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Hi everybody. I am an Italian woman currently living in Italy but I spent many years in England and USA. I hope my English is still decent but in case it got a little rusty, please be lenient.

My age ? Let say that I am way past the stage when you cry if the boy you like takes your best friend to the prom, and young enough to remember how awful that feels.

What qualifies me to help people- well, let me show off just a bit and mention that I studied Psychology 4 years in college, and, even if then I graduated in a different subject, I never lost my interest in psychology and kept reading a lot about this subject. Yet that does not really qualify me for anything because intellectual knowledge is not the same as real life experience. So let's say I feel I can advice people because I have lived a lot, travelled a lot, met a lot of people from all backgrounds , races and religions- I have loved a lot, and I have also been dumped a lot :)

Plus, I am really fascinated with people and their stories. Not in a gossipy way. I just find that every person is a whole new world that I am excited to discover.

Right now I am single- and happily so. I realized- better late than never - that rather than waiting for Prince Charming I should first become a Princess myself. You can't love anybody unconditionally, if first you don't love yourself unconditionally, and this is what I am learning to do.

Looking forward to hear from all of you..

Ciao

Cindy

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Why do some men think porn stars are magical being?

Q.   Why do some men think pornstars are magical beings? My ex and my first boyfriend were just like that. My ex said "a pornstar works in my office" in a voice as if he had achieved something. My first boyfriend used to call them by their names...

A.   28 July 2014:  So the OP does not need therapy and telling her to seek professional help is " judgemental ". By this token, it is also judgemental to tell a person with chewing problems to see a dentist. Or a person with debilitating joint pains to see an o... (read in full...)

Will he still like me if I wear something different?

Q.   I met this guy a few weeks ago and we have been on quite a few dates. The first time we met I was wearing a skirt with a slip underneath. As he told me then and keeps telling me since, that he loves me wearing such clothes, I have always dressed ...

A.   20 July 2014:  Yes, you should test the waters. It's normal if he has fashion preferences and he likes a certain outfit more than others, but if he only likes you when you are wearing one style, then he is not into you but into the " persona " you represent, ... (read in full...)

I bent over backwards to make it work, but he still dumped me!

Q.   My bf, of 4 years, and I just broke up like 20 mins ago. I saw it coming for months now. Since January nothing had been the same. He was distant, disrespectful and basically seemed to live to make me miserable. I tried to work things out for the ...

A.   20 July 2014:  Are you really surprised ?...You said you've seen the BU coming for ages- your bf was distant, disrespectful and lived to make you miserable. He acted as if he hated you and showed he did not give a flying fuck. So , if now he seems not to give... (read in full...)

What are some good ways to rekindle friendship with a friend from school, where we have lost touch with each other?

Q.   Hi I am thinking about contacting an old primary school 'best friend' she was brilliant, but when we moved onto high school (the same one) we made different friends and have gradually lost touch and not spoken for about 8 years. I really would ...

A.   19 July 2014:  You mean, technically ? You send her a message through Facebook. I am no expert, but I know you can send her a message also if she is not in your list of friends, she gets it in her " Others " folder. But no, I guess you weren't asking this... (read in full...)

Socially and emotionally Ostracised at home. Need to feel better about me and find a job so I can move out. How can I cope better?

Q.   In short details: I'm 18. No friends (I have no way to work on that until September; I only have a couple of online friends). No family except mum, dad and sister. Emotionally neglected at home for eleven years. Seen three counsellors but ...

A.   19 July 2014:  OP, would you mind to specify a bit more what do you mean with emotional neglect, and what actions you'd want them specifically to take to show you they care ? I am asking this not because I am saying " oh it's all n your mind ", but beca... (read in full...)

Why would my sexy sext stranger mention marriage, of all things?

Q.   A guy I met online (from far faaar away) and I have been texting/sexting for about 2 and a 1/2 weeks now. I'm new to sexting and find that I'm enjoying it immensly - we seem to be very compatible. However I don't expect anything more of this. It's ...

A.   19 July 2014: @ eric troy. Sure that at 19 the OP is / should be old enough to " hold her drink ". When I was her age, to use your metaphor, I was not just " holding my drinks ", I was chugging them down with gusto, satisfaction and competence :). Personal... (read in full...)

He's a great guy but I don't feel any physical attraction

Q.   Hi everyone, I have a little bit of a situation, please for years now I have been out of relationships because basically I would meet only "bad guys" or really incompatible people. Recently I have met this younger guy and it seems like we really g...

