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Hi i James

Nothing Qulifies me to help people except for my own personal experiences with in life, my mistakes, my regrets and my tiumphs.

I currently live in London, England and have my whole life, Although i do plan to Move when im Older. Havent decided where. Possibly Canada or Australia.

Right now im at university studying to hopefully work in the criminal justice system or whatever i feel is right.

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Should I be offended by what she said to me?

Q.   ok recently i was on my myspace and on one of my pics a girl in my year put "wow you look great not like you usally do " we have had arguments before but should i be offended by this comment?...

A.   2 January 2008: Well i got two things from this Firstly yeah she could be a little bi*** and is just being rude towards you over the internet, if this is the case ignore it as its just stupid childish behaviour Second by "not like you usually do" it could mean she... (read in full...)

Does he like me, or is he avoiding me?

Q.   There is a guy in one of my classes that talks to me every day. he gives signals that he likes me so i asked him to a really important dance that only the school dance team goes to. he said yes but the next day he came up to me and said that he ...

A.   31 December 2007: i doubt he is advioding since he did say yes the first time. But if you really like him why dont you ask him if you can cheer him on at the football(soccer) game. He will like that.... (read in full...)

My partners daughter resents me, how do I handle this?

Q.   Dear Cupid. This has got to be a recurrent problem. I adore my partner. We met at work, and our feelings grew from there. She has 3 children, the eldest, a boy of 18, and the youngest, who is a girl of 8, have presented, and continue to pres...

A.   31 December 2007: Just give it time. They were brought up around their dad and are only used to that. Keep being nice and let them know you wanna be there dad but not replace their father. Soon enough they will warm up to you.... (read in full...)

My 24 year old son has started drinking again after 7 years of sobrioty

Q.   My 24 year old son has started drinking again after 7 years of sobrioty....What should I do?...

A.   31 December 2007: Defo call AA. Get him into a meeting, they can help the best. Go with him for support... (read in full...)

He's shy--So how can I let him know that I want him to ask me out?

Q.   I have feelings for my friend of over a year and recently he admited he has feelings for me to. It is really important for me that he asks me out because he is shy and it would show me that he cares about me as much as I do him and it would show me ...

A.   31 December 2007: Well you could flirt with him and drop him hints about you liking him. But since he is shy it might not help him get over his shyness. The best thing to help him is to just ask him out yourself, rather than hope he would ask you out.... (read in full...)

He moved away and has a new girlfriend - will he really dump her for me?

Q.   I used to date this guy before he moved away. I see him when he comes to visit and i really like him. The problem is he has a girlfriend where he lives now but he says he loves me and will dump her for me. I'm not sure whether to trust him or not as ...

A.   30 December 2007: im sorry but this isnt what you wanna hear, but why would you want to break them up. How didyou feel when he left, well you'll be putting it on her for your own selfish gains. Its just wrong and bad to break people up. Also no you cant trust him as ... (read in full...)

How do I tell my boyfriend that I slept in the same bed as another guy, even though it was platonic?

Q.   I went out with my friends a few days before xmas, and it got quite late, so i stayed at a friends house. There were only two double beds, and four of us. The couple got one, and i was left to the other one, having to share with my male friend who i ...

A.   27 December 2007: Dont tell him! Your making a bigger situation than is needed here. HYou only slept in the same bed, no sexual stuff happened, so you did nothing wrong at all. To tell your BF what happened would only cause him more insecurities and escalate... (read in full...)

I'm a teacher and have formed a good online friendship with a quite mature teenager(17). Am I wrong to want to meet her - or even to be talking to her?

Q.   hi there. i am a 28 year old teacher..been working near London for about 5 years.. problem is I met a girl on line about 4 months ago..she is 17 doing 'A' levels in a different school (about 100 miles away) i might add, and is quite mature.....

A.   27 December 2007: Well in my view shes of legal age(though you only want a friendship?), your not in a relationship(if you do want a relationship with her). Most importantly shes not your student, so its OK, in my view though. People around might think a little ... (read in full...)

How can I get back in with my family after my mum fell for this blokes lies??

Q.   My question is How do i get back in with my family? A bloke has told my mum I have given my 13 year old brother drugs when he's around at mine. Of course I havent but she's so stubborn she wont have it that I havent. What shall I do?...

A.   26 December 2007: Tell your mum the truth, your side. Act like an adult and work it out by talking. She should see the light... (read in full...)

