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Nothing Qulifies me to help people except for my own personal experiences with in life, my mistakes, my regrets and my tiumphs.
I currently live in London, England and have my whole life, Although i do plan to Move when im Older. Havent decided where. Possibly Canada or Australia.
Right now im at university studying to hopefully work in the criminal justice system or whatever i feel is right. |
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I have a crush on my best friend's little sister
Q. I have a crush on my best friend's little sister. I really don't know what to do about it...I've always been able to take confidence in the fact that if I was approached by a girl that I had moral reservations about, I could always turn it down. ...
A. 4 June 2007: As DV1 did say as long as its legal you are fine. But i do see your friend having a problem with it. It is his little sister, he proberly wont be happy with this at all. Also if ou did date and broke it off you would lose a friend. I believe you ... (read in full...)
Why can't I get an erection???
Q. i am a 15 yr old lad who was getting 'close' to his girlfriend, problem was i couldnt get a hard on. what is wrong with me?...
A. 4 June 2007: Sounds like you were nevous. When the time is right you wont be nevous. Just relax next time, and it will be fine.... (read in full...)
If I kiss another girl on the cheek as in a greeting, I feel I'm cheating! Is this bad?
Q. hi this may sound like a stupid question but ive been with my girlfriend for 6 months, i just wanted to know that is it a bad thing to kiss another girl who is a friend or sumone you'r being introduced to as a matter of politeness on the cheek like ...
A. 4 June 2007: You answered your own question.
Yes of course you can kiss a another girl on the cheek out of politeness or greeting, in no way is it cheating and you should not feel guilty in anyway shape or form.
And also you sound like you genuinly love you... (read in full...)
I dunno what is wrong with me but I haven't felt sociable and just want to be quiet and have time alone.
Q. About a week ago It was my girlfriends birthday and I had a really happy time and had a lot of fun. Since then I dunno what is wrong with me but I haven't felt sociable and just want to be quiet and have time alone. I've worked this weekend quite ...
A. 3 June 2007: Sometimes it is just normal for people to want to 'hide' and just have some time to themselves, where they do nothing or something independantly. As you said it could be stress it could be you've been sociable alot lately and just want to spend time ... (read in full...)
This is going to sound stupid but I have a fear of going away on holiday.
Q. This is going to sound stupid but I have a fear of going away on holiday. I have been on many holidays but its since I have hit around 16 I have become less bothered about going away. The thing is I am going with my girlfriend in a week and I am ...
A. 3 June 2007: It will definently seem scary going away with out your parents who have always been with you. But once your there you will enjoying yourself so much you will forget all about your fears and have a great time. You will be fine as your parents trust ... (read in full...)
How can I gain my parents' trust?
Q. How can gain my parents trust? It is a simple question but I hard one i know. Mainly I wan them to trust me around guys...just guys in general as friends. My mom knows my veiws and knows im a strong girl and if I dont want to do something I ...
A. 3 June 2007: Well in my opinion you should be some worthy of their trust. How? By following their rules a bit more, trying harder in school, being nicer to them, Abiding curfew (if you have one). Small things like this over time will help you gain their trust. ... (read in full...)
Mysterious lump in the genital region--what could it be?
Q. Dear All Apologies this sounds disgusting, but please I need help on this one! For the last day or two I have had pain below my gentitals in bettween my penis (below the foreskin and testicals and my anus. Initally i thought it was a are...
A. 3 June 2007: Well im not a doctor. But i advise that you no longer push or squeeze at it because if it is an infection it could go into your blood stream, and thats not good. I recommened even though it is embarrasing that you show it to a docter to get checked ... (read in full...)
Should a guy date a girl that his brother previously dated?
Q. Do you think a guy would date/sleep with a girl his brother dated/slept with?...
A. 3 June 2007: If the other brother has no feeling for this girl, and there is no attraction or repulsion there it is ok. Just make sure you dont lose your brother over this girl... (read in full...)
Her parents are strict when it comes to their daughter dating! So what should I do-I like her!
Q. I have been flirting with this girl from school and gave her signs I am interested in her (and vice versa), but her parents are strict when it comes to boyfriends because she is an only child. What do I do? Oh, and by the way both of her parents are ...
A. 3 June 2007: Like kenny said be respectful to them and especially their daughter. Be polite, be nice, use your Ps and Qs. Show you are not a 'playa' and that you care for their daughter and that you will treat her right. Follow their rules no matter how strict ... (read in full...)
I thought he was joking, when he said "he had a daughter"..he's only 22! Did I react badly?
Q. I am 20 years old and met this guy whom i really like. He is the sweetest and most considerate guy, and i am madly in love with him. I saw a picture in his room and when i asked who the people in the picture were, he told me that it is him and his ...
