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How do i find out if she still likes me or not?

Q.   So i really really like this girl, i dated her for awhile for almost 4 months but we broke up. i still love her but i dont know how she feels about me, how do i find out if she still likes me or not?...

A.   15 July 2007: Hey, if you broke up maybe that's a sign she doesn't feel the same anymore? but i'm not sure so just ask her, because if you leave it too late she might fall out of love with you, so just ask her our get your m8s to ask her, if you still have her ... (read in full...)

I like him but I don't love him and I don't want to hurt him.

Q.   dear cupids I really don't know what to do you see my boyfriend is madly in love with me and he tells me all the time he loves me and he wants to be with me forever and he will not make me do anything I don't want EVER! and he always hugs me and h...

A.   15 July 2007: Hey, you could try doing it through msn? on the phone ? text message so you wont have to see his face xxx... (read in full...)

He's just broken up with me because we fight all the time, I don't want to fight with him so how can I resolve this?

Q.   Me and my boyfriend have been fighting a lot and we have been together for almost a year and we just broke up because he doesn't want to deal with fighting anymore. What should I do because I don't want to fight either?...

A.   14 July 2007: Hey, there's nothing you can do really, he's the one who has broken up with you, so he prob doesn't feel the same way anymore? but if he does and is just fed up with the arguements then make a fresh start and try not to aruge as much, if he doesn't ... (read in full...)

She dumped me for someone else then calls me to say she wants to get back with me, next day I see her withher EX!

Q.   Ok so my girlfriend is 24, I'm 16, we were going out for about three weeks and this one night she says I'm going to the club and I have a funny feeling about it, so I wait and I wasn't even looking out a window or nothing there goes her ex boy ...

A.   14 July 2007: Hey, she is playing you big time! babe look just move on you deserve so much better!, she is really really not worth it, go to diffrent placecs and meet diffrent people, ask friends if they know any1 that would be good for you, just get her out of ... (read in full...)

I feel like he's cheating on me, fantasising about having sex with another woman... is this normal????

Q.   My husband looks at porn when I am gone... he knows how much this bothered me because of the first time I found porn on the comp and then just recently he downloaded a CD to have virtual sex with some porn star and the a personal plaything for ...

A.   14 July 2007: Hey, awww hun you must feel awful, look he can't keep going behind your back like this!! you need to tell him to stop and ask him why he is doing it? try spicing up your sex life a bit by being more adventerous, take a holiday with just you and your ... (read in full...)

I like him but I don't love him and I don't want to hurt him.

Q.   dear cupids I really don't know what to do you see my boyfriend is madly in love with me and he tells me all the time he loves me and he wants to be with me forever and he will not make me do anything I don't want EVER! and he always hugs me and h...

A.   14 July 2007: Hey, babe look you need to tell him, the longer this goes on the more you and him will get hurt, it's better to do it sooner than later because you need to give yourself and him a chance to move on, you can't stay with him if your not happy, if he ... (read in full...)

One of my friends fancies my ex.. whom I love and he wants to use her...

Q.   One of my friends (who I don't really like.. lol) fancies my ex.. who I love and he wants to use her, he has told me he has said she would be a quick and easy one night stand but because I really love him I wouldn't want this to happen because I ...

A.   14 July 2007: lol sorry, you said you still love your x but if he wants to do things with your friend (altho he is usin her) then he prob doesn't feel the same, just move on and leave him to make his own mistakes, you might want to warn your friend first, and if ... (read in full...)

Is she messing me about? Or is she just scared of commitment?

Q.   Before I start I must warn all of you this is a very long winded problem, but please read on I could use all the advice I can lay my hands on. I have been seeing this girl who is 19 and I am 23. we were together for 1 and a half magical years, i...

A.   14 July 2007: Hey, she is definately messing you about, she doesn't know what she wants!, just move on babe!! you will eventually get over her you deserve much much better. good luck xxxx... (read in full...)

