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Is it enough to want a divorce because my husband won't be intimate with me?
Q. Is it enough to want a divorce because my husband won't be intimate with me? It has been this way throughout our 25 years of marriage. He is a wonderful man and every one loves him, my friends, family, our two 20 something children. He would do ...
A. 6 August 2012: That is a very difficult decision, I must agree. But some degree of intimacy is part of life, and we only have one life on earth. The lack of sexual satisfaction may not improve in years to come, unless your husband changes his ways. Some consulting ... (read in full...)
I'm 25 while he's in his 40s'. Is dating someone so much older really a good idea?
Q. I am 25 years old and I work with an older man in his 40s. He sits in the cubicle behind me and another girl. The three of us always chatted and had silly conversations. I'd always greet him in the mornings and speak with him. We'd go out for coffee ...
A. 5 August 2012: Age does not matter to a relationship, providing there is love. The only problem may be in the long run, but that is if children are involved in the future. The children's father will unlikely be around as long, and he may not be around in your ... (read in full...)
Should I see other guys when I know I'm not over my ex?
Q. My ex finished with me almost 6 months ago, and it broke my heart and I'm still really struggling to get over it. Without wanting to sound vain, I get a lot of male attention and so a couple of months after, I started seeing someone else, but if I'm ...
A. 5 August 2012: After about 16 years, I still miss my wife of almost 20 years. The marriage ended when you were probably just a baby - in 1996. It is probably best that we have not even seen each other for 16 years - but yes, I still think about her quite ... (read in full...)
Any advice for a 44 year old virgin? I tried an escourt but had Erectile Dysfunction so she suggested a longer visit next time.
Q. I recently visited an escort agency to have sex for the first time at 44yrs of age but was unable to obtain an erection and nothing happened. Of course i was nervous even though the lady was very attractive, i booked for an hour. She suggeste...
A. 4 August 2012: You do not likely need Viagra or anything like that. You probably just need some opportunities, but as others have suggested, try the escort again if you like. Let her give you some head if she will.... (read in full...)
Any advice for a 44 year old virgin? I tried an escourt but had Erectile Dysfunction so she suggested a longer visit next time.
Q. I recently visited an escort agency to have sex for the first time at 44yrs of age but was unable to obtain an erection and nothing happened. Of course i was nervous even though the lady was very attractive, i booked for an hour. She suggeste...
A. 4 August 2012: Well there are a lot of unattractive women out there who need love too. I've never quite understood postings like this, I'll admit that I didn't have such a problem, though not vain, but I just see too many average people together. They seem to be ... (read in full...)
He's 30 years older and I have a major crush on him. What can I do? He's a real gentleman.
Q. Hi folks! Im seriouslyhaving an emotional problem now and cant ask anyone I know, please help! Ive been recently spending a little time with a man who I think likes me..... the only problem is He's like 30 years older than me and I am starting to l...
A. 4 August 2012: What do you want to know? Go ahead and see him - and see what happens. Well, I'm also much older and have been with much younger women, so I may be very bias, but I think that age is meaningless as long as there is caring, sharing, love and ... (read in full...)
I want her but she doesn't feel the same!
Q. I'm in love with my childhood friend we haven't talked for years about seven months ago we seen each other again she just got out of a bad relationship we started talking again ive told her I've wanted more than just being friends awhile back ago ...
A. 4 August 2012: Maybe, just maybe, her feelings will change. It is said that, "Absence makes the heart grow fonder." If not, you must move on. You are young.... (read in full...)
Can someone explain how such deep love can turn into such hatred?
Q. My ex boyfriend loved me very much at the beginning of our relationship. He used to buy me flowers, was very supportive, listened a lot, and tried very hard to make me happy. Over the years, his love slowly dwindled, to the piont where he fell in ...
A. 3 August 2012: It's hard to know or explain. Sometimes, relationships do not work out. Temptations from others can ruin a partnership, and that may result in regret. But a person must do their best to go on. ... (read in full...)
