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Nothing Qulifies me to help people except for my own personal experiences with in life, my mistakes, my regrets and my tiumphs.
I currently live in London, England and have my whole life, Although i do plan to Move when im Older. Havent decided where. Possibly Canada or Australia.
Right now im at university studying to hopefully work in the criminal justice system or whatever i feel is right. |
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Is there a possibility that I might be pregnant again?
Q. I had my abortion 8/21/07 I started having unprotected sex AGAIN 8/28 through 9/6/ so is there a possibility that I might be pregnant again? ...
A. 10 September 2007: Didnt you learn from your past mistake. Yes you could be pregnant again. Learn this time.... (read in full...)
Should I be concerned if my boyfriend messages random girls on the internet?
Q. Should I be concerned if my boyfriend messages random girls on the internet?...
A. 10 September 2007: Well it depends on the nature of these messages. If they are friendly its OK, but if there not you should do something about it.
Just talk to him and tell him its upsetting you a little.... (read in full...)
I have a really prominent chest bone....
Q. hey I have a really prominent chest bone.... but it only shows on one side so it looks like I have 1 boob MUCH bigger than the other..... I am only 15 so my boobs are quite small.... when they develop more will the bone be covered??? and how long...
A. 10 September 2007: as your only 15 you still are growing at least for a few more years to come. Your bone could be covered by then.... (read in full...)
My friend said stuff to her on my computer (my MSN) so she thinks I'm a complete weirdo now.
Q. OK so I've got a bit of a problem and it's bugging me big time. A couple weeks ago I went on a few dates with a girl and I really liked her, usually if I'm with a girl my intentions are pretty obvious, but with her it was different, I really liked ...
A. 10 September 2007: just tell her that your friend was messing around on your computer and said those things to her, and go from there.
And get your mate back!... (read in full...)
I am 13 so, why do I want sex?
Q. yah i'm 13 i know sex isn't worth it in the end but i still want it for some reason any help...
A. 9 September 2007: well im glad your mature enough to relise that its not worth it but as for wanting it, its your teenage hormones raging.
We all get that feeling every now and then even when we're older.
We just gotta control ourselves and makes sure we dont do ... (read in full...)
I've been chatting with a much older woman via a dating site. Should we meet?
Q. Hello, I'm a 17 year old guy and have been chatting with a 41 year old woman via a dating site for a month or 2... We have recently swapped mobile numbers and we have started chatting regularly on MSN about causal day to day things... I reall...
A. 9 September 2007: well i guess if your really ok with this and she knows your age and yyour both open about it (age etc)
I guess its ok to go with it.
Just if you do meet up be careful do it in public and make sure you know what you are doing.
Maybe talk on webc... (read in full...)
Don't want lose my best friend, if I go out with her brother she'll hate us.
Q. i am seeing a boy whos two years older than me he has a girlfriend who he has been going out with for nearly 3 years he said he would spilt up with his girlfriend for me because thats how much he loves me the only problem is that this boy is my ...
A. 9 September 2007: Well i kinda get whats shes saying, but ahte is a very strong word to use.
Sometimes people dont like their mates to date their siblings i would hate it as my family and friends are usually seperate.
So if she will trulely dislike you for dating h... (read in full...)
I cant seem to stop flirting with guys when I've been drinking. I'm scared I will do something silly when my guy isnt out with me. I think I just crave the attention?
Q. I cant seem to help myself from flirting with other guys when im out, even if my boyfriend is right beside me! its only when i have drink on me but im afraid to go out on my own incase i do something ill regret. like last weeknd, i almost got with ...
A. 9 September 2007: Well cut down on the drinking or stop it completly if you dont like who you become when your drunk.
You dont always have to drink.
and you would hate it if you bf did this to you wouldnt you.... (read in full...)
Should I lose my virginity before university with a good friend or should I wait and try to find someone there?
Q. hiya. I am going to university in a couple of weeks time and dont know what i should do. Should i lose my virginity before university with a good friend or someone i like, or should i wait and try to find someone at university? Any advice would be ...
A. 9 September 2007: you should definently waituntil you find someone you really love and care about. And unless you feel this way about the friend you should wait... (read in full...)
What is the differance between a lover and a girlfriend?
Q. What is the difference between a lover and a girlfriend? ...
A. 8 September 2007: in my opinion a lover is more someone you have psyical relationship with a not exactly a formal one i.e Dating. A girlfriend is more formal and official, this one is easy to know but im finding hard to exaxtly describe.... (read in full...)
I really like this girl and she doesn't like me back
Q. well i really like tis girl and i very sweet to her!!!!!! but she doesnt like me back so wat should i do and i cant get over her !!! so wat should i do...
