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male
age
30-35,
*ndy00
writes:I'm having a rough time just now. I'm in a relationship that is going to finish in a few weeks time, because we are both going off to Universities and neither of us want a long distance relationship. But for the past couple of weeks, I've found my partner to be quite a lot of work.She's a nice girl. Through and through. But she's starting to get on my nerves a little. She wants to see me every single day, and while I'm very flattered by it, I wish she wouldn't take offense whenever I tell her that I don't want to (which is rare, because I like to keep her happy). She goes quiet, and seems to shun me in some way which only makes me feel bad. Also, there isn't a lot to do where she lives. It's a small village. We can go for walks, or drink in pubs, but I wish we could elsewhere now and again, but she doesn't like sleeping anywhere other than her house, so it means that no matter where we go, it doesn't matter whether there is somewhere conveniently near-by (i.e. My house) or not, because she says she isn't "comfortable" away from her house, even to sleep at her friends. Plus, we never have sex with the light on, so I can't see her when we try to have sex, and even that is difficult because her house is full of family members! This makes it almost impossible to relax and enjoy our sex.I now find myself less excited about seeing her when I go over, and from there I lack the enthusiasm to do anything with her. Again I say, she's lovely. She's perfectly nice, but then why am I feeling such hostility towards her? Is it time for this to end? Everything from this situation tells me that I'm not as happy with her as I once was, which leads me to think we should pull the plug. But I'm hesitant. I've never broken a relationship off with anyone before. I've always been on the opposite end, and I know that it doesn't feel good.Please advise me.
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reader, Six_Floors_Left  +, writes (21 August 2009):
 She probably wants to be with you more becaus she knows the end is near too and she wants to be with you as often as she can before the end. Ive had a lot of girlfriends that do the same thing and i know how annoying it can be. Still if your not happy in a relationship then you shouldn't be in it. Like you said its going to end soon anyway so it would be better not to drag it out. Best of luck.
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