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Hi everybody. I am an Italian woman currently living in Italy but I spent many years in England and USA. I hope my English is still decent but in case it got a little rusty, please be lenient.

My age ? Let say that I am way past the stage when you cry if the boy you like takes your best friend to the prom, and young enough to remember how awful that feels.

What qualifies me to help people- well, let me show off just a bit and mention that I studied Psychology 4 years in college, and, even if then I graduated in a different subject, I never lost my interest in psychology and kept reading a lot about this subject. Yet that does not really qualify me for anything because intellectual knowledge is not the same as real life experience. So let's say I feel I can advice people because I have lived a lot, travelled a lot, met a lot of people from all backgrounds , races and religions- I have loved a lot, and I have also been dumped a lot :)

Plus, I am really fascinated with people and their stories. Not in a gossipy way. I just find that every person is a whole new world that I am excited to discover.

Right now I am single- and happily so. I realized- better late than never - that rather than waiting for Prince Charming I should first become a Princess myself. You can't love anybody unconditionally, if first you don't love yourself unconditionally, and this is what I am learning to do.

Looking forward to hear from all of you..

Ciao

Cindy

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How do I get him to move out? I feel trapped!

Q.   Hi. My boyfriend of 4 years lost his job and he had no money and nowhere to go so I said he could stay with me while he sorted himself out. He got a job a year ago and is still living with me and not paying for anything except food because he pays ...

A.   19 July 2016:  What a nerve. If there's something worse than a freeloader, it's a cheeky , entitled freeloader. His comment that he does not owe you explanations about what he spends his money on would be acceptable IF he paid you rent and his share of bills. ... (read in full...)

Not really dating, should I wait for him?

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A.   19 July 2016:  You felt a connection.. but obviously there wasn't one , since he started pulling away after only 30 days. So, was it a connection, or was it a projection on him of your hopes and dreams ? That's why I am skeptical about love at first sigh... (read in full...)

Were his family opposed to me? Or did he just want me for one thing? We broke up but he said we could still be FWB.

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A.   19 July 2016:  It makes sense, instead, if you think that he asked you for an FWB even before anything happened ! That's how he got you pegged from the start, as non-wife material. It's not that he was sly about it, he told you that he was having his marriage ... (read in full...)

Not really dating, should I wait for him?

Q.   I was dating a guy seriously for 2 months, we spent the 1st month together and he had leave so we decided to do long distance. I felt a 360 change is his character and I started stressing over because he was the one who wanted this and he used to be ...

A.   18 July 2016:  I don't think you should wait , what's in it for you in all this ? You know yourself and you know that until hung up on this guy , you would not be dating anybody so you would not be taking advantage of your " non- exclusivity ". As for him,... (read in full...)

Boyfriend would rather talk with his mother and not me about issues?

Q.   I am falling out of love because every time, my boyfriend and I have a problem, he tells his mom and she never gives great advice. She tells him to dump me but he is my first boyfriend. I don't understand. I thought she liked me but I guess not. We ...

A.   17 July 2016: She is not being a hateful mother-in-law. She is being a practical, rational one. If these arguments happen often , and you and yor bf are often having "issues" ( as I suppose it is the case- I don't think you would resent him so much for havi... (read in full...)

He is 19. Should I break up with him for my parents? His parents are not happy either

Q.   Friends I want help ! ??please give me some suggestions I fell in love I don't know what to do My age is 14 and my bf age is 19 ,we 're best friends now we are dating ! And I really love him I don't wanna lose him any more i have too many ...

A.   17 July 2016:  If he is a Muslim, and you are not, and you live in India - come on, you know it's a no go , and you are wasting your time. Not that in India there can't be any interfaith couples who decide to defy traditions , society and parents, - but they... (read in full...)

I found out he's still married, but separated, he lied about his son and he's a borderline hoarder!

Q.   Dear Cupid, I have been dating a guy for 2 1/2 years. He is older than me (I am 35 and he is 53), and when we started seeing each other he said he had been single for awhile. He has a house that is in disrepair, and approaching hoarder status. ...

A.   17 July 2016:  You are a very accomodating, forgiving lady ! In fact, you give a Whole new definition to these two adjectives. Pardon me ?... This is not some little White lie, this was a whale of a lie which would have been an instant delabreaker for most woem... (read in full...)

Why does he act all uncaring?

