Temptation to cheat? Or just spreading the love?
Q. Hi! I have been with my husband for 16 years and married for 3. Not as if this matters, but anyway! Since being married I have caught him a handful of times reacting to half naked girls stories on instagram. This has happened both sober and drunk....
A. 4 July 2022: Instagram is full of big bouncing boobs and big round asses. It’s an irresistible thirst trap for men. My husband is the same way - he is constantly looking at sexy Instagram models shaking their boobs and asses in their lingerie or swimwear. It is ... (read in full...)
Where in a relationship do you think the point is that things become humdrum and also safe and Dependable
Q. Hello there. American expat couple in Canada. Well, technically, I'm a Canadian as my mom's one but I never lived in Canada but we moved here 8 years ago. I'm an American to you, but have citizenship of both. Our relationship began as an LDR,...
A. 7 June 2022: Taking a trip to a romantic destination can help, but there are also many things you can do at home for free! You need to pleasantly surprise him. Get new lingerie and wear it around the house when you cook. When he’s laying on the couch watching ... (read in full...)
I think boyfriend may be lying and cheating
Q. Hi. I am in a relationship with a guy for the last 1 year. He has been putting me through a lot anxiety. He has been behaving differently for quite some time now. I am always his second priority. His second plan. He goes out with his “friends” in ...
A. 30 May 2022: I’m confused. He used to forget condoms, so when he got a new one, he put it in his wallet to remember it. Why is that a crime? There is no evidence he ever planned to use it with anyone other than you. You have nothing to worry about.... (read in full...)
My daughter is being bullied. How can I help her?
Q. My daughter is 16 and in high school; he's told me how he's been unhappy the past few weeks. She said she was unhappy because a girl in the year below told her: "You will get me that $750 drum I saw on eBay, you can afford it, you're the rich ...
A. 22 May 2022: I feel you. It makes me so angry that people would judge your daughter because of who she loves, or threaten your family just because you have enough money to live comfortably. My husband and I are in a similar situation but it’s even worse over ... (read in full...)
My husband never initiates sex
Q. Me and my husband of 2 years hardly have sex. We discussed it before and he said i should initiate it more if that's what i want. I started initiating it here and there, but it doesnt feel natural to always be the one initiating it. So sometimes i ...
A. 2 May 2022: I don’t think we have enough info to give you a solid answer but the real problem here is the lack of communication. It sounds like it’s hard for you guys to talk about this without things getting heated because of feelings of defensiveness, blame, ... (read in full...)
Is my ex playing hard to get?
Q. I broke up with my girlfriend after many years together. I snapped one day after her complaints. I wasn’t in a good frame of mind. We gave it space and I met her again last week as I was in the area. She was star struck, giggling didn’t know what...
A. 27 April 2022: I’m confused. Do you want to get back together with her or not? If you do, you need to do more than just casual talk. You need to do something special, a romantic gesture to apologize for your stupidity in breaking up with her. You need to sweep her ... (read in full...)
Intimacy issues have me feeling like I am in a rut
Q. Hi - I seem to be asking quite a lot of advice recently! I am married to a really lovely man. We have been married 7 years, together 11. I am starting to feel unfulfilled and resentment though and I really don’t want to. My husband has kids...
A. 27 April 2022: I agree with the previous aunt. You need to listen to him. It sounds like he has unfulfilled needs that you aren’t paying attention to. You expect intimacy but what are you doing to create it? Make sure his desires are met and you can rekindle the ... (read in full...)
Addicted to soda
Q. My mom reprimanded me again over my addiction to soda which she sells. i steal and drink alot of soda about five in a day or minimum of two and my parents have caution and corrected me alot. i have tried to stop i had gone weeks and months but i...
A. 27 April 2022: When I read your post it felt like I’m looking at my past self! I am a soda addict too. I got hooked when I was your age and, no surprise, that is when I first became overweight. I’ve been overweight my whole life since then. I have gained about ... (read in full...)
