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Is my husband's honesty admirable or despicable?

Q.   My husband told me that he loves me, but he's not attracted to my body, anymore. He said he just wants to be honest with me. He really isn't trying to be mean, and he's not saying it in a demeaning way. Specifically, he wants me to tone my body....

A.   2 March 2013: His is being hurtful. Everyone's body changes. If my partner told me my body didn't turn him on nemore, i would start pointing out his habits thatcannoy me. U have had children, of course ur body is going to be less tones and have cellulite. Hell ... (read in full...)

Is my girlfriend being unfair? She's allowed to be with male friends late at night but I'm not allowed to be out with girl friends late???

Q.   long distance for the most part but have the goal ultimately of living together. We visit multiple times a year for months at a time as well. I love this girl more than words could ever describe. I just need some opinions. My girlfriend is a very ...

A.   20 February 2013: Trust works both ways. if she isn't allowing you to hand out with yr female friends, tell hr she has to stop hanging out with make friends. a relationship is only a relationship if bith ppl are happy. ... (read in full...)

How do I deal with people who make fun of my height?

Q.   any ideas about how to deal with people who make fun of my height? usually i would just walk away and ignore such people but then i go home feeling i should replied them in kind. my major problem is i cannot get negative comments abt my height out ...

A.   28 December 2012: hi :-) i am 25 and 4"11. so i too have had all the jokes. but if your friends are doing it to be mean then tell them it hurts you when thy say it. the other week we had all our big bosses in our store where i work the head chief i guess. well w... (read in full...)

Why does your partners use of pornography bother you?

Q.   Why does your partner's use of porn bother you? My reason is because they are getting off on someone that isn't me, I have noticed alot of other women saying it is disgusting and degrading that doesn't bother me as much as the fact it is a woman ...

A.   15 December 2012: I dont have a problem with guys watching porn as long as its not "live porn". I understand that he needs to relief himself, especially when we.dont see each other often enough. He never hides the fact from me he uses porn. And honestly if his ... (read in full...)

Kismet! Could this be it?

Q.   Fate, coincidence, luck.... Please read, something happened to me and I would like your thoughts... So I was having a really tough couple of weeks with work, family and things going wrong with my house and the last straw was when I was getti...

A.   10 November 2012: Is this Fate??: maybe.! But who cares. The point is u like him, and by the looks he likes u too. So if u like him, take the chance have the drink with him and see where it leads. All that matters is if you both like each other.Good luck.xx... (read in full...)

Where can I buy lingerie to surprise hubby for his bday

Q.   Hi aunt and uncles. My q is in regards to lingerie. There arent any local places to buy lingerie and I have a harder time now that Im plus size, US 16/18. Does anyone know any good websites for plus size lingerie that has variety of colors? Red, ...

A.   10 November 2012: check out bras'Nthings, they sell so many different types types, and colours. My favourite are the playboy ones. So comry and sexy Not overly expensive.but not cheap and they look great on.... (read in full...)

How do I have this girl wait until we are older for a relationship? I don't want to be a pedophile.

Q.   Basically, there's a girl who has been very open about her feelings for me. She's very attractive and I'm well, not. We get on well together, have common interests in Italian and some other stuff, and I'm good friends with her brother and can ...

A.   29 August 2012: Bring it up casually in conversation that you could never date any one under the age if (watever tge legal age in ur country is.)( over here its 16) tell her that u like her but want to wait until yous are both legal age. ... (read in full...)

Our anniversary is on a Thursday but he wants to go out on Saturday. Why?

Q.   it's me and my boyfriends 1 year anniversary next month. I mentioned it and he said he'd already planned to take me to a certain restaurant I like so I'm happy that he's put some thought into it. our anniversary falls on a Thursday but he wants to ...

A.   29 August 2012: Maybe he couldnt get the restaurant on the thursday; so thats y he booked it for the saturday. if it meabs that much to u tho, just ask him.:-)... (read in full...)

My boyfriend got very violent during our play fight. What does this mean?

Q.   I got back with my boyfriend yesterday after we had been having some troubles. At the moment things seem better than ever but something very i don't know ? Out of the blue happened today. My boyfriend has recently been kicked o...

