I've worshipped this girl since I was 16! Do I tell her?
Q. Basically, I've reconnected with a girl I had a relationship with in school. I was 16, she was 15 and we went out for about a year. She was my first love and in the end we mutually broke up for a number of reasons but it was not on bad or bitter ...
A. 3 January 2018: So OP tell us how did you get on?... (read in full...)
I've worshipped this girl since I was 16! Do I tell her?
Q. Basically, I've reconnected with a girl I had a relationship with in school. I was 16, she was 15 and we went out for about a year. She was my first love and in the end we mutually broke up for a number of reasons but it was not on bad or bitter ...
A. 15 November 2017: Sounds like things are going well and you both seem to be on the right path.... (read in full...)
I've worshipped this girl since I was 16! Do I tell her?
Q. Basically, I've reconnected with a girl I had a relationship with in school. I was 16, she was 15 and we went out for about a year. She was my first love and in the end we mutually broke up for a number of reasons but it was not on bad or bitter ...
A. 9 November 2017: You answered your own question here, you need to know how she feels! Therefore you need to ask her. She is not your friend, you have went way passed the friendship line and there is no going back now. It is clear you are head over heels for this ... (read in full...)
How to deal with my interfering and judgmental cousin?
Q. Hi, my cousin is so judgemental and always interferes, even though we never chat and haven't done so in many years. If i have an issue with somebody else and mind you, a legitimate issue, she sees it fit to interfere and stick up for anybo...
A. 9 November 2017: Well it is well known that Facebook does carry these hackers that put pornographic pictures up on your page from one off your friends, so yes I do agree that you shouldn't have slated your Uncle here on Social Media but instead blocked it and asked ... (read in full...)
There is no intimacy in our marriage .... is my wife having an affair?
Q. I have been married for 15 years. Beginning of marriage the sex life was great. Then all of sudden I had to wear a condom didn't want me to orgasm inside her. The kissing stopped was only just a peck on the cheek or lips. Once a month she has dinner ...
A. 9 November 2017: Her not wanting you to orgasm inside her could that be because she doesn't want to get pregnant? It could also be that she is prone to yeast infections but she is to embarrassed to discuss it with you either way it is her choice if she wants to ... (read in full...)
I feel keeping me a secret makes me disposable.
Q. I am seeing (dating?) a guy, though problem is, he is my ex's friend. I knew the guy first, and my ex knows we spend time together because we've been friends for years, but my ex is somewhat of a ring leader and if he doesn't like something or ...
A. 9 November 2017: What does your boyfriend have to say? Does he want to keep the relationship quiet or is it more you? You see your ex is the immature one and off course you and your boyfriend have done nothing wrong and you should be able to be public without ... (read in full...)
I'm in a mess I cant walk away from
Q. Urgh, what a mess. An old colleague messaged me to ask how I was getting on. We never really interacted at work. The messages very quickly became flirty. We are both married. But we met for coffee and there was definitely sexual chemistry....
A. 9 November 2017: Stop being selfish and think off your husband. How cruel are you to hurt him this badly?
Off course your bit on the side is not going to want more, he is getting all he need and that is some sex on the side, his wife is at home for when he want... (read in full...)
I'm (21M) receiving ridiculously mixed signals from my best friend (18F)
Q. I met this girl during the summer when she was single and 2 months fresh after her breakup with her 3-year relationship and after two months of just getting to know her, I confessed how I felt but at the time she rejected me because she wasn't ...
A. 9 November 2017: I agree with the other two aunts, she is not your friend, she just enjoys the attention that she gets from you. If she was not turned on by a male anatomy then how can she say you are attractive? It sounds to me like this girl is just feeding you a ... (read in full...)
My older boyfriend makes more money than I do. I'm worried that I'm not contributing enough
Q. I'm dating a man much older than me. He earns a lot more than I do and is very generous so is always the one spending when we are together. Apart from the spending he tends to plan our dates (which I like because he has so many great ideas and he ...
A. 9 November 2017: Am guessing he is a good bit older than you and has a old fashioned way off looking at life? If that is the case and he wants to spoil you then great, but there is plenty of things you could do to return the favor. Surprise him with a trip away or ... (read in full...)
