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How can I get my man hard?
Q. Hey, ok well I've been with my boyfriend for a few months now. And I love him so incredibly much. Well the problem is, that it always seems as if he has issues getting hard. But when he does finally get hard the sex is incredible. But I know he ...
A. 6 May 2012: Laying down can be an issue getting hard. Try massaging his member while he stands in front of you - applying kisses and licks as well. Standing in front of my woman during oral sex is also very stimulating in my experience.... (read in full...)
Using my tongue giving blowjobs
Q. I've been reading up on how to give good blowjobs, and I know that using your tongue well goes a long way, but I'm a little unsure about some things. I'm fine giving attention to his sensitive spots if that's the only thing I'm doing, but if I've ...
A. 6 May 2012: It would be very difficult to improve upon the advice from "YouWish" - she's got it down. But as a man, I really don't feel too much from any special tongue movement while getting a blow job when inside. The tongue certainly applies stimulation ... (read in full...)
Do men find women attractive if they're breasts aren't even?
Q. Just a quick question... Do you find a woman attractive even if they have asymmetrical breasts? I know many womens breasts are different but mine are by about half a cup size to about a cup size when I am on the pill or on my period. I am think...
A. 6 May 2012: Should not matter at all to any good man.... (read in full...)
Is it normal for a 28 year old man to lose interest in his wife after just 3 years?
Q. This will be the second time that I have posted a question on this site, the last time was incredibly helpful for me! So here we go. Me and my husband have both just been discharged from the military, I was medically separated, he was honorably di...
A. 5 May 2012: I'm not so sure at all that my suggestion was helpful. I wish it was. But based on your posting, it still seems to me that there must be something else going on in your husband's mind, or in his life, that you may not be aware of. It is very ... (read in full...)
Husband putting oral sex above everything else.
Q. My husband and I have been married for 6 years, our sex life has always been great, but lately I feel that I am nothing more than a mouth for him. He wants oral sex everyday, and though I dont mind it, it seems that he has no emotions about it, no ...
A. 1 May 2012: When a man has a wife or girlfriend who provides good oral pleasure, it is easy to slip into a mindset that receiving oral from her is much like quick release via masturbation. Oral sex is a wonderful thing, but only when mutual and usually when ... (read in full...)
How unusual is it for a woman to have numerous orgasms in a row without any significant pause between them?
Q. How unusual is it for a woman to have numerous orgasms in a row without any significant pause between them? I have not been with a large number of women, but one of my first girlfriends would almost always have many orgasms in a row, almost like...
A. 30 April 2012: It's not common for a woman to have multiple orgasms, but not impossible either. In my experience with a number of women - I'm in my 60s - many could have two or more under the right circumstances. Yes, it usually requires good foreplay techniques, ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for a 28 year old man to lose interest in his wife after just 3 years?
Q. This will be the second time that I have posted a question on this site, the last time was incredibly helpful for me! So here we go. Me and my husband have both just been discharged from the military, I was medically separated, he was honorably di...
A. 30 April 2012: Well this is more a relationship problem than a sex issue, in my opinion. But it is a combination of the two. I'll assert that no 28-year-old male should have any problem having sex with his wife unless there are serious medical issues, which may be ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to be repulsed by oral sex?
Q. Hi. I'm 17 years old and I'm dating a 21 year old man. We've been dating for 2.3 years and I lost my virginity to him over a year ago. He is my first boyfriend and was my first everything. Anyway, we have a pretty active sex life (3-4x a week) and ...
A. 29 April 2012: I'll agree with "person12345" that "oral sex is not a requirement," but I also think it is a two-way issue. In other words, you are receiving oral satisfaction from him and you say that you "love it." But you don't want to return the pleasure.
I... (read in full...)
Please help, I feel disgusted.
Q. I feel ashamed of myself after masturbating over webcam to my friend, I found it a buzz at first, but now I feel sick of myself and hate myself for doing it. Is it normal to feel this way? Is it even normal to do it in your mid teens? I can't look ...
A. 27 April 2012: Masturbation is normal, whatever your sexual orientation.... (read in full...)
Viagra won't work without desire...any ideas for increasing my libido?
Q. What could be a cause of that I dont care about sex anymore at all? I used to be very horny, and now, I dont even care for porn or any sexual contact with my wife? What could cause such a big change in me? I know,I'm asking, I should know better. ...
A. 26 April 2012: Well, I'm quite a bit older, but my own abilities and desires subsided a few years ago. Viagra did help when I had the opportunities after a 20 year marriage came to an end, but the cost is outrageous! It still works fairly well, but you're correct ... (read in full...)
I think she likes me and I want to have sex with her, how do I ask her?
