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Nothing Qulifies me to help people except for my own personal experiences with in life, my mistakes, my regrets and my tiumphs.
I currently live in London, England and have my whole life, Although i do plan to Move when im Older. Havent decided where. Possibly Canada or Australia.
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Could sperm survive from our first sexual encounter to our second 1/2 hour later?
Q. ok, here it is. yesturday me and my boyfriend had sex. we used a condom but then we did it adain no more than half an hour later. he didn't come out but could there still be sperm from the first time and would it still survive? is there a chance ...
A. 3 July 2007: Im assuming you didnt use a condom the second time and if this is true yes you could indeed be pregnant, if you did use a condom and it didnt break you should be fine
. Like eyeswideopen said do use an extra form of contraception when having sex ... (read in full...)
Does my crush like me or is he put off by my youth?
Q. I like this guy. I heard that he sort of likes me. My crush does things to be near me and grasp my attention. He even stares at me. I asked him if he has a girlfriend -his response was sort of-, he then asked me if I had a boyfriend and I obviously ...
A. 3 July 2007: Like yummymummy said i would clarify whether he is single or not. If he is ask tell him how you feel as its betta than keeping it bottled up. As for he age difference if he does like you it wont matter... (read in full...)
Should I try the doc again?
Q. 2 weeks ago i made an appointment to see an eye doctor. The doctor has not called me back yet to verify the appointment. Seems my eye is getting worse. Should I call the doctor, or wait till he calls me? what should i do?...
A. 3 July 2007: Yea defo phone up again. Your name migh have got lost in the admin or something. Call asap to remind them... (read in full...)
My friend and I both fancy the same man, he's told me he fancies me
Q. A good friend and myself are both interested in the same man, a friend of hers. The chemistry between us (myself and this man)is very strong and he has admitted that he is attracted to me. What is the best thing to do if he asks me out? Obviously I ...
A. 2 July 2007: I agree with yummymummy. If both of you like him, just stop and consider your friendship. Both of you dont go any furthe. Then just tell the man that you cant date him 'cus of you dont want to lose your friend... (read in full...)
I have recently found out that my best friends boyfriend has been cheating on her!
Q. hi i have recently found out that my best friends boyfriend has been cheating on her! My boyfriend was the one who told me (as my friends boyfriend is his mate) but he said if i tell my best friend he will finish with me. i don't think he would ...
A. 2 July 2007: I completly agree with stina. If your BF has told you and is threatening you not to tell it shows that he is a jerk and that he does value his friends relationship over yours. Tell your friend as she is your friend and would you like to be in th... (read in full...)
I want to hide the fact that I'm not a virgin.
Q. hy i had sex with my boy friend for 8 to 12 time, now i am going to marry a man of my parents choice, i want to start a good life, i want to hide that am not virgin. how can i do this pleas help me. pleas...
A. 2 July 2007: Well at first when i saw this question i was going to say you should tell the truth.
But seeing the rest im guessing being a virgin is part of your culture. Is it?
If you want to hide it just dont tell whoever you dont want to know. Whether ... (read in full...)
I believe his exs are more pretty than me and I'm jealous! Does he really love me?
Q. i have a bf from 2 months i love him so much but iam very jealous from his old girlfriends i think they look more beautiful than me and much richer than me i dont know what i do i want to know if he really loves me?????...
A. 2 July 2007: Well to give a very simple answer. He is no longer with them is he? Who is he with? Its you.
Therefore no matter how pretty and rich they actually are he doesnt want to be with them as he is with you.
Your the present, they are the past.
Thats why... (read in full...)
Should I feel guilty about leaving my vulnerable partner???
Q. My wife of many years has a drink problem that has seriously damaged our lives in many ways and caused our only child aged 19 to leave home. I also left and have now fallen for a widowed old friend, we make each other very happy. Divorce is on the ...
A. 2 July 2007: Are you the one who made her start driking?
If you didnt then she did it herself and therefore you have no reason to feel guilty for moving on in your life and making yourself happy.
Her drinking has split your family causing your child to leave... (read in full...)
I'm in love with a bad boy with a girlfriend--how do I get him?
Q. Who loves bad boys? I do. lol I'm in love with this boy and have been for years--he was always playing hard to get, but I loved it really. It what made me like him even more, him making me chase him. The problem is we slept together and then car...
A. 2 July 2007: Well since the ex is back this seems past you for the time being. I would just wait around and let him know how you feel, but dont wait too long as you are still young and there are probably some others out there for you. Bad or Good... (read in full...)
Is it ok to get random erections... or not?
Q. Is it ok to get an erection at random times? I've always had a prblem gettting erections at random times. is this normal...
