 an a half years. we have been having sex for about a year an a half an we were both virgins before that. we have sex once or twice a week but i just dont really enjoy it. i pretend to enjoy it which i...
A. 22 May 2011: Nothing wrong with you except inexperienced boyfriend.... (read in full...)
She won't give oral sex because its dirty
Q. I'm dating this girl, who has told me she'll do anything for me. However, she won't give me head because it is dirty.. meanwhile I give lots. How can I go about getting head and is it normal to feel bad for her reason? And I'm very clean, medically ...
A. 22 May 2011: Some will, some will not, and for more than 45 years I've never found a way to change those who will not. I'll admit that I never spent much time trying - I just moved on, and have apparently been lucky to find many gals who like to give as well as ... (read in full...)
Why does he go limp when I'm on top?
Q. me and my boyfriend just started having sex. I was a virgin before I met him and he always says how sexy I am and he is alway all over me but here's the problem..... when I'm on top he goes limp. why? when he's on top it's fine but he goes limp...
A. 21 May 2011: Hmmm, I'm unsure since it has long been one of my favorite positions without such an issue. However, you might consider applying more forward and/or backward movement on your part to create additional friction/feeling for him. In the old days, my ... (read in full...)
I plan to have sex again, but I have some questions.
Q. I lost my virginity on 1/2/10 since haven't had sex again till this date. I hate sex because is very painful and I shed a lot of blood. My question goes is, it going to be painful this time? Is my hymen still intact? Finally can someone contact ...
A. 20 May 2011: You probably just need to have an experienced man the next time, being someone who understands sex with a virgin (or otherwise tight or small person) which typically should be gentler and accomplished with patience. Man should spend a good deal of ... (read in full...)
I sometimes get anxious and nervous when receiving oral sex. How can I relax more?
Q. I like receiving and giving oral sex. Sometimes that is the only way I can reach an orgasm and not by being penetrated. but sometimes I feel nervous when a guy is going down on me. and sometimes I will just go down on him and won't let him go down ...
A. 19 May 2011: Many women are under the impression, and somewhat rightly, that their nether region is either a bit smelly or otherwise naughty. Well it is certainly naughty, or more correctly stated, "arousing," for a man to be licking a woman's genitals. Thing ... (read in full...)
Do you think she could smell it on us???
Q. Is it true that you can smell when someone has had sex after they have had it?? I had sex with my boyfriend in my house with no one there this past friday and then my mom comes home an hour later. She never tells or asks me if we had sex or not but ...
A. 18 May 2011: In my experience and opinion, it depends on proximity to the individual suspected of some clandestine sexual activity. My experience regarded a former girlfriend who had strayed, including providing her new male "friend" a blow job, and I could ... (read in full...)
How do you get over someone you liked?
Q. What's a good way of getting over someone you like? Not dated,just like?...
A. 17 May 2011: Wear a teflon coating that sheds all adverse effects of youthful "puppy love." Enjoy it a little, but never too seriously, and please realize that you will eventually be so happy that you have been a very wise young woman. ... (read in full...)
Did my married lover ever really love me?
Q. Does my married man really love me? I also involved with a married man for almost over a year. we were ex-coworkers. At the very beginning we are just friends, I have no feelings for him at all. however, I had problem with my own marriage, was th...
A. 17 May 2011: Your world will not end, and you are too young to think like that, but you were essentially used. He may have loved you to some degree, as many a man can love more than one woman, but there is usually the "one" and any others are extra.
Some men ... (read in full...)
He's great... except for the making me orgasm part.
Q. Okay so I've been with my boyfriend now for a year and a couple of months and he is perfect for me... apart from him making me orgasm. Firstly we are both hard to please. I mean it literally. He rarely cums during sex and I never have. When I say...
A. 16 May 2011: Well, even if you are 21-years-old or so, you are still very young. But you are not at all being selfish in wanting your boyfriend to attend to your sexual needs. Not every guy, especially about that age, knows all that much about it - and neither ... (read in full...)
I lied to this hot girl and told her I've had sex but I haven't
Q. Hi dear cupids I m 18 and I don't really have any sexual experience. I tried to have sex with a girl like a year ago but I had no acctual idea what I was doing and my penis couldn't fit in her. We tried it 2 other night but I still counldn't pu...
A. 15 May 2011: While I doubt the veracity of this posting, you will do well to spend a good deal of time reading advice in this Web site's archives. There is a virtual encyclopedia of sexuality therein, though it will not ensure your success - the reading may ... (read in full...)
Is it bad to give your guy a bj but not finish??
Q. During foreplay, is it bad to give your guy a bj but not finish (make him cum) bc you are so turned on that you just want him inside you. So you stop, and you start having sex. Is that a bad thing? is there some kind of rule when it comes to oral ...