A.   19 July 2014:  Let him go. If there's absolutely no spark, absolutely no physical attraction, no matter how much you wish there was...this is not gong to end well. If you have to force yourself to make do somehow , to reward him for being such a great guy... ... (read in full...)

Should I give it time to develop? I feel confused about my Online long distance friend. I really like her.

Q.   Hi everyone Sorry, new to this site so not exactly sure how it works but I'll just ask away. Well basically I'm in a sort of confusing position with this girl who is my best friend. She's from Taiwan and we've been talking (online) for at ...

A.   19 July 2014: All what Janniepeg says, plus , sorry if I rain on your parade, but I have a different reading on this : " I don't know if I like you as more than friends ..." means " No, I don't ". She cares about you as a friend, does not want to push you... (read in full...)

His temper is threatening to spoil this relationship!!

Q.   I'm so stuck with this. I don't know if I'm being over picky or if I'm being sensible. My partner of 2 years is brilliant. No, better than that, he's incredible! We met a few years ago through mutual friends and he made it obvious he liked me but ...

A.   19 July 2014:  I admit that I don't quite get the logic of your post. Your bf is abusive ( and potentially dangerous ) and scares you s...less. ( BE afraid. Be very afraid ). Of course he is not abusive all the time, not even a criminal maniac would be abus... (read in full...)

I think a man who wants woman will not let her go!

Q.   I met a man and everything fell together so seamlessly. We were both crazy about each other and he told me he saw a future with me, and very quickly was telling me he was in love with me (within a month). I am weary of people falling too quickly ...

A.   18 July 2014:  Then tell him to go be an extra on a Woody Allen's movie set, it was Woody Allen who said " 80 % of success is showing up ". Case in pont, Woody Allen was not that great of a husband , at least for his first 2 wives. I think you are idea... (read in full...)

How do I tell my boyfriend I'm having twins?

Q.   So me and my boyfriend have had sex for a little bit about every weekend for 1month I'm 22 he is 23 and we weren't protected once. I thought he was wearing a condom turns out I was wrong... Now I'm pregnant. I told him and he was quite surprised but ...

A.   18 July 2014:  At around 20 weeks, that must be your SECOND ultrasound scan, in UK NHS offers you the first around 12/13 weeks and THAT would have shown you were expecting twins. What happened then ?... You could not find the nerve to tell your bf ?... A... (read in full...)

Why would my sexy sext stranger mention marriage, of all things?

Q.   A guy I met online (from far faaar away) and I have been texting/sexting for about 2 and a 1/2 weeks now. I'm new to sexting and find that I'm enjoying it immensly - we seem to be very compatible. However I don't expect anything more of this. It's ...

A.   18 July 2014:  Because it turns him on. " like saying that if we were close he'd have to marry me to do so and so to me ". You can bet he's having the most perfect wanks of his life over your texts, because they are like the captions oto a defloration fantasy-... (read in full...)

I told my porn-addicted fiance that if he looked at porn again, I'm done. I'm now 37 weeks pregnant and guess what?

Q.   My now fiance had a porn addiction he was even looking at it at work. I basically told him if you do it again i'm done, this was over a year ago and i never caught him looking at it until now. I'm 37 weeks pregnant I looked at his phone history last ...

A.   18 July 2014: Yeah, I am curious too to know HOW you will show him that you are not putting up with this. What does it mean exactly , what will you do ? Cry ?, sulk ? slam doors ? Go on a sex strike ?... Empty his bank account ?... Whatever it is, it is cl... (read in full...)

A question for men on women's weight?

Q.   I would like some advice on something that came up in a previous question that has also been on my mind . I am a healthy weight woman according to the weight for height charts and yet at times when I have lost weight and become somewhat underwei...

A.   18 July 2014:  Because " healthy " is not necessarily one and the same with " esthetically outstanding, visually exciting ". If you are , say 5'3 and 140, even 150, pounds, you are healthy- you are not obese, not much risk of coronary disease or joint dama... (read in full...)

I think a man who wants woman will not let her go!

Q.   I met a man and everything fell together so seamlessly. We were both crazy about each other and he told me he saw a future with me, and very quickly was telling me he was in love with me (within a month). I am weary of people falling too quickly ...

A.   18 July 2014:  It makes lots of sense. At least from his point of view. "Peace and relaxation " "Peace and quiet ". Anxiety and stressful job. Haven't you noticed how the accent was heavily on these things ?... He comes to you for peace and relaxati... (read in full...)

