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Nothing Qulifies me to help people except for my own personal experiences with in life, my mistakes, my regrets and my tiumphs.
I currently live in London, England and have my whole life, Although i do plan to Move when im Older. Havent decided where. Possibly Canada or Australia.
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Advisory: Getting suspicious messages in my dearcupid mailbox!
Q. Hi all, I just lately i have been retrieving some messages in my mail box which have been quite lenthy to say the least. In a nut shell the person is talking about vast sums of money being transfered to different accounts, and having to part w...
A. 6 August 2007: I got this aswell earlier today. Defo sounds like a 419 scam... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: We had over quarter of a million people visit the site over the past month!
Q. Just checking the site stats. We had another milestone... for the first time, in the past 30 days, we had over quarter of a million people visit the site... not 250,000 "hits" or "visits" but actual unique visitors! As counted by Google Anal...
A. 6 August 2007: Thats a great milestone to hit!... (read in full...)
I was asked out the other day by a 15 year old girl but I'm 23. Should I go?
Q. Hi all I'm a 23 year old male and was wondering if you could give me some help and or your opinion on what I should do. I was asked out the other day by a 15 year old girl. I have known her quite a while and get on really well with her. She is v...
A. 5 August 2007: Well first of all its "legal" to date her but very illegal to have a sexual relationship with her.
I reckon your better off steering clear of a relationship with this girl as she is too young and may be trouble if shes asking out a 23 year old man... (read in full...)
I really like this boy, but there is a problem. He is 4 years older then me. Is 4 years age difference too long?
Q. I really like this boy, but there is a problem. He is 4 years older then me. Is 4 years age difference too long?...
A. 5 August 2007: Im afraid yes it is too much considering your 10-12 so hes 14-16. Your still a child and hes a teen becoming a man.
I see you like him and you havent said how hes feels so i ant say what his intentions may be.
But i would just be his friend e... (read in full...)
I want a divorce but my husband scared me by telling me how angry God will be
Q. I asked my husband for a divorce and he started spewing out a bunch biblical stuff at me, telling me God was going to punish me and my whole life will be cursed after this. He really freaked me out. I don't want to anger God by filing for divorce ...
A. 4 August 2007: I agree with Dr Pete on this one.
Your (EX)-husband is saying this biblical stuff to keep you in the marriage by scaring you with gods wrath.
Im assuming you are a higly religous person so i would talk to your local leader and have his take on ... (read in full...)
She (13) thinks that he (23, Internet guy) is in love with her... how can I open her eyes!?
Q. One of my friends (13 y/o girl) is convinced that a 23 year old man she met over an online game is in love with her. I have done everything I can to try and convince her that this is not right. We live in different countries, and they live in ...
A. 4 August 2007: You will have to tell your friend that the internet can be a wonderful and dangerous place, and that she should really, really stop talking to this man now.
Its not normal for a 23 year old man to fly to a different state to see a 13 year old girl... (read in full...)
does this mean im pregnant?
Q. I am desprete here... i need help so badly.. im 16 years old. Ive had unportected sex several times over the past two months. my boyfriend NEVER came in me though, i also read that in order for sperm to be in pre cum he must have came earlier ...
A. 3 August 2007: Well i agree with yummymummy and joeybohn.
Why would you have unprotected sex with a man you consider "very fertile"
Use a condon from now on... (read in full...)
Would it be wrong to have a f*** buddy while my girlfriend is out of state?
Q. Is casual sex OK when you love someone else who is not around? My girlfriend took a job that forces her to travel out of state for weeks at a time 90 percent of the time. I love her but dont want to sleep alone. Is it wrong to find a casual sexual ...
A. 3 August 2007: Yes its incredibly wrong. If you cant keep it in your pants while shes away find someone else who is around... (read in full...)
I just wanted to know what are the differences between cheating in a relationship, going on the rebound and having a affair is.
Q. I just wanted to know what are the differences between cheating in a relationship, going on the rebound and having a affair is. Why do these types of relationships have a low probabilty of working out?...
A. 3 August 2007: well cheating is when you are in a relationship with someone and you sleep, kiss or do something of this nature with another person.
