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writes:hi this may sound like a stupid question but ive been with my girlfriend for 6 months, i just wanted to know that is it a bad thing to kiss another girl who is a friend or sumone you'r being introduced to as a matter of politeness on the cheek like when people greet each other, for some reason i felt guilty that i did and now feel that i shouldn't drink too much cuz everyone was quite drunk lol, but i think i should keep more control of myself, i will emphasise that it was only a kiss on the cheek and i don't find other girls attractive. It's made me want my girlfriend even more in a way, i don't want to make her unhappy! so come on, someone tell me if this is bad? And why did i feel bad?? when i didn't even know the girl, i didn't like her at all!!i don't want to make a big issue out of it and tell her. she always like hugging other guys and stuff as they are mates,
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reader, eddie  +, writes (4 June 2007):
 I wonder why this bothers you so much. Were you possibly attracted to the other woman or paying too much attention to her? I don't believe that you don't find other girls attractive. That is a little naive. Was she flirting with you? Otherwise, I don't know why it would bother you so much. Something triggered your guilt. What was it?
Kissing on the cheek where I live is common but not expected in all situations. It's not something we usually do the first time we meet. Canada is a country of many nationalities so it is not uncommon to socialize with people from different cultures. Some have this custom, others don't.
Try to figure out what triggered this preoccupation with a sociable cheek kiss. What the scenario. You have to be honest with yourself to answer this question. I'm not saying you're lying but sometimes we can try to justify things we do to make them more palatable.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2007): well if you feel un comfortable kissing other gurls and you think that you are cheating why kiss other gurls if you have to talk to your girlfriend about how she is hugging up on other men and if she says it does not mean any thing then tell her that kissing other gurls on the checks does not mean any thing and then tell her how much you like her what i'm saying if you don't think it's right don't do it and if you think it means effecting your relationship and you don't want it to interfer just tell her how you really feel about her and your feelings that you have torwards her are not like any other feelings torwards any other gurl M K
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2007): In America, that is not really acceptable. Things in the UK are obviously different, but here we shake hands as a polite greeting. Kissing isn't considered a greeting, unless it is a family member or your significant other. If it makes you feel guilty, then don't do it anymore.
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reader, Farris +, writes (4 June 2007):
 You definitely should not feel bad about this, you were just being polite!
It's nice to know how much you care about your girlfriend, maybe you should sit down with her and ask her how she feels about this? If she loves and trusts you as much as you do her, I'm certain that she'll tell you that this is absolutely fine. Maybe you can both sit and tell each other where you'd draw the line of what is wrong? That way then you can stop fretting over things that she doesn't mind!
Good luck & Best wishes.
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reader, candy00s +, writes (4 June 2007):
 i dont think you should feel like you were cheating at all. like you said you didnt see this girl in that kind of way any how.
I think a kiss on the cheek is a polite way of greeting someone and you shouldnt feel bad about it.
Its clear that you love and respect your girlfriend.
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (4 June 2007):
 You answered your own question.
Yes of course you can kiss a another girl on the cheek out of politeness or greeting, in no way is it cheating and you should not feel guilty in anyway shape or form.
And also you sound like you genuinly love your girlfriend so this kissing wont lead to anything, like cheating, its just a hello.
Now your girlfriend may not like this, but that is her view. Usally as long as they see it as friendly you are fine.
Dont not worry, ask her if shes ok, she should be.
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