She cancelled our first date because of who I follow on Instagram
Q. I'm 34 and she's 24. We matched on Tinder, eventually transitioned into Instagram, then started texting,and she let me know she prefers talking on the phone. I gave her a call, we talked for nearly 2 hours, finally set up our first date and I was ...
A. 14 April 2022: She’s not worth your time. I don’t agree with the other commenters who implied you shouldn’t be following sexy Instagram models. You ought to follow whoever you damn well please. For her to judge you like that was just plain wrong.
A lot of women... (read in full...)
I found emails between my boyfriend and his ex
Q. Hi all. I have a question. I am not sure if it's something I should be worried about. My boyfriend moved to my area a month ago and we have been exclusively dating. We enjoy each other's company and get on well. When we have sex, he doesn't reall...
A. 24 March 2022: You are totally overreacting. Did he say anything romantic or sexual in the email? If not, I don’t see what the big deal is. Lots of people keep in touch with their exes. I keep in touch with some of mine. Would I want to get back together? Hell no. ... (read in full...)
I feel lost and unhappy in my marriage
Q. Hi there, So... I'm sure my problem is a very common one on this site. I have been married for 7 years now (I got married when I was 23) and I love my husband so much. However, since we came to Canada around 6 months ago, I noticed that he'...
A. 3 March 2022: Thank you for writing back!! He sounds very self-centered, entitled, and spoiled. He doesn’t appreciate all of the work you do around the house, and that comment about how little money you make shows it. Honestly my husband is exactly the same way. ... (read in full...)
I feel lost and unhappy in my marriage
Q. Hi there, So... I'm sure my problem is a very common one on this site. I have been married for 7 years now (I got married when I was 23) and I love my husband so much. However, since we came to Canada around 6 months ago, I noticed that he'...
A. 28 February 2022: When he says you changed, what do you think he means by that? I was in a similar situation earlier in my marriage. My husband was incredibly lazy and disinterested in me. As soon as he got home from work he would lay down on the couch and watch ... (read in full...)
Frustrated at this friendship with no benefits
Q. So there’s a guy I met through my cousin and we have been talking for a month but under the understanding that we would be FWB. I’m a 30 year old female and he is a 28 year old male. He has only had one partner and I’m a Virgin and tbh I just feel ...
A. 8 February 2022: Women usually want to go slower than guys, so he’s probably a bit confused and cautious. If the expectation is “we’re gonna meet up and have sex” he may be intimidated by that since you’ve never had sex before. Try lowering the expectation and see ... (read in full...)
I'm worried because I can no longer keep up with my husband sexually
Q. I don’t know why but I feel really insecure because I don’t want sex as much anymore and my husband may end up leaving me because of it. Last week during a boozy get together with my husband and another couple we got talking about our sex lives. I...
A. 8 February 2022: My husband and I are also mismatched when it comes to our sex drives. As I’ve gotten older, I just can’t do it as much as I used to. I’ve also put on a lot of weight (over 100 pounds since we got married) and I’m not in shape like I used to be. It’s ... (read in full...)
How do I handle my girlfriend's breasts
Q. my gf and I have been dating for over 6 months. I love her and I know she feels the same. I fell a bit clumsy when it comes to her breasts... She is a petite, beautiful and smart woman with gorgeous long hair and the most amazing pair of nat...
A. 10 January 2022: The biggest thing here is consent. My husband is constantly feeling my boobs and my ass, but we’ve established that I’m comfortable with it and I’m okay with him feeling them whenever he feels like it. You have not established that kind of ... (read in full...)
Has a man ever been turned off by a woman once he has gotten her naked?
Q. I am a 34 year old female looking to take things to the next level with my current boyfriend. I have been divorced for 18 months and was with my ex for almost ten years. Even though I was married, I am rather inexperienced. I have only ever had sex ...
A. 10 November 2021: I’m also plus size and a bit overweight (5’2” and 220 pounds) and I can assure you my sex life is great. Early on, I had all of the same concerns and worries you have. I am apple shape and carry a lot of my fat around my belly, and my belly was huge ... (read in full...)