One of my friends fancies my ex.. whom I love and he wants to use her...

Q.   One of my friends (who I don't really like.. lol) fancies my ex.. who I love and he wants to use her, he has told me he has said she would be a quick and easy one night stand but because I really love him I wouldn't want this to happen because I ...

A.   14 July 2007: Hey, def tell your ex what is happening, your friend shouldn't be doing this, they aren't much of a nice person if they are willing to do this to someone, i really advice you warn them before it gets out of hand good luck xxxx... (read in full...)

I'm madly in love with my ex, he was my 1st love.. but I don't think he even thinks of me anymore...

Q.   I'm madly in love with my ex, he was my 1st love.. but I don't think he even thinks of me anymore... I miss him so much. I know I should move on with life, but its so difficult. What should I do? Please please help me.. thnx...

A.   14 July 2007: Hey, ask him how he feels, if he doesn't feel the same then just move on, it's the only thing you can do, just go to night clubs with mates and shopping and stuff and meet new people good luck xxxxxx... (read in full...)

My girlfriend broke up with me three weeks ago under the pretence that she just couldn't be in a relationship at the moment as it was too much pressure...

Q.   My girlfriend broke up with me three weeks ago under the pretence that she just couldn't be in a relationship at the moment as it was too much pressure and she was feeling mentally screwed up in a way that prevented her doing so. We argued about it ...

A.   14 July 2007: Hey, she is messing with your mind definately move on!!!, warn your friend about her messing with your head, she needs to see a counciller or something about her mental health issues, go out new places, meet new people and just move on she really ... (read in full...)

I want to take things to the next stage with him and have sex.. but, I'm a virgin...

Q.   Hey. I've been dating this guy for about 3 months now. He's soo gentlemanly and that's one of the many things I like about him. He can be quite shy and he always waits for me to make the first move and kiss him first. I want to take things to the ...

A.   14 July 2007: Hey, yes i think you should tell him, if you do then you can save yourself a lot of embarssement, i'm sure if his a nice guy then he will be very understanding about it, go for it girl!!! good luck babe jess xxxx... (read in full...)

What is this spot and is it dangerous?

Q.   well hey, my question may seem a bit gross but I need to find out about it. I have this spot, it's down there, and it is soo horrid. It has been there for about a month now and it just gets bigger and bigger. I never gets spots on my face or ...

A.   14 July 2007: Hey, I can't tell what it is so i think you should definately go and see a doctor,find research on the net and tell your mum if it's getting bigger and bigger i don't think it's a spot and spots don't usually bleed like that, it could be anything, ... (read in full...)

I am also in love with my best friend who's straight. How can I move on because I will never have him?

Q.   I am also in love with my best friend who's straight. How can I move on because I will never have him? Also I keep falling for straight men, how can I solve this?...

A.   14 July 2007: Hey, you can't choose who you fall for..... why don't you try going to gay bars or going out to general places to meet new people, you will eventually get over your friend, i hope i have helped, can you please rate my answer, feel free to email me ... (read in full...)

What can I say to him without offending him or making me sound like a pervert/stalker.

Q.   I'm gay and in love with a clebrity called Tom Sangstar I've left massages on his website about my love the prbblem is should I tell him I love him when he chats to his fans on Tuesday or should I not? I'm probably never going to meet him but I ...

A.   14 July 2007: Hey, well find out information about him on google to see whether he is gay? being gay is nothing to be ashamed of so i would go ahead and tell him, i used to have a huge crush on Zac Efron but eventually i got over him and dated boys i can actually ... (read in full...)

He said he likes me just 'as a friend'. Any views?

Q.   wat does it mean when u like someone and u ask if they like u n they say only as a friend?...

A.   14 July 2007: well it means wat they said,they dont fancie you they only like you as a friend, just be happy as friends, it's better being friends than no relationship at all good luck jess xxxx... (read in full...)

I'm 12. Is kissing and feelings that I've fallen in love with a boy a bad thing?