A.   20 August 2012: You have to leave now. all domestic violence cases start the same way, it shouldn't happen again. Im sorry. but saying 'i love you', then when he knows he has you back it - then it will happen again, until it happens daily. leave now while you ar... (read in full...)

Is there a way for my girlfriend to masturbate without stickling her finger in her vagina?

Q.   Dear Cupid, So recently, my gf keeps asking me how to masturbate. Me and my gf are very open to each other she always asks me for advice. But I don't know what should I say to her. She said that she's afraid to stick her finger in there. I said th...

A.   24 July 2012: there are plenty ways to masturbate per say. rubbing of breasts and nipples, clitoris, her bum, basically watever turns her on. each perzon is different ... (read in full...)

I just can't bear those memories of his previous relationship. What should I do?

Q.   Hi friends. I am going through a typical situation these days. I have a boyfriend. We are in a relationship since 3 years. 3 years back we had broke up for some misunderstandings. After our breakup, my boyfriend got a new girlfriend. She was a real ...

A.   11 July 2012: I think you should talk to your boyfriend, but remember, everyone has baggage. when you love someone, you can talk to them and tell them everything. so if you both love each other, you can talk to him and he won't judge you. good luck. xx... (read in full...)

Work Colleague. Is she just being friendly or are there possibilities? Such as does she like me?

Q.   Hi I work in a hotel. There is a girl I like who works there too, she is really cool. we bump into each other loads, she always smiles at me and we always have a laugh and one a couple of times she has chased me down the corrider messing around. any...

A.   2 July 2012: Judging by what you said about the getting excited then upset ut was a work paper. Id say she likes u too. y not ask her out. u have nothing to lose! :-)... (read in full...)

Boyfriend is below average, so - does size really matter?

Q.   Here's the deal. My boyfriend (whom I love very much and plan on spending my life with) is on the small size. And by small size...I mean a good deal below average (both in length and girth). And I realize that this probably shouldn't bother me, but ...

A.   28 June 2012: If i was your boy friend and you asked me to take pills i would dump you. How would you deal with it, if he made remarks about your breast size and asked you to take pills and get surgery. If you love him like you say you do, you love every thing ... (read in full...)

My mom breastfeeds my brother in public and I hate it!

Q.   I hate it when my mom breastfeeds my baby brother in public. What should I do? She has done it several times. Why the hell would she wanna do it in public? She's crazy. It embarrasses the hell out of me. It's also disgusting. Is there a way I ca...

A.   26 June 2012: Women have the right to breast feed in public. As most the others have said, its the natural mother nature thing to do. i see women breast feeding all the time in my county in public, on the bus, at cafes. no one cares. Maybe our country is m... (read in full...)

Is getting pregnant at 15 the right thing to do?

Q.   Well, im 15... And me and my boyfriend have been together for 9 months, now heres my issue, when we hit a year... My boyfriend wants a BABY..... Okay look, I absoulutly ADORE babies, I LOVE them. And I have no problem with pregnancy at this age.... ...

A.   23 June 2012: The fact you even ask if its the right thing, shows that deep down you know it is NOT the right thing. you should not be considering having kids at ur age. how are you going to support it? How are you going to pay rent? buy food? Clothes for yur ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is into the typical football and drinking culture, he does try and involve me but I simply don't enjoy it! What should I do?

Q.   I have been with my boyfriend for almost two years now. He is English, and that means he loves football, drinking and having night-ins with his mates. Being a person from different social background, I don't understand British drinking and football ...

A.   23 June 2012: Firstly, its not just a british thing, im in australia, and we do the same thing. we get a weekend of we drink, we wanT to hang out with friends, we drink. I see nothing wrong with that. but how about you orgsnise a get together with your own set ... (read in full...)

How do I handle insulting people who think I look too young to be a Mother? I'm twenty six.

Q.   Hi everyone I was just wondering how people in a similar situation deal with this I have a son who is 4 later this year. I had him when I was 22. My partner left me when I told him I was pregnant but I look very young for my age even though I am 26 ...