Do you think our relationship will work this way?

Q.   Hello, I would like to ask you for advice please. Me and my girlfriend are dating each other a year and something. We always had different friends. She hates alcohol thats why she would never hang out with my friends again. Now, she goes dancing ...

A.   26 December 2007: You are perfectly fine I have a mate who when he goes to the pub he will sit with his mates(me inc) and his girlfriend will sit at another table drinking and talking to her friends. They look at each other and sometimes kiss and sit for awhile but ... (read in full...)

What are the laws on oral sex?

Q.   Hey, im really confused... i'm 15 and my bf is 17... is it illegal if we have oral sex, as I'm under the age of consent, but he's over it? Thanks!...

A.   26 December 2007: i agree with Abacadaba here and hers some proff http://abcnews.go.com/Primetime/LegalCenter/story?id=1693362 this case is extreme but shows that it IS against the law so its not worth it. The boy is in jail now, so you should wait just to be safe... (read in full...)

Is 13 - 17 too much of an age gap??

Q.   Im 13 turning 14 in a month. He's 17 turning 18 in a month. Is he to old for me? He's had sex and i havent i told him that and he is absoulute cool with it. But is he to old by 4 years? x...

A.   23 December 2007: i agree with kenny here. Normally 4 years is nothing and prevents no barrier. But at 14-18 its a different story. Truthly your a child a minor. Hes a fully grown man. With him wanting to be with a 14 year old is not right. I would say wait until ... (read in full...)

What do you think about my teacher's behaviour??

Q.   I have a teacher and i dropped my picture on the ground and he asked if i wanted it and i said," NO " so he asked if he could keep it. and i said shure so he put it on the wall.okay so i have a have a teacher Then hes the coach for track. I did ...

A.   23 December 2007: i agree with uncle phil, i wouldnt read too much into it. hes proberly just being friendly... (read in full...)

My boyfriend lied to me and now I don't know what to do?

Q.   my boyfriend lied 2 me and i don't know what 2 do...

A.   23 December 2007: depends what it was. Cheating, a little lie. Please give more detials. But for now if it was little and you can see yourself moving past it. Give yourself some distance and then go and talk to him fresh. If it was bigger and you doubt you can move... (read in full...)

Happy Xmas from DearCupid

Q.   Happy Xmas everyone :-) The aunts who share their wisdom, the people who share their questions and the team of moderators who keep everything flowing onto the site! Plus the 350,000 people who visit each month Have a great Xmas! Feel free t...

A.   23 December 2007: Hope everyone has a great xmas and a new year, also a wonderful 2008. Filled with your happiness and those you help day to day with their problems. Wishing all Aunts/Uncle/Anons and Visitors a wonderful holiday season.... (read in full...)

How can my guy and his sister get back on talking terms again?

Q.   Hey Ive been on and off with a guy for over a year now. We split for a few months back in the summer, but got back together about 6 weeks ago. Things are fine there but its his sister. She is the same age as me. I only ever met her about 3 times bu...

A.   20 December 2007: peoriaman Anti Social Behavior Orders are bad things here in Britian, basically for criminals, mostly youth. As for the question asker i think you should let the sister stew in her own hatred. Shes seems unstable and its not your fault how shes act... (read in full...)

Does Dr Pepper lower sperm count?

Q.   My friend hurd a roumer that Dr.Pepper lowers sperm count? is this true?...

A.   20 December 2007: YES... only if you manage to open up your body and pour it where the sperm is produced. Not as good as the others but still NO it doesnt kill sperm. Its a rumor people tried to tell me aswell.... (read in full...)

My boyfreind sent a suspicious email, is he cheating??

Q.   My normally well-behaved boyfriend said this in an email to one of his friends: "i apologise...for drunken email that is....haven't been this pasted in long time...maybe one week....also resolve to sleep with random chicks hahah..." Sho...

A.   20 December 2007: First if he is well behaved why were you in his email/sent mail? Second hes proberly joking with his mates, and the girl thing is an inside joke... (read in full...)

Why doesn't my boyfriend like me going out with him and his friends?

Q.   My boyfriend doesnt like going out with me and his mates together but i dont know why. His mates are fine with me and I talk to his mates at school. He doesnt go to my school anymore because he left after GCSEs and i began at the school 2 years ...