Masturbation seems to be the only solution for me. Any advice?
Q. Hi guys .. Here is my problem .. I am 28 and I am still masturbating until now ... like 4 times a week.. I started masturbating like about 12 years ago. I had many girlfriends but now I am single for about 6 years. My problems are: 1- I thin...
A. 3 August 2012: It's ok. Masturbation is certainly not preferable as the only sexual release, but it is perfectly normal and has no physical detriment. I somewhat understand your culture, having lived in Libya for one year (1964). My preferred society is America, ... (read in full...)
We've been together a month. No sex yet. But why did he stop at the first try? What gives?
Q. I need advice on why a man I've been dating would start to have sex and stop - saying he is tired and then the next morning not take me up on my advances. We've been dating for just over three and 1/2 weeks - fairly intense - and we both agreed t...
A. 2 August 2012: My "little Elvis" never left the building, at least not until I passed the age of 60. And that once occurred because of medications. I don't think that we can know why your bf failed to get it on with you, but as "Cerberus" suggested, "sex is ... (read in full...)
Why do woman hook up with married men?
Q. My question is simple, Why do women hook up with a married man? I would like to hear from those who had a relationship with a married man, why did you do it? Love? Sex? Adventure? ...
A. 2 August 2012: Once had a co-worker friend - nothing sexual but close - who maintained a relationship with a married man for years. I was appalled. It eventually ended, but I once asked why she did that. She responded that it was sex without commitment, but he ... (read in full...)
My wife gives BJs instead of sex but I'm missing the "connection" between us both!
Q. My wife is not interested in sex that much anymore. Maybe 1-2 times per month. However, her "easy way out" is to just give me a BJ once per week/every ten days or so. Is this normal? Although I love the BJ's, I feel I am missing the "connection"...
A. 2 August 2012: Well I very much agree with "eddie85." At least with most of his suggestions, especially that she may just want to keep you satisfied. Some women simply enjoy doing it, maybe even to the point of their own satisfaction. Most, however, prefer some ... (read in full...)
What exactly does "passionate sex" mean?
Q. Hi Everyone! So im seeing this new guy who is 8 years older then me,i am in my early 20's.Were getting on great and really enjoy being in eachothers company. The only thing that i am really worried about will be when it comes to our first time s...
A. 2 August 2012: My response to this can only be my personal one. Passionate sex, to me, means being very loving and caring about each other, and making sure that the partner is satisfied. Then, after, sharing a loving embrace as we fall asleep. It happens best, in ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to ejaculate very fast for the first time?
Q. I ejaculated very fast the other day when I was getting a handjob done by my girlfriend.(within 30 secs). I was extremely disappointed and kinda embarrased. It was the first time a girl touched my penis, but is that normal? What can i do hold it in ...
A. 1 August 2012: Yes, you shouldn't worry about that. Endurance will occur in time.... (read in full...)
Girlfriend WANTS to perform oral on me. However, I DON'T want it!
Q. Hi. As the title suggests, my girlfriend does want to perform oral sex on me. She keeps asking, every, single, time that I'm alone with her. I tell her, "No. I'm not ready for that. I am, however, ready for intercourse.", and she tells me she doe...
A. 1 August 2012: Your situation is one that many men dream about.... (read in full...)
Too tight after a break from sex.. help!
Q. I've been sexually active for almost 5 years with no problem. However recently my boyfriend went away for 6/7 weeks and he came back for a weekend to visit and I found it really hard to have sex as I was just too tight and it really hurt! It hurt ...
A. 1 August 2012: Well then, I agree that you may need to seek medical examination and advice.
I think it would be very unusual, however, to have such a problem that cannot be dealt with as suggested. My experiences with Asian women, for instance, has required a grea... (read in full...)
Too tight after a break from sex.. help!