A.   22 June 2012: I know exactly how u feel !!! ( i dont have kids) but im 25 and look round 15. When i babysit my sisters kids, i always gey ppl looking and whispering. but i just stare straight back at them , and say "they say having kids age u, but i guess im ... (read in full...)

What is wrong with this girl seriously?

Q.   Why is she behaving this way? Did I do anything wrong? So when I was 15 my cousin was 18 and her and I were very closed. There was this guy that liked me but cause I was so young and wasn't into that kind of stuff I introduced my cousin ...

A.   20 June 2012: My advice would be to tell all ur friends the truth, ib front of her. thats she s a crazy bitch that locked u in a room with a guy when u were only 15. Tht is wrong on so many levels on hwr part. u were oy 15 and anything culd have happened to u. ... (read in full...)

I want to focus on the girl I like, but I don't want to upset my friend. How should I do this?

Q.   It's so frustrating and unfair. Every girl I like or hit on somehow dislikes me. But most of the girls I show no genuine interest in, seems to fall for me. For instance, I have a female friend that I frequently talk to. Let's call her A. I use to ...

A.   17 June 2012: As much as it hurts to hear. honesty is the best policy. Sitdown with A and tell her that you can only ever see the two of you being friends, and that you just dont think she is the one for you. Tell her you wanted to be friends but didn't know how ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend thinks its ok to cuddle with friends

Q.   My boyfriend has a friend ( girl ) kinda like a best friend .. that i think is way to friendly with him. I get so jealous. I havent even met this girl yet, and i hate her already. She has a weird sense of humor that i dont get. And like i said.. w...

A.   17 June 2012: Its okay to hug your friends of the opposite sex, i do all the time. but not okay to cuddle, snuggle or spoon with a friend id one of those ppl arw involves with someone else. i too would be angry and upser. explain to ur bf that a quick hug ia ... (read in full...)

Boyfriend wants me to buy things for him and I don't have the money!

Q.   Hi all. Me an My bf we've got a financial problem. He took a annual leave, worse part @ his work they didn't pay his leave form so he was not paid the full amount he bought shoes unaware that there's no enough money. So now he want me to buy for ...

A.   17 June 2012: I agree. you should not have to bail him out just coZ he cant manage his money. Explain to hin that u have ur own rates and electricity and food and petrol to buy and that u just cant afford it. perhaps he could ask his family? Or even take a loan ... (read in full...)

Girlfriend asked me for a mmf threesome with my bestfriend

Q.   My girlfriend's engaged friends starting having threesomes and this sprung curiosity in her.but As a result, she told me that she would like to have one with my best friend. I admit immaturity in my response, but I flipped the fuck out because the ...

A.   17 June 2012: Never do anything that U DONT want to do, no matter how much you love ur gf. If u dont want to do it, telk her NO. and if she loves and respects u then she will drop it. ive had a ffm threesome, and honestly, it caused major trust issues after ... (read in full...)

We're going as friends but I'd like to go as a date

Q.   I've gotten closer to this guy over the last few months. He asked me to go to the ball with him but before that I said "Can two people go to the ball as just friends?" and he says "Oh. Well that's even better." ??? I have once before dated a g...

A.   17 June 2012: Lifes too short to waste time with what ifa and what abouta. if u wana go as a date just tell him. it sounds to me like he likes u too. bite the bullet tell hin how u feel. Befor u miss the chance. :-)... (read in full...)

He doesn't think of me when he mastubates!

Q.   Hi all, I have a problem some people may find strange, my boyfriend said he thinks about me when he masturbates but only sometimes, he then went onto say he thinks about me when sitting at his desk or playing a quiz and to him that's more important ...

A.   15 June 2012: Sweetie, let me tell u this. ALL guys fantasize about other women whsn maturbating. He already has u, y fntasize about u. My best male friendntold me that all guys fantasize about each women they meet. Yes they when masturbating think of ur sister ... (read in full...)

Is he just asking me to go back to his place because I give good Blow jobs?

Q.   i met this guy and he was clear he only wanted sex. i was still a virgin when i had sex with him this week. it didn't hurt that much and i didn't bleed, but i pretty much sucked at sex and i queefed a lot. i'm sure he hated everything except for the ...