My friend refuses to leave her abusive fiance. I want to help her
Q. My gf is in trouble and she won't do anything about it as she's scared of her fiance. My gf has been with her fiance for approx 2 years now and ever since their relationship began, my gf has openly admitted to me that he's been abusing her verb...
A. 9 November 2017: I can understand why you are worried about your friend, if it was me I would be worried also. But you also need to realize that he is not holding her prisoner and she needs to be the one to decide he cannot treat her like this any more and leave ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend is suffering my depression, my needs are not being met. Do I hope she will get better or end things?
Q. I'm struggling with what to do. My girlfriend has withdrawn from me pretty significantly, and it's making me feel terrible. She struggles off and on with depression, and I'm not sure if this is just a long bout of depression or if she's just lost ...
A. 9 November 2017: Is she getting help with her depression? I do understand how horrible depression is and it is also extremely hard for the people around her as well. I get why you are frustrated and lonely. I hope you ignore the female anon comment about you being ... (read in full...)
Do I keep trying to contact him? Or cut contact despite his debts to me?
Q. Dear Cupid. I think I know the answer but I need some advice... So, I have been helping out an ex from seven years ago with rent while he's jobless for the last six months (He rents out a room in a house) (I offered to help him) on top ...
A. 9 November 2017: The police cannot do anything for you, basically you need to accept that this has happened and take from it that it is not wise to give people money no matter how close you feel to them. It is a hard way to learn but at least now you know in the ... (read in full...)
Does he like me? He has a girlfriend but what's with his behaviour towards me?
Q. There's a guy who I work with, we work at a recreational centre for youths. I've noticed he's been acting different around me when we work together. I'll list a few examples: whenever we talk, he'll make eye contact and then he looks at my lips, he...
A. 8 November 2017: His girlfriend thinks he likes you, as saw him flirt with you and she is still with him? It sounds like he is a smooth flirt that gets away with everything, I would stay well clear, he spells trouble. ... (read in full...)
I cyber cheated, my fiancé doesn’t want anything to do with me, help!
Q. Recently my then fiancé found out that I had been having an explicit conversation with an old friend on social media. She found out and we spoke about it and we agreed to move past it and better ourselves because there was a disconnect. Basically ...
A. 8 November 2017: What should you do? I think you need to accept that it is over. It is clear that she is moving on and is using your infidelity as an excuse. My guess is this relationship was over long before you started talking to another woman.
First thing to d... (read in full...)
My boyfriend thinks he should be consulted about my mother's estate
Q. Is it wrong to not consider my boyfriends opinion regarding my house? My mom passed away last year and my cousin is helping me get the house in my name. He and I agreed that refinancing the remaining amount of the mortgage was the best option for ...
A. 8 November 2017: What bills off his do you help to pay off? I can see why his male ego was a bit bruised here as you got your cousin to help and not him, my guess is that he was hurt because he sees a future with you. Personally if I had a long term partner who ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend’s brother hitting on me?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 6 months and we are very much in love. My boyfriend is very close to his brother, and we spend time with him a lot. His brother also has a girlfriend. The problem is, my boyfriend’s brother keeps liking photos on...
A. 8 November 2017: Do you like his brother? For some reason it sounds to me like you want the attention that his brother is giving you. If you don't want boys liking photos off you with tight clothing on or swim wear then maybe keep them photos private and don't post ... (read in full...)
What is so "personal" that he can't tell his long term girlfriend?
Q. Hi! I've been seeing my bf for about 15 months and things have been mostly good. We have a very loving, affectionate relationship where we share most things and get on well. Except he has this female best friend that he's close to and the thing is I ...
A. 7 November 2017: Just because she is technically your friend does not mean he has to tell you about this hard time she is going through. Look if she asked him not to say anything then he is being a good friend. Don't turn this in to something it is not, I don't even ... (read in full...)
Is this a sign that we are meant to be together?
Q. I want to pray to God and ask him if he is the one, but I also know I cannot make anyone love me. He is my ex, but I believe he came back into my life recently for a reason. We took time apart (a whole year) to grow and we now have a stronger ...