A. 2 July 2007: you cannot control when you get erections, Unles you do it on purpose. But sometimes it happens without our control, its normal and its life. Simple As... (read in full...)
Should I play it cool or forget the whole thing?
Q. Hello all im new to this site and im really in need of some advice. I recently looked up a girl i dated when i was 15 and we fell hard for each other but the sad thing is she moved a short time later while we were together and then i seen her again ...
A. 2 July 2007: I with everyone else on this. Go for it , theres no reason not too. Good luck!!... (read in full...)
I feel stuck in the middle
Q. Whilst on a weekend away with my friends, we met up with some of her other friends, one of which(lets call him Andy) admitted to my other friend (Lucy) that that he fancied me, I liked him too, and we french kissed on the Saturday night. However, my ...
A. 1 July 2007: You should talk to sarah and tell her about what he did and make a deal to keep your friendship rather than lose it over a boy. From what this boy did he sounds like a real jerk and doesnt deserve any of your or her time. Ditch the boy and keep you... (read in full...)
I picked at my ear and now it's hurting
Q. I need some advice. I think there was a bug or germ that went into my left ear. I think it was caused by when I was picking my ear with my finger. Now I feel something inside and it sort of hurts. Should I be worried? I am afraid that this bug or ...
A. 1 July 2007: Well i would have a GP check inside your ear. Im not a Dr and have never heard of anything like this, so check with your doctor... (read in full...)
I like a guy who is only 10 years younger than my mum. Could this work?
Q. Hi, I hope you can give me some advice. I am a single mum and I've been single since I split from my daughter's father 3 years ago. My ex and I get along well and he still is a fantastic Dad and my daughter loves his gilfriend, so I have no problems...
A. 1 July 2007: Hey your both over 18 consenting adults so the laws no in your way.
Also your both adults!! I see no reason why age can get in the way of a good relationship no matter the age gap.
You may get people who will give you looks, but ignore them and... (read in full...)
Would you forgive a friend who used you??
Q. Would any of you ever forgive a girl (or boy) if they used you to talk more to my best friend when i thought she liked me? Well a girl who i loved used me to talk more to my friend. I was quite hurt when i found out the truth that she was just actin ...
A. 1 July 2007: It sounds like she really didnt intend to hurt you and was in her own little selfish world at the time she was trying to get your friends attention. I deal with people who have their own little world all day, and sometimes they dont relise what they ... (read in full...)
Is it safe to ejaculate more than once in a single condom?
Q. I practice safe sex but I am unsure if it is a good idea to ejaculate more than once in a single condom. That would increase the chance of breakage if I were to do that, right? Thank you for your advice....
A. 1 July 2007: Just be safe and change between your sessions as there could be breakages... (read in full...)
I think my friends take advantage of me--what can I do?
Q. I worry that my friends take advantage of my kindness and take my friendship for granted, perhaps I'm being too sensitive, but it feels they ask far more favors than they do and they often forget to show their thanks. I have in the past tried ...
A. 1 July 2007: Never do anything for people to keep them as friends. I know what it feels like to have your generousity taken advantage off and its never good. How about you take a few days a pull a your generousity into yourself, do what makes you you!!! If your ... (read in full...)
How can I meet more people...especially boys?
Q. Hi, I'm wondering if anyone had any tips of how i can meet more people. At school I had 6 close friends but none of them were popular and I enjoy spending time with them, however they don't always like the same things as me. It's not that i want to ...
A. 1 July 2007: Well as for this guy, it sounds like he really does like you, and his denial is normal for most boys who dont want there crushes to find out, but he has a girlfriend so i guess you will either wait or find someone who is single and likes you just as ... (read in full...)
I haven't met my online boyfriend yet..what do I do?
Q. I met my boyfriend online. We haven't met yet. I'm not sure what to do? Is it safe to meet up with him? How can we do stuff like normal boyfriend and girlfriend do? ...
A. 1 July 2007: like flowergirl said dating people online is very risky as you never know who is on the other side of the moniter.
If you really do trust this boy and wish too meet him, tell your parents first, as its the safest and most responsible thing to do i... (read in full...)
Do teen boys like shaved pubic hair?
Q. I'm 14 and I'm wondering, do majority of the boys my age like shaved pubic hair or not?...
A. 1 July 2007: I would not be worrying about this at your age as letting a boy at your age see your private region is not very good and could have very disaterous affects on you later in life.
Enjoy being a kid, we all miss the innocence believe me.... (read in full...)
Ever since we last had sex, he seems distant--help?
