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We had sex for the first time without a condom. Should I be worried?
Q. My girlfriend and me had sex (first time for both) without using a condom. She takes pregnancy pills, and she said it was ok, but i am still worried. Should I be worried? Shes also been complaining of feeling dizzy. but that could be anythin...
A. 27 November 2011: If she is indeed on "the pill," and has been for a few weeks - and IF she has been consistent with it per instructions, then pregnancy is unlikely. Nothing is 100% but I think the pill is somewhere around 90 percent effective, or better, IF properly ... (read in full...)
Technique of sex with elder lady
Q. I am going to have sex with a lady elder to me by three years..she is 44. I want to know how should i go about it all the way from beginning (kissing) to end (till she is complete). And what should i do if i come early, then what should i do ?...so ...
A. 26 November 2011: You consider a woman three years older to be elder? Somehow I think that she may be in terms of maturity, and you at 41 have much more growing up to do. Sorry, but so it sounds . . .... (read in full...)
How can I deep throat and swallow cum?
Q. Hello, I have recently begun giving my boyfriend blow jobs. He really loves it when I swallow, and I enjoy doing it for him. However, I hate the taste so I always try to make sure that he cums in the back of my throat. The problem is... wh...
A. 23 November 2011: First of all, to improve the flavor, your boyfriend could substantially increase his intake of fruits, notably pineapple, grapes and other sweets. Reducing intake of alcohol, certain vegetables such as asparagus, excessive red meat - and reducing ... (read in full...)
All I do is think about sex!
Q. I'm certainly not the first and I won't be the last to have this problem, but I can't stop thinking about sex. It's terrible! It started all of a sudden at the beginning of this month, and since then I haven't been able to concentrate on anything ...
A. 21 November 2011: Hardly do I think that you need a doctor, but indeed, it's hormones raging. Quite natural, don't you know. Although you infer that masturbation has not abated your desires, it may be due to techniques, but at your age, the sexual urge is prominently ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure if I want to wait till marriage to have sex now!
Q. I'm 19, going on 20, and my boyfriend is 20. Now, I'm the kind of girl that always believed in the "no sex before marriage" rule, and pretty much raised to believe sex is a taboo thing that is only for married couples, to make babies. But recently ...
A. 20 November 2011: You are very young, but I know that the young are very adamant about thinking that they are plenty knowing. I've been there. That being said, it would be very honorable of you and your boyfriend to refrain from full intercourse prior to marriage, ... (read in full...)
How do I ride him successfully?
Q. hi everyone. my man wants us to try different positions and its exciting but my problem is how to be on top. we've tried it but l just can't do it, l feel so heavy like my body wont move up or down and its so bad, once in he'll slide out coz l ...
A. 19 November 2011: Try leaning forward, and as "aunt honesty" recommends, practice!... (read in full...)
He moans about giving me oral, am I being unreasonable?
Q. Do I have the right to be upset? Thank you for all advice and for your time! I appreciate it all so much!!! I have been dating my boyfriend for six months. About two and a half months into our relationship we began to become intimate. I go d...
A. 19 November 2011: The key, based on your posting, is that your guy is selfish. He wants his jollies, but is not willing to reciprocate, which is simply unfair. As you know from previous experience, cunnilingus can be extremely pleasurable for most women. ... (read in full...)
Why is sex hurting now?
Q. I'm a worried seventeen year old and need some advice. I'm scared to whom I should turn to. My situation; I've been have sex for my boyfriend for the last ten months and just the last couple weeks, I feel like he has been hitting the top of my ...
A. 14 November 2011: Possibly a yeast infection.... (read in full...)
Peer pressure about sex/virginity
Q. Heya! I was just wondering about some help for peer pressure. Basically I'm almost 18, but I'm still a virgin when all of my friends are not. I'm getting a bit sick of every conversation I have with my friends having something to do with sex as it ...
A. 10 November 2011: Stick to your guns, as you say. Do not do what you are uncomfortable doing. A little hanky-panky may be ok, but not beyond your comfort level. I'm proud of you for your degree of resistance and higher level of morals, and be assured that I'm no ... (read in full...)
How can I forget these images of my girlfriend with her ex's?
Q. I want to know how can I take my mind off things from my girlfriend. She had sex with t different guys before she met me and several times with them but now I'm with her and since she told me I really got mad. It gave me the bad picture of thinking ...
A. 8 November 2011: It is what it is. Accept it or move on - because you cannot change it.... (read in full...)
Do most men want a younger woman and can't get turned on by their older wife?