A. 7 November 2017: God has not sent him in to your life. If you want to marry him then you need to find out if he wants the same things as you. However if he is your ex then he is that for a reason and I hope he does not mess you around and give you false hope. He ... (read in full...)
Should I stay with my boyfriend in the hope that he matures at some point, or do I let him go and move on?
Q. Should I stay with my boyfriend in the hope that he matures at some point, or do I let him go and move on? We're both at university (we're both 21) and have been going out for 2 years. We've been having problems lately because he wasn't spending ...
A. 7 November 2017: Do you both go out together and do things as a couple? Do you have nights out with your friends?
It is important when you are both young to make time for your friends as well as a partner, however if he is never making time for you, and is alwa... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to want my boyfriend to stop looking at porn online?
Q. Dear aunts and uncles, I'm only 21 and have been in one relationship which I'm currently in so I don't have much knowledge. My boyfriend's penis looks nothing like the ones I saw in porn.It isn't straight...it kinda twists a bit. Plainly put, it ...
A. 7 November 2017: This is something that you need to talk to him about. It is pretty normal for guys that age to look at porn weather they are in a relationship or not. If you personally find it disrespectful then you should tell him that. As for the shape off his ... (read in full...)
Is my husband's panty fetish out of control?
Q. Is my husband’s panty fetish out of control? I just discovered that my husband has been sneaking my underwear as well as my 18yo daughters underwear. I don’t know exactly what he does with them I can only imagine. He swears it’s not about who wear...
A. 7 November 2017: I think you have done the right thing, he has crossed a line here and I would certainly say he is lying when he says it doesn't matter about the person that they belong to. If that was the case why would he not stick to yours, or even buy some off ... (read in full...)
He gets angry and accuses me of being controlling if I ask for a bit of attention!
Q. Husband has very much a situational based depression due to work issues where there is no way out for two years as he is in a work situation where a personal guaranteee is in place that would cost us about €60,000 to get out of. So theres two more ...
A. 7 November 2017: What I don't understand is how he has time to work sleep and play 12 hours off games? He is acting like a child and he needs to see that you have needs as well. Okay so he may be suffering from depression but him playing video games and pushing you ... (read in full...)
I can't understand women!
Q. Guys, I totally need your advice............ You see, I am still 19, And Ive encountered lot of women, went on lot of dates, and im experienced in this shit..... but lately things have been wrong, U see, what will you assume if a girl comes next to ...
A. 7 November 2017: At 19 you shouldn't be very experienced. My guess is you have a cocky attitude and maybe women want to play you as well. Slow down on the dates and get to know a girl before asking her out. It seems you have probably got yourself a bit of reputation ... (read in full...)
How do I find a man who won't cheat on me?
Q. Thing is, I was cheated by two man before both I have child. Both men are the same age like 6 years older than me. First man, he made other woman pregnant that’s why I separated. Second man did not tell me he is married. Both man I did not get ...
A. 6 November 2017: If you stay with this man all that you are showing to your children is that it is okay for a man to be angry and abusive at a woman, when in fact it is not okay at all. Be true to yourself, find the strength and leave him, if you stay with him you ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't he offer birthday wishes?
Q. Dear Cupid I'm with my bf for approx 2 years and he doesn't acknowledge my bday and never even wishes me happy bday. It might sound childish but I wish he could atleast wish me. If I tell him om the day its my bday, and ask whether he is go...
A. 6 November 2017: You need to talk to him about this and ask him these questions. For whatever reasons he doesn't celebrate birthdays and therefore that is something you need to accept. Is he good in other ways? There could be plenty off reasons why he doesn't ... (read in full...)
He had affairs while buying my IVF
Q. My ex and I planned a pregnancy. I was having fertility issues and so we decided to proceed with an IVF. It was his idea and he has even funded the entire procedure. I am about to get pregnant and I found out that he has had numerous affairs ...
A. 6 November 2017: Are you actually pregnant at the moment or still trying? If not then I would suggest going down a different route as it wouldn't be fair on a innocent baby having a father so selfish and silly. If you are already pregnant, then I would still stay ... (read in full...)
Do I keep trying to contact him? Or cut contact despite his debts to me?
Q. Dear Cupid. I think I know the answer but I need some advice... So, I have been helping out an ex from seven years ago with rent while he's jobless for the last six months (He rents out a room in a house) (I offered to help him) on top ...
