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Hi everybody. I am an Italian woman currently living in Italy but I spent many years in England and USA. I hope my English is still decent but in case it got a little rusty, please be lenient.

My age ? Let say that I am way past the stage when you cry if the boy you like takes your best friend to the prom, and young enough to remember how awful that feels.

What qualifies me to help people- well, let me show off just a bit and mention that I studied Psychology 4 years in college, and, even if then I graduated in a different subject, I never lost my interest in psychology and kept reading a lot about this subject. Yet that does not really qualify me for anything because intellectual knowledge is not the same as real life experience. So let's say I feel I can advice people because I have lived a lot, travelled a lot, met a lot of people from all backgrounds , races and religions- I have loved a lot, and I have also been dumped a lot :)

Plus, I am really fascinated with people and their stories. Not in a gossipy way. I just find that every person is a whole new world that I am excited to discover.

Right now I am single- and happily so. I realized- better late than never - that rather than waiting for Prince Charming I should first become a Princess myself. You can't love anybody unconditionally, if first you don't love yourself unconditionally, and this is what I am learning to do.

Looking forward to hear from all of you..

Ciao

Cindy

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19 August 2014: Yeah I know : ultimately love is a mystery, not an exact science. There's always an element of sheer luck, of serendipity, of magic in it. Some times you do everything right, by the book, you are the perfect gf / wife / lover .. and you still get ...

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A.   14 May 2015:  I am glad that you and I did not get the same memo and we did not read the same books. Otherwise, I would not have enjoyed relationships- and sex too - as I did in my 40s and 50s. Oh so it's all stuff for the youngsters and then no more ?...... (read in full...)

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A.   11 May 2015:  Yes, Chigirl, you are right, and maybe I was reading too much between the lines : Due to the many posts that we get from women who get offended / insecure if they do not get daily ( or hourly ! ) texts with " Hi " , " Miss you " " I'm at work... (read in full...)

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A.   11 May 2015:  You did not do anything wrong, you just invited someone out,- which is anyway a kind and flattering gesture, you would not have done it if you had not liked the guy, and I don't see who could take issues with being liked and shown interest !, it is ... (read in full...)

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A.   10 May 2015:  Maybe it would not be " wrong " but it would be like shooting at flies with a cannon. The punishment does not befit the crime. Ok, obviously your colleague had a foot-in-mouth moment while she should have known better. Then again, why are you ... (read in full...)

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Q.   I know there has been one or two similar posts, but I would really appreciate negative or positive reponses on the following, from females or males who have experience in this. You meet a guy you think is cute at a party, bar etc, get on really w...

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Why are (many) women disgusted by sexual interest from an older man?

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A.   8 May 2015:  Eh yes, OP, some things can't be explained rationally, and charisma is one of those . It's like an aura you are either born with or without. Probably your colleague has it ( and he is also helped along by his behaving like a gentleman rather than ... (read in full...)

His behavior toward my belongings was vindictive and unstable. I think I am being emotionally abused!

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I know she loves me, but she doesn't show the affection I'd like her to!

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A.   8 May 2015:  I know this is a disappointing answer but...., what about accepting this is how she is, and that different people have different needs for physical closenessa and intimacy. You may be heaven for some women - and way too much for others. ( I was not ... (read in full...)

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A.   7 May 2015: @EyesWideOpen. NC ? On the beach...? Yes, but , you know how I talk, EWO, I talk " difficult ", they would not understand me in NC... I need to stay at yours ! Pretty please ? Lol. Sorry, OP, little inside joke. OP, I feel your pain, I do. I ca... (read in full...)

Am I being paranoid? Why doesn't my serious boyfriend of almost 1 year invite me to hang out with his coworkers?

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A.   7 May 2015:  You did nothing wrong, OP. Do no evil, fear no evil. You sent flowers with no hidden agenda, from a kind warm impulse of your heart. You surely did not mean to offend. If THEY have chosen to take it the wrong way, as if you were trying to musc... (read in full...)

Why are (many) women disgusted by sexual interest from an older man?

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A.   7 May 2015: @ male anon : so, - what would you advocate in lieu of what you perceive as unjust entitlement ? Sexual marxism-leninism :) ? " To each according to his own NEEDS, not his own merits " ? It would be a very interesting experiment. I am pretty ... (read in full...)