Q.   dear cubid! please help me iv bin going out wiv this boy weve only bin going out for a day now and already weve kissed 3 times on the lips! im only 12...is that rong? i actually once in my life feel like i love this boy but im scared if he wil...

A.   14 July 2007: Hey, no it's not wrong if you don't think it is, if you think it's wrong then stop doing it. If your guy want to go further and you don't then make sure you don't get pressured into doing things, go to the ciniema or bowling and jus have a laugh, he ... (read in full...)

I love him and we have done things together in the past. Now he won't even hug me!

Q.   A boy who i really love ive done things with him in the past and now he has said he doesn't fancy me anymore and he doesnt like me hugging him or anything. Whats this all about ??...

A.   14 July 2007: Hey babe, he has told you that he doesn't fanci you anymore so that's the reason he will not hug you, you can't make him fall back in love with you. so just move on and meet new people, you will eventually find somebody else. ... (read in full...)

I'll prob never see him again!

Q.   I love this guy....and have for a LONG time. we go to a club together and next tuesday, is his last day and i'll prob never see him again!!! I am almost possitive that he loves me back....should i kiss him on the last day? Or should i right h...

A.   14 July 2007: Hey bbe, you can still stay in contact with him, give him your home number/mobile number/address, you could always meet up don't worry, i met a boy on holiday and i am still in touch with him, if you want to kiss him then go for it girl!!!! chances ... (read in full...)

Do you think she will eventually get out of control and this will cause us more problems in the long run?

Q.   Hey my name is Andrew.I am currently in a Long distance relationship my girlfreind is in Canada and I am in Portugal.We have been 9 months apart so far and i will be back Oct1st 2007.We were recently talking about fights that we were having because ...

A.   14 July 2007: Heya, your girlfriend needs to see her friends and go out, otherwise she will loose control, my mum used to always complain that my dad didn't let her go out much,she is in a diffrent country at the moment so why doesn't she want to go out? she must ... (read in full...)

I am bi and am attracted to my best friend!

Q.   ok, i have incredibly strong feelings for my best friend-we are both females! nobody knows i feel this way and nobody knows im bisexual! do i tell her how i feel and risk losing the best friendship ive ever had or do i keep my mouth shut and hope ...

A.   12 July 2007: hey, well it MIGHT reck your friendship because she may be straight and she may feel arcward around you if you tell her, maybe ask her if she has ever had feelings for girls? if she has then go from there, but if she hasn't i would keep it quite for ... (read in full...)

I want to swing, but my wife doesnt

Q.   My wife and I are still young, We are both 34 and we have been together for 17 years, highschool sweet hearts and I love her very much. But lately, I have been expressing to her how much I would like to be with another couple. She is a very ...

A.   12 July 2007: Hey, if ur wife doesn't want to do this then that's her choice, she obviously doesn't feel confident naked infront of other people, maybe there's a bit of jealously there? I think you should just stay as you are and be more adventurous towards each ... (read in full...)

I mentioned how my ex was hot and now my GF is feeling insecure

Q.   hi..me and my gf are together for 7mths now. one day when she was at my place, she saw my ex's pics..i said she used to be hot. i didnt know she was gonna feel insecure about it.. then after so long..she got insecure and started using what ...

A.   12 July 2007: Heya, tell her how you feel, tell her she is the hottest girl you no way hotter than any of you X's, try making it up to her by taking her out and tell her she looks sexy in what she is wearing, JUST COMPLIMENT HER ALOT GOOD LUCK JESS XXXX... (read in full...)

We got on brilliantly when we met up last week, but I need to get ove my ex!

Q.   I really miss my ex, i saw him last week again after a month of no contact, so i cud get the money he owes me. we got on brilliant, i sat in my car whilst he stood in the pouring rain talking to me for an hour, then he invited me in for an hour t...