I can't get a Bf, but is it because I think boys judge girls on their looks?

Q.   I had a crush on this boy for about a year, (he was 18) and we have been friends for about 4 years. I thought it was time for me to tell him how I feel, it took a lot of courage but eventually I asked him out. He said he'd get back to me.. He came ...

A.   17 July 2014:  Disgusting... he was EIGHTEEN. That's what some ( not all ) boys feel at his age. Peer pressure is a big factor, and the selection of a mate is made with an eye to how much " cred " it will get them with their buddies. Silly, not very manly... ... (read in full...)

Why do "nice" guys complain that girls never want them when what the problem REALLY is, is that they keep going for the same type of girl?

Q.   Why do "nice" guys complain that girls never want them when what the problem REALLY is, is that they keep going for the same type of girl? They're doing the same thing over and over, and expecting a different outcome. What I mean by the same type of ...

A.   17 July 2014: Round of applauses for Fatherly Advice, I feel he is SO right. I don't think any woman in their right mind would reject a guy BECAUSE he is nice and BECAUSE he is polite. I don't recall any woman yet,right off the top of my hat, who'd see bein... (read in full...)

My parents cant stand my relationship with my much older B/f. Should I even invite them to my wedding ?

Q.   My parents have never been supportive if my relationship with my older boyfriend. We have been dating for three years and he is 19 years older then me and was also a family friend before we started dating. Once we started dating they but me out o...

A.   17 July 2014:  I respect the OP's opinion , and Chigirl's opinion,- it's Ok to have different opinions, and I stand by mine. We are talkng parents here !, not just some pesky neighbours next door. Nothing ( always IMO of course ) denies the point of my firs... (read in full...)

What should I do? I have a tight family and this sort of falling out will be a huge deal but I'm also not going to give up on someone because of someone elses problem

Q.   I have been in a long distance relationship on and off for two years and although im not sure what our future holds, on a day to day level we care for each other and we have fun. We recently split for a few months as the distance was tough and ...

A.   17 July 2014:  I agree with Janniepeg , I fnd a bit curious that a relative you only see twice a year should even be informed about the details of your love life, leave alone being so involved in it as to feel entitled censuring it. There's being a tight ... (read in full...)

They say I would have been rocked by a tree stump. Do they have a point?

Q.   OK, I had sex with a new boyfriend recently. It was our first date and he took me to the highest heaven. My friends were not as impressed. They told me my reaction was based on circumstances and looks, ie it was my first time after 23 years of ...

A.   17 July 2014:  I am not sure I got the gist of your question. If you are strictly talking about the quality of his sexual performance and your enjoyement of the same, - what would your friends KNOW about it ? they weren't there , and they aren't you. You know ... (read in full...)

My parents cant stand my relationship with my much older B/f. Should I even invite them to my wedding ?

Q.   My parents have never been supportive if my relationship with my older boyfriend. We have been dating for three years and he is 19 years older then me and was also a family friend before we started dating. Once we started dating they but me out o...

A.   17 July 2014: Of course you should, - that's just beng civil. They may not like your bf, but after all they are the people who have fed you and sheltered you and put clothes on your back so that you could be ALIVE long enough to meet your boyfriend. If they... (read in full...)

I'm absolutely miserable at my job, what should I do when there are no tasks needing doing?

Q.   I've been working a 9-5 summer internship/job for the summer - I do get paid, but on the downside, I'm absolutely miserable. I ask my supervisors for work, but they really don't have anything for me to do. When they give me work, I accomplish it, ...

A.   17 July 2014: You are only 18-21, you have no job experience, no special skills, and you get PAID. Not much, I guess, but you get PAID- a luck and a luxury for people in your age range in many countries of the world- including certain areas of yours. And you ... (read in full...)

How to control rage issues, that have cost me my marriage?

Q.   Hi aunts and uncles. I have a big problem and was wondering if anyone can refer me to some good websites, or help me to find information on this. Basically, my husband and I got in a fight, and I hit him. This has happened before, and I went to ...

A.   16 July 2014:  Counselors are human, they not always get it right at the first try. Your counselor might have thought in good faith that your problem had been solved and you did not need more counseling, but , obviously she was wtong. You do. As for her not ... (read in full...)

I'm fine with being single, so what do I say to my parents?

