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writes: Hi. I am a single 20 yr old Male. I am in love with a woman who is 40 yrs old. She is married with kids. But I am worried because we are best friends and have been for nearly 2 years now. I am certain she is not in love with me. But I want more. I am also worried if she finds out she won't want to be my best friend no more. Am I becoming obsessed with her? What Am I to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2005): Im in the same kind of situation, with the age difference and that I love a married man who has children, but the difference is that I know he loves me too. It is such a hard situation, but unless you want to live the rest of your life as a lie, knowing that your not being completely honest with someone you think you are in love with, then you are going to have to tell her. From previous experiences, I havent told a number of males the way i feel, and regret it.. and as a consequence now have to live my life wondering "what if I had told them"... Its a risk your gonna have to take-it could make you the happiest man on the planet if she says she feels the same, but at the same time could make you the unhappiest man if she doesn't. Depends how much you wanna risk what you have got, but from what it could be in the future, it might well be worth the risk. Good luck!
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reader, shania  +, writes (18 November 2005):
 Wot does her husband think of all this? He doesnt find it strange that a single man like u is very close to his wife? Still, i wouldnt do anything hasty,not unless u want to eat hospital food from now on.You are getting a little bit too close for comfort and if she hasnt showed any signs that she is interested,then chances are she isnt.Wouldnt it be best to go out and meet someone else who can return your affections? Someone who doesnt have a wedding ring on their finger and no small kiddies around her ankles.You are so young and your probably attracted to her experiences in life and her wisdom and yes,probably her looks and figure,but she loves someone else,her hubby.Take stock, you know u havent a future with her and if you find it difficult to be her friend then walk away and look for someone who will want you for a lover,cos thats what is missing in your life.
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