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Nothing Qulifies me to help people except for my own personal experiences with in life, my mistakes, my regrets and my tiumphs.
I currently live in London, England and have my whole life, Although i do plan to Move when im Older. Havent decided where. Possibly Canada or Australia.
Right now im at university studying to hopefully work in the criminal justice system or whatever i feel is right. |
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My 30 year old boyfriend can sometimes be immature... any tips?
Q. My boyfriend is 30 and I am 35. We have been together about 18 months. I am concerned because he is a very different person around his friends than he is with me. I know that we are all slightly different but he seems to use different language ...
A. 21 August 2007: Well theres only one thing to say here. Pretty much all guys are revert to 16 when around there mates. I do it, ive seen my dad do it, and older men do it. I dont know why it happens it just does, mostly because its fun and its how we act. The whole ... (read in full...)
My 30 year old boyfriend can sometimes be immature... any tips?
Q. My boyfriend is 30 and I am 35. We have been together about 18 months. I am concerned because he is a very different person around his friends than he is with me. I know that we are all slightly different but he seems to use different language ...
A. 21 August 2007: Well theres only one thing to say here. Pretty much all guys are revert to 16 when around there mates. I do it, ive seen my dad do it, and older men do it. I dont know why it happens it just does, mostly because its fun and its how we act. The whole ... (read in full...)
Will the weight i have gained make him leave me?
Q. I have put on weight recently and dont let my boyfriend see me completly naked and he is getting upset about it, will he get bored and move on?...
A. 20 August 2007: if he leaves you because of your weight gain and size he is not worth the trouble and your time.... (read in full...)
I am 18 and like a 15 year old
Q. i'm 18 and i have this crush on a 15-year-old girl. she lives across the street from me since she was in first grade. I really like her. no, i'm not sexually attracted to her; i will never harm or insult her by any means. it's just that she's so ...
A. 20 August 2007: Well since you only want to date her i see no problem with the age diference. But not knowing your country i dont know the age of consent but since you dont want to have sex with her its fine.
Id say as long as you know what your getting into you ... (read in full...)
Why does he come so fast during sex?
Q. Well..... this question is a bit upsetting to me and I really want to know why my man has this problem and how can help him over come this Here goes, my man and I enjoy having sex and all but he comes 2 fast like in under 2 minutes. Now orally we're ...
A. 20 August 2007: Is your age on the profile right, because like nidget gem said if he is over 16 and having sex with an10-12 year old he is a peadophile and needs to be stopped.
PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE tell a parent, a teacher, an aunt/uncle even an older sibling some... (read in full...)
Is it ok to be dating my cousin?
Q. My boyfriend is my cousin, what do you think about that? We are in love, and I know people critize us, because its impossible, but when I am with him, I feel so good, so perfect. I mean I could date other guys and he could date other girls. But ...
A. 19 August 2007: Well its kinda hard to say.
You can date her but society will frown upon this relationship as its not the norm to date a blood relative. Also if you have a child with her the chance this child will have some sort of defect will be much higher and ... (read in full...)
I love him but i'm also scared of him.
Q. I like this guy who is so sweet and has big blue eyes and brown hair, but I'm scared cause he said he would kill me if I didn't show up o time for our next date. He then said he was joking, but I've seen him say that stuff to his friends like:Hey ...
A. 19 August 2007: This guy sounds like a big psyco!!
You would wanna advoid this guy at all costs as he is dangerous.
He is just trouble if he pulls a knife on people and you dont know he may take the next step if you date him. If he harrases you tell a teacher/... (read in full...)
How often is "often enough".. ?
Q. How often should a normal guy masturbate a day?...
A. 19 August 2007: there is no set rota to do it.
Most guys (and gals) do it when they want to, like kenny said whether its once or 12 times its up to them.... (read in full...)
Could he go to jail for getting me pregnant?
Q. I am 15 almost 16 and I'm pregnant but will be 16 before the babies born and my boyfriend is 21 will he go to jail even though I'll be 16 before the babies born? And say I didnt put his name on the birth certificate and later on I do, can they still ...
A. 19 August 2007: Yes he can go to jail for statutory rape as he had sex with a minor(15.
Regardless of when your child was born he had sex with a minor, and im pretty sure all states minimum consent age is over 16.
And no its not true that the police will only tak... (read in full...)
He's got no money and can't work because of his bad leg... so his solution is for me to sell my body (sex-wise) for money!
Q. i gt bk with my bf in april after breaking up in dec.we gt engagd recently and he took me to his country to meet hiz parents.he says he loves me and does nearly everything i say we plan a lovly future but the onlything is he does nt want to work ...
A. 18 August 2007: i cant add anything else the others havent said. RUN like the wind FAR FAR AWAY from this man as asking you to sell your body is really (have to swear) f**ked up, and hes a piece of s**t for even thinking it so he can get rich and be a lazy idiot... (read in full...)