A. 3 June 2007: You dont need to say anything else. Just be ready to accept this Child and all the resposibilities of the girl, because since you love him you must love his daughter aswell... (read in full...)
He found out i kissed someone and has broken my nose beat me up and is currently in prison!
Q. I love my boyfriend 2 bits i have never had a relationship before we have been together for a long time and have children. He found out i kissed someone and has broken my nose beat me up and is currently in prison, he tells me he loves me and wants ...
A. 2 June 2007: Do not do any sort of test for this man.
He physically assualted you, he is a coward and in no way deserves your "Love" if you can call it that.
If he truely loved you he would never harmed you let alone think about harming you, even if you betr... (read in full...)
I fancy my aunt like mad, even although she's married. Should I try anything on with her?
Q. i have an aunt and she is good looking. she is actaully my step aunt if you will. she has been married to my uncle for about 10 years now. she has now starting to feel comfortable around the family. she is starting to wear clothes that show off her ...
A. 2 June 2007: NO NEVER.
She is your uncles wife. It doesnt matter if she isnt related by blood.
You cannot help the fact that you are related and that you fancy her, but you can control what you do around her. Think of the impact her a relationship with her will... (read in full...)
Everyone in my school thinks I am a 'bof'!
Q. Everyone in my school thinks i am a 'bof' when i'm not they don't even have good reasons for that. it hurts so much because they are often horrible jokes. I'll be lucky if i ever get a boyfriend because of whatt these people say. They all say if ...
A. 2 June 2007: Do not change who you are. These people will not stop you etting a real boyfriend, as if he cares he will look past their childish bullying. What im about to say may sound like "Shut up" "You dont know anything" advice. But it is helpful and he... (read in full...)
Should I tell my new partner my ex and I had genital warts?
Q. Hi, bit of a strange question but one I need to ask. I have recently come out of a very strong 4 year relationship, during the first 3 months of that realtionship, my ex girlfriend and I contracted genital warts (HPV), we are unsure as to whe...
A. 2 June 2007: You should definately see a doctor and go through any needed process to be checked out for the warts. Until then do not have sexual contact with your new partner until you hear from your doctor. If you no longer have it, there will be no need to te... (read in full...)
He thinks that if I have lunch with some male classmates (I'm in college), that automatically makes me a whore.
Q. My boyfriend and I broke up 6 months ago and are speaking about trying to work things out and get back together. One of the biggest problems that stand in the way are our completely opposing views on having friends of the opposite sex. I always felt ...
A. 1 June 2007: This is a lost cause
You can not allow anyone to pick and choose your friends.
This boy sounds like he has trust issues and also control issues.
Do not allow him to control your life because one day it will be friends to next something bi... (read in full...)
I feel embarassed to show him to my friends as he is 'not as fit' as all my old boyfriends.
Q. I am lost with what to do with my (currently ex) boyfriend. I knew him for about a year back when we were both about 14, and liked each other but we were immature/naive and didnt do anything. He moved and i thought i had lost him forever. Suddenly, ...
A. 1 June 2007: If you love him too bits then you should want to parade him around town, no matter of his looks.
Its good you feel bad about this as in most all cases if one partner is ashamed of how the other look than they should not be together.
Becau... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin and want a relationship, but I fret about the size of my penis..any advice?
Q. Hi iam 17 and still a virgin i would love to have a relationship with a girl but iam very insecure about the size of my penis as it is only 6 and a half inches when erect should i be woried or am i fretin about nothing ...
A. 31 May 2007: I heard 6" is average so there is nothing to fret... (read in full...)
My wife's dad died last night, how can I help my wife through this?
Q. ok i hope you can help me out here. i'm 33 and my wife is 32. She lost her dad last night and it very upset. I know she's grieving and everything but I've really never seen her like this before. last night when we got back from the hospital we went ...
A. 31 May 2007: Just be there for her. Do simple things. Hug her, listen to her. Take the petty things away from her like chores. ust be an ear and shoulder during this terrible time in her life.Just show her how much you love her... (read in full...)
Mom found a condom wrapper in my bedroom. She now says my bf and I are not allowed to be alone together, here! Is she being unreasonable? or is she right?
Q. Right this is a long one so i need to find a place to start. Well im 15. Have been with my 17 year old boyfriend for 5 months. i was moving my room around with my mum nd she found a condom wrapper. She at first was pretty ok about it, but then she ...
A. 31 May 2007: She being very reasonable. She protecting you from the dangers that sex can bring I.E pregnacy.
Also he is 17 and your 15 this is illegal he can be arrested and put on the sex offenders register.... (read in full...)
Is it healthy to be that sexually active?