A. 8 September 2007: Well im afraid its one of those things that happento the most of us.We like them and they dont feel the same and our heart is broken. All we can do is move on as we cant make them feel the same as we do. Its hard but is the only choice... (read in full...)
I have red splotches on my face and feel fatigued. What can I do?
Q. Hi, can anyone please tell me what is wrong with me?! I have these red splotches on my face which have started to appear this week. I have been really sick and i'm thinking this is some strange side effect! They are usually most noticeable when i ...
A. 6 September 2007: You should proberly visit your GP. as it would be irrisponsible for us to guess to your condition. But are you using any new make up, shower gel, hair shampoo/condition, creams as these may cause allergies. But visit your doctor for 100
5 cert... (read in full...)
Can a guy and a girl be platonic "friends" and nothing more?
Q. I need opinions here! Do you think it is possible for a guy and a girl to just be friends or is there always/almost always romantic feelings at some time for the other person?...
A. 6 September 2007: correction i put no at the front of my asnwer instead of yes. Yes they can be... (read in full...)
Can a guy and a girl be platonic "friends" and nothing more?
Q. I need opinions here! Do you think it is possible for a guy and a girl to just be friends or is there always/almost always romantic feelings at some time for the other person?...
A. 6 September 2007: No. Men and woman can be friends and nothing else. I have alot of girl friends who i have no romantic feelings for.... (read in full...)
My children don't approve of me dating younger women!
Q. I am a sedate older guy and I like to date young girls (not under 18 young). My children (also over 18) always harrass me and my girlfriend saving I am perverted. My girlfriend and I get along well. We go out and on road trips every few months. I ...
A. 5 September 2007: well i understand why your kids are crepped out as your dating someone similar to their age. BUT on the other hand your an adult male who is single and you have every right to date someone (over 18!) and do what your like, as its your life not your ... (read in full...)
My children don't approve of me dating younger women!
Q. I am a sedate older guy and I like to date young girls (not under 18 young). My children (also over 18) always harrass me and my girlfriend saving I am perverted. My girlfriend and I get along well. We go out and on road trips every few months. I ...
A. 5 September 2007: well i understand why your kids are crepped out as your dating someone similar to their age. BUT on the other hand your an adult male who is single and you have every right to date someone (over 18!) and do what your like, as its your life not your ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is very touchy feely. I'm scared to have sex incase it hurts. Should I just do it and get it over and done with?
Q. Hii I am 14 and my boyfriend is 17 i really like him but i think sometimes he is just wanting one thing. He always trys to put his hands down my trousers or up my top he can never just sit and be close and not touchy all the time he says he isnt ...
A. 5 September 2007: well first of all having sex with this boy would not only be illegal but would make him a satutory rapist and he will go to jail.
Secondly having sex because your mates have is stupid and pointelss as doing it at 14 is way to young and you may not ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend calls me nasty names and expects me to do all the household chores
Q. I love my bf vry much but he disrespects me by calling me names like bit** and then expects me to do all the chores in the apt just because I don't have a job yet. i've just started to attend languages classes because the language is a barrrier from ...
A. 4 September 2007: find somewhere else to live. Move from him as he is trouble. Soon you will find your feet in your new country and then life should be easier.... (read in full...)
Why would my ex call me for love advice?
Q. Hello All, My ex byfriend, also the father of my son, recently called me to get advice. He claims he could not think of anyone else to call. He tells me he is leaving the current girlfriend for a new prospect he recently meet. But the weird th...
A. 4 September 2007: he proberly thought he could trust you and you were the best person to give advice to him.... (read in full...)
I was going to tell my teacher how much I liked him, but now he is going to have a baby!
Q. Please please help! I have avoided posting to this site for a while now about my problem because people were gettin a little sick of the situation! But now, things have got a alot worse. I like this teacher, so much! I've had troubles in the ...
A. 4 September 2007: you need to somehow get over your crush on him, and yes its a crush. Not love. We have all been there at some point in our lives likeing a teacher or neigbour who is much older than us, and at first we think its love, but you soon will know its ... (read in full...)
Why does he say such mean things to me?
Q. Hi, there evryone, i was wounding if anybody could tell me why my boyfriend thinks it ok to call me stupid and tell me to shut up all i have to do is say something like why dont you cuddle me anymore and he will tell me to shut up. i get very upset. ...
A. 4 September 2007: well im sorry to say but a partner who is abusive whether it be verbal or pysical doesnt love you as this is not true love.
He says these things because simply he is an a**, and doesnt dserve a girlfriend at all.
Im sorry but to live happily ... (read in full...)
I was date raped a few years ago. I have a date soon and dont know when the right time should be to tell him?