Q. Hi I have a problem. There is this girl I know and I have wanted to have sex with her for years but i have always been too afraid to ask. I have heard rumors that she likes me and that she has spoken to friends about having sex with me. I am a ...
A. 25 April 2012: Uh, dude, unless the world has turned upside down since last night, you simply ask the girl out on a nice date and expect more dates to follow before she drops her panties.... (read in full...)
How can I make sure I last longer than 5 seconds when we do have sex?
Q. I've been seeing this new girl for about a month now. She is super amazing, sweet, kind, funny and the hottest girl I have ever dated and I REALLY like her. We are taking things slow because her last relationship ended badly and I didnt want to ...
A. 24 April 2012: I'll agree with Daniel - You're probably ok, and that you were just excited. Don't fret about it. ... (read in full...)
How do I use kegel exercises?
Q. I've read that kegel exercises during sex can help reaching vaginal orgasm. I know what kegels are but I'm wondering how i should practice while I'm having sex. Should I squeeze and try to hold it for as long as i can and then release or should I ...
A. 24 April 2012: Squeeze and release repeatedly. As a man, I'm unsure that Kegel technique aids female orgasm, but it certainly brings about male climax. Only a few women I've known did it well, one in particular. It was quite spectacular, and felt similar to ... (read in full...)
Girfriend has not orgasmed, am I doing something wrong?
Q. I have had sex with my gf three times and fingered her millions of times but not once has she orgasim ,should i do it longer ? My gf said her playing with my penis turns her on, is this a good thing ?...
A. 24 April 2012: In my opinion, "YouWish" provides excellent advice. For more about cunnilingus, search for my postings in the Web site archives.... (read in full...)
Could I just be turned off from my wife?
Q. Hello there. I need some opinion about my really disturbing problem. I have a ED , a few years ago. I went to the doctors, checked everything ,more than once, and Im perfectly healthy. So it does not make sense. But I never think of sex, not with ...
A. 23 April 2012: Well you could try Viagra, which works for me at age 64. It is outrageously expensive, a true rip-off. I wish it was no longer needed at that cost, but occasionally works for erectile dysfunction. Best wishes.... (read in full...)
Girfriend has not orgasmed, am I doing something wrong?
Q. I have had sex with my gf three times and fingered her millions of times but not once has she orgasim ,should i do it longer ? My gf said her playing with my penis turns her on, is this a good thing ?...
A. 23 April 2012: Yes it is a good thing that she likes playing with your junk, but you should possibly spend more time playing with hers, and especially giving oral, if you wish and know how.... (read in full...)
Does having the urges but not acting on them still make me addicted to sex?
Q. So this question is mostly for the ladies but men please comment too. Im a 20 year old young woman and Im wondering if i have a problem. I have this insane attraction to hispanic men. If I wouldnt be considered a whore then I would just "have" them ...
A. 17 April 2012: At your age, sex is a perfectly normal urge. In fact, it will be normal for many years to come and, hopefully, throughout your life. Whether your attraction is toward hispanic men or anyone of a particular race or look is immaterial in my opinion.
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Should I find my wife a younger man to have sex with?
Q. i have trouble having sex for sometime and now my wife is not interested in sex she says its the mediciene she is taking should i find her a younger man to have sex with to satisfy her needs she has been patient but im afraid she will want sex ...
A. 29 March 2012: This sounds extreme. If it ain't broke, don't try to fix it.... (read in full...)
I want sex more than once a week!
Q. I've been with my bf for 8 months now and we usually have sex once a week. I'm horny most of the time and i feel like having a conversation with him about how much (or how little) sex we have and that i need more to be satisfied. I end up ...
A. 27 March 2012: As I recall (it's been awhile), but in my thirties, sex about twice a week was fairly normal. But it depended on the woman and the kind of sex. Some of my girlfriends back during the 1970s were very much into giving and receiving oral. Most were, in ... (read in full...)
She says I suck in bed because my penis is too small and I'm not very good at having sex with her! What can I do to give her the best sex she's ever had?
Q. Hi I have a really big issue with my girl Basically she says I suck in bed that there is only one position that she likes that gives her pleasure but not nearly enough to satisfy her. She thinks it's because my penis is too small and since I lo...
A. 26 March 2012: There is nothing in the world, short of perhaps some very questionable surgery, that you can do about penis size. All the pills you see advertised are scams. Presumably, you know about oral. The one thing I can suggest is to change your angle of ... (read in full...)
Have I missed out by not having sexual experiences with any guy other than my boyfriend?
Q. I lost my virginity a bit later than most and have been with that boy ever since which is four years. I can see myself marrying him one day but I have one problem. He's slept with other girls before me and I feel a bit weird thinking I could marry ...