Was he staring at my chest?
Q. I really fancy my teacher and I want to know if he fancies me back.One day in my school corridor when I was going into a lesson,I flicked my hair(more obviously than I actually had intended to) and he looked at me really suprised...I though at first ...
A. 18 August 2007: well from the authority point of view i doubt it. At my school since im in the 6th form i have to tell the younger kids to do their ties up and sometimes do it for them (when their lazy) and it means nothing. Maybe he had a different opinion of what ... (read in full...)
Can you get someone to develop feeling for you?
Q. Do you think there is any way to get somebody to develop feelings for you? The reason why I am asking is because I am still in love with my ex-boyfriend and he told me he still cares for me a lot but doesn't have those feelings to take the ...
A. 18 August 2007: Im sorry but the simple answer is no, you cant.
Others have to develope their feeling naturally or they arent true feelings are they.
Just maintain your friendship with him and you never know what the future holds... (read in full...)
Amusement rides in pregnancy.
Q. Hi guys, I was hoping for a bit of advice for a friend really (yes a friend). She is off to Florida in December and is at the moment trying for a baby and the thing that concerns her is that she will be pregnant when she is over there and does n...
A. 18 August 2007: Hey flowergirl.
Well i read that its usually not good as the forces, trauma and fast moving can seperate the placenta, this has happened in bad car accidents so it not an impossibilty in normal rollercoaster rides. Though i read that its never been... (read in full...)
Some people say the age gap is perverted.
Q. Well basically i turned 15 late may and i really like this girl who is 12 atm and she will turn 13 in earlier febuary. Is it wrong for me to go out with someone 2 years and 8 months younger than myself? Like loads of people say its ok but then loads ...
A. 18 August 2007: If you do like her and there is nothing sexual between you i see there is nothing wrong with it. But people will not see it this way but you just have to ignore them.... (read in full...)
She is moving in with three guys she does ot know.
Q. My girlfriend of 4 months is really good looking!! but im worried she is moving in with three guys she doesnt know!!! Should i be worried? Will she find them more attractive, or fall for one of them, they must fancy her that is why they gave ...
A. 17 August 2007: Well i agree with flower girl.
Just talk to her about your fears and let her know whaat your thinkng. In the end i bet you will trust her.
If your really worried try and let them know shes taken without putting a post-it-note on her forehead... (read in full...)
I'm 15 and in love with a 25 year old footballer... is this age gap too big?
Q. Hi, Im 15 years old and have recently fallen for a 25 yr old footballer. He appears to have feelings for me as well, i would like to get involved with this guy if he feels the same way about me, is the age gap to big? I turn 16 in 5 months and ...
A. 17 August 2007: im afriad its is to big.
He is at a different stage of his life, settling down etc
Your just starting to become a grown up and proberly should be looking for someone closer to your own age.
Also if hes willing to date a 15 year old it shows someth... (read in full...)
Should i change myself for him?
Q. I am 17 years old and fell for a friend of mine (23 years old). i just recently found out that he has feelings for me too. i have liked him for a long time and would really like for us to start a relationship together. the reason i fell for him in ...
A. 16 August 2007: TaylorChu has nailed it right on the head.
If the man has the gaw to say your should be more mature maybe he should find a older woman. What he said to you just shows he wants to mold a woman to his liking not find the right woman, which you are ... (read in full...)
She told me to break up with him so I did but I really love him and I want to get back with him.
Q. dear cupid.. Me and my godsister like the same guy, and he likes me and her. I asked him out and he said yes, then my godsister was mad at me. She told me to break up with him so I did but I really love him and I want to get back with him. What ...
A. 15 August 2007: i can understand why your godsister would be angry. As the man saying goes "bros before h***"
Turn this into the female version and she would say that if you noth wanted him neither should have him.
This is an age old arguement and has broken f... (read in full...)
I need tips on how to look older...
Q. Hey, I need tips on how to look older, I'm going to be 15 in the next few weeks and I look about ten. It's really annoying. I've got chin length dark brown hair. but I'm rather short in height. Is there any way to look older without slapping...
A. 14 August 2007: i may not be a girl but different hair works for me. I usually look 13 but with different hair i look older.... (read in full...)
Does the 72 hour pill go on my record?
Q. will the 72 hour pill go on my doctors record? really worried, just had sex and was unprotected :S i no it was stupid of me..but i wanna get the 72 hour pill but my mum doesnt know ive lost my virginity? any ideas???? please help x...
A. 14 August 2007: it will have to so doctors will know you medical history, so future meds will not conflict.
But your mum can never see your medical files as you have doctor/patient confidentialty.
Only you and your doctor will see it... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has been text messaging and calling with at least four different girls!