Q.   So we have been going for about 2 months and 1/2 of the relationship we spent it together, then he moved. I fell for him because he seemed to genuinely care about me and was concerned about how I was doing. Lately though he makes the conversations ...

A.   17 July 2016:  Giving him a month or two to sort himself out just in case, as Janniepeg suggests , won't hurt- but frankly I see it more like the anon reader. I think he is checking out- or inching out- from the relationship in a rather passive aggressive way.... (read in full...)

I understand that I shouldn’t have gone for his best mate but I was drunk and he got with other people! I need advice!

Q.   Hello, I was seeing this guy from uni for 4 months and he used to come round mine all the time and it wasn't just for sex. He told me he liked me and I really liked him but it was casual and we both agreed we could see other people. I started to m...

A.   16 July 2016: "... so surely he was jealous too and wanted to be exclusive ?" That's a naive way to see things. If he had wanted to be exclusive with you- he would have been ; who was stopping him ? Not you for sure. Jealous ( make it " territorial ... (read in full...)

How can I stop looking for revenge? Is it a case of "what goes around comes around" ?

Q.   How can I stop looking for revenge? I just recently got dumped by my ex of 6 months via text - my stuff all is still is at his house . This was two months ago and since being hurt the stage has moved on to anger and waves of depression. I have ta...

A.   15 July 2016:  Frankly I doubt that your therapist may have literally said that this man had no reason to leave you. That would be an uninformed, unprofessional assessment by him, since the therapist does not know your ex and has not heard his version. Your ther... (read in full...)

I'm ready to be married and have a baby! He's feeling pressured!

Q.   I'm ready to get married emotionally, physically and financially but my bf for 2 years not yet ready. first issue when we're together is our religion I'm an INC member [mod note: see https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Iglesia_ni_Cristo ] and his a ...

A.   15 July 2016:  You want to convert him !, how's this " respecting each other " !? It would be respectful if you agreed to disagree about religious matters, and each one let the other practice his religion in liberty, without judgements or manipulations. Anyw... (read in full...)

Wants a brood mare? Should I meet him? Been talking to him online but some of his questions are a concern.

Q.   I know this sounds silly however I have been talking to this guy online. I told him I would meet him as a friend. He has been asking some off questions like if I will be fertile when we have planned to meet. He has asked several times and also w...

A.   15 July 2016:  Maybe he would, ... but that stranger won't be you anyway, right ? I mean, don't tell me that you seriously consider meeting him ! You tell him that you'll meet him " as a friend "... and he , a perfect stranger, asks several times info... (read in full...)

Since we spoke and I have not heard from him. Do you think that he's not interested in me?

Q.   hi there, I would really like some help on a current situation :) basically I have been working at a summer camp for 3 months, I met a guy there but I did not really notice him until the final month. I started to get to know him and I developed ...

A.   15 July 2016: It's hard to say. It's only 4 days !, and, as you say, you haven't exactly asked him out, just suggested to keep in touch some time . Let's say , 50/50. It may be simply because he is away , busy with his stuff, - or, well, the fact that he is ... (read in full...)

I would love to ask this waitress out. Any suggestions on how to handle this?

Q.   I like a waitress in the town near to where I live. She has served me on several occasions, and said hi and spoken to me. I would love to ask her out, but my bottle always goes!! It was my birthday yesterday, and on the way out she said 'Ha...

A.   14 July 2016:  Of course you can do it .We had no doubts about it. I must say that I see it somewhere halfway between Andie and Serpico. I.e. : while I don't think the Macho Man approach is necessarily the winning one, and personally I don't like guys " w... (read in full...)

Did I permanently mess up my chances with this girl?

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A.   14 July 2016: I am a bit confused- this is not the girl who is an escort, whom you posted about before - this is all another girl,right ? Never mind. First off I think, that you should consult your doctor. I sort of have the feeling that maybe you are self... (read in full...)

I told the truth about her boyfriend, now our friendship is over!

Q.   Hello. My friend whom i met this year at uni is mad at me. We are now on school holidays. Through text last week she told me her boyfriend kissed one of her ex friends. I texted her back what i truely felt and told her she deserves better. Not so ...

A.   14 July 2016:  Yes, too far. The intention was good, but you carried it out with the finesse of a bull in a china store :) Come on, public status about " people should have standards "?: Yes, that's your thought and you can express your thoughts, but, you frie... (read in full...)

My life's okay, it just all seemed to fall into place.