Q.   I'm 24 years old. I've been single for almost 2 years now and I'm completely content with it. As soon as I broke up with my ex, I was talking to other guys but that completely faded. Being on instagram liking people's pictures clearly won't help ...

A.   16 July 2014:  I think that the reason for going out is NOT, and should not be, just to find a boyfriend/ relationship or to get laid ! I think that man is a social animal, and everybody to some extent would enjoy / benefit from a variety of social, ... (read in full...)

Why do some men think porn stars are magical being?

Q.   Why do some men think pornstars are magical beings? My ex and my first boyfriend were just like that. My ex said "a pornstar works in my office" in a voice as if he had achieved something. My first boyfriend used to call them by their names...

A.   16 July 2014: Why do some girls fall in love with / feel attracted to -men who think that porn stars are magical ? Sorry, if it happens once is random, if it happens twice uhm, curious, if it keeps happening, then it's YOU. Somehow you feel inclined only tow... (read in full...)

Why do "nice" guys complain that girls never want them when what the problem REALLY is, is that they keep going for the same type of girl?

Q.   Why do "nice" guys complain that girls never want them when what the problem REALLY is, is that they keep going for the same type of girl? They're doing the same thing over and over, and expecting a different outcome. What I mean by the same type of ...

A.   16 July 2014:  Lol, OP, then I must be an ass too then, because I have written here more or less the same many times... As soon as a poster complains " girls won't give me a chance just because I am not tall, dark nd handsome and I do not have a six pack / a ... (read in full...)

Should I have sex to keep my boyfriend?

Q.   I have been going out with my boyfriend for 5 years now, (I am -9) and I love him to pieces. We sleep over at each other's all the time and it's all been perfectly fine. Then one night we were at his and he said "my parents wont be home until ...

A.   16 July 2014:  Well, I would not know about the " legally chldren for 4 years " thing, I would not play it up. If anybody bothers to read my posts, they'll know that I am no big fan of underage sex, I think that having sex under 18 is unwise, and under 16.. ... (read in full...)

Been hiding my pregnancy for 5 months. How do I announce it to my family?

Q.   I have been hiding my pregnancy for about five months. I haven't told anyone except for a few friends. I've finally decided that I'll tell my family. i finally feel ready to face the consequences. i feel strong enough to bear the negative reactions. ...

A.   15 July 2014:  Not to twist the knife into the wound, do not be surprised if you get negative comments from your father, beside his being old fashioned - the reality of the matter is that you are unemployed ergo, I suppose, incomeless and live off your older ... (read in full...)

My wife of 20 years invites a man to stay the night at our home? Is this weird?

Q.   Hi, Is it strange that my wife of 20 years invites another man to stay the night at our house? She apparently arranged this visit several weeks back, but didn't let me know about the plans, ask for my opinion, nor tell me until a few days bef...

A.   15 July 2014:  Call me stupid, but I think it COULD be innocent. When you travel you often make " travel friendships ", at some pont it's fatal that you let slip out, in conversations, "I am from Okefenokee, if you ever come to our neck in the woods, come and ... (read in full...)

We had an amazing weekend connection but now I haven't heard from him. Do I call?

Q.   I met this really good looking guy at a friends BBQ last weekend. We hit it off instantly and chatted for hours. We ended the night by kissing. We live in different states and he spoke of me visiting him. We even talked about sex and how he wasn't ...

A.   15 July 2014:  Lackluster explanation, but... a few drinks too many maybe ?. Or simply, a few drinks. Some people become very expressive and affectionate with a little social lubricant inside them, great plans are made, great instant connections are felt, ... (read in full...)

Was she reasonable to accuse me of emotional cheating?

Q.   Here we go on the merry-go-round once again. Our relationship started to go down hill. I had been married before, and I admit to cheating, so I vowed not to make that same mistake again. So when I met V, I took my time and listened, when she said...

A.   15 July 2014: I'd say it depends , OP. It is true that it is also a matter of subjective perception , but in lack of a scientific, etched in granite definition of emotional cheating, there are common sense, rule of thumb , general social codes , which can't ... (read in full...)

Is it silly to lose a relationship over snoring?

Q.   I have a problem. My boyfriend of 4 years has been diagnosed with sleep apnea long before we met. But when I met him he was not using the c-pap. He has been telling me about the c-pap or would talk about getting one. He had a bit of financial ...

A.   15 July 2014:  C-paps are effective but have a very high rate of non-compliance, i.e. people find them limiting and uncomfortable, can't get used to them and STOPS usng or tryg to use them after few weeks. Seen as they are also expensive , I don't blame him for ... (read in full...)

