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Hi everybody. I am an Italian woman currently living in Italy but I spent many years in England and USA. I hope my English is still decent but in case it got a little rusty, please be lenient.

My age ? Let say that I am way past the stage when you cry if the boy you like takes your best friend to the prom, and young enough to remember how awful that feels.

What qualifies me to help people- well, let me show off just a bit and mention that I studied Psychology 4 years in college, and, even if then I graduated in a different subject, I never lost my interest in psychology and kept reading a lot about this subject. Yet that does not really qualify me for anything because intellectual knowledge is not the same as real life experience. So let's say I feel I can advice people because I have lived a lot, travelled a lot, met a lot of people from all backgrounds , races and religions- I have loved a lot, and I have also been dumped a lot :)

Plus, I am really fascinated with people and their stories. Not in a gossipy way. I just find that every person is a whole new world that I am excited to discover.

Right now I am single- and happily so. I realized- better late than never - that rather than waiting for Prince Charming I should first become a Princess myself. You can't love anybody unconditionally, if first you don't love yourself unconditionally, and this is what I am learning to do.

Looking forward to hear from all of you..

Ciao

Cindy

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Will quitting my retail job after 11 months look really bad?

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I don't want a gf but I don't want her to be with anyone else. what should I do?

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Why do some girls go down market on social media?

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A.   10 August 2016:  Maybe they do not share your definition of what is or is not classy. Or, they do not give to being classy and showing class the same value and importance you do. Maybe for you, OP, the best compliment would be being told " My, what a prop... (read in full...)

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A.   10 August 2016:  So you want to break up over a missed good morning text ?... If you are even considering that, yes, I don't think your relationship will stand the text of distance . Do YOU understands where she comes from ?... You are unemployed, bored, t... (read in full...)

I’m feeling guilty for not throwing my baby a party for her first birthday!

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A.   2 August 2016:  Ok, I realize that I am a minority of one here, but tbh I agree with your husband. I find the idea of throwing a party for an 1 y.o. baby... downright bizarre. The birthday girl won't know, won't understand, won't appreciate- probably in fact she ... (read in full...)

Why do so many men believe they have a right to sex without a condom?

Q.   I'm sorry if this comes across as a rant but I'm really annoyed at the moment and looking to hear opinions around whether I've been unlucky or if what I'm experiencing is the norm. Why do the men I meet seem to think it's their right to get to ...

A.   1 August 2016:  Yes, not all men are like those you met, you just have got some bad luck from this point of view. I have never met in my whole life anybody who'd throw so many tantrums about condoms; then again, it's also true that in my case there was no need ... (read in full...)

Social media signs are worrying me

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A.   31 July 2016:  Maybe you are homely, and he , not as much - perhaps he made do with a lot of homely nights for lack of a better alternative, or to keep the peace at home, but after 6 years of ininterrupted domestic bliss... OMG, It would make ME wanting to go ... (read in full...)

He avoids eye contact, it makes me angry!

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A.   29 July 2016:  OK, now let's take this one step further, Now what ? What happens ? I mean, suppose that instead he actually weren't interested anymore and had moved on. Why would you have to be shocked ? You left him, OP. You said : game over. When a person d... (read in full...)

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He avoids eye contact, it makes me angry!

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A.   28 July 2016:  Ah , OP- again , that's you :). There are a lot of people who embrace the opposite school of thought to yours, i.e. if they aren't over someone, they try to stay clear of him / her. Either because it hurts being around someone you can't have , ... (read in full...)

My married BF says I worry too much that he is going to be unfaithful to me. Is it all my fault?

Q.   Hi. I've been dating a married man for 3 years now. We have incredible sex together and lots of fun. We get along very well and are sexually perfect for each other. I care a lot for him. He cares for me. However, my insecurity issues ...

A.   27 July 2016: Well, like you say, you know he is capable of cheating. You know he is capable of looking fr something new when same old same old is not too exciting anymore. And he is capable of telling lies and covering his tracks ( unless he has informed his ... (read in full...)

Nurses are nasty! I'm a nurse facing surgery and fear I'll be treated badly by other nurses!

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A.   27 July 2016:  I think that you worry more than you should. Note that I am not saying " you worry about nothing " because unluckily the possibility of not receiving the best possible assistence you would have right to, is always a possibility, whether you are a ... (read in full...)

He avoids eye contact, it makes me angry!

Q.   brief backstory was seeing a guy, became a push and pull relationship, i got sick of it and ended it. went no contact for about 6 weeks until he called to check in on me, saw him in person after that and he shook my hand and wouldn't make ey...

A.   26 July 2016:  Yes, but you are you , and he is another person. Not necessarily you and he will have the same reactions and behaviours in a given situation. It's not such a bad idea, you know ? , to let him carry on your interactions at a pace and in a way ... (read in full...)

Did it mean anything or was it just the drink?

Q.   Hi. I need help to figure out this guy's behavior. We have been friends since a long time now and went out on dates as well. We never had a physical rel but he knew I was into him. He is an introvert and too shy to even ask me out for dates. He ...