Q.   Hi guys, I just wanted to ask whether there's other people out there in a similar situation to me. Basically, I'm 25 years old, I still live at home with my mum and brother, I'm single (not speaking to anyone serious either) no savings, I h...

A.   14 July 2016:  No, that's the recreational drugs :). Maybe you recreate yourself a bit more than you think, and more than it's good for you. I have seen it happen so many times..."Recreational " drugs may also be not dangerous healthwise, and not addictive ... (read in full...)

13 years old. Some of our friends have done more than we have ever tried. How should I react if he asks to to do more with him as far as touching?

Q.   Errh', okay - so I'm fairly young, just turned 13 a few days ago. I have a very serious relationship with a boy, who is about a year and a few months older than me. (I'm off to gr. 8, and he's off to gr. 9.) It's extremely obvious that he absolute...

A.   14 July 2016:  Slow down, honey. You are 13! I don't know the laws in your country, but, by and large, ( USA, most European countries )you are not supposed to engage , and people is not supposed to let you / make you engagé, in sexual contacts. Sexual cont... (read in full...)

I feel like he doesn't even like me anymore so why does he want to marry me? And shouldn't he be reassuring me?

Q.   So I've been with my bf for 8months now and we're already planning our wedding! Yes is too early I know:(. So we went to choose our rings and I chose one for him cause he couldn't choose a nice one. He told my mum I chose mine but I chose hi...

A.   13 July 2016:  I hope I am wildly,crazily off the mark, but... it's a jungle out there, -so, how's the financial situation ? Does your bf work full time, has he a sufficient, steady source of income ? Whose place is it where you live, yours ? Is the only name... (read in full...)

I'm worried he might be just saying what I want to hear!

Q.   I was seeing this guy for a month back in March then we didn't speak for a while and I have now been seeing him again since the end of May , but lately we haven't been speaking as much , or seeing each other ,and when we do speak he just doesn't ...

A.   13 July 2016:  But you know were you stand !, i.e. NOT in a relationship. I think he has been crystal clear, it's just that when we are hellbent to read something as "mixed signals" we'll do it anyway :),no matter what . He told you, and will tell you... (read in full...)

Is this a cultural shock that is affecting my relationship? Has anyone experienced anything similar?

Q.   I dont know where to start. I am from South America and I emigrated to USA 8 years ago, I studied got a degree. I have a good job and support myself , single no kids. I met an Iraqi guy 2 years ago, hes younger by 8 years. He came legally, ...

A.   13 July 2016:  Well, yes, as Serpico mentions, the age gap may also be another difficulty. Although, interestingly enough, in Muslim cultures quite less so than in the Western world. Khadija, first wife of Mohammed, prophet and founder of Islam, was 14 year... (read in full...)

O reply from potential date with friend do I block them

Q.   Hi , i recently asked on here for advice about asking a friend on a date he said he would think about it and the advice was to let him have 3-4 days to get back to me . well its been 8 days he hasnt made any effort to contact me at all , i have ...

A.   13 July 2016:  OP, you came here for advice and you GOT advice, pretty unanimously which is not to put yourself in position to be pitied or laughed after by this guy. You want to say something that makes it look like you don't care and you come up on top anyway, ... (read in full...)

O reply from potential date with friend do I block them

Q.   Hi , i recently asked on here for advice about asking a friend on a date he said he would think about it and the advice was to let him have 3-4 days to get back to me . well its been 8 days he hasnt made any effort to contact me at all , i have ...

A.   13 July 2016:  Bad idea. If after having been brushed off you tell him " I am too good for you " , he will inevitably read it as " sour grapes " ; that's what it will sound even if it's not true. Plus, I think we all have to be coherent or at least make a... (read in full...)

I can't rely on friends. Should I accept the offer of a work colleague to take me home from hospital after my surgery?

Q.   I have to have surgery soon, and will be going home that day, im told i need someone to take me home but i have noone? Its day surgery and i must be driven home Im all alone with no family or reliable friends, friends are busy and wont care ...

A.   12 July 2016: If you are allergic specifically to morphine, they will give you another opioid. And if you are allergic to all opioids, they'll give you non- opioid based narcotics/ painkillers, which could nevertheless make you feel drowsy / tired , so you ... (read in full...)

O reply from potential date with friend do I block them

Q.   Hi , i recently asked on here for advice about asking a friend on a date he said he would think about it and the advice was to let him have 3-4 days to get back to me . well its been 8 days he hasnt made any effort to contact me at all , i have ...