Q. Is my boyfriend right for me? I've been going out with this guy for 3 months now--we have had sex twice; ever since we last had sex, he seems to be growing more distant away from me, but when I see him once a week, (which is not enough for me) h...
A. 1 July 2007: Im sorry to say but it seems like this guy may have used you. Try and get in contact with him and tell him you want to see him more.
If he doesnt move on from the jerk and find someone more worthy.... (read in full...)
I like a guy who has a girlfriend--how can I break them up to get what I want?
Q. Well, I really fancy this lad. I have been talking to him on msn for ages but the thing is he has just got a new girlfriend (he is my sister's best mate's cousin) and lately everything I tell him he sends my conversations to his girlfriend to read ...
A. 1 July 2007: Im sorry but it is wrong to break a couplke up for our own selfish means and if you do you could end up hurting him and even your friendship.
If you really like this boy you would let him have his girlfriend and wait for an more apriopiate time to d... (read in full...)
How can I tell her "nicely" (for her own good) to lose some weight?
Q. Hi, My girlfriend and I are both in our early 20s. We have been dating for over a year and we love each other very much. There is one small issue. She has been gaining a few pounds and doesn't seem to be that concerned about it. She doesn't ...
A. 29 June 2007: Like Beckto said there is never a "right" way to tell her. Why dont you say you wanna do some running together or perhaps join a fitness club together. Or start cooking yourself and make healthier meals. Be careful as if she finds out what your doi... (read in full...)
I like this lad but he's my best friends brother...
Q. I was stayin at my best friends house recently when she decided that we should stay in her brother's room because he has a double bed. he came home and was fine with it he said he will just share the bed with us, I was fine because I have grown up ...
A. 29 June 2007: Im a little confused by your post. I got to messages of you post Do you romantically like him? Or is it you don want to tell your Best friend that he is acting weird around you?... (read in full...)
Three nights ago he found out my age, now he's barely talking to me! Is he worth it?
Q. Heres the situation. Im 18 and I've been talkin to a guy online, we met last week and we got on real well. He's 32. I spoke to him 3 nights ago and he found out that I was 18. I've been texting him and talking to him online a bit but he's ba...
A. 29 June 2007: Like everyone said. You never lied, he made an assumtion. I believe you should back of as he doesnt seem to be interested in dationg someone he considers to be a "kid" like rhythandblues said. Also like rhythmandblues said your young find a real b... (read in full...)
YOU CAN HELP: Spread the word about DearCupid!
Q. Hi, I want to ask a really big favour of everyone who uses, likes and has been helped by DearCupid. Help spread the word this weekend, by doing some of these suggestions: * Tell your friends and family about DearCupid * Talk about and ...
A. 29 June 2007: Already suggesting it to friends. Love the site!!... (read in full...)
I want to meet my Irish boy without my parents knowing. What can I do?
Q. I met this boy, on Habbo Hotel a popular chatroom for teenagers, i am 12 years old and he is 13 he lives in Ireland and we got on really well, we started going out a while ago its a hard relationship because, i am from england and he is from Ireland ...
A. 29 June 2007: I would be careful of this. As the internet can be an untrustworthy place as you never know who is on the other side of the moniter. Yes you could ask him to get a webcam,to find out if he is who he says he is.If he is who he says talk via this but... (read in full...)
I'm eighteen and he's sixteen, should we wait to have sex?
Q. i am 18 and my boyfriend is 16. we have been together for 5 years, we think we are ready to have sex but i don't want to get in trouble. should we just wait or wat?...
A. 29 June 2007: The anons did answer about what o do if you did have sex but didnt say if you could get in troouble. Which you can as you live in the states. Sex laws may differ depending what state you live in, but i would wait until he is 18 just to be sure.... (read in full...)
She had another man's baby aborted and didn't tell me; now I don't trust her
Q. Hello, I am a young undergraduate of physics,I have been dating a girl since the past three years,before i met this girl she was in a relationship with another guy,of which she told me she has broken up with.But later this girl was sick in our y...
A. 28 June 2007: Ypu should forgive her. Abortion is a very troubling topic. Especially for those who have had them. Since she had an abortion it is not something they would not tell people all willy-nilly or maybe not even at all, unless she really trusted this per... (read in full...)
Is our relationship legal?
Q. Is it illegal in North Carolina for a 16 year old to date a 23 year old?...
A. 28 June 2007: Its illeagal for you to have a sexual relationship as you are not 18 yet. As for a romantic one i dont think so, but i wouldnt as america is very strict about child protection. I suggest you find someone your own age, or wait 2 years.... (read in full...)