A. 25 March 2012: Should not be a problem, but example: My ex-wife was fairly inexperienced when we married in 1978, As I recall, she had been with one man, her first husband, and I think one other. I had been very sexually active for years. She occasionally lamented ... (read in full...)
Guys: Would you prefer a girl not swallow and spit in a tissue?
Q. okay guys i need to know:the guy i'm seeing said he personally doesn't matter if i spit or swallow when giving him a blowjob. so my question is, if we aren't going to swallow, ( i do occasionally) would u prefer to pull out and cum on the woman's ...
A. 22 March 2012: Some men do not even like a blow job at all. Most do, apparently, but of those, many do not care whether you complete to climax - and some may prefer it only as foreplay. Some guys, reportedly, prefer to complete gratification by pulling out and ... (read in full...)
How do I tell him I am still a virgin?
Q. I'm 20, I've been together with my boyfriend who is 21 for 2 months now and we have done pretty much everything in bed except full sex. He told me at the beginning that he has only had sex with one person (his ex girlfriend who he was with for 3 and ...
A. 21 March 2012: In my opinion, "worldlywise" said it well. Just tell him. That is certainly nothing about which to be ashamed whatsoever.... (read in full...)
Is this masturbation pattern normal?
Q. Well, I'm 17 and i have a problem. I masturbate every night. I constantly think of my gf, especially of the days we have sex. I went on a college tour and i didn't masturbate. I went on a trip and i didn't do it. Only at night when im most ...
A. 18 March 2012: Sounds a bit frequent, but at your age, probably not especially abnormal. Cut back on the pornography, if you use that. You would probably cut it down to two-three times a week.... (read in full...)
Men, would you cheat on your partner if you knew you wouldn't get caught?
Q. This is a question for the men that have been married for quite some time or are in a long term relationship. Are you truely happy/satisfied with your wife sexually? I was reading an article the other day about "spicing" your relationship up....
A. 18 March 2012: During my 20 year marriage, I had numerous opportunities and turned them down. Will admit that some were very tempting, but I was happy at home and committed. Unfortunately, she was not quite as devoted. Though I had no proof of infidelity on her ... (read in full...)
Thirty, single, no prospects, frequents hookers.
Q. Hi, i have recently turned thirty, only to realise that i am growing old with no experience with women and dating game. i just feel shallow, empty and detached. i have been away from home when i was 15 and have lived for the last 15 years on my own. ...
A. 17 March 2012: Pick a plain or average looking girl. Don't bother with the hot ones. Force yourself to talk with the lonely, average girl, then ask her out. Go to a movie, or better, out to dinner. Stop screwing with prostitutes and don't mention it to anyone. ... (read in full...)
Why do men want oral sex?
Q. why do men want oral sex ...
A. 16 March 2012: Because it feels fantastic.... (read in full...)
The lack of sex has put me in a constant state of frustration and I don't know what to do
Q. Hi there. I am 53 f engaged to 51 m. We have been living together for 2 years and are getting married later this year. I keep putting off the date as I get a knot in my stomach when I think about it. The problem is that sex is not happenin...
A. 15 March 2012: Older men on medications, especially bet blockers like Atenolol, often have erectile dysfunction issues. Thus may be your future: little sex. If he is on blood pressure meds, there are some alternatives. ... (read in full...)
*Interesting oral sex tip*
Q. Just one i learnt along the way. If you lie down on the bed, and hang your head over the edge, your gag reflexes are reduced A LOT! Your fella will be amazed at how deep he can go!...
A. 14 March 2012: There are two ways I know to suck a cock best. One is as you suggested. Hang over the edge of a bed backwards and take it in. The erection can go a little deeper The other is on all-fours on the edge of the bed. My ex-wife did that for years. Either ... (read in full...)
How do men react when they get to know that their partner has been masturbating in secret?
Q. what are men's reaction to their spouse's secret masterbation? im 34 and Ive been living wth my bf almost 11 years ... its been almost four years he lost his sex derive ... we do it almost once a month ... and Im always horney ... we love each oth...
A. 13 March 2012: Masturbation is quite normal, but in a marriage, a man should be pleasing his wife more often than once a month. Even if he has erectile problems or lack of sex drive, he can please a woman with his tongue. To answer your question, I don't see any ... (read in full...)
Is this guy using me for sex?
Q. X and i had this brother sister thing going on at first and made it very public. we got very close and we even have the same friends. later, i realized that i had a crush on him (X) i told him that one day and after a brief period of not talking ...
A. 12 March 2012: Well, I don't see why is would deter an ongoing relationship. But there are probably more issues going on here than you have revealed. Talk with the one you want and get rid of the other, or enjoy the fun. You are still very young.... (read in full...)
How do you deal with a partner's thick pre-ejaculate?