A.   12 July 2016:  Yes , it would be over the top. Be a class act and forget the whole " Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned " thing. After all, this guy did not OWE you a date. You may object that he owed you, though, a reply out of common courtesy, and I 'd... (read in full...)

Do I try to rein in my feelings for the guy at work? Or tell him how I feel?

Q.   I've got close to a guy at work while I've got a bf of around a year. I can't get the guy from work out my head especially since we kissed one night after a few drinks. We agreed we can't talk outside work anymore for our partners becoming suspect ...

A.   12 July 2016:  Rein in, and in fact try and make a better effort at it. The guy has a Gf. The Gf works with him. He told you he does not want to see you / talk to you out of work. He does not want to jeopardize his relationship for you. You are attracte... (read in full...)

Guy I'm dating is leaving for an internship, Can you please help me make sense of what is happening?

Q.   I'm dating a guy I feel very comfortable with, we both open up a lot and there is a lot of safety, good feels, and emotional connection. However, we both know its short-lived. He's leaving for a great internship and may not move back after his inte...

A.   12 July 2016:  I agree with N 91- what mixed signals ? He is telling it like it is : he enjoys your connection and the good times you are having together, and he regrets knowing that soon this will be over- AND he is going on with his life and programs. I do... (read in full...)

I can't rely on friends. Should I accept the offer of a work colleague to take me home from hospital after my surgery?

Q.   I have to have surgery soon, and will be going home that day, im told i need someone to take me home but i have noone? Its day surgery and i must be driven home Im all alone with no family or reliable friends, friends are busy and wont care ...

A.   12 July 2016:  Sure, why not ? She would not have offered you a ride if she had not felt like doing it- precisely because you aren't very close ; it's not as if she would had looked bad if she had not offered. It' not so weird that she voluntereed to offer... (read in full...)

Is this a cultural shock that is affecting my relationship? Has anyone experienced anything similar?

Q.   I dont know where to start. I am from South America and I emigrated to USA 8 years ago, I studied got a degree. I have a good job and support myself , single no kids. I met an Iraqi guy 2 years ago, hes younger by 8 years. He came legally, ...

A.   11 July 2016:  There are no common law wives in Iraq. There are no common law wives in Islam. The concept itself does not exist. There's only " halal" ( pure, allowed ) and " haram " ( impure, forbidden ).... (read in full...)

Should I disown her for rejecting my name?

Q.   This may be an inappropriate question for this site but I am furious with my daughter. She is 29 and she has recently announced that she plans to get a legal name change, and I am boiling mad. I have a mind to disown her. Even though her mom and I ...

A.   11 July 2016:  This must be a troll. I am pretty sure it's a troll. Some bored teenager, school's out and all that. If it's not a troll, congratulations ,sir, you have managed to do something that very few posts on DC by now manage to do : astonish me . ... (read in full...)

My dad is pissed that I don't love my boyfriend anymore?

Q.   Hello. So my boyfriend and I have a complicated on and off relationship. We have been together for four years. I invited him to my birthday party thinking that my dad still doesn't like him (my dad never said a word about liking him until last ...

A.   11 July 2016:  I am not sure that I understood what happened . Your dad gets drunk at your birthday party - and you kick your on and off bf out ?? why ? As if it were his fault that your dad got drunk ! Anyway- leave dad out of this , it's not relevant. I don'... (read in full...)

Can't understand why she cheated with a homosexual?

Q.   Hi. What does it mean when that my wife has cheated me with a gay guy, and prefers gay friends?...

A.   11 July 2016:  Strange question. If your wife cheated on you with a gay man, well, he was not that gay after all ! Must have been bisexual. Then, what difference does it make if she cheated on you with a straight guy , a gay guy, or a walrus ?.. She still ch... (read in full...)

She's downgraded me from facebook. I thought we were friends not just co-workers. What to do?

Q.   I'm friends with a female at work, we talk now and then at work but not a lot to each other as she's busy but we are friends on facebook though. When I didn't hear back from her in a while, I posted on her wall, haven't replied back to me, which wa...

A.   11 July 2016:  I agree with Tisha. This girl is telling you that she is not going to cut you off her life, as long as you respect her boundaries. So, don't be clingy, don't pressure her, don't act desperate. You can tell her about autism if you wish- bu... (read in full...)

Have my feelings changed towards my married lover?

Q.   I've been with my married lover for a few years. He has gone on vacation with his wife several times over the course of our affair, leaving me behind. I know it's an affair and nobody approves. But I am not here for that part of it. I am just tr...

