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Hi everybody. I am an Italian woman currently living in Italy but I spent many years in England and USA. I hope my English is still decent but in case it got a little rusty, please be lenient.

My age ? Let say that I am way past the stage when you cry if the boy you like takes your best friend to the prom, and young enough to remember how awful that feels.

What qualifies me to help people- well, let me show off just a bit and mention that I studied Psychology 4 years in college, and, even if then I graduated in a different subject, I never lost my interest in psychology and kept reading a lot about this subject. Yet that does not really qualify me for anything because intellectual knowledge is not the same as real life experience. So let's say I feel I can advice people because I have lived a lot, travelled a lot, met a lot of people from all backgrounds , races and religions- I have loved a lot, and I have also been dumped a lot :)

Plus, I am really fascinated with people and their stories. Not in a gossipy way. I just find that every person is a whole new world that I am excited to discover.

Right now I am single- and happily so. I realized- better late than never - that rather than waiting for Prince Charming I should first become a Princess myself. You can't love anybody unconditionally, if first you don't love yourself unconditionally, and this is what I am learning to do.

Looking forward to hear from all of you..

Ciao

Cindy

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19 August 2014: Yeah I know : ultimately love is a mystery, not an exact science. There's always an element of sheer luck, of serendipity, of magic in it. Some times you do everything right, by the book, you are the perfect gf / wife / lover .. and you still get ...

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A.   22 April 2015:  Strange reasoning, male anon. He'd be an asshole allright ! ; it's all in the intention. If in any given situation ,guy X on purpose acts toward me differently from the prevalent codes of social conduct, ( or simply, differently from how... (read in full...)

What motivates people to cheat? Especially why do married people cheat?

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A.   21 April 2015: I'll start from your 2nd question : why don't cheaters just get out of their r/ships rather than sleeping around ? Because staying is easier. In the case of married people, a divorce is very FINAL, and ut comes with a high price to pay, and ... (read in full...)

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A.   21 April 2015:  I'd say, soldier on with your CBT. Actually, feeling angry may be a good sign at this srage- it happens with therapy and it may mean precisely it is having an effect . You know, like if you have ,say, a bottle of water with a sticky dark sedi... (read in full...)

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A.   21 April 2015:  Janniepeg raises an interesting point which I hadn't thought of at first. We are all conventionally assuming that these two girls must have felt crushed and humiliated by your friend's behaviour. But, seen the particular circumstances of thei... (read in full...)

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A.   21 April 2015: Life is not fair , OP. So,you believe that it is your biological imperative being the initiator . Which is not true, btw. There are women, including yours truly, who will not mind taking the initiative, and I assure you that I may belong to a mino... (read in full...)

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Q.   I have a friend who has the most uncanny ability to be a jerk to specifically women he just hooks up with and still have them at his beck and call. I've seen it with my own two eyes. It's the weirdest dynamic I've ever seen. Most recently, he had a...

A.   19 April 2015:  Wow, I don't have an aswer for you, just a question, out of curiosity : how come are you still FRIENDS with a douche like this ? How come you are even in speaking terms ?... You say that you do not condone his behaviour, but , pardon me, maybe in ... (read in full...)

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A.   12 June 2014:  Of course, Op,- I realize that what you suggested is reasonable and it's the same advice that a financial advisor would give. A financial advisor without the passion for horses , though- without a life that revolves around horses. The girl has... (read in full...)

She is refusing to face financial facts and is moving back home to her parents

Q.   How can me and my fiancée come to an agreement? She's lived with me in a house I own and I knew she had some debts so I sat down with her to help sort them out. Around £20,000 in debt including car payments. She has 3 horses which cost her around £...

A.   10 June 2014:  OK, so whip me everybody ( horse-whip me ), I am with the " why should she give them up ". I mean, you fell in love with " the girl with the horses ". It sounds like it's much more than a hobby or a passtime, it's a passion, a lifestyle, a part ... (read in full...)

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