A. 6 November 2017: It is a hard way to learn a lesson, but take from this not to lend money to friends again. I doubt you will see that money again and that is why he is ignoring you. No don't go around to him and confront him, the best thing to do is learn from it ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has women all around him and I've asked him to stay away from them and be with men
Q. I have a 42 yr old bf we dating for two years now i moved in with him in his town.i found a job in that area.he has been working 23 yrs at this company and had three wives within this company he tells everyboy what happens in his affairs most of the ...
A. 3 November 2017: Why on earth are you planning to marry someone who annoys you this much? You do know he is not going to change, going through three wives already and having affairs on top off him leeching around young women surely is enough to make you run for the ... (read in full...)
I don't like the way my parents treat me and I'm thinking of running to my boyfriend in Canada
Q. I've been in a relationship with a guy online for about 5 years now. I trust him alot and we do love each others. My problem is my parents. I've hated living with them. Everything has abnormal strict rules and im sick of it. I feel im living on a ...
A. 3 November 2017: If you are being terribly abused by your parents then why not contact the police or social services? Or a women's center, you should not have to go through this alone.
It sounds to me like your boyfriend is an online one. If you have never met in f... (read in full...)
Christmas rosta bias. Bah! Humbug!
Q. Our xmas party (dinner/drinks) is in Dec. My boss at work did the roster so his favourites could go. Is this fair? Obviously some people have to work, but he made sure his favourite colleagues could go. Those of us working are OK in his eyes but...
A. 3 November 2017: Very unprofessional to say the least, however am afraid that this problem is really common. Personally I wouldn't go anyway if that is how he treats his staff. It really should be turned around yearly so everyone is treated fairly or the guys who ... (read in full...)
Friend sponges off everyone. How do I deal with her?
Q. Hi, I have a friend who's used to living off other people. She's funny, smart and she still takes money from her parents (she's 39 years old!), "borrows" money and promises to pay back at some point. Goes out for drinks, meals and almost never...
A. 3 November 2017: It is clear that she has a problem. You need to simply tell her no and mean it. Look you say she knows you can afford it, but that is because you work for a living. Why would she work when people keep giving her money. Be straight with her. It is ... (read in full...)
He cheated. Should I?
Q. I’m married 20 yrs to my 1st love. We have 3 kids (14, 10 and 6). I found out 5 yrs ago my husband was cheating on me for a few years. I confronted him with evidence found in his emails and texts, pics of escorts and hotel records. He confessed ...
A. 3 November 2017: If you feel bitter about what your husband has done to you why would you do that to another woman? There is no excuse for cheating. You say you forgave your husband well if that was the case you would not be talking to another man. Don't tell ... (read in full...)
Relationship started out well but now he's asking for more and more money. Is he using me?
Q. To cut my story short, I met a turkish guy at a resort during my holiday 2 months ago.We are both muslims and have similar cultures as I am from the middle east, so we seem to understand each other's views and lifestyles. Everything was going smooth ...
A. 3 November 2017: He is just using you. He sees you as a young girl who is blinded by love and he is using that to his advantage. I remember you writing about this guy before. You need to talk to your family about him and tell them that you have been sending him ... (read in full...)
How do I save this friendship
Q. My best friend and I had a fallout and we both missed each other and agreed to figure out our differences but I don't think she understands that I hate to be lectured. I do not want to sound pompous or like I know everything, because I don't,...
A. 3 November 2017: It sounds like you both might just not be compatible as friends. This is who she is, you cannot change her therefore you either need to say to yourself stop venting to her and she won't annoy you or put up with it and accept this is who she is. The ... (read in full...)
Scared to admit I've reached maturity befor my older sister
Q. Hi I'm 14 and I started my period at 13 a few days after my birthday. I don't know how to tell my mum and I'm quite scared as for telling her so late. I'm scared for the questions she might ask me like how did o l keep this (secret). It was hard...
A. 3 November 2017: Don't worry about keeping it a secret any longer, believe me your mother will understand, talk to her and tell her the truth and tell her why you felt like you couldn't tell anyone. We all mature at different ages so it doesn't matter that your ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and I are unsure of our future!