A.   11 July 2016: Let me begin by saying that I don't believe that necessarily people SHOULD feel miserable and incomplete when their partner is away. In fact, I think it's an extreme, unusual reaction. Missing somebody ,looking forward to see them again- yes, of ... (read in full...)

She's downgraded me from facebook. I thought we were friends not just co-workers. What to do?

Q.   I'm friends with a female at work, we talk now and then at work but not a lot to each other as she's busy but we are friends on facebook though. When I didn't hear back from her in a while, I posted on her wall, haven't replied back to me, which wa...

A.   10 July 2016:  I did not quite catch the meaning of your update, anyway, if you were asking how do you have to go about fixing the friendship- no, don't do anything. At least for now and for a good while. First, I am pretty sure that you misinterpreted and ... (read in full...)

Saw 6 Condoms in His Travelling Bag

Q.   Please my big brother and sister in the house, Am married for two years now, we have a daughter. Recently my husband job entailed him travelling a lot. He was travelling today and he took six condoms,he ought to be away for 6 days. I saw it in his ...

A.   10 July 2016:  It sounds like a big fat lie to me. I am sure that his boss would be perfectly capable to get himself his own condoms, and also that he ( the boss ) would PREFER to do that, rather that involving his employees in his own most personal and priv... (read in full...)

Confused, does he want a relationship or not?

Q.   Hi I'm 15 years old and a girl. I have a "thing" with a guy who is also my age. I met him at the local fair and we hit it off really good fast. I'm super bad at texting so in the beginning he'd text me and sometimes I wouldn't respond. Not because I ...

A.   10 July 2016:  I'd have to say no. Look, it's simple. You want a relationship with this guy- and if he wanted the same, you would be HAVING a relationship . Who would be stopping you ? you are single, with no kids, no conflicting work schedules yet, I supp... (read in full...)

Does a guy being skinny put women off?

Q.   I'm a skinny lad and I was wondering is this a turn-off? I mean I know some girls like guys to be teddy bears but is there really any market for us skinny guys? I'm 5'11"/180 cm and 143 pounds/64 kg and feel as though I'm not bulky enough for women ...

A.   10 July 2016:  Sexy. David Bowie was skinny. Mick Jagger was skinny. James Dean was skinny. Tbh, I prefer " slim " or " lean " to downright skinny, as in : protruding rib cage and you can count each vertebra. The ideal would be lean but still healthy looking.... (read in full...)

Is it OK for the guy I am seeing to keep on texting his ex when he is on a date with me? What can I do?

Q.   If the guy you are seeing, keeps texting an ex while he is spending time with you,would you be okay with it. Is it disrespectful to the girl? Would you turn a blind eye to it? Will you date a guy who is bff with his ex?...

A.   9 July 2016:  What did I tell you ? he is an ape. Ah so he does not owe you anything because you are dating ? No, he owes you- he owes you at the very least the normal courtesy which he would extend to a neighbour or a coworker or anybody , really, he were ... (read in full...)

Eight weeks pregnant. Angry abusive father to be. I'm crying a lot. What can I do?

Q.   Hi I feel completely lost and don't know what to do. I've been with my boyfriend for a year. We have been living together and I recently found out that I'm pregnant (I am 8 weeks gone) and have decided to keep the baby. Me and my boyfriend do...

A.   9 July 2016:  No, you know what to do. Maybe you don't like the idea of doing it , but I bet you know what you've got to do . You need to leave him. "He has been physically violent with me on one occasion" . That was one time too many. Did it happen wh... (read in full...)

What are likely reasons that a man would ask this question of a woman about children ?

Q.   What would you think if your boyfriend asked you "what do you think things would of been like if you never would of have had your kids?" I have kids from a previous relationship but he's always been great with them, so I was thrown off by that ...

A.   9 July 2016:  I would not read anything particular in this question, and most of all not a sign that he has a problem with children, or YOUR children. Call it idle curiosity , if you wish, but it's simply a very natural question for anybody to ask to ( or t... (read in full...)

Is this a cultural shock that is affecting my relationship? Has anyone experienced anything similar?

Q.   I dont know where to start. I am from South America and I emigrated to USA 8 years ago, I studied got a degree. I have a good job and support myself , single no kids. I met an Iraqi guy 2 years ago, hes younger by 8 years. He came legally, ...