Are people more likely to speak their minds when they are drunk?

Q.   So ive got the inevitable question. Are people (espeically guys who are kinda of shy but just in general as well) more likely to tell their true feelings, and speak their mind when they're drunk or after even drinks? Is it true what they say th...

A.   15 July 2014:  No. When they are drunk people are more likely to speak, period. It's not necessarily their mind. It's a fleeting, on the moment, impulsive thought or sensation, generally widely magnified by alcohol. Many drunks tend to be very effusive and ... (read in full...)

I'm a 27 year old virgin, should I go hire an escort to experience sex?

Q.   I’m 27 years old and will be 28 years old this summer and not being able to me intimate with anyone in my life is just making me feel frustrated. I have tired date few Chinese women but all they do is want to be friends or we never talk again. ...

A.   14 July 2014:  OP, you must be pulling our leg, right ?, I can't believe you are serious. I made the experiment for you, I googled "San Francisco escorts " and it gives : 5.400.000 results. I checked the first listing and it's an escort agencies ' dire... (read in full...)

Should I leave this FWB?

Q.   We've now known eachother for 5 five and have been FWB for four. In the beginning, I was instantly attracted to her but due to certain anti-social qualities, I didn't want to be in a relationship. She was also attracted to me as well so she wanted ...

A.   14 July 2014:  Yes. If she ONLY contacts you when she needs something from you, and does not even want to have sex with you ( not that I would approve of repayng favours with sex, from a moral standpoint , but at least, you'd get something out of this ! ) ... (read in full...)

Why do I have to be my own mother? What do I do with my real one?

Q.   I cannot live with my father because of legal issues between my siblings. I have moved out of there and into my mothers house. She has cheated on my father and continues to have this affair which includes extremely late nights where i cannot reach ...

A.   14 July 2014: I agree with the others OP, time to grow up. You don't have to live with your mom if you don't like it there, you can live alone, with friends, with relatives, with roommates, with a boyfriend... If the hygienic standards of the household do not ... (read in full...)

I'm a 27 year old virgin, should I go hire an escort to experience sex?

Q.   I’m 27 years old and will be 28 years old this summer and not being able to me intimate with anyone in my life is just making me feel frustrated. I have tired date few Chinese women but all they do is want to be friends or we never talk again. ...

A.   14 July 2014: OP ! You live in USA, not in the jungle ! Does it necessarily have to be THAT site ? How hard can it be to find escorts in a location reachable to you ? I figure it would be enough to enter " escorts in or around ( name of location ) " and you'd ... (read in full...)

Am I too manly?

Q.   My whole life I have been into sports. I love sports, I love games I love things normal woman don't. I grew up an only child for 12 years and I was basically my dad's son. But I've also been hurt many times by men in my life. So to protect myself I ...

A.   14 July 2014:  Without recanting anything of my first post, ( I still think that it's all about your Bf's RJ and insecurity ) I must say that after reading Mark's post, I can see he brings up very valid points. If you act like a buddy, talk like a buddy, send... (read in full...)

Am I too manly?

Q.   My whole life I have been into sports. I love sports, I love games I love things normal woman don't. I grew up an only child for 12 years and I was basically my dad's son. But I've also been hurt many times by men in my life. So to protect myself I ...

A.   14 July 2014: You had fuck buddies " just like a man "?- lol, if he said that he said one of the silliest and most illogocal things I have read on DC. Because... men have fuck buddies, right ?... And WHO are their fuck buddies ( in case of hetero guys, of... (read in full...)

I'm a 27 year old virgin, should I go hire an escort to experience sex?

Q.   I’m 27 years old and will be 28 years old this summer and not being able to me intimate with anyone in my life is just making me feel frustrated. I have tired date few Chinese women but all they do is want to be friends or we never talk again. ...

A.   13 July 2014:  You know, once a college mate of mine, early 20s, was bragging that he had bedded more than 60 women. I did not say anything but must have made a strange face, because the guy was really non descript, far from an Adonis... and he was quick to ... (read in full...)

I'm divorced and I wish to have my ex-boyfriend back in my life but it seems like he doesn't want me. What should I do?

Q.   This is somewhat of what I call irony.. I recently went through a divorce. It was my decision after a great time of thoughts and reconsiderations. After 7 years of relationship and barely 2 years marriage, I realized he was by far not the righ...