It bothers me that my bf likes other women's pics on social media
Q. Hello aunts and uncles So my bf and myself have been together about 2 years. He is very active on social media. Always liking womens pics. For some reason it does bother me I think because he has cheated in the past and I've asked him nicely...
A. 16 October 2021: I agree with the previous comment. My husband loves to look at pictures and videos of scantily clad or naked woman. He does it every day. He follows hundreds of models on Instagram and YouTube. Especially girls who post lots of bikini videos. He ... (read in full...)
My partner's porn watching really makes me feel unconfident
Q. So I recently found out my partner is watching porn again which makes me really unhappy. The first time I found out he was watching it was whilst he was in the bathroom with the volume turned up, so it was quite obvious and he made no effort t...
A. 11 August 2021: My husband does it too. It took me a long time to accept. I struggled with the same feelings as you, especially because I am overweight. I gained a lot of weight since our wedding. I felt like my body can’t compete with a lot of the girls he looks ... (read in full...)
Do I say how I feel or remain quiet but regret it?
Q. Hey everyone, I’m in need of some help! So a few years back I was chatting to this boy ok Twitter (weird I know) but we lost contact due to me getting in a relationship and me living far away at the time. Fast forward and I’m out of my relationship ...
A. 10 August 2021: You ought to give him a chance but you need to have a conversation about exclusivity before you sleep with him again. This is gonna sound weird but I thought my husband was an f-boy when we first started dating. He had slept with lots of girls and ... (read in full...)
Was my partner being mean and cruel about my appearance?
Q. I'm in need of some advice. I've gained a few pounds during the pandemic. I used to be in great shape before I was forced to stop working out. It has been 1.5 years of inactivity. Even so, I still think my body looks good. I have gained w...
A. 6 August 2021: My story is similar to yours. I’m a very curvy girl - wide hips, big butt. Which my husband absolutely loved… at least at first. I was 145 pounds when we got married - not skinny, but certainly NOT fat. My body was pretty average so, no visible abs, ... (read in full...)
Is it right for my 15-year old son to date an 18-Year old girl?
Q. My 15-year old son has recently started going out with an 18 year old girl. Is it just me or does this seem really inappropriate? Don’t get me wrong she’s a nice person and he seems to be really smitten with her but she is technically an a...
A. 19 July 2021: Wow. I can’t believe how judgmental the other answers are. A 3-year age difference isn’t that much. These days, 18 is still very much a child. Does she have her own place? Own car? I doubt it. She is still living with her parents just like him. Talk ... (read in full...)
I am very angry at my boyfriend for staring at some random woman's ass!! I am having a hard time getting over this
Q. I am so ANGRY right now! My boyfriend and I have issues with trust. We went for our first couple's counselling appointment today. While in the waiting room, this blonde woman came out to get a drink of water at the cooler. I think she was one of the ...
A. 29 May 2021: Wow. The problem here is your insecurity, not your husband glancing at an ass that’s right in front of him. You said he “makes me feel ugly, invisible, not good enough.” How?? You’re acting like looking at a woman’s ass for 2 seconds is some ... (read in full...)
I Feel Like Everything Changed In 2012, I Have No Friends
Q. What are you supposed to do when everyone just watches anime, netflix, and talks about food? Every person i meet now days just does these things or talks about their family how am i supposed to find someone to hang out with or do things with? Can...
A. 24 April 2021: As someone who spends all her time watching Netflix and eating food, I feel attacked by this question lol.
Well I think I am just average and I think talking about Netflix, food, family, etc. is totally normal. Sports and fitness and adventur... (read in full...)
Will men in general settle for having average, lacklustre or even bad sex over NO sex at all?
Q. I know this is a generalization. But would you say it is reasonable to assume that many or most or at least some men would take average, mediocre or even bad sex over having no sex at all? For example, if they are on a business trip or away from ...
A. 26 March 2021: My husband has a huge sex drive and says he “needs it” every single day. We have sex a lot but if I’m not able to one night, he will just masturbate instead. He has never cheated. To answer your question, no I don’t think guys cheat for sex. Not ... (read in full...)