Q. My boyfriend and i just started having sex 4 days ago. We were both virgins. Now we have sex 2 times a day. Is that heathy? We're madly in love and we cant seem 2 find any other better way 2 express our love 2 one another. Hes 20 and im 21. He ...
A. 31 May 2007: Its very healthy. Some people wish they had sex lives like yours, so your lucky.
I cant say any study exactly but alot of people think sex is very healthy for you emotionally and psychically.
As long as you practice it safe and with someone ... (read in full...)
He says he was mean to me, because he 'did' like me! I am confused..any advice?
Q. i am reali confused. a guy i always knew liked me just asked me out but i've neva been out with any1 and in the past he was mean to be because he likes me and was afraid. i reali confused please help!...
A. 31 May 2007: Its very simple some people at this age dont know how to express their feeling properly. Sometimes they act "mean" so that you will pay attention to them. Its very common at your age. Ive done it and i guess alot of others have... (read in full...)
I have a growth problem and I'm short--it stops me from asking girls out. What can I do?
Q. i'm not sure what to do, i'm 16 and i'm debating to ask this girl out in my year. The thing is i have a growth problem (i'm about a head and a bit shorter than average) and it's always stopped asking any girls out because i'm worried she will just ...
A. 30 May 2007: Simply height doesnt interfer with dating.
If she cant get past your height then she wasnt for you.
FFind someone who will look past your height... (read in full...)
Do guys like to kiss girls who give blow jobs?
Q. dear cupid i would like to know what everyone thinks of kissing girls that give bj to boys? do men all think that kissing them is like kissing the private part of the person they gave bj to or is it not? also do their mouth taste awful then...
A. 30 May 2007: I dobt they would straight after she gave a blow job. But later on they would. Since she proberly brushed her teeth.
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Bf pressured me to give him head and said he's return the favor but he didn't! How can I ever trust him again?
Q. im 17 my boyfriend is 31 he got me 2 give him head i didnt really want to but he said he would do it back to me and he didnt . how can i trust him...
A. 30 May 2007: Dont trust him. Break it off.
He sounds like a dirtbag.
Also NEVER be forced into sex you do not want to do.
Break it off... (read in full...)
Big decision--do I go to the club I hate, with my friends or on a work trip?
Q. hi i know this sounds like an unimportant question but i need some help!! its my last exam for uni tomoro so all my friends have organised a night out before we all go home for summer. But its also a works trip tomoro night which i desperately wa...
A. 30 May 2007: If your not going to see them during the summer i guess you will have to either follow DV1s advice or meet up with them the next day and maybe hang out all day together, get lunch and recover from your hangovers!... (read in full...)
Big decision--do I go to the club I hate, with my friends or on a work trip?
Q. hi i know this sounds like an unimportant question but i need some help!! its my last exam for uni tomoro so all my friends have organised a night out before we all go home for summer. But its also a works trip tomoro night which i desperately wa...
A. 30 May 2007: Just go to your work trip as its a One-Off. Plus its FREE!
You can just tell your friends you will get together with them another time as you have the entire summer to spend time with them and go places you like to go. Good luck choosing... (read in full...)
Is it acceptable to give your number out to an ex when your in a relationship? Do I have a right to be upset?
Q. I have been seeing my partner for about two years we currently live together. The other day I answered her mobile and I guy who i never heard of name appeared on the caller ID. The guy never wanted to leave a message but wanted to know who I was, i ...
A. 30 May 2007: In my opinion it can be acceptable to give your number to an EX if she has no plans to get back together with him.
Did you ask her if she told him she was already in a relationship, if she didnt its wrong.
Discussing wether your allowed to give you... (read in full...)
She invites me over to her house and all she does is snog her boyfriend, it's soooooo embarrassing!
Q. I'm at the end of my tether. My best friend and her boyfriend invite me over to her house. Then all they do is kiss, pull and do things infront of me that make me feel REALLY uncomfortable. They don't have any other friends becoz when they ...
A. 29 May 2007: Stop going over. If they loev each other so much they can enjoy there own company. Find new friends spend time with them because threes a crowd especially when the third wheel doesnt want to be there... (read in full...)
I'm madly in love with a married man, he's my world!
Q. I am a lady of 44 years and am madly in love with a married man. My love is immense. Even he loves me to the core but he says he has his responsibilities. And moreover he is in Delhi and am in Bangalore. We met only once and made love. We cant be ...
A. 29 May 2007: The only solution here is too get past this. It is way too selfish to break up a Family for your own selfish desires. Stay away from him for his families own good and possibly yours... (read in full...)
Why do men chicken out when it comes to the question of marriage?
Q. Why do men chicken out when it comes to the question of marriage? Even if they are mid twenty?...
A. 29 May 2007: Its not only men some woman have troubles commiying to one person for the rest of their lives.
Marriage is suppose to be for life (even with high divorce rates) and some people are scared of this.
