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writes:My friend Bailey and I played a joke on our friend Eve just to embarrass her and teach her a lesson but Bailey took it too far and now Eve got suspended and her parents punished her real bad. She's not aloud to talk to us or anyone or go anywhere and they gave all her presents to charity too. She also might get homeschooled the rest of the year since her parents are so mad at her. It wasn't all the way her fault even. What happened was Eve would never tell us who she liked but we knew she had to like someone. So we pretty much teased her into saying she liked this really popular guy who already had this girlfriend. That was funny since Eve had no chance with him and the girlfriend likes to fight so I don't know what Eve was thinking. So.We got on his Facebook and printed off his pictures and we were going to make a shrine to him in her locker just to embarrass her, teach her a lesson. We figured she would go crush on someone she actually had a chance with. Well. Over the phone she told Bailey over and over not to tell and that if she could she would just date different guys at once and besides the girlfriend might beat her up. So I thought we'd put pictures of different guys up, again, just to embarrass her and teach her a lesson. No one can imagine shy Eve even flirting with a guy let alone actually dating lots! So I had an ortho appointment the next day and Bailey said she'd wait. Here's where it gets bad. She wrote THIRSTY on Eves locker and put up a TON of dick pics from the Internet. When Eve opened her locker she SCREAMED and drew attention to herself. So that's how she got in trouble. Bailey and me felt really really bad and I'm mad she went that far! It was just supposed to be regular guy pics, not dicks! But I can't tell on Bailey because she'll make it all my fault AND get back at me. But I don't want to get in trouble either because if it was just regular pictures it would have been funny. So what do I do?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (14 December 2017):
 You are a bully and it is people like you who bully people so much that they have no confidence and do silly things to themselves, do you know how many people kill themselves over people like you? You should do the right thing and own up about it before you ruin Eve's life!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2017): Sweetheart, I really do hope you will comeback and let us know that you decided to be brave and help Eve. Sometimes people are hurt so deeply that they might do themselves harm. It really saddens me that Eve's parents went so far in punishing her; but didn't trust or know their own daughter enough to know it was some kind of prank pulled on her.
It does make the authenticity of your post a little questionable; and maybe you were the one who pulled the prank, and wanted to see what kind of reaction to expect. You must feel very guilty; even if it was Bailey who is the true culprit behind the pictures. If Bailey is so mean, why wouldn't she set you up anyway; to make it look like it was you to make sure you don't tell on her?
Better you give her up; then let her runaround feeling paranoid! Bailey is a sick girl, and needs help! Eve could be scarred for a long time for what you both did! How would you feel if it were you or your sister?
We get made-up stories from people all the time. Just to razz us or just to see how much attention they'll get. I wouldn't be angry if this is fake; because it would make me very sad to know girls so young can be so cruel to each other. Then hide to save themselves; while someone suffers because of something they didn't do!
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reader, MissKin  +, writes (10 December 2017):
 What if, to teach YOU a "lesson" (as you seem to be keen on doing for Eve) Bailey went behind your back, stuck loads of pictures in YOUR locker and then told the head teacher that it was you who did it and there's evidence in your locker? Would that be "funny"? Because it was just a prank?
Grow up and realise what friendship actually is. You're not a good person. You should own up to what you've done, tell on Bailey, apologise to Eve and hopefully you'll both get kicked out of school and it'll be a lovelier place for everyone.
What is wrong with people??
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (10 December 2017):
 IF this is true, you are a cruel bully. This is NOT funny at all. Do you realise your actions could lead to someone committing suicide? Would it be funny then? It would be your fault for joining in.
It's not funny to make people feel embarrassed or crappy - it's mean.
Grow up, apologise, admit your part in it and start making things right.
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reader, N91 +, writes (10 December 2017):
 Teach her a lesson for what exactly?
I'm sorry but you two sound like bad friends in all honesty, you're both going to let an innocent girl take the punishment for something that she didn't do because you don't want to get into trouble? I think that says a lot about you both.