Q. I looked through his phone and found out that my boyfriend of 3 months has been text messaging and calling with at least four different girls. He says they are just friends and that I don't have anything to worry about. What should I do??...
A. 14 August 2007: well it all depends on what was said in the messages and calls.
It could be that they are friends and you have nothing to worry about. But the fact you checked the messages says they might not be.
You may have to figure out the messges i.e flirty, ... (read in full...)
What does it mean when you ask a girl out, but she replys with ... a "I don't want to hurt you" comment?
Q. What does it mean when you ask a girl out, but she replys with ... a "I don't want to hurt you" comment?...
A. 14 August 2007: sorry but sounds like she sayings shes not interest and wants too spare you feelings.... (read in full...)
How long after you take drugs can you give blood?
Q. heyy its my birthday in a week, and now since they lowered the age to give blood my mom wants me to give. I'm all for it, but the problem is around june i smoked some weed, i'm wondering how long i have to wait before i can give blood? and what ...
A. 14 August 2007: Well since it was around june you should be OK, though it does depend on your size and the amount you smoked, and if june was your last time.
Ask the nurse when you are giving blood, s/he would know best.
Though i found out the if smoked rarely i... (read in full...)
Do I tell my boyfriend that I like him?
Q. hay, i really want 2 know if i should tell me bff if i like him, we have know each other for about 4 or 5 years, and i don't want 2 mess up relationship with him, and on top of that, he lives in another city. What should i do????...
A. 13 August 2007: Well sometimes you have got go for it, and take the bull by the horns.
But if you are gonna tell him make sure you say something like "would it ruin our friendship if we dated" (dont have to be so blunt) but if your friendship is important make sure... (read in full...)
I told her I liked him and she goes and starts flirting with him...
Q. Hey I went on a R.A.F camp last week it was brilliant!! I met this really hot guy. It was going great until my brother's ex came along. I told her I liked him and she goes and starts flirting with him, she is a bit of a slut and has slept with...
A. 13 August 2007: Well she sounds like a right bi**h
From now on dont talk to her or share with her as its a vnig mistake.
As for this guy i reckon you should just lay down whats going on.
Ask him out some time before your bro's ex does something.
Adviod this g... (read in full...)
I really like him and want to go round but I'm scared I get caught, what should I do?
Q. Me and this lad have been texting for about a week now and he is 27 and I am 18, my mam is going on holiday on Wednesday and he wants me to go to his (I can't let my mam know I am texting him, she wouldn't approve at all) I really like him and want ...
A. 13 August 2007: i agree with blackruby.
You are legally an adult and therefore can date whoever you want too, though to be fair on your mum she is looking out for you.
Though i would not go to this mans house if all you have done is text him.
Meet him at a res... (read in full...)
She was forced by a guy she was dating for about 2 weeks to perform oral sex on a him
Q. You saw a girl that you like very much, she is sexy and attends college. When you are trying to know her, someone tells you that she was forced by a guy she was dating for about 2 weeks to perform oral sex on a him once. She leaves the guy after ...
A. 13 August 2007: Well if she was forced than it wasnt her fault and its rape, which she has no play in so is not her fault what-so-ever.
And if you cannot get past this then do not date her or think about it, but if she was forced to perform oral sex it sounds like... (read in full...)
He only gets hard if I touch his thing... why isn't the thought of it enough to turn him on?
Q. My Boyfriend only gets hard when I go down on him or give him a hand job!! It is as if us making out isnt enough, i am worried it is not me that turns him on, I feel if anyone else was touching his penis he would still get hard. I have never had...
A. 12 August 2007: i fully agree with Dr.Pete.
All guys are different and hes not gonna get an erection always just from thinking of you.
Live with what he is and think about if he was saying the same about you. It would hurt wouldnt it?... (read in full...)
My Dad is an important guy in the Army and wants me to have a bodyguard!
Q. so, my dad's a General in the army here. so hes supposed to be like important. Also, he's very overprotective, an he wants me to have a bodyguard. At first i thought he was crazy! but i thought about that and i got to the conclusion that it really ...
A. 12 August 2007: I agree wuth skye here.
Though im not sure how high generals are high up in the army ranks they can be important and sometimes do need certain protective precautions for them and there families.
If you dont care i see no problem with it... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Anti-spam technology now live :-)
Q. Hi everyone After the recent spate of "spammings" I've introduced some anti-spam measures. I don't want to go into them all in detail here but there are numerous systems in place now to help stop, mitigate and allow you to report spam. The...
A. 11 August 2007: Excellent work Andrew.
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SITE NEWS: Please beware of private messages from strangers asking for money or promising riches!
Q. Hi everyone We've had a couple of scammers posting private mails through the site. Please everyone use your common sense and keep yourself safe. This goes for all sites, not just this one! * Never give anyone your phone number or home em...