If he is scared just talk to him aboutyour fears an... (read in full...)
Is it my duty as a son to satisfy the emotional and psychological needs of my parents?
Q. Is it my duty as a son to satisfy the emotional and psychological needs of my parents, especially my mother? Why is it that my parents want to bully me in to doing this job for them? I am 25 yrs old guy.. please advice....
A. 29 May 2007: You are 25 though it is always nice to help out your parents your at a stage where you need to get your independant feet on the ground. Mothers will always see you as a child no matter your age its there nature and not there fault so i doubt its ... (read in full...)
My 32 year old married boss has started giving me lifts home. I KNOW he wants to take it further!
Q. hi, im 17 years old have a boyfriend and have a part time job as a waitress. my boss is 32 and married with kids. recently when he is giving me lifts home we have started going for a drive and ended up kissing many times and i know he wants to take ...
A. 29 May 2007: I suggest that you dont have the affair. How would you feel if a parent or even your boyfriend betrayed you like that. Also i suggest that you no longer accept his lifts home... (read in full...)
I discovered that my mother masturbates, what should I do?
Q. i discovered that my mother masturbates herself , what should i do?...
A. 29 May 2007: What can you do. Your mother is an Adult she can do what she likes. What did you expect yourself to do?... (read in full...)
Is it right to spend time with the opposite sex when you're with someone else?
Q. Is it right to spend time with the opposite sex when are you in a relationship with someone else?...
A. 29 May 2007: I dont see a problem. As long as your not cheating you can spend time with whoever you like... (read in full...)
What can I do to ask my crush out? Should I take the initiative here or what?
Q. Ok my crush knows I like him and I think he hates me, my friends say he dosent but I dont know what to do. should i forget about him or see if he asks me out or whatever? ...
A. 29 May 2007: The only way you will find out if he likes you is by asking him. Girls can ask boys out and as your friends said he doesnt hate you, so there is a chance. Pull him aside and ask him out. If he says no your still young and can find someone else... (read in full...)
His gift is too big for me, what can I do???
Q. My boyfriend just bought me a beautiful Gucci belt to go with a bag i recently bought... the only problem is that it's too big for me !! He doesn't have as much money s i do so i know he must have had to save for it. I don't want to hurt him by ...
A. 29 May 2007: Try and punch a hole in it the make it fit. But since you said he really saved for it i believe you might hurt his feelings by saying its too big and not wearing it anymore. He may takes it the wrong way, so be careful how you tell him if you deci... (read in full...)
I've never had a boy like me so I don't know the signs, do you think he likes me?
Q. well there is this guy that i really admire!! he is really nice and funny and good looking. there is a local club that we go to. me and a few friends go in and have a chat and chill out. this guy is always in the club and he always sits alone. he ...
A. 29 May 2007: Sounds like he does like you. He probably is a bit nevous to ask you directly how you feel, whydont you make to first move. Ask him out if you do like him back... (read in full...)
Can you love someone as a friend?
Q. can you love someone as a friend???...
A. 29 May 2007: Of Course Your dont have to be IN love with someone to love them... (read in full...)
Is my weight normal for my age and height?
Q. Hi I'm 14 and 5 foot 5 and weigh about between 9 and 10 stone throughout the day and 10 stone when ive just weighed myself now is this normal? but thats probably because its the end of the day and ive eaten more. I would like to loose weight i have ...
A. 28 May 2007: Im only a few inches taller than you and around the same weight as you and im quite skinny.
Your weight is definently normal and in my opinion theres no need to lose weight here.
If you want to get fitter theres nothing wrong with that, join a g... (read in full...)
I worry in case I can't get and erection and it's ruining my social life!
Q. hi, this might sound like a weird post but i was just wondering if anyone knows where im coming from or could offer me some good advice. its a little embarrassing and i dont know quite how to put it with it making sense but i'll try. o.k. this...
A. 28 May 2007: It doesnt sound pathetic at all.
In my opinion from you said you were able to have sex with your girlfriend for who you loved easily and it was great, but you are unable with strangers.
Its seems to me that you are unable to have sex with people y... (read in full...)
Why do I feel attracted to other guys when I have a wonderful boyfriend?
Q. I am currently at Uni. I have a wonderful boyfriend who i love but sometimes i get attracted to other guys and wonder what it would be like with them. It makes me feel awful and my boyfriend has picked up on it. Any advice is welcome. ...
A. 28 May 2007: It sounds complety normal.
Even in the strongest relationships they finds others attractive.
As long as you dont stray theres nothing wrong.
If you are thinking about having relationships with them maybe your insecure in this relationship... (read in full...)
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