Do the right thing and TELL SOMEONE THE TRUTH. In future, take this as a lesson not to play immature, nasty jokes on people. Even if you used normal pictures this doesn't sound funny. Embarrassing somebody in front of the whole school isn't a joke and at your age you should know how cruel kids can be to each other and how easily it is for people to get bullied at school.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious + ♥, writes (10 December 2017):
 What a strange story. Eve got blamed for this? On what planet? Surely it was obvious this was not her disgusting work? I am not sure I actually believe your story. Are you a troll?
Let's give you the benefit of the doubt and assume what you are posting is actually true. If THAT is what you call being "friends", I am glad I didn't have friends like you when I was at school. You are nothing but bullies. Just because Eve is shy, does not mean she is there for your entertainment.
It is NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS who she crushes on and, FYI, crushes are all about fantasy, not reality. You need to educate yourselves. That's why people crush on film stars, pop stars, all manner of people they will probably never even meet, let alone have a chance of dating. She crushes on who she finds attractive, not who YOU think she should crush on.
You already KNOW what you should do but it doesn't sound like you have the morals or courage to do it, so go and slink back under your slimy stone and stay there, pretending to be sorry when, in fact, you just want to protect your own skin.
Still not convinced this is anything but someone with too much time on their hands making up silly stories, but that is my answer if it is true.
Have a lovely Xmas.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2017): What really doesn't make sense is that no one believed Eve! Not even her own parents? Her parents severely punished her without giving her a chance to defend herself. Do you see what you two have done to this poor girl? Please help her!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2017): You must tell your parents the whole story. Ask them to meet with your school principal; so you can tell exactly what happened. You're not only being cruel; but you're being a coward to protect your own butt.
Call Bailey and tell her you're going to tell your parents, and she had better tell the truth to help Eve. Bailey isn't going to try and get back at you; because she's the one who needs to be punished.
How can you sit back knowing what happened to Eve; while you protect that mean little witch Bailey?
Your parents have to be involved; because it is likely that you and Bailey are going to be in trouble. Mostly Bailey, since she's the one who used the pictures!
You can fix this. You will feel better knowing you did the right thing and helped Eve. She got punished and didn't do anything wrong. It was you and Bailey, and you let someone innocent get severely punished because of a stupid prank!
Sweetheart, do what's right. Help Eve!
Doing anything to publicly humiliate or expose someone's secrets is a very mean and cruel thing to do. To do it then hide while someone gets unjustly punished, is going to be hard to forget. You'll keep thinking about it and feeling bad for Eve.
Make sure Eve has a nice Christmas. Fix this before school is out for the Holidays. I know this is weighing heavy on your heart. Be brave and tell the truth, sweetheart!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2017): You have to confess. It doesnt matter if Bailey blames you, that is HER PROBLEM and she frankly should be able to see that tje right thing to do is to own up to her actions. I am sure that if you explain to the teachers/parents that it was a prank that got out of hand, they will be mad but they will understand. Of you jowever keep it a secret tou will live with the guilt of severely changing someone's life forever unjustly.
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reader, Billy Bathgate +, writes (10 December 2017):
. Eve’s parents are asses and the administration are your school are morons. But compared to you and the other girl they are saints.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2017): I don’t normally have a go at teenagers
But aren’t you two evil beggers .. I say evil .. as eve can like who the hell she wants too .. she can even crush on who she likes .. you or your nasty friend bailey have no right to even contemplate putting any kind of pictures up to teach her lesson ..
Here what I think .. thank god her parents wish to homeschool her .. if I were eve I would block you both forever .. nasty nasty girls .. And if keeping her away from the world means keeping her away from people like you both .. then it’s worth it, who needs enemies with friends like you!!.
Your post is nasty .. don’t try and paint yourself as the victim it’s falling on death ears .. your smug .. oo who could imagine shy eve .. and you go go the orthodontist I take it .. something wrong with your teeth ?? I had protruding teeth for a while wore a brace but I wasn’t a nasty moo.
Eve hasn’t done anything wrong not even a tiny bit .. I’m not gonna ask you to own up - as nasty girls like you .. never do !!
Your turn will come
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2017): Own up to it and tell the girls parents so that you wont have to live with the guilt. And hopefully her parents will let you be her friend again.
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reader, Ciar  + ♥, writes (10 December 2017):
 'Taught a lesson' in what?
That was a nasty joke you both played. Bailey may have made some changes when you weren't around but you were part of the campaign to teach Eve a lesson. You gave it your blessing and kept the momentum going.
