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writes: I am a divorced mom and I have had a long distance boyfriend that I met online a little over a year ago. We have met 2 times. He says he wants to be with me forever, but also says he never wants to marry again. He says he wants to meet my children, but keeps putting it off. Is he just saying this stuff to keep putting me off until he is ready? Should I give him more time or should I call this quits?I wish he would be with me and my children this christmas but he is making other plans and is waiting until my children will be with their father at New Years to see me. He says he loves me and I know I love him. We do not see each other as often as I would like but I know that's one of the downfalls of long distance relationships. We are 400 miles apart.Advice anyone? Insight from a man's perspective would be great too. Thank you.
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reader, shania  +, writes (7 December 2005):
 You have only met this man twice,which makes me think that while you are very keen on him i wouldnt call it love.It is so easy to have these perfect images of someone you are talking to on the net,but you dont really know them as a person,been with this guy twice proves that.He makes these lovely promises to meet your children,that he is in love with you etc,i dont see him doing any of this.The distance is far to great to warrant a ideal relationship and if that was me i would of died of boredom by now.He doesnt seem that keen enough and im afraid thats not love.Turn the computer off,dust yourself down,pick yourself up because you are worth more then that and go out and meet real people who can treat you with the respect you need.There are men out there who would love to meet a woman like you,dont waste your energy on a man who just cant deliver.
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reader, Mirabell +, writes (7 December 2005):
 If he wanted to meet your kids, he would have done so by now.
This man is sending you mixed messages.
He wants to be with you forever, but doesn't want to marry you (which really is just saying the same thing-legally)
He wants to meet your kids, but doesn't want to make the effort.
If he wanted to be with you forever, he'd meet your children (who, coincidentally, are also going to be around you forever).
I would be seriously suspicious of this man.
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