Why are (many) women disgusted by sexual interest from an older man?

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A.   6 May 2015:  This is the first time after a few years already on Dear Cupid- that I do not understand what exactly we are debating about. Re-inventing hot water :) ?... Blame it on biology if you wish, but , with few exceptions ( people have their quir... (read in full...)

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A.   6 May 2015:  " like I see it " said it beautifully and detailedly, I'll keep it shorter and simpler: you do not want to get married WITH THIS GUY. You want to get married, period. And this guy seemed the type who could be convinced to follow the program ( al... (read in full...)

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A.   6 May 2015: Hehe. Freudian slip ? I meant obviously " FLAWED, imperfect me ".... (read in full...)

Every man I've ever been involved with has sought out porn featuring women who look different than me!

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A.   6 May 2015:  You've got good advice alreday, but I want to try adding another angle. You say you suspect that your exes settled for second best with you, and that if they could have " done better " they would. Well, don't we all ? Including you ? Don't we... (read in full...)

Would girls laugh and blow kisses to someone don't know, but they do find that person to be attractive, to them?

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A.   6 May 2015: Who knows. Maybe they knew him, maybe they were just being silly. Had it happened here, I'd definitely say it was a tongue-in-cheek, polite alternative to showing him the middle finger,in case he had been too brusque or impatient in waving them... (read in full...)

Is he telling lies too? He is calling me a liar about changinng my mind

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A.   6 May 2015:  I think your bf is telling you the truth. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder ; perception is subjective and can shift,for better or for worse, according to what you feel for a given person. He is saying that you have " grown " on him. I reme... (read in full...)

How can I have a successful relation with a guy when my mother is so disruptive, judgemental and interfering?

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A.   5 May 2015:  First, move out asap. And second, don't take what she says so at heart .So she does not like your bf. And ? ... Be cool with it. She is another person from you, with another outlook on life, other ideas etc. - so what. Apparently, you do not like ... (read in full...)

A family holiday where my feelings were perhaps forgotten? Shouldn't they at least consider how I would feel, considering the problems last year?

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A.   5 May 2015:  Often I agree with Chigirl, but not this time. I think it is relevant that the Aunt is the one footing the bill . If she is the one so kind to pay for everything, do we want at least to leave her the privilege to choose WHERE she'd like to g... (read in full...)

Is it wrong or weird that I'm kind of jealous of younger women?

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A.   5 May 2015: OP, do you know what's the REAL long and short of it ? That , if you had spent one quarter of the time you are spending researching "first time " issues on this and other on line forums... by joining instead some salsa dance class, or Meetup grou... (read in full...)

She is refusing to face financial facts and is moving back home to her parents

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A.   5 May 2015:  I am sorry to hear this, OP. Sorry...but not surprised ,I must say. AS you have seen, alas, love is not everything, then you've also got to sort of belong to the some " world " ( psychologically ), and yours sounded very different. You sound like... (read in full...)

Why is she contacting me again? What is she trying to achieve?

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A.   5 May 2015:  Why ? Because she is NUTS, that's why - hasn't she proved it to you enough ? Do you need more ? .. As far as what she wants to accomplish,.. who knows what goes through her disturbed mind. Probably in her head if she MAKES you pay attention to h... (read in full...)

What am I doing wrong to annoy so many people? I keep having this problem where I lose fiends.

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A.   5 May 2015:  To annoy people you act, well, annoying :)? and not age- appropriate. The silly/giddy/aw shucks / running around hydrants thing is cute when you are 16, - 10 years later is only CUTESY, and eye-roll inducing - YOU have fun, but the other peop... (read in full...)

How else could I have handled this situation? Am I wrong to be upset at his behaviour?

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A.   5 May 2015:  I can't see that your husband did anything wrong. Maybe he was not mad when you complained, just baffled : why would you choose to wait in the parking lot ? It does not make sense . It's comfier and easier to go straight to the restaurant , it's ... (read in full...)

I'm pissed that I told my BF I missed him in a text and he did not bother to reply back!I'm pissed that I told my BF I missed him in a text and he did not bother to reply back!

Q.   Why does it bother me so much that I sent my boyfriend a text saying "Have a good night. Miss you." And nothing. No response. No "I miss you too." It was five hours ago. He was out with his family for dinner and texted me to touch base. I texted ...