How often does the average married couple have sex?
Q. This is a pretty simple question I guess. How often does the average married couple have sex? ...
A. 26 March 2021: For my husband and I, it’s every day. If I’m not in the mood for sex, I give him oral really quick. But I always try to give him something every day - it has made our marriage so much stronger. He needs it daily. He has a big sex drive because if I ... (read in full...)
My husband is stress eating. I think he's depressed. How can I help him?
Q. Since we got married 18 months ago, my partner has grown fat and slightly unattractive, but not lazy (if anything, he's a bit too obsessive over DIY and other things). He'll sit and eat 24 packets of potato chips in one go; yes, 2 packets of 12 cr...
A. 14 March 2021: My husband also has a big overeating habit, expects a lot of sex but won’t take care of his body. He’s 5’9” and was a healthy 180 pounds when we got married. His weight started going up pretty quickly after marriage. At first he was just a bit ... (read in full...)
How do you guys deal with partners complaining about weight.
Q. How do you guys deal with partners complaining about weight. Like I’m getting so fed up. I personally have been getting anxiety as I have not been able to hit my goals due to lockdown. So I spent some money and purchased some equipment. It’s ...
A. 10 March 2021: First you need to understand that weight gain is normal in a relationship. Like many women I have struggled with my weight my whole life. It is very, very difficult to maintain a slim body. I am a short 5’2” (147cm) and my lowest weight was around ... (read in full...)
How can I get my husband to masturbatein front of me
Q. How can I get my husband to masterbate in front of me. Hes gotten more comfortable with the idea and will now do it for a like 30 seconds then he stops and we have sex...but I want him to do it untill he finishes so I can see him climax and his c...
A. 16 February 2021: You can’t expect him to do it on command - that just creates pressure and performance anxiety. But if he is relaxed and totally comfortable with you it will happen naturally. My husband has a huge sex drive that I can’t possibly satisfy even tho we ... (read in full...)
My husband only wants sex when he is drunk
Q. I'm having a problem with my sex life; embarrassing to ask, but I don't know where to go. My husband doesn't seem to want sex with me unless he's drunk and can't seem to get interested unless he's tanked up on vodka and beer. He's a great gu...
A. 13 February 2021: There’s no easy way to ask this but... how much weight have you gained? You’ve been together 12 years. A woman’s body will change a lot in 12 years. For me, I’m 5’2” and I’ve gone from a slender 145 pounds on our wedding night 2 years ago to my ... (read in full...)
My husband only wants sex when he is drunk
Q. I'm having a problem with my sex life; embarrassing to ask, but I don't know where to go. My husband doesn't seem to want sex with me unless he's drunk and can't seem to get interested unless he's tanked up on vodka and beer. He's a great gu...
A. 13 February 2021: There’s no easy way to ask this but... how much weight have you gained? You’ve been together 12 years. A woman’s body will change a lot in 12 years. For me, I’m 5’2” and I’ve gone from a slender 145 pounds on our wedding night 2 years ago to my ... (read in full...)
I feel like my boyfriend doesn't know how to be in a relationship
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year now. This is his first real relationship and we live together. We are passed the honeymoon phase. He used to text me all the time, now I hear from him 2-3 times during the work day. He is really into ...
A. 11 February 2021: Without more info it’s hard to tell whether he’s being selfish or whether you’re being too clingy. What you described is pretty common with men and he seems to be doing better than most. My husband for example doesn’t text me at all during the day. ... (read in full...)
Do I chose between 2 men that don't have all the qualities I want or wait for the whole package?
Q. Okay, so I am knee deep into online dating right now apart from the matrimonial search my parents are on. Until now I have either fallen in love in accidental ways or intensely dated one person at a time. I don't have enough experience to ob...
A. 30 December 2020: You need to choose someone with compatible beliefs/values, compatible personality, honesty, strengths that complement your weaknesses, someone you feel comfortable sharing your secrets with, a good communicator, and someone who is committed to ... (read in full...)