Q. I'm really puzzled now. I want to know the truth about sexless marriages, when it is over 20 years long marriage. Now we reached 1 year with no sex, due to my husband lack of sexual desire, what started with an ED. But it stayed undiagnosed ...
A. 2 November 2011: As I'm sure you know, based on your reading, erectile dysfunction can often be caused by medications, notably Atenolol, a blood pressure remedy. But that aside, a number of other issues can cause the problem. While I can offer no solution for you, ... (read in full...)
Is this culture shock?
Q. Hello! Well...I am a latin woman (south american) who likes and enjoy going out. I love dance and have fun with people. I am living in US for almost 4 years now. Last weekend I went out with a friend of mine. She is american and we went to a very ...
A. 31 October 2011: Nothing at all wrong with your nature, but I suspect that something is wrong with your friend, or perhaps she became jealous of you. Or as "fi the tree" suggests, include her a little more in the fun. Enjoy yourself, above all!... (read in full...)
Having trouble having sex with gf! Please help!!
Q. hello 1) when my gf and I decided to have sex for the first time I couldn't enter my penis into her vagina. It was slipping a lot so we couldn't had sex and I also tried doggy style but failed ? whats wrong 2)while i was trying to have sex w...
A. 29 October 2011: Nothing wrong with the positions. It sounds to me that you were possibly not erect enough, or perhaps she was too uptight (tight) to receive. It is common for a virgin female to be difficult to penetrate if she is also nervous and insufficiently ... (read in full...)
My teeth get in the way during bj's!
Q. How can I get better at blowjobs? I don't mind giving them my boyfriend says I,m good but he says My teeth get in the way. I understand where he's coming from but if i retracked its doesn't feel the same but if i don't I scratch his area. What do I ...
A. 25 October 2011: Some girls do seem to have a problem keeping teeth out of the way, while most I've known have not. I'm not sure how they do it - they just be careful. Practice makes perfect, perhaps. ... (read in full...)
Everytime I'm with him, he gets a hard on!
Q. Hello! I am just beginning to date a new man (5 dates, its still early days and not yet 'official' in terms of being classed as bf/gf). He is a total sweetie, and a real gentleman, I really couldnt wish for a nicer man. I really do like him,...
A. 24 October 2011: Perhaps I've forgotten a few things about being very young and horny, or maybe an older man develops quite a degree of control. In truth, I do recall some spontaneous arousal at times, but never on a regular basis as described. One thing I do ... (read in full...)
Everytime I'm with him, he gets a hard on!
Q. Hello! I am just beginning to date a new man (5 dates, its still early days and not yet 'official' in terms of being classed as bf/gf). He is a total sweetie, and a real gentleman, I really couldnt wish for a nicer man. I really do like him,...
A. 23 October 2011: Well, I cannot recall ever getting an erection quite so easily, at least not without some kind of sexual talk, activity or visual stimulation. How do you know that is happening?... (read in full...)
How does a female know what's a good odor or bad?
Q. My sisters say their vagina's has a certain odor. One says hers smell like chlorine. The other says it smells like a rubber condom. Is that normal? They both haven't been sexually active for over a year. And their last pap smear was fine. Now they ...
A. 23 October 2011: By all means, they should not douche - that causes an imbalance in vaginal chemistry by removing beneficial bacteria. I speak as a man who has nuzzled many vulvas providing cunnilingus. It is certainly best to maintain excellent hygiene, washing ... (read in full...)
I feel completely addicted to my fiance, is this healthy?
Q. i feel completely addicted to my fiance. we have been together coming up to 4 years and since the very start of our relationship almost we have pretty much lived together. we do almost everything together besides work. normally in relationships i ...
A. 21 October 2011: So . . . what the hell can possibly be unhealthy about that?... (read in full...)
What advice do you have for an ugly girl?
Q. What advice would you give to an unattractive girl? Not beauty advice but life and dating advice...
A. 21 October 2011: Do not think of yourself as unattractive. You can be attractive to someone, but above all, think of yourself as caring, sweet, intelligent, friendly - whatever may apply. Everyone is beautiful in their own way. ... (read in full...)
27 virgin who has never dated. Is there hope for me?
Q. I am a 27 year old man who is also a virgin. I have never dated, never kissed never been in a relationship at all. All I have ever done is had cybersex and phonesex. If I ever do manage to meet a woman that wants to have sex with me I'm afraid I ...
A. 21 October 2011: You wrote, "I don't even know how to flirt properly."
Just smile, dude! Not too hard to do. Don't leer or grin like an idiot, just smile nicely. Give eye contact, and you do not even need to say very much. Let the girl do the talking. Be sure to l... (read in full...)
I'm still a virgin because every time I try to have sex, I can't.
