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writes:Dear Cupid,My ex-girlfriend happens to be staying over with me. We are still good friends but I suspect things are starting to go further. I live in a 1-bed apartment and she started sleeping on the floor but now sleeps in my bed. She hugs me, wraps her arms round me in bed, and each day seems to get slightly more open. We haven't screwed since break-up and I worry if I try to take things further I may have misread the signs and we'll lose our friendship. That said, when she is laying in bed with her arms round me it makes the temptation to try and fuck her almost impossible! Anyone got advice for me?Sam from Preston
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2005): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionExcellent advice everyone really appreciate it :-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2005):
She is in bed with a former boyfriend. She cant miss the signifigance of that.
Just tell her you are interested...
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reader, shania +, writes (7 December 2005):
 Well the answer is simple,if you have broken up and you just want to be friends then i suggest that she stops sleeping in your bed otherwise if you do end up having sex together,then you would only be using her and that wouldnt be right.Friends dont sleep together,she wants to rekindle the relationship and she is doing all she can to get back as a couple again,you dont.Be fair with her and tell her that she should stay somewhere else,because you will be leading her on and before you know it she will accuse you of using her,do you want that grief?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2005): if u jus wnt sex den yeah, if u want a relationship no... if she wantd u n got in bed wid u she would go further then just hugging
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2005): Sam, why ask us? Why don't you just talk to her. The single biggest problem people have with relationships seems to continue to be an total unwillingness to TALK to each other about everything, including sex! Since she moved into your bed, I suspect that she may also be interested in renewing your sexual relationship. TALK to HER about this. With your clothes, on, and not in the bedroom. Take her to lunch somewhere where you can be alone, and can hear each other talk. Then talk to her about where you have been, and where you each want this relationship to go. Don't expect to know all the answers, and don't expect her to know her heart much less her mind. But she will never know if you both continue to bump in the night and never talk.
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