Q. I've been sexually active for almost 5 years with no problem. However recently my boyfriend went away for 6/7 weeks and he came back for a weekend to visit and I found it really hard to have sex as I was just too tight and it really hurt! It hurt ...
A. 31 July 2012: In my opinion, the solution to such a situation is two-fold. First, plenty of sexual stimulation prior to intercourse, such as cunnilingus (oral). Secondly, simply take a little more time (patience) during insertion. The vagina has an incredible ... (read in full...)
I feel miserable after I ejaculate/Orgasm
Q. I feel miserable after I ejaculate/Orgasm. I have never been satisfied with masturbation and now I have started being sexually active again after some time I was hoping I would enjoy orgasm more but I get the feelings of being loved up with the ...
A. 31 July 2012: In all my years, I suppose there was some degree of post-orgasm let down, and that's why we usually go to sleep soon after. I cannot pretend to provide medical or phycological explanations, but I think that hormones or chemicals, possibly called ... (read in full...)
How can I squirt?
Q. dear cupid, here recently, my guy has started working his way up to the point where he can "fist" me. while it hasn't always felt like the most pleasant thing in the world, i have reached the point where i actually really, really enjoy it. on...
A. 31 July 2012: You probably never will "squirt." And you will never need to in order to enjoy your sexuality. I've been with dozens of women over the past 50 years, and pleased them, but only one ever did something close to that. I don't even know why is keeps ... (read in full...)
Men: Would you chose a nature program on tv or sex with your girlfriend?
Q. If you were 45 years old and had your 21 year old girlfriend ask you to bed for a blow job and sex would you choose a nature programme (that could be recorded) or your girlfriend. i would appreciate your comments ...
A. 28 July 2012: Well, I'm 64-years-old and have enjoyed some girlfriends perhaps younger than I care to admit. In short, I'd record the program. ... (read in full...)
Love, virginity, scared. How do I deal with my fears about losing my virginity with my BF?
Q. So I'm a virgin a complete utter virgin, but I think I might be too childish or I am thinking too childish about sex. My body is telling me it wants to but my head is saying different. I'm not scared of having sex, I'm just scared of what my ...
A. 27 July 2012: If you are not comfortable about it, then don't do it.... (read in full...)
This man wants to date with no strings attached
Q. man with bagage from last relationship just wants to hang out, no commitment, supper, movie, site seeing, sex and interrested in other women also what should i do?...
A. 25 July 2012: That does not sound like a good idea, unless all you want is sex without any likelihood for a committed or lasting relationship.... (read in full...)
Is it okay to experiment with women to gain sexual experience even though I won't be dating them?
Q. Recently I was having a chat with a friend and the subject of my virginity came up. He ask why I still choose to keep it because girls our age aren't anymore. He got me thinking that when I do find a girlfriend that she would have slept with many ...
A. 25 July 2012: Well, I do not think that I typically had a relationship with any woman without some possibility that it could be more meaningful. Truth: Maybe a few times. But usually, there was always, in my mind, a good reason to be with her, and that I had ... (read in full...)
I adore everything about him but his height turns me off!!
Q. After a break up, I met this guy that ive been friends with for about 9 months now. During the first 4 months we got a little physical but we did not have sex. I adore everything about him but his height turns me off so much. He's as tall as me and ...
A. 24 July 2012: Well, that all seems very silly to me, but I must admit that I'm a man of short stature. I'm an older man now, and have actually shrunk to about five and a half feet tall. Two of my wives in life were taller than me - and it did not seem to matter ... (read in full...)
Can someone explain the difference to me about love and lust?
Q. Can someone explain the difference to me about love and lust? See I've been crushing over this guy for ages, but I can't decide whether I feel love or lust. I know that only I can tell for sure whether I am in love but I cant decide whether it's ...
A. 24 July 2012: Love is something that grows over time due to sharing a lot of experiences, being together, agreeing about things, giving each other care and concern, being available and more.
Lust is just sexual attraction, usually based upon little more than phys... (read in full...)