Q. Hi all! I'm 23 yr old, and I have a prob. I'm still a virgin, and this is so because last (and the first) time I was having sex with my girl (and year and a half back!), I couldn't get an erection, and this happened twice in a row with the same ...
A. 20 October 2011: Seems you're just inexperienced. If I were you, I would not at all worry at this point. Possibly due to anxiety, which means you being way too apprehensive. Sit back, relax, kiss and fondle your girl until it gets you heated, then I'll bet some ... (read in full...)
27 virgin who has never dated. Is there hope for me?
Q. I am a 27 year old man who is also a virgin. I have never dated, never kissed never been in a relationship at all. All I have ever done is had cybersex and phonesex. If I ever do manage to meet a woman that wants to have sex with me I'm afraid I ...
A. 19 October 2011: It is never too late, but as the previous advisors suggest, man up and trust in yourself. Many women may prefer someone less experienced. Just be yourself, be friendly and smile. And when you see a wink, a coy smile or get a little touch from a ... (read in full...)
If both people in the relationship are virgins, can you still contract STD's?
Q. Hey so i was just wondering if both people in the relationship are virgins, can you still contract STD's?...
A. 19 October 2011: Very unlikely.... (read in full...)
How many men think sex isn't good unless a BJ in involved?
Q. How many of men consider that sex is not good without blowjob? Is intercourse alone not enough to satisfy a man? How many women would perform oral sex on a stable partner vs a casual sexual encounter?...
A. 18 October 2011: As another male responder, I'll agree that oral has become very accepted in an enduring relationship over the last 20 to 40 years in Western societies, but my position is that it must or should be entirely mutual. Oral sex is really nothing new - it ... (read in full...)
We havent had sex in 9 months! Help!
Q. Hi everyone. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 years next month. We haven't had sex in nine months, though he regularly asks me for oral, but if I say okay, but I want oral in return he says no. We live together, I feel confident he isn't ...
A. 15 October 2011: As two previous responders imply, it is easy for a guy to grow very content "receiving" oral satisfaction while being lazy about returning the favor. Indeed, this is totally selfish and unfair. I've been there, only briefly - because I soon learned ... (read in full...)
Couldn't get it up.....
Q. So there's this guy i've been hanging out with at uni. We're both 18, and he seems like a genuine lovely guy. Anyway the other night we were both out at a party with separate groups, but ended up hanging together, kissing etc. I should point out we ...
A. 15 October 2011: Alcohol can definitely be detrimental to sexual performance by a man, although in my experience, the effect is stronger with age. Inexperience may also be a factor with your "lovely guy." ... (read in full...)
Will a man notice my lack of experience?
Q. I am 27 and I only had sex several times with one man 5 years ago. And he wasnt able to provide any orgasm despite his supposedly vast experience with women at the age of 45. Will it feel weird the first time i have sex with a man again? (i have not ...
A. 14 October 2011: Perhaps. But that should be no concern to you. Most men would consider a lack of sexual experience on the part of a woman to be very desirable. Teaching and nurturing a woman's sexual abilities and potential can be a significant turn-on. Hopefully, ... (read in full...)
What can I do besides kegels to stop this?
Q. omg. . .agony friends i need help. .its embarrasing though but you helped me before here.lately when i had sex my vagina farts when he pulls it out. It has never happened before.what can i do besides kegels?...
A. 13 October 2011: Check the following archive location for a fairly detailed description of "angle of penetration" and grinding.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/why-does-vaginal-flatulence-happen-how-can-i.html... (read in full...)
What can I do besides kegels to stop this?
Q. omg. . .agony friends i need help. .its embarrasing though but you helped me before here.lately when i had sex my vagina farts when he pulls it out. It has never happened before.what can i do besides kegels?...
A. 13 October 2011: This should not bother you, but if your man uses a procedure I call "grinding" several times during intercourse, a build-up of compressed air inside the vagina is less likely. The movement can best be described as a kind of revolving motion which ... (read in full...)
A wifes past the good and the bad
Q. what is meant by the comment of a wife's past, or sexual past when i see women replying( her past has made her the wife who she is today) . what is the positives , and the negatives . are there any benefits or lost benefits . ...
A. 7 October 2011: ???... (read in full...)
I'm 30 and have no sex drive.
Q. Hi, I am a 30 year old male I have been with my girlfriend for 2 years now and she is 26. I have a problem with sex. I just don't seem to want it that much, I can go a month without it and I don't know why? My girl ask me for sex all the time but I ...
A. 6 October 2011: Hmmm, is it because you feel tired? Could be anemia, which is common depending upon diet. ... (read in full...)