You're as guilty in my book.
My suggestion is you tell Bailey she must come forward and that if she doesn't you will. As Honeypie says, you're leaving an innocent person hanging out to dry. Her parents are extremely worried now thinking she's some wild cannon.
I think you need to come clean.
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reader, Beets +, writes (10 December 2017):
 This is really sad. You and your friend decided to torment someone due to her choice in a crush, to teach her a lesson. This is so cruel. What I hope is that you can learn that people can like whomever they choose. You don't get to decide who a friend likes, or who a friend doesn't like. That is their decision. For you to try to influence them, without just cause, is just downright mean and controlling.
If you have any heart at all, you will confess to your principal what you did, and also apologize to your friend's parents and to her as well.
What you said at the end - if it was just regular pictures it would have been funny? Funny for whom? The girl you're tormenting? Or just funny for you and the rest of the school? What a sad and unfortunate attitude, when hurting someone else is somehow seen as funny.
Please do the right thing. Confess and apologize and take your consequences. Do not ever try to control a person like this again. Let this lesson stay with you and learn from it. I hope that somehow, things can be made right between this girl and her parents. Imagine the embarrassment you've caused her at school and in front of her friends. How incredibly sad. I hope that this girl can somehow heal from all that she has been put through for the sake of "funny."
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2017): I can't believe this whole story, I just can't. Why would the school would punish her without investigation. Doesn't the school have cameras in the halls? How did NO ONE see Bailey hang them up? How do you know how she reacted if you weren't there yet? How did Bailey get into her locker? Wouldn't the school first consider a victim of sexual harassment? How do you know about her parent's punishment if she's grounded from you? Please update and PLEASE tell your parents what happened. Even making a shrine to the popular guy is bullying too. What lesson were you trying to teach?
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reader, Allumeuse +, writes (10 December 2017):
If it was you who had pulled the prank you must have courage and own up. Since you know who did it you must tell Bailey to own up or you will tell the school for her That's integrity. If you caused someone innocent to be punished you must accept the consequences or you will regret it forever. I can't quite believe your School is so short sighted as to believe your friend did this to herself but what the hell. When all of this has blown over, and you have accepted the consequences of your actions, take a really long look at yourself and think about why you get to choose who anyone is attracted to. Wise up. The high school hierarchy that you believe exists is bullshit and you will see this in time. And work hard, because the nerds and the quiet ones will be your bosses one day if you don't knuckle down. Do the right thing.
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reader, TylerSage +, writes (10 December 2017):
 "...teach her a lesson.", "...THIRSTY", "...had no chance with him...", "...embarrass her", Plus the dick pics AT SCHOOL. This prank of yours sounds a smidge bit elaborate.
Are you sure you guys are Eve's friends?
First things first, you need to own up to your crap. If you did something that got someone else into trouble, especially someone you claim is your friend you need to hold yourself accountable for it.
As @Honeypie said, Eve didn't do a thing and it seems she got all the punishment. Plus from what I'm interpreting it seems you guys aren't in trouble at all. And if that's the case it means Eve hasn't ratted you guys out even with so much on the line.
Start going to all the necessary people and telling the truth. The school principal I image, Eve's mom and your parents if necessary. If Eve really is your friend show her. Nobody wanted to get into trouble but someone did, someone who didn't deserve to. If you don't want to mention Bailey's name, fine, take full responsibility.
Don't let this scar Eve for the rest of her life and grow up to have trust issues and not keep friends. If you don't, she may never speak to you guys again.
I know. It sucks. It was just meant to be a prank. But even though it was just meant to be a prank, you guys turned out to be in the wrong. Do the right thing. Be a friend.
All the best.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (10 December 2017):
 So Eve is ENTIRELY innocent her and you are just going to hang her out to dry so YOU don't get in trouble? Wow, selfish much? Shame on you.
Teach her a lesson - cruel much?
All I can say is I hope you and Bailey will see what happens to people like the two of you.
PRANKS are not fun for anyone except the BULLIES that pull them off. And unless you and Baily own up and take responsibility THAT is what you two are, BULLIES.
OWN up what you did. Talk to your parents, talk to the principal and if need be TALK to Eve's mom.
For shame.
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