A.   9 July 2016:  Posts like yours always get my goat. They irk me big time. Proviso : I respect profoundly ANY religion, any belief, any culture. Including those I don't understand or approve of. People have any right to practice their religion and follow t... (read in full...)

Is it OK for the guy I am seeing to keep on texting his ex when he is on a date with me? What can I do?

Q.   If the guy you are seeing, keeps texting an ex while he is spending time with you,would you be okay with it. Is it disrespectful to the girl? Would you turn a blind eye to it? Will you date a guy who is bff with his ex?...

A.   9 July 2016:  I second Honeypie- don't worry about it. He is blatantly in bad faith. He knew he was wrong- but " the best defense is attack". Otherwise, if he is sincerely oblivious to how wrong he was, then he is just an ape and you are well rid of him. ... (read in full...)

She's downgraded me from facebook. I thought we were friends not just co-workers. What to do?

Q.   I'm friends with a female at work, we talk now and then at work but not a lot to each other as she's busy but we are friends on facebook though. When I didn't hear back from her in a while, I posted on her wall, haven't replied back to me, which wa...

A.   9 July 2016:  Sorry OP but.. it figures. If just by your concise posts we all at DC got the impression that you were acting clingy and desperate.... chances are that you must have really trespassed her boundaries and made her uncomfortable or even scared. Fran... (read in full...)

She's downgraded me from facebook. I thought we were friends not just co-workers. What to do?

Q.   I'm friends with a female at work, we talk now and then at work but not a lot to each other as she's busy but we are friends on facebook though. When I didn't hear back from her in a while, I posted on her wall, haven't replied back to me, which wa...

A.   7 July 2016:  No, it was not a good idea. You are not helping your cause. You post on her wall , creating , although involuntarily, quite some brouhaha- she does not like it. You want to apologize, and to apologize , you post publicly again. She is not s... (read in full...)

She's downgraded me from facebook. I thought we were friends not just co-workers. What to do?

Q.   I'm friends with a female at work, we talk now and then at work but not a lot to each other as she's busy but we are friends on facebook though. When I didn't hear back from her in a while, I posted on her wall, haven't replied back to me, which wa...

A.   7 July 2016:  But WHAT did you post on her wall ? If it was something too gushy or sentimental or personal, which elicited lots of embarassing comments , she may have felt compelled to downgrade you so that you stay within more appropriate boundaries. Anyw... (read in full...)

Is it OK for the guy I am seeing to keep on texting his ex when he is on a date with me? What can I do?

Q.   If the guy you are seeing, keeps texting an ex while he is spending time with you,would you be okay with it. Is it disrespectful to the girl? Would you turn a blind eye to it? Will you date a guy who is bff with his ex?...

A.   6 July 2016:  I see that you have already got very good answers, and taken a very wise decision. I just want to add that, as for me, forget the whole " best friend with his ex " saga- I would not be OK with such behaviour even if the man were texting the Pope... (read in full...)

I would love to ask this waitress out. Any suggestions on how to handle this?

Q.   I like a waitress in the town near to where I live. She has served me on several occasions, and said hi and spoken to me. I would love to ask her out, but my bottle always goes!! It was my birthday yesterday, and on the way out she said 'Ha...

A.   28 June 2016:  Personally, but I think many women share my preference, I don't like arrogance but I like confidence. It may be a fine line.. but it exists. OP- it's just a date. You are asking for some of her time, not for one of her kidneys. No need to twis... (read in full...)

I would love to ask this waitress out. Any suggestions on how to handle this?

Q.   I like a waitress in the town near to where I live. She has served me on several occasions, and said hi and spoken to me. I would love to ask her out, but my bottle always goes!! It was my birthday yesterday, and on the way out she said 'Ha...

A.   27 June 2016:  I agree - no need to fake " keen ". I did not mean to jinx your date, OP :). It's just , that you know how they say : Expect the best. Prepare for the worst. Best of luck ! ... (read in full...)

I would love to ask this waitress out. Any suggestions on how to handle this?

Q.   I like a waitress in the town near to where I live. She has served me on several occasions, and said hi and spoken to me. I would love to ask her out, but my bottle always goes!! It was my birthday yesterday, and on the way out she said 'Ha...

A.   27 June 2016:  I'd follow the program and do what she said : next time you go to this place , ask for her and remind her your coffee date. If she meant business, she will arrange with you a day and time . If she was tryng to let you down easy ( alas this can ... (read in full...)

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