A.   20 December 2007: well in my opinion as a guy he will act differently around his mates than around you. Around you he will be nice, sweet and caring. Then around his mates he will be more of a joker and mess around and do more "guy things". I (maybe him) dont wanna ... (read in full...)

Room for speculation. What could his words have meant?

Q.   What does it mean when he says "what i said about not knowin what i wanted wasnt meant about me and you" ...

A.   19 December 2007: i agree with peoriaman here... (read in full...)

I think my 15 year old son was looking at my porn collection, how do I approach him?

Q.   i believe my 15 yr old son has been looking at my few porn dvd collections which i kept well away from view in my room. i saw they ave been disturbed and one found under d bed where it should not be(maybe left in a hurry)I ave now gotten rid of a...

A.   19 December 2007: Being a little older than him i wouldnt bring it up. Teens would look at porn no matter the fact you took away yours should let him know subtly that you know what he did. If you were to bring it up as his mother he would be mortified, and would be ... (read in full...)

How can you tell if you're ready?

Q.   my bf of 16 months acts like he wants to have sex but i don't want it yet. how can you tell if he's ready? how can you tell if your ready? plz help xx...

A.   19 December 2007: my rule of thumb is that if your questioning it, your not ready. You already said yourself you dont want it yet, so your not ready i think. You will know when your ready, it feels different to different people but they know. Just dont feel pressure... (read in full...)

We've been going out 4 months but nothing's happened, do you think we might breakup?

Q.   Ok i am currently going out with my girlfriend now for 4 months.. we havent done any thing except meet.. Im worried if we dont go further we could break up.. I want to top her friday nite but I dont no how to... Please help??? should i ask her 1st??...

A.   19 December 2007: ok even im proberly too old to know what "to" means. But at your age you shouldnt be wanting to push things forward, just do them slowly and when they come naturally. As if you push into doing things you will break up. Dont worry as not moving forw... (read in full...)

My friend nearly made out with me until I asked him to stop. What was he thinking?

Q.   Hi I moved to a new city one year ago and my former flatmate from my old one visited me last weekend. While the weekend was fun, it got kinda weird on Saturday night. We were watching TV and my friend sort of started touching me. We nearly made out...

A.   17 December 2007: He was interested in being more than friends, your not. Like richard said you set him straight now... (read in full...)

I love my God brother, is this wrong?

Q.   i loved my god brother. i know we cannot have any relationship but i don't know to stop my feeling toward him. is it a mistake for loving our own god brother? i kept thinking of him day and night. i even sometimes thought him as my bf. what shou...

A.   17 December 2007: in my knowledge god brother is like god mother/father. But is the son of your god mother/father. This is how i have a god brother. Its nothing to do with, god, religon and theres no blood. If i am correct, go for it, theres no blood so its ok.... (read in full...)

I like someone who's working on my house. Do guys like it when the woman makes the first move?

Q.   This is a question for the men on the site. I like someones who's doing work on my house at the moment. Do men like it when woman make the first move...or ask for your number? He's back on tuesday and i want to do something about i...

A.   17 December 2007: yea this was asked yesterday. If you wanna know again, go for it/... (read in full...)

How can I sing with a sore throat? Any remedies?

Q.   Hi everybody. Slight change from the norm; I have a health related question. As some of you know, I'm in a rock band for my Music course in college. I have to give a performance this Thursday in front of all my fellow students and friends. It is a...

A.   16 December 2007: i would try lemsips as they usually help. I also hear that Warm Honey helps sooths your throat so it should help you. Good Luck... (read in full...)

Is it possible for young boys to get an erection even by looking at a girl they like?

Q.   hiya! this question is kind of aimed at guys who are 13-15 but anyone if free to answer. basically, is it possible for a guy to get an erection even if they are looking at a girl they like. cus my bf, sometimes when he looks up across at me he...

A.   16 December 2007: Yes. At that age you can get an erection over anything remotly related to girls, or even just randomly. Hugs are one of those things that help the process, but anything can help it.... (read in full...)

Generally how soon do guys get bored in a new relationsip?

Q.   How long does it take the new to wear off when you begin dating someone new?Is it true guys get bored after 6months and look for something new?...

A.   16 December 2007: whats with all these men sterotypes. Theres no time limit for men, we are not wind up dolls going off at the same time, and we are not all the same. You cant be 36-40 if you thought this was true.... (read in full...)

He's only with me because I'm white!! Should I be offended by this?