A.   15 June 2012: If you arent looking for a relationship, and only sex, make sure it is a two way street, that his pleasuring you too. most guys are happy to see theycare getting there partner turned on. However if this guy does not want a realationship and u do, ... (read in full...)

I can't fall asleep without drinking alcohol

Q.   i have a problem with alcohol and i can't stop, i feel i must drink it. every time i don't i can't fall asleep at all. i always drink to sleep or forget but i don't know what to do now. it has gotten somewhat bad for me and i need advice....

A.   15 June 2012: Drinking to forget is never the answer, not at any age, let alone t ur age. what about ur best friend? can u talk to her about this? Im sorry if im wrong, but are u being sexually assaulted by a famiky member? Is that wat u are trying to forgt? If ... (read in full...)

I know my ex has a b/f but why won't she admit it?

Q.   Me and my ex haven't been talking for 10 months. I didn't contact her before because of fear of being rejected. A couple of days ago, I tried calling her up and she answered my call! We had a really good conversation about what's been going on in ...

A.   14 June 2012: u shuld just ask her ifcshe still cares about u .:-) it may be that she does or may be she doesnt. but u wont know unless u ask her. good luck... (read in full...)

Is he just asking me to go back to his place because I give good Blow jobs?

Q.   i met this guy and he was clear he only wanted sex. i was still a virgin when i had sex with him this week. it didn't hurt that much and i didn't bleed, but i pretty much sucked at sex and i queefed a lot. i'm sure he hated everything except for the ...

A.   14 June 2012: y do u HAVE to give him blow jobs to make urself feel good? did u ask him how the sex was for him? u might think he didnt like the sex but theres also a good chNce he enjoyed the sex. great sex comes from two ppl who have a great sexual connection. ... (read in full...)

I know my ex has a b/f but why won't she admit it?

Q.   Me and my ex haven't been talking for 10 months. I didn't contact her before because of fear of being rejected. A couple of days ago, I tried calling her up and she answered my call! We had a really good conversation about what's been going on in ...

A.   8 June 2012: iy could be that the relationship is still new to her, and doesnt want people to know until she is certain it will work out. also are you 100% sure she has a new bf? maybe someone just told you that she did, to see how u would react? i could be ... (read in full...)

I cannot get over that my girlfriend had a guy bigger than me

Q.   My girlfriend has a high sex drive, compared to other girls I have been with at least. She likes sex. Plain and simple. She told me that she had a one night stand with a "larger guy" one night when we were well, fooling around. She said it hurt, bu...

A.   7 June 2012: to put it simply. thetr is ALWAYS going to be someone that is bigger then u (unless perhaps they a virgin or huge) ur gf shouldnt have said she had a guy that was bigger, but u bith were drinking and she made a mistake telling u. alsocu shuld beleve ... (read in full...)

I know my ex has a b/f but why won't she admit it?

Q.   Me and my ex haven't been talking for 10 months. I didn't contact her before because of fear of being rejected. A couple of days ago, I tried calling her up and she answered my call! We had a really good conversation about what's been going on in ...

A.   7 June 2012: if she really has a bf then stay away. i know thats probably not wat u want to hear, but she is in a relationship. the best u can do is wait until heycbreak up then see if she still cares for u. but if u break them up, whats stopping her from going ... (read in full...)

I know my ex has a b/f but why won't she admit it?

Q.   Me and my ex haven't been talking for 10 months. I didn't contact her before because of fear of being rejected. A couple of days ago, I tried calling her up and she answered my call! We had a really good conversation about what's been going on in ...

A.   7 June 2012: if she really has a bf then stay away. i know thats probably not wat u want to hear, but she is in a relationship. the best u can do is wait until heycbreak up then see if she still cares for u. but if u break them up, whats stopping her from going ... (read in full...)

Boyfriend will be away for 2 weeks and I don't think I can cope with it

Q.   Hi, My boyfriend of over 2 years is away to Europe for the next 2 weeks due to work commitments. We are extremely close, and best friends as well as a couple. This means that we see each other literally all the time and enjoy each other's constant...