A.   4 May 2015:  Major overreaction. Your message sounded pretty final, like : we are done for tonight- and did not require any reply. Personally I feel that's also a by- product of the USA overuse of expressions like " Love you " " miss you " etc. A " miss you ... (read in full...)

I've repeatedly asked him whether he wants to break up but he says he doesn't. Yet he's cold to me and unaffectionate.

Q.   I'm 31. I met my present fiancé about four years ago and we've been in a committed long distance relationship. He's 48 and twice divorced previously. We've always got along well. Needless to say, I love him very deeply. Over the past three weeks...

A.   4 May 2015:  He does not want to break up- as long as he is not the one who has to adjust , or change communication and fighting styles. At 47 people are pretty much who they are, they don't just turn into their evil twin overnight. Simply, before you had ... (read in full...)

Do you think she will feel uncomfortable if I suggest keeping in contact at the end of the course? Email? Phone?

Q.   Hello, agony aunts. I'm a female English teacher and I'm wondering whether one of my students, whom I really appreciate, would be interested in keeping in touch once she's gone to university. I've been her teacher for two years and we've alwa...

A.   4 May 2015:  You are only 18-21 and you have already been a teacher since two years ?...How come ?... (read in full...)

Despite the difficulties I still love her. But what to do? My daughter thinks that I should ask her to leave

Q.   My partner is causing me concern in that she does the complete opposite of what is asked of her, when we got together she was very quiet and then after a couple of weeks she started talking to me with rude words. I told her that I dont take this typ...

A.   4 May 2015:  Your partner does not want ro be your partner. What else can you do but letting her go ? She is 42, it's HER call to decide if she is fit enough to be alone on her own.... (read in full...)

How can I tell him I have trouble trusting any guy? I can't help but get the feeling he is leading me on for a bet

Q.   I like this guy and I can't help but get the feeling he is leading me on for a bet. I feel like it only because it has happend before. He tells me he's a virgin but yet I can't trust anyone. I want to tell him I like him. But he says I'm shy abo...

A.   4 May 2015:  Why would you have to tell him ? He knows you are shy, he said it himself. wouldn't it be up to him to reassure and make you feel comfortable by acting patient, consistent, reliable and dependable ? What would you think you'd accompli... (read in full...)

Is it wrong or weird that I'm kind of jealous of younger women?

Q.   Women it seems, are generally valued for their youth more than men are, despite me being a guy, as in human male, there are times I am jealous, envious of how women are valued for their youth more than men are. The reason why is because i'm a gu...

A.   22 April 2015:  I don't know about "sleeping around " as in : becoming a certified player or Don Juan. That may take some doing , I guess, or a natural vocation. For the rest , i. e. for young males wanting to have ther first sexual experience (s ) , that... (read in full...)

Is it wrong or weird that I'm kind of jealous of younger women?

Q.   Women it seems, are generally valued for their youth more than men are, despite me being a guy, as in human male, there are times I am jealous, envious of how women are valued for their youth more than men are. The reason why is because i'm a gu...

A.   21 April 2015: Life is not fair , OP. So,you believe that it is your biological imperative being the initiator . Which is not true, btw. There are women, including yours truly, who will not mind taking the initiative, and I assure you that I may belong to a mino... (read in full...)

She is refusing to face financial facts and is moving back home to her parents

Q.   How can me and my fiancée come to an agreement? She's lived with me in a house I own and I knew she had some debts so I sat down with her to help sort them out. Around £20,000 in debt including car payments. She has 3 horses which cost her around £...

A.   12 June 2014:  Of course, Op,- I realize that what you suggested is reasonable and it's the same advice that a financial advisor would give. A financial advisor without the passion for horses , though- without a life that revolves around horses. The girl has... (read in full...)

She is refusing to face financial facts and is moving back home to her parents

Q.   How can me and my fiancée come to an agreement? She's lived with me in a house I own and I knew she had some debts so I sat down with her to help sort them out. Around £20,000 in debt including car payments. She has 3 horses which cost her around £...

A.   10 June 2014:  OK, so whip me everybody ( horse-whip me ), I am with the " why should she give them up ". I mean, you fell in love with " the girl with the horses ". It sounds like it's much more than a hobby or a passtime, it's a passion, a lifestyle, a part ... (read in full...)

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