How are others dealing with the anxiety caused from the pandemic?
Q. I know I am not the only one experiencing problem with this ongoing pandemic but I'm wondering if any of the wonderful aunts and uncles could give me some advice that perhaps I haven't tried or thought of? I am having such a hard time just trying...
A. 1 December 2020: I’m just like you. I feel scared and I haven’t been outside in months. But I’m learning how to feel more comfortable by practicing self care and self love. It’s been a journey. Thank God I work from home. But I almost lost my job in the spring be... (read in full...)
What's a nice way to tell my wife she needs to lose weight?
Q. So I'm in a bit of a dilemma. My wife has put on quite a bit of weight over the past year or so and it's gotten to the point where I don't really find her attractive anymore. What's the nicest way to encourage her to lose weight? I know you'll ...
A. 4 November 2020: Wow, you need to be really careful here. I don’t think you realize just how touchy the issue of weight is for women. I know because I am an overweight wife and the issue of weight has caused a lot of stress in my marriage. Reading your post made me ... (read in full...)
My wife lost weight is dressing sexy and I'm worried she might stray
Q. During the covid epidemic, my wife started working out hard and has lost the last bit of weight she wanted to. She looks fantastic now, my issue is she has ordered some very short dresses and skirts and now that most of the stores have reopened, she ...
A. 23 July 2020: Wow. Most men are upset because their wives gained weight. I can’t believe you’re upset because your wife lost weight!
Weight is a super sensitive topic for women. It has been a big problem in my marriage because both me and my husband have put... (read in full...)
How does agreeing to coffee or a walk suddenly change direction like this?
Q. A good friend passed away last year. It was very unexpected. Her husband [widower, I think you call him] contacted me yesterday afternoon and asked if I would like to go out sometime. I was pleasantly surprised and told him I would. Now today...
A. 9 June 2020: You need to ask him what he meant. Everyone is assuming sex but it sounds to me like he wants a serious relationship with you! You need to ask for clarification. Don’t make assumptions.... (read in full...)
Someone tell me I’m not crazy for wanting a real relationship!
Q. I’m in my early thirties but I’ve never had a partner/boyfriend. I’ve been online dating for several years but all the men I meet just want no strings sex. They claim they are looking for a relationship but after a few weeks of dating we have sex ...
A. 17 April 2020: You are having sex too soon. Make them work for it. You say you’ve never had a boyfriend, yet you’ve had sex with multiple men. That’s backwards. Make him prove his commitment and become your long-term boyfriend FIRST before you have sex. It could ... (read in full...)
What the heck is wrong with this man and his comments?
Q. Hi guys, my boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years and 2 months, but there is something that I cant quite wrap my finger about and it’s the fact that my boyfriend every time we see a movie, show or whatever on tv and theres a pretty or ...
A. 3 March 2020: My husband also loves to look at women. He constantly stares at them especially if they are wearing leggings or revealing clothes. Even when we are home he loves to watch stuff with hot women on TV. He will watch runway models for hours and not even ... (read in full...)
Are bad body odour and dirty clothes a deal breaker?
Q. i’ve been chatting with a guy on dating site. Built up a connection, exchanged phone numbers and have now talked on the phone a few times as well as chatting online.Decided to meet up in person as we have a lot in common and definitely a ...
A. 8 February 2020: My husband often stinks! He sweats like a pig and on weekends he often doesn’t bathe or get dressed unless he’s going out. BUT we are in the “comfortable” phase of our relationship. Early on, we both put in a lot more effort, which should be ... (read in full...)
Is he normal? He says he doesn't want to sleep with me right now.
Q. I had a date last night with an amazing guy! We went out for drinks, ice cream, and to browse books at the local bookstore. After that, he invited me back to his place to play chess. We didn't get to play because we were too busy talking but then he ...
A. 29 January 2020: Wow, I think you would appreciate that you found a man who doesn’t just want to get in your pants on the first date. You should appreciate that and respect his desire to go slow. Personally I would never have sex on the first date and I would feel ... (read in full...)
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