A.   5 June 2012: its only 2"weeks the time will fly by. many of my friends and there bfs actially live in different states ( 10 hr drives apart one way) and they onky see each other four days a fortnight. ciz ofvwork obligationd u really need to find something to ... (read in full...)

I worry he might leave me if I don't give him my money.

Q.   Dear cupid My bf has some money problems and he asked me to pay few bills of his. I didn't have that much money myself at that time, hence i told him to wait till my next pay check. We are constantly arguing for the past few days. He never ...

A.   4 June 2012: why cant he pay his own bills? from what you said, you dont live together, so u and your bills should be top prority. dont let him bully into paying HIS bills. ttell him no... say you cant afford it, that u have your own bills to pay just like him. ... (read in full...)

I want to date her but she's not over her last crush

Q.   I'm best friends with this girl. I like her, like a lot, and she loves me as a friend, and I know she does. The only thing stopping us from going out is that she's not over her last crush. She had a HUGE crush on him, and still does. And I will ...

A.   2 June 2012: my advice would be to wait until she is 100% over her crush. other wise u will just be a rebound. is that what u really want? wait a while longer until she only has feelings for u, because if u date her now, u will only be a rebound, and like the ... (read in full...)

Guys: Would you date a disabled girl?

Q.   Hi there. I have a simple question; how do people view people with disability for relationships. Particularly, guys, would you easily date a disabled girl? Thanks....

A.   27 May 2012: I think wed need know more about the disability like is utter ms, mn, dyslexic, ect . some being more severe then others,... (read in full...)

My friend told me that his girlfriend likes me, how should I handle this?

Q.   Hi, I have a problem and wanted to ask for some advise since I don't know what to do. Today a good friend of mine which is also a classmate from a class I'm talking told me that things between him and his girlfriend have not been good and that they ...

A.   27 May 2012: Id say, its possible hes testing u. To see if you would go after husband gf or get with her behind his back. i ccould be wrong. but that's what it sounds like to me. :-) ... (read in full...)

Would you date someone with scars from self-injury?

Q.   Would you date someone with scars from self-injury? I recently went through a pretty rough period while I was far away from home at college, and I became so mentally worn that I resorted to cutting as a coping method. I know it's bad, and I kn...

A.   27 May 2012: Hi. id just like to suggest if you do not like the scars, try bio oil on them. if won't work instantly; but it will made them a lot quicker then normal. Also if someone's cares for u they won't be too bothered by the scars, maybe just curious about ... (read in full...)

I'm rubbish with eye contact, I like him but how should I do it?

Q.   I am horrible at flirting with guys,I'm shy and I feel extremely self concious.For instance,I think there is this guy that likes me. He stares at me a lot, comes stand by my side out of the blue, and we joke around a lot. But what specially makes me ...

A.   26 May 2012: It sounds like he likes u too. the joking, coming to talk to u, going outta his way to talk to u :-). If u can't get his number of him or ur friends, maybe try asking him to lunch as friends. It will be one on one time answer nite as nerve racking ... (read in full...)

Does he still care about me? Or should I just move on?

Q.   Hi, So long story here, I met a man almost a year ago, well a bartender. Looking for an excuse to talk to him I went outside to borrow his lighter and we got chatting we used to sit and talk for hours while he was working and he would walk me ho...

A.   25 May 2012: Life is too short to hold things back. if u love this guy then tell him. the only way u are going to know if he feels the same is to ask. maybe he was just afraid the long distance thing wouldnt work out oe something. watevr the reason tell him u ... (read in full...)

I'm rubbish with eye contact, I like him but how should I do it?

Q.   I am horrible at flirting with guys,I'm shy and I feel extremely self concious.For instance,I think there is this guy that likes me. He stares at me a lot, comes stand by my side out of the blue, and we joke around a lot. But what specially makes me ...

A.   25 May 2012: Do ypu have his phone number? Maybe you could send him a msg or fb him that like him? I get nervous around guys that i like too. im normaly flirty but if i really like someone i can't talk them or look at them . so if you win know if he likes you,... (read in full...)

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