Q. I have an awkward question, I was hoping somebody might be able to offer some advice. I'm 24 right now, but when I was 17 I was date-raped. It affected me for years, and I had major self-esteem issues and trust issues. Now though, I've 'found ...
A. 4 September 2007: Well sorry about you being date raped but im glad you found yourself and are happy to find love and trust people again. In my opinion you should tell this man when your deep into the relationship and fully trust him with this. I cant say exactly ... (read in full...)
He lives 300 miles away and we've never met but we're in love! Everyone tells me to finish it. Help!
Q. Im in a relationship with this 15 year old boy. He lives 300 miles away and we've never met but we've fallen in love. Ive tried so hard to say its over but i just cant! Its our 3rd time we've gone out so i think that we've something. Everyone tells ...
A. 4 September 2007: Well this is a hard one. Firstlyn your subsituting a real psyical relationship for a virtual one and you never know who is on the other side of the moniter. This is just me telling you to be safe on the internet and be careful what you say and neve... (read in full...)
Is it true that people that only go out with good looking people get hurt eventually?
Q. Is it true that people who only go out with good looking get hurt eventually, than the people who choose personality over looks?...
A. 4 September 2007: No Though there are shallow people who do this and yes they will get hurt in the end. As it was never suppose to be and was never right. But there are alot of people who go out with people for there personality and these relationships ar... (read in full...)
He says I am frigid but I think I am too young!
Q. I am 13 and i like this 19 year old boy..he really likes me and i like him but he said i am frigid..i think i am to young and he is a dad what shall i do?? help...
A. 4 September 2007: Your too young for a 19 year old to be telling you are friged.
Enjoy your younger years and dont do anything you dont want until your ready. As youll regret it later.... (read in full...)
I am 23 and have fallen for a 14 year old!
Q. i am a 23 year old male, and i have a 14 year old friend i have meet and known for a while, we get on really well, and her parents seem to trust me and her. but i think i maybe fallin in love with her, and i think she feels the same way, im not...
A. 4 September 2007: i think you should proberly adviod her for a little while as its not right for a 23 year old to like a 14 year old.
Hang around mates closer to your age and if you still have feelings for her in 4 years go for it.... (read in full...)
Can I see my questions/answers if I dont have an account?
Q. hey all - i post answers on DearCupid a lot but i remain anonymous because my computer is really slow and it would take me ages to make an account. so i was just wondering how i can view questions that ive answered because i can never find them ...
A. 3 September 2007: no. Thats why you should make an account.
In fact its really quick only 30 secs... (read in full...)
Is it disrespectful to give a gift to someone who's involved with another?
Q. Is buying a gift or giving something to a ex or a person involved a sign of disrespect to the lover of the person you have given the gift to?...
A. 2 September 2007: kenny is right. If the is not suggestive remarks involed with the gift than its complelty OK. If it wasnt Ok Xmas would be very akward... (read in full...)
Me and my friend both like the same guy! What should I do?
Q. I like a guy at work who says he likes me too, however my friend also likes this guy and says she would love to sleep with him. I really like this guy but don't want to hurt my friend what should I do....
A. 2 September 2007: well if you both like him you proberly have to both stop and think about your friendship. Is it more important than a guy, chances are it is.
And if it is just make a pact and move past this guy as you dont wanna fight and lose your friendship over... (read in full...)
I'm due to start college and feel nervous I won't find anyone like me, I'm the tranquil type and rather get on well with adults!
Q. I'm due to start college in 8 days and i'm really nervous. Not really because i'll be in a new place or anything but there only 2 people who i hang round wiv that are going and they are in a different course even thought we are all in the same part ...
A. 2 September 2007: i felt the sameway when i started my 6th form/college. A few days later i felt stupid. Believe me most people feel exactly like you do. And when you start your classes youll talk to that first person and then hours later youll have a great friend.
I... (read in full...)
How important is income level to love? My bf doesn't feel my finances are solid enough...
Q. How important is income level to love? My friend who is really my boyfriend doesn't want to look at it that way lately because of money. I support myself, but he doesn't feel my finances are solid enough. I know that many relationships have fou...
A. 1 September 2007: income is not important to love.
Though it is important to having a steady life with your partner and if you have a job a can support yourself, and if he has one you should be able to help each other. He sounds like hes making excuses.... (read in full...)
My bloke went off with my best mate, they split and now he seems to want to come back? What do you think?
Q. i broke up with ma boyfriend 2 months ago,actual he started dating my so called bestfriend,i hear they broke up, he never wanted to talk to me but a month a go he started sendin me IMs asking me if i hate him,why am i acting like he is not ...
A. 1 September 2007: Simply tell him to F off. And dont talk to him anymore.... (read in full...)
Does her starting smoking again mean she doesn't care about me anymore??