Q.   My boyfriend of nine months told me that he's only with me because I'm white. Should i be offended? [He's half Bangli and half English]...

A.   16 December 2007: yes. Hes not with you because of you, hes shallow.... (read in full...)

Is my weight normal?

Q.   I am 16 and weigh 10 stones is this normal?...

A.   15 December 2007: depends on your height. Check your BMI, it should help though it can be innacurate as muscle and fat have different masses... (read in full...)

My husband's cat is very dirty, makes noise, has attacked a friend - I'm concerned about my babies' safety, yet my partner wants to keep it!

Q.   I really dislike my husband's cat! She's 11 yrs. old, she has long hair that falls out in clumps, I have found little clumps of hair that have feces in it, all over the house..I am 6 months pregnant and I have an 8 month old and I do not want this ...

A.   15 December 2007: rhythmandblues2 that was a nice response, and the photo is very suitable As a cat owner of over 16 years, one passing away recently. I know a little about cat care. Cats are one of the most clean animals there is, if they are not lying there, e... (read in full...)

My teacher is being mean to me for no apparent reason.

Q.   i am 14 and my english teacher is being mean to me for no apparent reason she said she is going to move people down because they cant do the work and when she said this to the class she looked at me all the way through it and i can do the work so ...

A.   13 December 2007: well i remember being in situations like that and getting in trouble and being confused why. So i moved from some of the jokers in my class and kept quite in lesson, and just participated a bit more. Soon enough the teacher relised i was good and we ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend chooses his mates over me.

Q.   My boyfriend chooses his mates over me, what does this mean? does he love me enough?...

A.   13 December 2007: faily lu is right. You can expect him to drop his mates and "love" you the minute you start dating. Give the relationship time to grow and mature... (read in full...)

My bf never calls me by my name. I find this strange.

Q.   hi everyboby,i have a problem me and my boyfriend have been together for little over a year,the problem is he haven't said my name yet.this is very strange and driving me crazy.every time i ask him.he gives me some stupid answer.i dont know what to ...

A.   13 December 2007: well can you say what he calls you. Sweetheart, babe etc. or just calls you... (read in full...)

How should I act when I'm around his family?

Q.   Ok here is the thing my boyfriend is part black and his moms side of family is black but i am not racist i just don't have many black friends next year my boyfriend has invited me to his moms family reunion and i don't know how to act. I met his ...

A.   13 December 2007: Black people are not any different from others. Just act like yourself and you will be ok. As for the handshaking just let them lead and follow it. I get confused by some of the different ones that people do, so just let them lead. ... (read in full...)

What does he mean when he winks?

Q.   My coworker tends to wink at me a lot. What does it mean when he does this?...

A.   13 December 2007: maybe he likes you, and is acting suggstively, trying to get your attention. Maybe hes someone who just winks at people, to say "you ok" "alright" etc. I do it sometimes. Tal to him and try and find out which one it is. More likely its the first.... (read in full...)

Is it safe for guys to choke the chicken in the shower? Or could it make subsequent lady users pregnant?

Q.   Is it safe for men to masturbate in the shower? Like safe for ladies who use the shower?...

A.   13 December 2007: yes. The hot steam, hot water and basic air will the sperm thats left behind. Its safe for the man. But before someone else uses the shower you shouldgive it a quick clean just to be fair... (read in full...)

I'm 15 and I'm attracted to a middle aged women.

Q.   Help I'm 15 and I keep crushing on middle aged women. Is this even normal? attracted to 30 year old women. any advice?...

A.   13 December 2007: more than normal. Everyone has crushes on older woman at some point in their life... (read in full...)

I can't stop thinking about girls and it is affecting my concentration!

Q.   I'm 15 and I can't stop thinking about girls help me please because I can't concentrate on my work......

A.   12 December 2007: happens to all of us at one point mate. I hard a period of thinikng about girls and messing up in school. The best thing to do here is just try your best to concentrate, as it will pass sooner or later. You'll still think about girls but you'll be ... (read in full...)

Poll question: duration of the sexual act?

Q.   Hey i would like to know how long on average a man can have sex for, i just want to compare. can you give me one number or 2 instead of saying it varies please? Thank you so much xx...

A.   11 December 2007: thats impossible to say without saying it varies. Cus it does. Sorry but there is no magical number that is good, bad or ecellent... (read in full...)

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