A.   13 July 2014:  Yeah but do you remember when you dumped this guy and he was asking , literally begging for you to give him a second chance ?.. He too,he just wished to be happy, did you give him this 2nd chance despite of what you thought would make YOU happy ? ... (read in full...)

Is it possible to find any handsome and confident guys that are not assholes?

Q.   It seems that every descent looking guy I come across ends up being a total asshole! They turn out to be liars and cheaters and users and honestly I'm sick of it. They think that just because they are good looking they can step all over peoples ...

A.   13 July 2014:  I think what you lament is in good part age related. Really, not much to do about it , except than understanding how things work and adjustng your expectations accordingly. So, imagine you are a young male 18-21 who's the body / face of a Gree... (read in full...)

I'm a 27 year old virgin, should I go hire an escort to experience sex?

Q.   I’m 27 years old and will be 28 years old this summer and not being able to me intimate with anyone in my life is just making me feel frustrated. I have tired date few Chinese women but all they do is want to be friends or we never talk again. ...

A.   13 July 2014:  Your mind is made up, OP, so,what to say ?... enjoy :). I just fail to see how getting laid ONCE ,against payment ,will solve your problems with women and with socialization, I mean , if ever you want to date , have a gf, ... or even get laid... (read in full...)

I bent over backwards to make it work, but he still dumped me!

Q.   My bf, of 4 years, and I just broke up like 20 mins ago. I saw it coming for months now. Since January nothing had been the same. He was distant, disrespectful and basically seemed to live to make me miserable. I tried to work things out for the ...

A.   11 July 2014:  OP, this will sound patronizing maybe, but I wonder : if this is his usual M.O.- ignoring you for a week or more, then sending you a " cum fuck me " text on a weekend late night... rinse and repeat ... has not ever dawned on you that most probably ... (read in full...)

I bent over backwards to make it work, but he still dumped me!

Q.   My bf, of 4 years, and I just broke up like 20 mins ago. I saw it coming for months now. Since January nothing had been the same. He was distant, disrespectful and basically seemed to live to make me miserable. I tried to work things out for the ...

A.   7 July 2014:  Yeah well, surely a long, heated, emotional confrontation after just seven days from a BU would not win the prize for most effective, coherent No Contact of the year, but so be it. One can always go back on track. You 've got to be honest with... (read in full...)

I bent over backwards to make it work, but he still dumped me!

Q.   My bf, of 4 years, and I just broke up like 20 mins ago. I saw it coming for months now. Since January nothing had been the same. He was distant, disrespectful and basically seemed to live to make me miserable. I tried to work things out for the ...

A.   4 July 2014:  " suck my dick for helping you ? " ...Is he mentally ill ?... Back to ignore ignore ignore, and mean it this time. It does not matter if he is the Wizard of Oz, or has the secret to save mankind from a worlwide catastrophe-do not ask him anyt... (read in full...)

I bent over backwards to make it work, but he still dumped me!

Q.   My bf, of 4 years, and I just broke up like 20 mins ago. I saw it coming for months now. Since January nothing had been the same. He was distant, disrespectful and basically seemed to live to make me miserable. I tried to work things out for the ...

A.   4 July 2014:  What do you do ?... sigh... you start all over again. The moving on process and the ignoring. And try harder this time. This, if you are serious about wanting to STAY broken up. It's like following a diet, or quitting smoking. You fall off the ... (read in full...)

I bent over backwards to make it work, but he still dumped me!

Q.   My bf, of 4 years, and I just broke up like 20 mins ago. I saw it coming for months now. Since January nothing had been the same. He was distant, disrespectful and basically seemed to live to make me miserable. I tried to work things out for the ...

A.   2 July 2014:  Fair is fair :). He writes you " fuck me "... you write him back " fuck you " and you are even. No, don't , actually. Just kidding. Keep ignoring him. You are doing good, and soon you'll be fine .... (read in full...)

I'm a 27 year old virgin, should I go hire an escort to experience sex?

Q.   I’m 27 years old and will be 28 years old this summer and not being able to me intimate with anyone in my life is just making me feel frustrated. I have tired date few Chinese women but all they do is want to be friends or we never talk again. ...

A.   5 March 2014:  OP, it's a game of numbers.Practice makes perfect, and you need to practice as much as you can. You need to approach beyond your standards , and within your standards , and ( slightly ) below your standards ( as long as you don't find them ... (read in full...)

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