A rebound is when you break up or have been broken up with someone and you go out with someone else in a short amou... (read in full...)
36, still a virgin and have no desire for sex! Am I strange?
Q. I am 36 years old and still a virgin! I have never had any desire to have sex with anybody! I have never seen a real life woman naked (and have no desire to do so, and I am definitely not Gay!!!) Please can you tell me why people have a deisre for ...
A. 2 August 2007: From what you viewsex as is it a little strange in my opinion. BUT
You know what you want and your the only person who will or will not do it.
Dont listen to what others say about it.... (read in full...)
A boy that I like wont play with me or anything
Q. a boy that liked me won't play with me or anything what should i do...
A. 2 August 2007: Greentea proerly is right.
Maybe he doesnt like you in a romantic way and doesnt know how to act.... (read in full...)
Is it ok to masterbate at 11?
Q. im 11 and i dont think should masterbate beacuse my parents will freak out.and they dont know anything about masterbation at a early age.so what do i do!...
A. 2 August 2007: Yes it is OK. Pretty much everyone starts at one part in there life. Usually around your age.... (read in full...)
Can you get pregnant from sperm on toilet paper?
Q. can a 17 year old girl get pregnant if there is sperm on toilet paper?...
A. 2 August 2007: Its very unlikely, it depends on how long the sperm was there.
But very unlikely i think... (read in full...)
Is it that bad to be smaller than my friends?
Q. I am 14 and 5ft 2 i get teased regularily about my height as all my friends are 5ft 6 etc. Is it that bad to be small?? P.s. Yet my guy friends don't seem to care. X Thanks, Please help me!!...
A. 2 August 2007: Your friends are just joking about with you.
Its not bad to be smaller than others, 'cus i am.... (read in full...)
I'm 20, 4'10in and worried.
Q. I am 20 years old and only 4 ft 10. My mother is 5 ft 3 and my father is 5ft 5. I am really getting worried about my height. I have been to my doctor who says i have nothing to worry about as long as i am healthy. Can any one help me please because ...
A. 1 August 2007: opps in my last post i meant men like short woman. Wrong way around... (read in full...)
I'm 20, 4'10in and worried.
Q. I am 20 years old and only 4 ft 10. My mother is 5 ft 3 and my father is 5ft 5. I am really getting worried about my height. I have been to my doctor who says i have nothing to worry about as long as i am healthy. Can any one help me please because ...
A. 1 August 2007: All i can say is that some people are destined to be shorter than others. i mean you may have a few more years of growth in you but thats at best.
And you docter has said its nothing to worry about.
Its not really advice but all i can say is you g... (read in full...)
24 hours after we split-he's in bed with a herpes infested girl! How could he do that?
Q. I have been dating this guy for 6 months. We broke up late Friday night because he doesn't share his feelings with me.(he shares them with everyone else though...friends/family) On Monday, I went to talk with him to patch up the relationship and I ...
A. 1 August 2007: Well it sounds like since you broke up with him(im assuming) that he must of felt less of a men.
And to feel more manly had sex with a girl quickly.
Your gonna have to talk to him about your feelings and if you wanna patch things up.... (read in full...)
I masturbate to gay porn. Does this mean I am gay?
Q. im a 17 year old virgin, im straight, but like to mastrbate to gay/bisexual porn, recently i hav been putting things up my ass 2 help me cum, it feels so great, but im worried i am becoming gay. I hav dremt about having gay sex. wot shud i do? how ...
A. 1 August 2007: You may be.
Dont hate it like FBK said learn to love whatever you are... (read in full...)
My mates mom is pregnant...with my child!
Q. Im currently seeing my mates mum. Im 17 and so is my mate, his mum is 32. but last night she told me that she was pregnant with my kid and she wants to keep it. even more she is planning to tell my mate about us. what should I do? Should I tel...
A. 1 August 2007: Well you have to tell him and soon.
Hes not gonna be please with what you have done and you'll proberly loose a friend in the process.
But your gonna have to step up and raise this child as it is here to stay.... (read in full...)
I emailed him a song to tell him I fancied him. Now he's put it up publicly! What does this mean?
Q. I sent this guy im intrested in a song online and made it very clear that I'm crushing on him. I was unaware the song would go public (on his page where all his friends can view it)......hes been online and has seen the song and i sent a message ...