A. 12 May 2011: That is not a bad thing at all if only stimulation is expected. If he expects or desires completion, and has thoroughly sexually satisfied you in advance, then that may be another matter.... (read in full...)
Is it bad to have casual sex after a breakup?
Q. So my question may seem a little odd. More from curiosity than the need for advice. Basically I have had a series of bad relationships broke up with my long term bf. Met an amazing man. Moved in with him. Then he list his job and we lost our place ...
A. 11 May 2011: Uh, well, when I was about your age and from a man's point of view, it worked okay for me and apparently for the girls as well. As a much older man now, it still works and seems okay with the older women involved. To each, his (or her) own . . .... (read in full...)
I like men, but I don't like sex with them!
Q. Hi. I'm a woman in my mid 20s and I don't enjoy sex with men unless they are performing oral sex. I've tried everything I could think of, but the only way I experience pleasure instead of apathy is through receiving oral sex. I'm really just not ...
A. 10 May 2011: Perhaps it is a matter of the "order" in which an evening of sexual activity progresses. For more years than I've cared to divulge sometimes, I've been reasonably successful pleasing women by approaching each effort with a lover or wife (not ... (read in full...)
What is "Masculine"? - A body language question
Q. Hello all, Allright guys. Amidst all the serious questions on relationships, dating, marriage, break-ups etc, I thought of giving you guys a breather. This is a sort of trivial question, but am sure it can make for a casual chat topic. I am a...
A. 9 May 2011: As a much older male, I can affirm that yes, to some degree, the sitting position you first described is considered somewhat more feminine. Alas, as a decidedly masculine type, I nevertheless sometimes sit knee-over-knee for at least brief periods ... (read in full...)
Bf and I haven't had sex in 7 months. Should I be concerned that the spark is fading?
Q. My fiance and I have been together for three years and we haven't had sex in seven months. I realize that most people would leave in that situation or at least try to to do something about it but oddly enough, we're both perfectly content. We do get ...
A. 6 May 2011: At your age that would certainly seem unusual.... (read in full...)
I'm worried when I eventually have sex nothing will feel good!
Q. im 18 female and i cant seem to get myself off... ive tried fingering and touching myself but it doesnt feel that good to me at all. The most enjoyment i get is from "pillow sex" so to speak which is rubbing myself against or riding on a pillow. ...
A. 6 May 2011: Relax! You will be fine.... (read in full...)
What does it mean when a woman says she feels smothered?
Q. My wife and I have been together 19 years. We have not had a normal or regular sex life for most of it. We have talked the issue to death and yesterday she agreed she will see a therapist. (I always initiate and she always refuses.) My own pop psyc...
A. 6 May 2011: Yep, it sounds like you are a control freak, at least in her opinion. You might want to also visit a therapist. ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for someone to be feeling sexual urge all the time?
Q. Hi evry one, pls is it normal for someone to be feeling sexual urge all the time? I always feel like having sex, is it normal? ...
A. 6 May 2011: At your age, especially, of course it is normal, and sexual urges will be normal for many more years. Sexuality is a very healthful and wonderful part of life.... (read in full...)
Why is my g/f so frigid? Am I that repulsive?
Q. My girlfriend (27y) of 9 months and I (26y) have never been intimate, never discussed sex (she gets extremely uncomfortable), never ventured our hands between each others' legs. I always respect her comfort level. I feel unwanted. I feel...
A. 5 May 2011: Well, since intimacy is entirely natural between available adults (male/female) who care about each other, and those with amorous attraction, then it would seem unusual that a partner of nearly a year resists even a discussion of intimate ... (read in full...)
If a guy has sex with a girl, does that mean he loves her?
Q. If a guy has sex with a girl does that usually means he loves her? Also If he didn't love her how can guys have sex with a girl without having deep feelings for them? Thank you just curious....
A. 4 May 2011: The answer is: Of course NOT! But I do understand your consternation about it, because throughout my years (now 60-something), my personal feeling toward any woman who shared pleasures with me was, and remains, a very fond one.
At the very leas... (read in full...)
Oral Sex Can Be A Sharing Experience - Swallowing IS Equal...
Q. I am in my early fifties and my man is as well. We've only recently become intimate and I was not involved with anyone for a few years prior. So, I had a long time to think about sexuality and what I would do when back into it. My thoughts are tha...
A. 1 May 2011: When I said "a lot" of girl fluid, well, that's kind of a relative matter. My intent is not to be graphic but to speak of reality. It is certain that, in my experience performing cunnilingus, especially in the prone position, it seemed like "a lot" ... (read in full...)
Penis size insecurities......
Q. OK, so we've seen the barrage of penis size questions. Got me so curious I decided to actually measure mine. What I encountered was that it may be impossible to get an accurate measurement because there are probably 13 ways to measure it. I know ...