Can I make myself taller?
Q. m 22 yrs old n my height is 5.4 inch only.. Is there another way to increase my height .. Plz suggest me How to increase my height?...
A. 3 October 2011: As a short American (now 5' 4"), I have rarely thought very much about it. I'm an older man now (63), but used to be 5' 5-1/2". People DO "shrink" with age.
For me, there were always short women available, however, two previous wives and seve... (read in full...)
How long do women want their men to last?
Q. I thought I'd ask a question instead of answering all the time. I answered a question recently about how long a man should last in bed? So here is the question. After penetration, and without stopping, how long do most men last and how long do ...
A. 2 October 2011: From a man's point of view, in my prime, typical endurance during standard intercourse ranged from about 10 to 20 minutes (sometimes much less). However, my recommendations here (to men) include to apply many minutes of stimulation, including ... (read in full...)
Nearly a year with him and he's never given me oral sex!
Q. ive been with my boyfriend nearly a yr and hes never given me oral sex!! he doesnt even talk bout it!! its the same old thing, nothing spontaneous we just watch tv go to bed, light goes off he gets on me does his business and says i feel better now ...
A. 28 September 2011: Does the term "self-centered" mean anything to you?... (read in full...)
We had sex 2 days ago but he hasn't mentioned anything since then!
Q. Dear cupid, i had sex with this guy 2 days ago but he has never talked abt it. We talk n laugh abt other things but he has kept that subject at bay. Yesterdy he kissed me bt neva said anythng. Was he jus havin fun with me?...
A. 28 September 2011: Sometimes, sex is just for fun. But sometimes, sex is a caring sharing of life. If he is still seeing you, it may hopefully be the latter, and develop into love. ... (read in full...)
I just want to find somebody who likes me for who I am, can I have some advice?
Q. I want sex! im 18 i have never done anything with a boy, im quite a curvey size 16, the problem is when im in clubs i have no confidence to go talk to guys, i feel like if they do come talk to me or want to dance they are making fun of me. Its very ...
A. 21 September 2011: Well I also have to agree totally with "CindyCares." Being in Texas, I have no experience in British clubs, but Texas gathering spots are probably little different. We used to call them "Meat Markets." There are better places and ways to "be ... (read in full...)
I am a flirt who loves to just want sex!
Q. Everytime I like a guy and I know he doesnt like me back I seem to use sex as a way to defend myself, i seduce him, get what i want and then get over him quick. The sex isnt that good, it gets the job done it feels good, but it doesnt please my ...
A. 20 September 2011: As I stated in my first response, I cannot condemn promiscuous. I'd be condemning much of my own life, but except for 20 years of committed marriage, as I've also been promiscuous. For me it has been fun, but it depends on what you want out of life. ... (read in full...)
I just want to find somebody who likes me for who I am, can I have some advice?
Q. I want sex! im 18 i have never done anything with a boy, im quite a curvey size 16, the problem is when im in clubs i have no confidence to go talk to guys, i feel like if they do come talk to me or want to dance they are making fun of me. Its very ...
A. 19 September 2011: Based on your posting, as a young woman of legal age in Britain, I think your difficulty is expressed in your statement, "I feel like if they do come talk to me or want to dance they are making fun of me." That is way too pessimistic. You probably ... (read in full...)
I am a flirt who loves to just want sex!
Q. Everytime I like a guy and I know he doesnt like me back I seem to use sex as a way to defend myself, i seduce him, get what i want and then get over him quick. The sex isnt that good, it gets the job done it feels good, but it doesnt please my ...
A. 18 September 2011: That's my point. It would seem that sex with you is your way of manipulating your relationships, or apparent lack thereof, which leads to endless relationship failure (they don't like you back, as you said). No good and descent man will want that ... (read in full...)
I am a flirt who loves to just want sex!
Q. Everytime I like a guy and I know he doesnt like me back I seem to use sex as a way to defend myself, i seduce him, get what i want and then get over him quick. The sex isnt that good, it gets the job done it feels good, but it doesnt please my ...
A. 17 September 2011: You are on a bad trend here, in my opinion, something that I have witnessed and frankly, taken advantage of earlier in life. Ok, recently as well. Many women do tend to become rather promiscuous while seeking attention and love, very often in vain. ... (read in full...)
When should two people start having sex in a relationship?
Q. Hey all, simple question. So I have been broken up with my ex for over a year now and I'm reflecting back on past mistakes. I'm wondering maybe one of the mistakes was that we had sex too early. We talked about sex maybe 3 weeks into our ...
A. 16 September 2011: Whenever the time is right, and when comfortable with it in every way. ... (read in full...)
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