A.   12 July 2007: Heya, there's nothing stopping you from being friends? you will eventually get over him i have been in this situation before and i hate it! and im still m8z with most of my X boyfriends, just go out places and meet new people you will eventually get ... (read in full...)

We got on brilliantly when we met up last week, but I need to get ove my ex!

Q.   I really miss my ex, i saw him last week again after a month of no contact, so i cud get the money he owes me. we got on brilliant, i sat in my car whilst he stood in the pouring rain talking to me for an hour, then he invited me in for an hour t...

A.   12 July 2007: Heya, there's nothing stopping you from being friends? you will eventually get over him i have been in this situation before and i hate it! and im still m8z with most of my X boyfriends, just go out places and meet new people you will eventually get ... (read in full...)

I am 13 and I want to have sex with my boyfriend

Q.   im 13 years old and im dating a boy who says he wants me marrie me :) and we have only been going out for 3 months. and we both love each other very much and we have been doing sex practices. not real sex but with our clothes on and it feels so good ...

A.   10 July 2007: Hey, your too young for sex you will be breaking the law, your only 13 what if you meet someone else? you would wish that you waited for them?, i know you may not think it now but chances are you will meet someone else, if you do decide to have sex ... (read in full...)

We're using the "pull out method" and I have some worries...

Q.   ok me and my bf have sex alot and we havent been using condoms lately. he pulls out instead. well when i go to wipe his semen off of me i noticed i acidently used the toilet paper i wiped it off with and wiped my "area" soon after. can you get ...

A.   10 July 2007: Yes you can,use a condom or go on the pill... (read in full...)

My boyfriend has a lump in he testical

Q.   Does anybody believe in fate? I never until last week. I had a dream that my boyfriend died of testicular cancer, so the next time i saw him i decided to have a feel of his testicles to check that nothing was there and to my horror i found a hard ...

A.   10 July 2007: Hey, this NEEDS to be checked out, no one can be sure what it is only a doctor, go to the doctors straight away, it could be anything but it's best to be checked out. GOOD LUCK JESS XXXX... (read in full...)

I have a crush on my friends boyfriend

Q.   one of my best friends just recently hooked up with a VERY nice boy, who i've known for about 2 years and i really admire as a friend but he doesnt seem to notice me or pay any attention to me, i think im starting to like him, but i feel terrible ...

A.   10 July 2007: Heya, its your friends boyfriend if he was to ask you out what would you say? would you really betray you friend like that? i think you should back off and find somebody else because at the end of the day boys come and go and friends are always ... (read in full...)

Should I date a guy with less formal education than me?

Q.   I was wondering, does it matter whether I date a guy who has had less formal education than me? He recently asked me out. He's not been to college and I have.I wonder if that will have any effect on our relationship...help!...

A.   10 July 2007: Hey, well do you fancie him?? just because he hasn't been to college it doesn't mean he is not intellegant, you can date who you like? ask yourself do you enjoy being with him? is he a nice person?, well if you like him then go for it girl!! as long ... (read in full...)

We have a great relationship, but he isnt in love with me.

Q.   I am currently dating my best friend, we have been on anf off for about a year now. We are together every weekend and we talk on the phone constantly. The problem is he changes his mind about me a lot. I asked him if he was in love with me and he ...

A.   10 July 2007: Hey, he probally means he loves you as a friend? you need to sit down with him and talk to him about how you are feeling, if he can't make up his mind then it can't be love because if he was in love he would know for sure. He treats you like a ... (read in full...)

How can I get more out of sex with my boyfriend?

Q.   I'm a 17 yr old girl from New Zealand, and i need some advice, if anyone has any 2 give. My bf and i hav been 2gether 4 around 8 months now, and we started having sex a little more than a month ago. Our relationship is very strong, and it's the real ...

A.   10 July 2007: Hey, try talking to your boyfriend, im sure he would rather you tell him so you can sort it out, he might be embarssed at first but its better you tell him than feeling uncomfortable. You should not feel uncomfortable you should enjoy sex with your ... (read in full...)

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