I love four different boys and am dating three of them
Q. dear,cupid i am in love with four boys and all of them really like me and all but anywayz im going out with three of them right now. and im cheating on all of them and im also scared if i do break up with just three of them and go out with one then ...
A. 28 June 2007: You have to break up with them. All three!! You have wronged these boys, they really like you and you are lying to them. You have to do the right thing for their sake. As for them dating someone else, its life you cannot have your cake and eat it t... (read in full...)
Should I go for it and meet her for a date?
Q. There is this girl who I like and I think she likes me. I think she likes me because she says hi to me everyday in school and if I don't say hi she talks to me online and asks me why I didn't. She tells me she loves me. Sometimes I see her flirting ...
A. 28 June 2007: If she asks you out and you like her, go out on a date with her. You never know she could really like you. As for kissing her it would be appropiate if she wants to, you will just have to wait til shes ready. As for being made a fool of don... (read in full...)
Help!!!! Is it possible I could be pregnant?
Q. The other day for the first time ever I let my boyfriend put his penis in me, he only did it once but he had no protection on, but he hadn't came any time before. We both panicked a bit after so I quickly took my pill just in case it would help in ...
A. 28 June 2007: Well its unlilkely since you took the pill right afterwards, but i would buy a couple of pregnacy tests and take them just to be sure. Learn from this use protection... (read in full...)
I'm only 16 years old and my boyfriend is 19 is this relationship illegal?
Q. I'm in a realtionship, I'm only 16 years old and my boyfriend is 19 is this relationship illegal?...
A. 28 June 2007: I think to have a romantic relationship is legal, but in the USA any sexual relationship between you two will be illegal and get him in alot of trouble... (read in full...)
I caught my friend kissing a teacher--what do I do?
Q. I caught my best friend with another female teacher in a cupboard. They were stood in front of me kissing and I didn't know what to do so I pretended I didn't see. This teacher is engaged and doesn't seem to talk to my best friend--...
A. 27 June 2007: Like yummymummy said you have to report this teacher to either the head teacher, or tell your parents and let them do it. It is one thing to have a crush on a teacher but if they act on it, it is crossing the line and abusing their powers.... (read in full...)
I'm just about to turn 17 - is it possible that I'll have another growth spurt?
Q. Hi, I'm 16 turning 17 in august. I have a concern about my height. I'm just over 5ft 10 and wonder if I'll grow anymore, maybe to 6ft. The reason being is that there are some of my friends that are quite tall and I get a bit intimiated and e...
A. 26 June 2007: Yep men usually grow until 21 so you do have time to grow. Anyway 5 10 is average height for men i believe. Its taller than me and i like being shorter than others.... (read in full...)
Can the sperm just slide back out so that you cant get pregnant?
Q. If you have sex and the guy comes inside you and you sit up afterwards and there is a wet patch from you does that mean the sperm have come out of you and you wont get pregnant...
A. 26 June 2007: Yes like spanna said it can still get inside of you. No matter what you do. If you want to adviod this use protection... (read in full...)
The test was negative, could she be pregnant anyway?
Q. ahmmm.. the thing is, i ejaculated inside my girlfriend. She has a irregular mens cycle, but its day 40 already and I am getting worried. I made her take a pregnancy test and it came out negative and our last sex was like a week ago.. whats wrong? ...
A. 26 June 2007: well take another test and maybe visit your doctor to get a blood test to confirm it.... (read in full...)
Does DearCupid have a leftist, liberal bias?
Q. hello everyone, over the past month i have seen your site. it is a great site for exploring relationship, sexual or confidence problems. however, i have been skeptical. I have one critism that might be apparent. getting a little off topic, le...
A. 26 June 2007: Well thats hard to answer, as one of the great things about DearCupid is it brings hundreds of peoples views from anywhere with internet access together to give advice. Me myself im not that religous but accept it, but dont not give alot of religous ... (read in full...)
I want to wait until she is old enough to date
Q. Following up from my previous question whereby I asked for advice concerning the 4 and a half year gap (14/19)between myself and the girl I met I just want to thank everyone for reassuring me about how I am no 'monster' as I put it. Going on the a...
A. 26 June 2007: as youve said youve not broken the law. Have you?
You have done nothing morally wrong have you?
If you answered no you have no reason to feel guilty do you. Having a friendship is the best thing to do and waiting til shes 16 to do any romantic... (read in full...)
Is it safe to have unprotected sex during your period?
Q. this is so stupid but I have been having protected sex for months now but i wondered if you can have unprotected sex during your period?...
A. 26 June 2007: Nope. You still are vulnerable to all the consquences of sex. HIV, STIs and pregnacy... (read in full...)
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