Q. My boyfriend and I are still in college but we graduate soon, like in the next year. He has a more laid back approach with things/life and is more up in the air/live in the now, whereas I'm more of a planner and I like to see more into the future. ...
A. 2 November 2017: Off course you don't like not knowing, but none off us knows what the future holds. So you could plan something and feel secure but yet the whole thing could fall apart. That is the joy off plans and they don't always work. You need to de-stress, ... (read in full...)
I have a great life but no hobbies or interests that I'm truly passionate about. How do I find my purpose?
Q. So this isnt a relationship questions this is just about me and my purpose... So a little about me i’m 29 been with my partner 5 years live together, can see a futute together which consists of marriage and children, all is good. I am really clos...
A. 2 November 2017: I think you are over thinking things and it is making you unhappy. So you don't have a passion in life at the moment, so what? you have a job, your health and your wealth, you have family and friends so to me it sounds like you are doing okay. Don't ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend loves me, but can't trust me!
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend for over two months. Things were going good, until I lied to him. I told him how I was married to my ex but he was helping me with a certain issue. (I cannot disclose, my boyfriend knows). And he was okay with it. I ...
A. 2 November 2017: There is way to much drama in here for two months. You lied to him twice so yes that has put the doubt in his head and to top it off he has been lied to before. Honestly I don't see him trusting you in this relationship. So yes I do think the best ... (read in full...)
Why is my LDR boyfriend testing me this way?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for about three years now and for the last two years of our relationship, he had to move for his job. He’s about 13 hours away from me now. He and I see each other as much as we can, despite the distance. The ...
A. 2 November 2017: Why on earth does he want to test you? It is a relationship you are in not an exam. Look it sounds to me like he is controlling and he is testing to see how much he can push you. Sure long distance is hard but there is no need for him to treat you ... (read in full...)
Cannabis killing our marriage
Q. I have been with my wife for 5 years and been great . A few months before the wedding my wife started smoking cannabis and it's now really effecting our marriage and relationships.. . What makes it worse is that I love her so much and I'm not...
A. 2 November 2017: Why did she suddenly start smoking it a few months before the wedding was there any reason? If I am being honest I wouldn't have went through with the wedding if my husband started smoking weed a few months before hand I would have delayed it until ... (read in full...)
Should we end our friendship? We will never have our parent's blessing
Q. I like her and she likes me. We talk everyday. She checks all the boxes for wife material in my book. We are currently only friends and whenever we slip into flirting one of us pull back. We're of different religions. We will never have our ...
A. 2 November 2017: If you are sure you will stand by what your parents believe in and decide not to go against that then the best thing to do is to end the friendship because all you will be doing is hurting each other. It really is your decision but you do need to ... (read in full...)
I hate the person who I used to love for his std and promiscuity
Q. I'm in love with my partner , we've been together for a year and a half, we've been through so much, specially at the beginning. The truth is, even though I thought I knew him ( we were friends for years before falling in love ) the fact is I did ...
A. 2 November 2017: No I think you should end things with him. You don't have anything nice to say about him, you don't trust him and you have very different beliefs to him. He has lied to you, he has risked your health and well I don't think you will both work out ... (read in full...)
I love my long term partner but feel a spark for a coworker!
Q. Hi, i'm in a situation i never thought i'd be and i need advice, because i can't talk about it with anyone..I'm in a longterm relationship (7 years). I love my partner, although i can't deny that our relationship is much of a rutine now. We live ...
A. 2 November 2017: OP you have already cheated on your partner off 7 years, and the only reasons you are not being honest with him are selfish ones. Most people would say they don't want to tell there partner because they don't want to hurt them but your reasons are ... (read in full...)
Do I keep trying to contact him? Or cut contact despite his debts to me?
Q. Dear Cupid. I think I know the answer but I need some advice... So, I have been helping out an ex from seven years ago with rent while he's jobless for the last six months (He rents out a room in a house) (I offered to help him) on top ...
A. 24 October 2017: Having sex with someone and paying his bills does not mean that you are romantically involved it means more that he has used you and also had his cake and ate it as well. Try and not beat yourself up about this, but he has used you and you have ... (read in full...)
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