Are some people meant to be single?
Q. I have been dating a guy for 2 or 3 months now, after a shaky start when I didn't think his relationship history was great. Fast forward to now, I should have seen him twice this week but made excuse the first time and just didnt reply to message...
A. 21 July 2012: You asked, "Do you think some people are simply made to go it alone?" Well, I think that the better way is to find a partner in life for many reasons, such as support, care, physical and emotional satisfaction, assistance and even the fact that it's ... (read in full...)
Do many divorce even when they are still in love?
Q. My husband and I are most likely divorcing, he refuses to work on things and a whole mess of other details I'm leaving out... Basically, I know it is the right thing to do. I know I deserve to be happy. I know that nothing will ever change. ...
A. 21 July 2012: To "MarriedOne," you wrote, "how can I divorce someone I love? I am going to go ahead and guess that my husband doesn't truly love me in return the same way..."
It is difficult to understand, as I know so well, but I hope you will eventually come... (read in full...)
Girlfriend WANTS to perform oral on me. However, I DON'T want it!
Q. Hi. As the title suggests, my girlfriend does want to perform oral sex on me. She keeps asking, every, single, time that I'm alone with her. I tell her, "No. I'm not ready for that. I am, however, ready for intercourse.", and she tells me she doe...
A. 20 July 2012: Well, I tend to agree with other responders that you both are not quite ready for a sexual relationship. She may be more ready than you, however. The "oral sex" part of this may have to do with her fear of unwanted pregnancy at this time in her ... (read in full...)
Do many divorce even when they are still in love?
Q. My husband and I are most likely divorcing, he refuses to work on things and a whole mess of other details I'm leaving out... Basically, I know it is the right thing to do. I know I deserve to be happy. I know that nothing will ever change. ...
A. 20 July 2012: Depending upon the ages of those involved, the years of history and experiences, whether or not children are involved and a few other factors that may apply, a divorce can be a very sad affair.
You do not say why you think that a divorce from your... (read in full...)
I'm having issues with oral sex. Help!
Q. Hi everyone. This is really embaressing. My guy wants me to deep throat him but he's too big! I literally just choke and have to stop and go back to just normal oral. Will the gagging go away with practise or is he doomed to never be satisfied? ...
A. 16 July 2012: While I must assert that a couple of deep plunges during a blow job are very stimulating, I'll agree that good oral does not require deep-throating. I won't estimate how many great blow jobs I've experienced in my lifetime, dating back to the late ... (read in full...)
I'm a 44 year old virgin, 1st time will be with escort. Any advice?
Q. I posted an earlier question about losing my virginity to an escort agency because i have never had sex or been on a date. Many thanks for the responses!! Someone answered that i couldn't possibly be so ugly, well you don't get to be 44 and not...
A. 15 July 2012: Better yet, Richard, approach that average-looking woman and say something "positive." "Nice weather today," or "Excuse me young lady, but I must say, that's a very nice outfit you're wearing." It doesn't matter much what you say if positive, ... (read in full...)
I'm a 44 year old virgin, 1st time will be with escort. Any advice?
Q. I posted an earlier question about losing my virginity to an escort agency because i have never had sex or been on a date. Many thanks for the responses!! Someone answered that i couldn't possibly be so ugly, well you don't get to be 44 and not...
A. 15 July 2012: As we say in Texas: Bullshit!
What more can I say to you than, "Just go screw a fat, ugly girl if that's what it takes to get you over the hump?" Damn it man, I've screwed a few, and some of them "begged" me for the attention. Plain women may sit ... (read in full...)
Would you stay in a sexless marriage?
Q. Would you stay with your husband, if he would go impotent, and it would not have medical cause? And on the top of. That, he would lose his affection too, so, basically the marriage becomes sexless? ...
A. 14 July 2012: Well ok, then you need an exit strategy. I wouldn't stick around either. Best wishes.... (read in full...)