A. 31 July 2007: Sorry but this guy sound like a jerk(i was gonna use a curse)
He sounds like he is just using the song to have a laugh with his mates and not acknowledging your feelings in the situation and he confirmed this by not removing the song.
It was a go... (read in full...)
I have been sleeping around, but wonder if this will turn off the guy I really like
Q. Hi. I'm 16 years old and I have slept with 5 people.. All being within the past 3 months. 3 of which were on holiday, so they don't matter to me. However, 2 were in England, one being one of my good friends (we've discussed it and have decided to ...
A. 31 July 2007: Yes. Yes it may.
Some men like self respecting girls andif they hear what you've done(dismissing the sex you had) it may turn them off.
I dont wanna sound too harsh but like deejuliet said clean up yourself.... (read in full...)
Does wearing two condoms lower the risk of getting pregnent then by wearing one...??
Q. Does wearing two condoms lower the risk of getting pregnent then by wearing one...??...
A. 31 July 2007: No!
Wearing 2 is worse than wearing 1.
As the friction can cause them both to break.
Only One should be worn... (read in full...)
Is this normal that my boyfriend should be as close to his ex???
Q. I've been seeing this guy for a few months now. He has a few friends that are females. One is an ex girlfriend. When they get together it's to help her around her house. Mowing lawn, cleaning patio etc. she then makes him dinner as a thank you ...
A. 31 July 2007: I disagree with Uniquel.
Though it may not be "normal" (what is) its OK thats he is close to his EX.
Look at it from his view they have a kid together so im assuming they were together for a while. When the relationship ended you cant expect h... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has a suspicious mark on his neck; could it have been a girl, is he fibbing?
Q. it may be nothing but a few days ago i saw three different marks on my boyfriend's neck and collar bone and he says that two of them are bruises from where a shelf fell on him and the other one is a pinch mark when he was drunk (rather silly thing ...
A. 31 July 2007: i agree with helpinghand,
In this situation because we cant see the cut/bruise it has to be about your trust of him. Do you?
If you do then its all ok
if you dont then sit him down and talk about it and your fears and you will get an answer.... (read in full...)
Is it healthy for us to go out seperately?
Q. my fiance says it is healthy for the both of us to go out alone with our friends.Is that true or not?...
A. 30 July 2007: Hes right in a way.
Sometimes its good to spend time apart with your own mates and get some breathing room from each other. Im not saying you have to hate each other, but just spend a little time apart can be good.... (read in full...)
Should we let our age difference get in the way?
Q. She is 21 and in college and I am 18 and finishing up high school, we are both interested in each other but we are both concerned about how the age differance will play into our relationship, should we let that matter so much?...
A. 30 July 2007: Its a pretty small gap. Go for it... (read in full...)
Do you think i should still have sex wit him?
Q. I'm only 14 and i have had sex wit ma bf and he is 15. i feel comfortable and all that but i don't think i should be doin this. Do you think i should still have sex wit him? He doesn't care if we don't but i don't want to make him unhappy....
A. 30 July 2007: If your unsure about it, then you shouldnt do it. You shouldnt have sex with someone to make them happy, plus he doesnt care. Just wait... (read in full...)
Ex angry that I brought a male friend to a party
Q. Was it wrong of me to bring a new male friend to my friends birthday party when my ex was there? I didnt know that he was going to be there, none of our mutual friends said anything to me about him coming. I felt kinda bad for my ex, but me and this ...
A. 30 July 2007: Who course he wrong. He is your EX. Therefore you have the right to hang out with anyone you want. Hes just being a child... (read in full...)
Why do some guy's do this?
Q. Hey, I was wondering if it is normal for some guys to be really touchy feely with girls they are not interested in relationship wise, while at the same time they are in an actual serious relationship in which they are more respectable and slow paced ...
A. 30 July 2007: I agree with danielepew.
But also it could be that some guys may wanna be more "macho" to girls they are interested in and wont share. While girls who are friends they see as a person they can share with as there just a good friend.
It differs ... (read in full...)
Should I keep seeing my best mates uncle?