A. 29 April 2011: You are at least normal or better, so stop worrying about that, lose weight and learn how to really please a woman including providing her plenty of oral satisfaction (cunnilingus).... (read in full...)
Oral Sex Can Be A Sharing Experience - Swallowing IS Equal...
Q. I am in my early fifties and my man is as well. We've only recently become intimate and I was not involved with anyone for a few years prior. So, I had a long time to think about sexuality and what I would do when back into it. My thoughts are tha...
A. 29 April 2011: In reference to Jmtmj's comments, no, it does not require a female to "squirt" for the man to swallow a fair volume of female fluids. Properly applied over a period of 15 to 20 minutes or more, a good session of cunnilingus will typically elicit ... (read in full...)
Oral Sex Can Be A Sharing Experience - Swallowing IS Equal...
Q. I am in my early fifties and my man is as well. We've only recently become intimate and I was not involved with anyone for a few years prior. So, I had a long time to think about sexuality and what I would do when back into it. My thoughts are tha...
A. 26 April 2011: Gee. Well many of my past girlfriends and one ex-wife seemed to have similar enthusiasm, but please let me stress that I've long agreed that oral sexual satisfaction is best shared equally, as you stated. I'm not sure you adequately expressed the ... (read in full...)
I still have sex with my wife even though she is having an affair. Is this letting go?
Q. Is this what letting go means? My 42 year old wife is about a month into an affair with a man 25 years older than her. I have seen their email correspondence and the level of emotional attachment is unbelievable. This whole thing hit me out of th...
A. 25 April 2011: Well, I've been at that "stage" more than I enjoy recalling. Whether ex-wife or ex-girlfriend, there has, for me, too often been what I call ongoing "conjugal visits." For myself, one and most recent (15 years) after a 20 year marriage ended. Very ... (read in full...)
Why does my girlfriend laugh when I do something sexual?
Q. My girlfriend is 18 and whenever we do something sexual, she laughs. I mean we're kissing and I sneak my hand up her skirt and she'll giggle. Is it that she's immature? I've had sex with other girls and they didn't laugh. ...
A. 24 April 2011: Well if she allows your hand to go where you intend, then perhaps she likes it - thus the giggle!... (read in full...)
Is masturbation a normal thing??
Q. i have this problem i mustarbate sometimes i have a gf and we have briliant sex but i do and sometimes i feel watching porn and thats against my believe of 10 commandement. Wat i tink is i m too old 2 mustarbate and also tink i m not normal is the ...
A. 23 April 2011: Yes it's normal and, in fact, any human being on this planet who never masturbates would be the one abnormal. ... (read in full...)
How do I make sure my bf orgasms through oral sex?
Q. Ive never had sex before but my boyfriend has. He has said that none of his exs have been able to make him cum by just mouth he just gets soft after so long. I want to be his first. Dose anyone have any tips or sites I may visit? Thank You! :)...
A. 23 April 2011: Well, there are usually just three degrees of blow job, in my opinion. Good, better and fantastic! The only bad one is when the girl quits somewhere along the way. However, if your apparently new boyfriend has never popped for any previous ... (read in full...)
Feel very uneasy after older guy asked me out, and am not sure what to do.
Q. Hello aunts! I would like to start off by saying that I am 14 and a high school freshman. Four days ago, an 18 year old high school senior asked me out. Please don't judge the ages, I am aware. He's leaving for boot camp next fall and I do n...
A. 23 April 2011: Say no!... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is awful at oral sex!! How do I tell him this without hurting him??
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for nearly 2years. i truely love him.but he's awful at oral sex. I don't know how to tell him this without hurting him. What should I do?...
A. 18 April 2011: For years it has been most productive, I think, based on response from many male visitors here, when seeking advice from those perhaps older and more experienced at performing oral sex on wives and other female lovers. There are a number of very ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is awful at oral sex!! How do I tell him this without hurting him??
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for nearly 2years. i truely love him.but he's awful at oral sex. I don't know how to tell him this without hurting him. What should I do?...
A. 17 April 2011: Enter the word cunnilingus in the search area. Print out your favorite advice for him to read.... (read in full...)
Question about dating and sex in the later years.
Q. I'm a woman of 78 who has been alone a number of years. I joined a Senior Dating site recently. Now, this guy who's 68 contacted me. He is looking for a friend and a lover and asked me if I was interested. His first question to me was I still ...
A. 17 April 2011: In my opinion, all previous responders offered good advice. I'm 63-years-old in Texas and have experienced both good and (not so good) relationships, but it's kind of like fishing. You put a lure out there, and see who/what bites. As "TasteofIndia" ... (read in full...)
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