A.   26 July 2016: Ah so he is too shy to ask you out on dates, but not shy at all in turning everything from romantic to sexual ? Strange kind of shyness. He may be an introvert, in the sense he may not be very effusive, very talkative, - yet it seems to me th... (read in full...)

I dislike my boyfriend because he's low-income and I have to keep providing for him.

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A.   26 July 2016:  You should be thinking about the future, and about the present too. You are being taken advantage of, in fact, it ends up that at only 20 years of age, basically you are already got yourself a boytoy. I'd be curious to see if and how long he ... (read in full...)

Did he really want to date me? Or is it the cable that he wanted to watch? How do I hint that I want to go out with him?

Q.   Help .... I'm dating a guy who only wants to sit on my sofa and watch tv... How do I hint to him that I want to go out ??? We have been dating a month I have known him for years he is a friend of a cousin , in one month we have only gone out 3 ...

A.   26 July 2016:  OP, would you mind to clarify how do you figure that anybody " basically called you a piece of crap ". You refer to poster one, and since I am the first who answered your post I would have assume you mean me - but in this case , all I can say is ... (read in full...)

Did he really want to date me? Or is it the cable that he wanted to watch? How do I hint that I want to go out with him?

Q.   Help .... I'm dating a guy who only wants to sit on my sofa and watch tv... How do I hint to him that I want to go out ??? We have been dating a month I have known him for years he is a friend of a cousin , in one month we have only gone out 3 ...

A.   24 July 2016:  It may not be the norm but it's not that unusual either. Boring, maybe :). Unusual, not really. You see, going out to places ( movies, restaurants, concerts etc. ) costs money, and if he pays for you too, it costs double. Not everybody can or W... (read in full...)

He avoids eye contact, it makes me angry!

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A.   23 July 2016:  My guess ( just a guess, because neither I nor the other Aunts can read this guy's mind and know his thoughts ) is that the difference between his friendly phone call as opposed to standoffish behaviour in person is because one thing is doing ... (read in full...)

Is this girl suitable as a LTR girl for me?

Q.   We've known each other for two years and we've been starting something (seeing eachothers and sleeping together) for four months. I like her really. I liked her as a person also before, when we were just friends, and she has always captured my ...

A.   23 July 2016:  No, leave her alone. What you are saying in your post- that single people can do whatever they want, and that you do not have a problem with this girls' sexual choices etc.etc.- it's just lip service that you are paying . You say things that... (read in full...)

Almost twice my age, will he freak out if I tell him I find him attractive?

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A.   23 July 2016:  No he won't freak out. A late 40s guy hit on by an attractive 20something lady ?... At most, he will pinch himself to make sure he is not dreaming, and wonder if Xmas came early this year. But, it depends what you want from him. If you have in m... (read in full...)

Is it wrong that my distant cousin and I share passionate times together? She has a Bf.

Q.   I love my distant cousin. We have made love and it feels like the most beautiful thing I have ever done in my life. I don't even feel guilty about it. I have had meaningless sex with other girls before but with her its just amazing and I cuddle her ...

A.   22 July 2016:  The taboo is not that she is a DISTANT cousin !, the taboo is that she has a boyfriend and you are helping her to cheat on him. " Her problem " you will shrug it off " as for me , I am single ". No, your problem too. You are going to get hurt. If... (read in full...)

Was I his plan B, or did I just make an issue of all?

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A.   22 July 2016:  Honestly ? I doubt they make more and better drama at Yale Drama School. OP, you were admittedly, openly and reasonably his B plan. He did not come to your city just on purpose for you , as you knw all along, he came with his group for training... (read in full...)

Choosing Boyfriend or potential job?

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A.   22 July 2016:  So your bf does not like London because it's OLD ?!! I can't imagine how much he'd suffer if he had to live in Rome. But maybe he could blow up the Coliseum and build a multilevel parking lot in its place. " When a man is tired of London , he is t... (read in full...)

My partner lives in the old days!

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A.   21 July 2016:  He is not old fashioned, he is just lazy. In the old days women did 100% of house chores... but men provided 100% of the yearly income. And , gardening ? Heavy manual labour ? No way ; male thing. Until the 50's my grandmother used to have ... (read in full...)

Does he really not realize he was wrong to take off without coming over my house ? Does he believe his own lies?

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A.   21 July 2016:  Yes we can see you are hellbent in having him back... but when you are "hellbent" on something, often it's the devil who made you do it :) The good news ... is the same as the bad news, i.e. I don't think either you have seen the last of him.... (read in full...)

He likes rough sex, I don't! Am I being unreasonable or is he?

Q.   I recently started a relationship with a guy I met 4 months ago. We went out a few times in the last 4 months before deciding we wanted to give a relationship a go. We recently started having sex and it turns out that he is really into rough sex and ...

A.   20 July 2016:  Now I hope you are not going to let him choke you just to show him how caring and selfless you can be , right ? If he is not prepared to NOT have sex other than his way, I guess you have to be prepared to part ways. You are just very inco... (read in full...)

Does he really not realize he was wrong to take off without coming over my house ? Does he believe his own lies?