Q. i have a problem i could use some advice on. i am 18 and i have been best mates with my best mate for 11 years....... we went to her 33 year old uncles house (who i have fancied for a long time) a couple of months ago and we had to stay there cos ...
A. 30 July 2007: Well i would say go for it. But shes your friend and you will have to tell her about it.
And i think she will have a problem with you being her "aunt" but i dont know her.
Tell her your intentions if she says no you have to pick him or your fri... (read in full...)
How do i remove myself?
Q. LOL, This is silly but somehow I added myself to my "friends list" and don't know how to get it off there. ...
A. 29 July 2007: when you click on friend you should see an underlined link saying "remove".
Click and your done!... (read in full...)
I think we are ready, what do you think?
Q. I have been talking to a girl for a while and we started talking about having sex.im 15.i think were ready but im not quite sure,what do you think?...
A. 29 July 2007: I always say if you not 100% sure your ready and you have to ask someone. Your not ready.... (read in full...)
Is it too young?
Q. is 15 too young for sex?...
A. 29 July 2007: Yes it kinda is. Its illegal and sometimes it best too wait... (read in full...)
I can't stand the dog.
Q. I have started seeing a man and all is good apart from one thing. He has a dog, and has had him for 10 years now. I have a great fear of dogs stemming from when I was a child, especially staffs, and this man happens to have a staff. Even though ...
A. 29 July 2007: All i can say is that you have to either walk away from the relationship due to your fear.
Or continue to try and conquer it. Easier said than done.
Believe me if you get this man to give up his dog of 10 years he will either not do it or resent y... (read in full...)
Do you think this is a weird, freaky thing to do?
Q. My boyfriend likes for me to go down on him while he is watching porn. I figured at least he isnt doing this be himself but is this a wierd freaky thing to do?...
A. 29 July 2007: Doesnt sound weird at all. Sound a bit kinky but as long as both parties enjoy what they are doing it fine.... (read in full...)
Could I be pregnant? Please Help!
Q. okay .... I'm really scared .. I had unprotected sex a couple weeks back ... i didn't think anything of it cause i never had an orgasm... and well i haven't got my period this month could i be pregant .... plz help...
A. 29 July 2007: Well take a pregnacy test too be sure, take more than one just in case. If you still scared talk to your docter about a blood test.
Learn a lesson from this and use a condom.... (read in full...)
It there any way my sister can stop talking in her sleep?
Q. dear cupid my sister sleep talks in her sleep and does not know what she saying. is their any way of stoping this?...
A. 29 July 2007: I would first tell her to try and go to bed relaxed.
Now it may sya hard but just tell her before she goes bed to do things that relax her. Take a bath, warm milk etc.
If it continues tell her too see her GP for advice... (read in full...)
Is it normal to have orgasms at my age?
Q. this is abit embarresing for me but is it normal to get orgasms at my age? ...
A. 28 July 2007: Yes it can be... (read in full...)
I have the 'hots' for her bf! How do I break them up?
Q. I know its wrong but I have the ''Hot's'' for my friends boyfriend... What can I do to break them up???...
A. 28 July 2007: I agree with the anon here.
She isnt your friend if you wanna break them up, thats just selfishs, just because you have the "hots" for him.
Move on find someone else as nothing good can come from breaking them up.
BF/GF are sometimes temporary, f... (read in full...)
14 and confused about whether I want sex or not! Help!
Q. i am fourteen years old and i want to lose my virginity to a guy that i really like and he likes me to and i am totally confertable with him. i'm just not to sure i'm ready for the pain of it. I have given oral sex before to two guys and i have done ...
A. 28 July 2007: Firstly its is illegal for you to have sex at your age,
Also hink about your future as you will proberly regret it later on in life.
And i alwasy say if you are not 100% sure about having sex for the first time, dont do it.... (read in full...)
Is it ok to be a virgin the rest of your life and not be with any body ?
Q. Is it ok to be a virgin the rest of your life until i die and not be with any body ? i am only in my 20's and since the time i was in my teens i decided not to be with anybody . this guy i know at my job says that i am crazy and then he said what ...
A. 28 July 2007: Its completly up to you what you do with your life and your body. Dont listen to others and forge your own life path.... (read in full...)
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