A. 11 August 2007: Well i think we all need to find a way to share baby2love evenly between Me, Bubbloo, Dr pete and wild thaing or theres gonna be fights.
We could throw that party and let her choose!... (read in full...)
I don't want him to know i'm pregnant.
Q. i think im pregnant but i dont want my boyfriend to know, how can i stop him from finding out, i told my mom and she considered moving. Please dont think bad about me, im doing this for him, because my parents were teens and it destroyed my dad, i ...
A. 11 August 2007: Why is this for his own good?
Well i can tell you its not, he has every right to know your pregnant as you do as he is the father.
You say your parents were in this postion well you have someone to talk to about what you plan to do for the next few... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Please beware of private messages from strangers asking for money or promising riches!
Q. Hi everyone We've had a couple of scammers posting private mails through the site. Please everyone use your common sense and keep yourself safe. This goes for all sites, not just this one! * Never give anyone your phone number or home em...
A. 11 August 2007: Martini i just got a "love" letter from a Baby2Love nearly had a heart attack from what she said.
"believe we can move from here,There's a sea between us, love. I wish I could send some magic to make your heart a little lighter" Mercy Reed - 3... (read in full...)
What does the word 'freak' mean?
Q. what does a FREAK mean? I hear people used this term a lot at school, and saying it to people....
A. 10 August 2007: i see it as when someone is odd or just different to them or the social norm.... (read in full...)
Should we tell mum i'm pregnant over dinner?
Q. Should me and my boyfriend tell my mom im pregnant over dinner? we really need to tell her and soon because its really heavy on my heart that im keeping this from her. we arent all that close but she is still my mother. i expect for her to ...
A. 9 August 2007: I think its a good idea as long as the atmosphere is calm and she is.
Speak calmly to make sure you say your plans for the future. Let her know you gonna go through with what you plan.... (read in full...)
There's an 8 year old boy next door to me and he's emotionally neglected and I hear screaming; what can I do to help him?
Q. i know this is not love or reletionship advice but i need to know what ppl think i have no where eles to turn. I need real help the boy next door well i know he is not treated right not hit bbut shout at alot and i never see him have hugs or kisses ...
A. 8 August 2007: Emotional abuse is just as bad as psyical and in some cases much worse.
Dont be feel bad and call the NSPCC. They have had a campaign about neighbours watching out and aleting them if they believe theres a problem. They will deal with it from ther... (read in full...)
I'm furious about pornography!
Q. The statement that some women make that they have no problem with their man watching porn as they know he CHOOSES to be with them seems ridiculus to me...Dont these women realise that their man probbly has as much chance of being with a porn star as ...
A. 8 August 2007: Im gonna have to agree with Dr Pete on this one that you seem to be projecting a hate and insecurity on your part, maybe a hurtful/failed past relationship which porn may have been the problem, and hurling your pain at woman who dont have problems ... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Please beware of private messages from strangers asking for money or promising riches!
Q. Hi everyone We've had a couple of scammers posting private mails through the site. Please everyone use your common sense and keep yourself safe. This goes for all sites, not just this one! * Never give anyone your phone number or home em...
A. 8 August 2007: Ive been getting them.
Annoying that they're tryingto ruina site like this.
Thanks Andrew... (read in full...)
I'm 12 and a 20 year old man wants to date me; I love him but my parent's don't know him, should I go out with him?
Q. Hey im 12 and i live where there is alot of mexicans. But i dated a 15 year old that lives by me. But i broke up with him so there is this boy hes 20 and he gave me a letter and he wants to go out with me should i say yes and i known him 4 a 1 year ...
A. 7 August 2007: NO!!!
Anyway 20 year old that wants to date a 12 year old is alot of trouble and should be in jail.
Tell your parents as this man could be dangerous and considering your age i would advoid him as he is trouble since he wants to date a 12 year old... (read in full...)
We have sex 3 times a week... how many times is it therefore normal for him to please himself?
Q. Can someone please tell me what would be "reasonable" and "normal" number, for a guy in a relationship (have sex about 3 times weekly or even more when schedules are not so busy) to mastrubate? Lets say we have great sex three times a week. What ...
A. 7 August 2007: Well if depends on the guy and his mood at any given time. It can be 0 or up to a dozen. Like love-him said it depends on his sex drive at the time.
If he is materbating it proberly isnt saying your sex isnt good enough, he just might be stre... (read in full...)
Advisory: Getting suspicious messages in my dearcupid mailbox!
Q. Hi all, I just lately i have been retrieving some messages in my mail box which have been quite lenthy to say the least. In a nut shell the person is talking about vast sums of money being transfered to different accounts, and having to part w...
A. 6 August 2007: I got this aswell earlier today. Defo sounds like a 419 scam... (read in full...)
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