Q.   I have been dating a guy for a month and 1/2 who told me right from the start he is bipolar. At least once a week he will do something such as make plans with me and then just go off with somebody else and not even call me to let me know. He wil...

A.   20 July 2016: If I were you I would not bother with dissecting and analyzing the whys and hows. This thing is SO dead in the water- and, for your own sanity and self esteem- such it should stay. OP - excuse me ? really can't you see anything wrong in the pict... (read in full...)

Recently found out about a fling my Bf had. Is it wrong to want to know these things?

Q.   I recently found out my boyfriend had a fling with a girl on holiday not long after we started going out. We had been together for a couple of months, and we were still in the early stages of our relationship. We have been together for 3 y...

A.   20 July 2016:  I agree with Anonymous 123. You already know all you need to know : he cheated. Now, does it really make such a big difference if there actually was intercourse ? Which is quite probable, btw, seeing the big mysterious deal his friends ... (read in full...)

How do I get him to move out? I feel trapped!

Q.   Hi. My boyfriend of 4 years lost his job and he had no money and nowhere to go so I said he could stay with me while he sorted himself out. He got a job a year ago and is still living with me and not paying for anything except food because he pays ...

A.   19 July 2016:  What a nerve. If there's something worse than a freeloader, it's a cheeky , entitled freeloader. His comment that he does not owe you explanations about what he spends his money on would be acceptable IF he paid you rent and his share of bills. ... (read in full...)

Not really dating, should I wait for him?

Q.   I was dating a guy seriously for 2 months, we spent the 1st month together and he had leave so we decided to do long distance. I felt a 360 change is his character and I started stressing over because he was the one who wanted this and he used to be ...

A.   19 July 2016:  You felt a connection.. but obviously there wasn't one , since he started pulling away after only 30 days. So, was it a connection, or was it a projection on him of your hopes and dreams ? That's why I am skeptical about love at first sigh... (read in full...)

Were his family opposed to me? Or did he just want me for one thing? We broke up but he said we could still be FWB.

Q.   Hi, I met this guy nearly 2 years ago, we were really good friends. He then became flirty with me and I had an attraction to him, but then he said we could just be fwb I guess I couldn't go through with this idea and we agreed to continue being fr...

A.   19 July 2016:  It makes sense, instead, if you think that he asked you for an FWB even before anything happened ! That's how he got you pegged from the start, as non-wife material. It's not that he was sly about it, he told you that he was having his marriage ... (read in full...)

Not really dating, should I wait for him?

Q.   I was dating a guy seriously for 2 months, we spent the 1st month together and he had leave so we decided to do long distance. I felt a 360 change is his character and I started stressing over because he was the one who wanted this and he used to be ...

A.   18 July 2016:  I don't think you should wait , what's in it for you in all this ? You know yourself and you know that until hung up on this guy , you would not be dating anybody so you would not be taking advantage of your " non- exclusivity ". As for him,... (read in full...)

How can I talk to him about these issues? He expects my sons to contribute via chores but does nor expect his teen daughter to do anything

Q.   I'm Engaged!!!!!!!!. I should be excited right? I'm more worried than anything. We have dated a little over a year and are planning to get married May 2017. We both have children from a previous marriage. He has two daughters (21 and !7), I have ...

A.   4 July 2016:  Well said, Honeypie : Dear Lord ! OP, I am afraid your powers of observation aren't the best ever. Haven't you noticed how your bf is so big on teaching responsibility to your kids- but failed to teach himself responsibility- as in being res... (read in full...)

How can I talk to him about these issues? He expects my sons to contribute via chores but does nor expect his teen daughter to do anything

Q.   I'm Engaged!!!!!!!!. I should be excited right? I'm more worried than anything. We have dated a little over a year and are planning to get married May 2017. We both have children from a previous marriage. He has two daughters (21 and !7), I have ...

A.   3 July 2016:  I forgot to add: well, isn't it intuitive why your bf is defensive about his daughter and protective of her comfy lifestyle ?... Because he knows your kids have no choice. They are stuck, whether they like the home rules and regolati... (read in full...)

How can I talk to him about these issues? He expects my sons to contribute via chores but does nor expect his teen daughter to do anything

Q.   I'm Engaged!!!!!!!!. I should be excited right? I'm more worried than anything. We have dated a little over a year and are planning to get married May 2017. We both have children from a previous marriage. He has two daughters (21 and !7), I have ...

A.   3 July 2016:  Oh I see. The house is yours. He was renting - he gets laid off and apparently he is one who lives hand-to-mouth. Didn't have a little something put away for eveniences like that - or a support net of family and friends. If he loses his job,... (read in full...)

How can I talk to him about these issues? He expects my sons to contribute via chores but does nor expect his teen daughter to do anything

Q.   I'm Engaged!!!!!!!!. I should be excited right? I'm more worried than anything. We have dated a little over a year and are planning to get married May 2017. We both have children from a previous marriage. He has two daughters (21 and !7), I have ...

A.   2 July 2016: ... And you say you are marrying this guy ?... Pardon my harshness, but apparently it all boils down to this - just for the sake of conquering the oh-so- all- important and coveted status of wife, you are allowing your two young kids to be boss... (read in full...)

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