I'm a 44 year old virgin, 1st time will be with escort. Any advice?
Q. I posted an earlier question about losing my virginity to an escort agency because i have never had sex or been on a date. Many thanks for the responses!! Someone answered that i couldn't possibly be so ugly, well you don't get to be 44 and not...
A. 14 July 2012: While I have no knowledge about what you will be allowed to do with an escort (never tried that), I cannot condemn your decision. If you are an adult male (as indicated), it is my opinion that you can and should be able to make a financial ... (read in full...)
Would you stay in a sexless marriage?
Q. Would you stay with your husband, if he would go impotent, and it would not have medical cause? And on the top of. That, he would lose his affection too, so, basically the marriage becomes sexless? ...
A. 14 July 2012: Well, if I became impotent, either as a married man or boyfriend, I will always have my tongue - please excuse any perceived crudeness. But the fact is, a man can still please a woman orally if he is so inclined. If affection remains in the ... (read in full...)
Is It OK To Have Sex Everyday?
Q. Is it OK to have sex everyday? I heard, and and have been asked that question quite a few times in my professional career. Having sex everyday, like most things, has it's advantages and disadvantages. Advantage #1: -- It's a form of physica...
A. 14 July 2012: Well, I'm uncertain that I provided much insight on the topic. Your posting seems more analytical and insightful, but in my 45-somthing years of sexual activity, I never really spent much time applying a lot of science to "getting some." I think ... (read in full...)
Why does my live in partner of 10 yrs. not make any attempts to have sex?
Q. Why does my live in partner of 10 yrs. not make any attempts to have sex? I always have to initiate and then it's to pleasure him as he just lays there, maybe he touches my nipples, but that's it. He does not get ontop of me and have intercourse. ...
A. 14 July 2012: As one of maybe two or three male responders to your posting, and as one who used to smoke a good deal of marijuana, I basically agree that you should plan a good exit strategy from this relationship. In my opinion, the smoking is not necessarily a ... (read in full...)
Is It OK To Have Sex Everyday?
Q. Is it OK to have sex everyday? I heard, and and have been asked that question quite a few times in my professional career. Having sex everyday, like most things, has it's advantages and disadvantages. Advantage #1: -- It's a form of physica...
A. 12 July 2012: There does not seem to be a question there, but sex everyday is a bit extreme. A few times a week is probably normal for most folks, especially in youth, and I never thought it much of any disadvantage at all. Perhaps too much time spent trying to ... (read in full...)
Why does my live in partner of 10 yrs. not make any attempts to have sex?
Q. Why does my live in partner of 10 yrs. not make any attempts to have sex? I always have to initiate and then it's to pleasure him as he just lays there, maybe he touches my nipples, but that's it. He does not get ontop of me and have intercourse. ...
A. 12 July 2012: My agreement is with "YouWish." The man seems basically very selfish based upon your description of the situation.... (read in full...)
Should all men last an hour in bed?
Q. My friends all think a guy should last an hour in bed, but my bf and i dont. We were both virgins and lost it to one another, and we are still getting use to it so therefore he cums quickly. Do you have any proof that this is a normal thing, and my ...
A. 11 July 2012: Even in my best years, an hour of fornication was impossible. I agree with others that foreplay can and sometimes "should" go on a good long time - maybe as much as 30 to 45 minutes or so. But my experiences of getting a woman "off" typically begins ... (read in full...)
Husband thinks my high sex drive is pathetic
Q. I'm 25 yrs old, 5ft 5, 124 lbs.... I am an attractive female, long burgundy hair, and I love sex... It is my absolute favorite thing on this earth. My husband is 5ft 10, brown hair, and about 20 lbs overweight. And he isn't a verry big fan of having ...
A. 7 July 2012: Well I think it sounds like a problem relationship. There must be something else going on in his life. A marriage, though I have had one very successful one and a couple of dumb ones, should be a partnership with passion and extreme friendship. It ... (read in full...)
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