Q. Hello all and thanks for reading :) I've given my new partner oral sex in the shower and in bed, but it was after having made love already earlier that evening. However, most recently, we were getting into the mood, lots of foreplay, so I too...
A. 12 March 2012: That is what is known as pre-cum. It is a lubricating few drops meant to coat the vagina prior to ejaculation and is usually a bit more sour than cum. Most of my girlfriends didn't seem to mind, but some just wiped it away prior to taking the sperm ... (read in full...)
Porn and erectile dysfunction?
Q. I have a question about porn and ed. I have come to discover stories of men who have trouble getting erect over a real woman when they have used porn alot. Is that because those porn women are hotter? Would they still have that problem if a woman ...
A. 11 March 2012: Too much porn and masturbation screws up a guy's ability to have normal sex with a woman, in my opinion. Pornography was rather hard to come by when I was growing up in the 1950s-60s, so sex required reality. As a freedom loving American, I have no ... (read in full...)
My husband is fearful of touching me, I want to know techniques and ways I can satisfy him?
Q. My Husband is sexually so active (2-3 times/day in an intercourse, and last for 50-60 mins each time or 7-8 time if masturbating),for the first few months of our marriage, i used to bleed after intercourse, and feel sore even though, i checked with ...
A. 11 March 2012: Well, oral sex is one way if you would be willing. It is confusing why a husband would refrain from sex with his wife if everything is ok down there. If you want to do orally, it should certainly please him and you probably know how to do it.
H... (read in full...)
Is this guy using me for sex?
Q. X and i had this brother sister thing going on at first and made it very public. we got very close and we even have the same friends. later, i realized that i had a crush on him (X) i told him that one day and after a brief period of not talking ...
A. 11 March 2012: Should we assume that you are sexually active with both your friend and your boyfriend? Does your "friend" also have relations with others? If true, then it would seem you are doing what a lot of guys try to do - which is to have multiple lovers. ... (read in full...)
I'm confused and frustrated!
Q. This guy and I have become friends over the last few months. I am into him and while I've never directly told him this, it's no secret; he has to be very well aware of it. In many ways it seems like he's into me too. We hang out a lot, stay up all ...
A. 11 March 2012: Give him a kiss and see what happens.... (read in full...)
At 21, all of the good looking women are taken and all that's left are "leftovers"
Q. Ive gotten to a point where no women is good enough for me to date. At 21 all of the good looking women are taken and all that's left are "leftovers". I feel I owe it to myself to find the best the world has to offer and I haven't seen it in ...
A. 10 March 2012: When I was young, I learned one thing: Take what you can get. Some were the hottest, but most were average in looks. The average were always the best. With your attitude, you do need to get used to being alone. ... (read in full...)
Should the girl lead the way, when the boy is unable to achieve an erection??
Q. ive been seeing a really great guy and the other night we decided we were ready to take it to the next level and have sex. we didnt have very long before i had to go so we went into his room and started messing around, to be honest i realised then ...
A. 10 March 2012: Somewhat agree with "Sageoldguy1465" that the circumstances were not ideal. Next time he has trouble with erection, give him some nice sucking, and if that doesn't get him "up," then he has a problem. ... (read in full...)
I have extreme anxiety and nerves about "receiving" oral sex!
Q. I have extreme anxiety and nerves about "receiving" oral sex. I am 100% ok with the giving to my male partner, but when it comes to the thought of him giving to me I get really insecure about it. I have never received oral. With my ex bf of 4 ...
A. 9 March 2012: A woman's privates do have some degree of distinct "smell" and taste. For men who are accustomed to such, it will be no problem. All you need to do is cleanup well before. You should not douche or do anything unordinary. A nice, clean vulva is a ... (read in full...)
Little sex, I'm working nights, found wife's sex toy. Is she cheating?
Q. My wife and I have been together for 4 years but in the last 3 have only had sex maybe 6 times. Just resently I found a sex toy after she went away for a weekend for work. I know she has been using the lotion she got for us also when I was working ...
A. 8 March 2012: Responder "AuntyEm" is correct. And I'll add that masturbation is not cheating, It's quite normal. But you need to figure out why a married couple are having sexual relations twice a year? That ain't normal! ... (read in full...)
Starving for sex while husband jeks off in the next room!
Q. My husband sneaks off to masturbate. One morning I woke up and wanted a cup of coffee while I watched whatever show I had recorded the previous night. My husband had left about an hour before, while i was still asleep. I made my coffee, and in m...
A. 6 March 2012: In my opinion, eddie85 had part of it right, when writing, "Most men do masturbate -- even married ones." So do most women. But I'll agree that some folks get addicted to it, usually due to easily available porn. If the sex life between couples is ... (read in full...)
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