Q. I met my girlfriend in England 6 months ago and we both love each other very much! She lives in Turkey and returned 1 month ago trying to get visa to return and study. Whilst she was in England she quit smoking, she said that it was all because of ...
A. 1 September 2007: Smoking is just a plain addiction that some people can give up of a little while but later start again as it takes over. Quiting can sometimes be a gesture but if they start again dont take it personal as its a very bad addiction and takes over ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with one of my closest friends. Should I tell her?
Q. Okay well im 16, and one of my closest friends is 14 going on 15. Iv known her practically all my life and love her to bits. The problem is, now im starting to like her as more of a friend, i cant get her out of my head, and every time she comes an...
A. 1 September 2007: well if you understand the sexual age of consent issues that apply here i think that you should just go for it and tell her, if shes not dating anyone its no problem.
Good luck... (read in full...)
Is it too young for a sixteen year old and a twenty year old to hook up and start dating?
Q. Is it too young for a sixteen year old and a twenty year old to hook up and start dating? Its only four years. Just look at my parents they're six years apart and they love each other and my friend's parents are fifteen years apart. But when young ...
A. 30 August 2007: Well if you understand the sexual consent age and what you can and cannot do, i see no problem with you to dating if you do love each other its perfectly OK.
people may say different but you have to ignore these people and over come there goss... (read in full...)
We fell asleep together; the other competitors from the sporting club told me it's wrong, I could never have taken advantage over it though and it worries me...
Q. I'm 17 and theres this girl who's 15. We've known each other for years now and have always been really close. We went away with a sporting club a little while ago, and on the last night there, all crowded into one room. Her being much youn...
A. 29 August 2007: i fully agree with penta here.
You did nothing wrong and you cant stop other people gossiping all you can do is say your side (the truth) that you did nothing wrong at all and just ignore the stupid rumors.... (read in full...)
She had unprotected sex but he didn't ejaculate. Could she be pregnant?
Q. Hi Cupid. This time it's not about ME. Today i got a call from a friend saying she had unprotected sex last night (first time). She isn't too worried about becoming pregnant as she thinks the guy she was with didn't come in or near her. Cou...
A. 23 August 2007: Yes should could be as precum does contain spearm. Tell her to use protection from now on.... (read in full...)
I received a text from my girlfriend to say "you're dumped", no explanation, nothing, she won't answer my calls. What do I do?
Q. I had been with my girlfriend for exactly two months OK things have been a bit rocky from time to time due to her mental health problems that she assured me she was over the worst of them at the begining of the relationship and in that time she has ...
A. 22 August 2007: Sorry this happened. It sounds like she is still suffering effects of her condition. All you can do since she is ignoring you is move on from her. If she needs your help i bet she'll be back.
Good luck... (read in full...)
I almost kissed someone else, do I tell her?
Q. Hi, I am in love with my current girlfriend and we have been together for a little over a year, i went out with some friends and got really drunk, i ended up dancing with this girl, normal flirting, and at the end of the night i almost kissed her, ...
A. 22 August 2007: Well i say dont tell her and chalk this up to experience and learn to control your drinking and what you do if you do drink, you say you learnt a lesson, which hopefully will stay for life and since you didnt kiss her thats enough.
Though if you ... (read in full...)
I cheat on my fiancee all the time, but its his fault cause he got me into computers
Q. I am engaged to a wonderful man who i love,but i am addicted to cheating.It seems so easy,they are all available on the internet. He has almost caught me twice,but luckily i turned it around on him and now he has to prove to me that he`s not a ...
A. 21 August 2007: YES YOUR A BAD PERSON! your blaming him for your cheating as he introduced you to computers. Thats a lame excuse if i ever heard one.
Either leave him now and have you internet relationships or stop cheating and do normal things on the computer like... (read in full...)
My 30 year old boyfriend can sometimes be immature... any tips?
Q. My boyfriend is 30 and I am 35. We have been together about 18 months. I am concerned because he is a very different person around his friends than he is with me. I know that we are all slightly different but he seems to use different language ...
A. 21 August 2007: Well theres only one thing to say here. Pretty much all guys are revert to 16 when around there mates. I do it, ive seen my dad do it, and older men do it. I dont know why it happens it just does, mostly because its fun and its how we act. The whole ... (read in full...)
My 30 year old boyfriend can sometimes be immature... any tips?
Q. My boyfriend is 30 and I am 35. We have been together about 18 months. I am concerned because he is a very different person around his friends than he is with me. I know that we are all slightly different but he seems to use different language ...
A. 21 August 2007: Well theres only one thing to say here. Pretty much all guys are revert to 16 when around there mates. I do it, ive seen my dad do it, and older men do it. I dont know why it happens it just does, mostly because its fun and its how we act. The whole ... (read in full...)
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