Like what
he writes?
... Add *amer70 to your favourite agony aunts
Want to get in touch?
... Send *amer70 a private message | | | *amer70's profile:Hi i James
Nothing Qulifies me to help people except for my own personal experiences with in life, my mistakes, my regrets and my tiumphs.
I currently live in London, England and have my whole life, Although i do plan to Move when im Older. Havent decided where. Possibly Canada or Australia.
Right now im at university studying to hopefully work in the criminal justice system or whatever i feel is right. |
|
Is there any way to use my hymen to avoid sex?
Q. I am 21 of years n wanna know Can hymen be somehow tightened avoiding sex for 1-2 years?Pl help!!...
A. 1 August 2008: From what im getting your not a virgin and want to stop having sex for a while to appear as one. If so Tisha is spot on... (read in full...)
He messages, mails, texts me... but won't call me!
Q. hey all! i have a problem..i am in love with this guy who i am pretty sure is in love with me..now we live in separate countries but know each other since 2 yrs and have been in touch everyday.. he msgs,texts,emails me everyday..t...
A. 1 August 2008: Well alot of men hate the phone, personally if i can keep a convo under a min, its a win.
But talking to a GF is different and for teenage boys more difficult, moreeeeee so if your shy. Some people stutter cant speak, speak gibberish when conf... (read in full...)
I'm 13. My mum says I can only go as far as holding hands - what do you think?
Q. So here it is. I'm thirteen. I have a boyfriend. My mom doesn't exactly approve. She's fine with me dating but she only wants me holding hands. For my age, what is acceptable in a relationship? ...
A. 1 August 2008: At 13 i agree with your mum holding hands and maybe lighter kissing is as far as it should go. Not to insult you(or myself being a teen) but alot of people do one thing, then move on to the next quickly and before their ready. Next thing their ... (read in full...)
Is it rude not to respond to a text right away?
Q. I have a question about texting. So I've been chatting/texting this guy i really like for a while now. The thing is...is it rude to not respond right away to a question? Sometimes he ignores it and sometimes he takes a day to response. I ...
A. 1 August 2008: I hardly ever text back straight away unless i have to and its urgent, otherwise i leave it til i can be bothered really. Though i not a big talker in a LDR texting cant replace talking, so how about you send him a text saying when your gonna call ... (read in full...)
Am I over-reacting to him groping me while I slept?
Q. I've been in a relationship for a year and a half now and about a week ago my boyfriend and I were on holiday together; we'd gone away with my family. We shared a room but not a bed; we're both virgins and I want to wait until I turn 18 before I ...
A. 1 August 2008: Personally i wouldnt care how far you go when awake him touching you while you are asleep is harrasment, he crossed the boundries of your relationship by putting his hands down your pyjamas
The reasoning that you cant expect a teen boy to cont... (read in full...)
She's ready and I'm not!
Q. she is ready for us to lose our virginity but im not. im 15 n she is 3 years older what do i do??...
A. 1 August 2008: Tell her, your not ready.
Dont be rushed into anything you dont want to do, plus shes having sex with an underage minor, wait a year or so until you are ready.
If she still pressures you go and move on
... (read in full...)
He messages, mails, texts me... but won't call me!
Q. hey all! i have a problem..i am in love with this guy who i am pretty sure is in love with me..now we live in separate countries but know each other since 2 yrs and have been in touch everyday.. he msgs,texts,emails me everyday..t...
A. 1 August 2008: Well it could be a couple of things
1. Calling different countries is expensive espacially for a teen
2. Some people get nervous speaking, as when you email/message you have the backspace key to erase any mistake and have all the time to articula... (read in full...)
He was into foursomes in the past. How do I make sure he isnt into that anymore?
Q. My question is My boyfriend was once married, and then come to find out he and his wife were into foursomes, when I ask him about it because I just want to make sure that he doesn't still have those feeling because I won't do it he get mad at me...
A. 1 August 2008: i agree with DiovanLestat if he ask just say no. But seeing as youve made your feeling clear i doubt he will ask.
I also agree with Troubledtoomuch again though there are alot of open minded female aunts if a woman asks a question sometimes shes... (read in full...)
I don't know how to forgive or trust my boyfriend and I've been trying for a year now!
Q. i dont no how to forgive or trust my boyfriend and i been trying for a year now. everytime hes not around i miss him greatly but when hes gone im always thinking he might be talking to another women becaus he has done it once befor and i keep on ...
A. 1 August 2008: Sorry for not understanding but i dont get what your bf has done in the past.
Was it just talking to females? or flirting with females?
an you or someone help me with this... (read in full...)
I texted my ex happy birthday and he didn't even reply. Why would he just ignore me?
Q. Hello, I hope someone can help me. I feel I have no-one I can talk to about this and its churning around in my head. My ex and I split up some months ago and since then we have had very little contact. today was the first birthday he has had since ...
A. 1 August 2008: its not about moving on or you
On my birthday i was so drunk and recieved about 30 other texts that i stop responding (or being able to) after 5 texts... (read in full...)
Religion (feel free to debate and discuss!!)
Q. Lately iv been having a discussion/debate with a woman on here about religion, she's a muslim and im not really anything, more of an athiest with a hint of scientologist id say, and as you could imagine our opinions on religion are at complete ...
A. 1 August 2008: Personally my parents are both non practicing Jevohs Witness's, my mother more so nowdays.
I went to a roman catholic school and for a couple of years was an agnostic, but after a while through certain events in mine and the worlds life decided ther... (read in full...)
Men, do you discuss details of your sex lives with your buddies?
Q. I have a question for the men. Do you guys discuss what happens in the bedroom with your male buddies, or best friends? I'd like to think what happens in the bedroom stays in the bedroom. Do you guys compare notes and tell each other if she was...
A. 31 July 2008: One nighter maybe
A loved girlfriend or wife, no. If a man doesnt have enough respect for their loved one, then their not a man really... (read in full...)
He was into foursomes in the past. How do I make sure he isnt into that anymore?
Q. My question is My boyfriend was once married, and then come to find out he and his wife were into foursomes, when I ask him about it because I just want to make sure that he doesn't still have those feeling because I won't do it he get mad at me...
A. 31 July 2008: Im gonna have to agree with troubledtomuch here.
If a man came on saying they cant get past their gf 20 ex partners ands she only 21, alot (not nessacarily you) would be saying get over it and move on. The poster should do the same, your man and ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to be best friends with groups of teachers when you're only 13?
Q. Is it wrong to be best friends with groups of teachers? I am 13 and I have quite a few friends who are teachers, I sometimes have lunch with them, I have some of their e-mail addresses and even get hugs off them. They joke around with me and they...
A. 30 July 2008: Theres nothing wrong with it. Just i think its better that you have friends your own age, i had teacher friends and school mates. School isnt just about education its about learning to socialise and making friends is a huge part of this... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and find it hard to converse with my family. Can anyone help me out please?
Q. im 14 and when i have to talk to my family i really dont no what to say. it ends up to be an awkard scilence whenever im in a room alone. well im going to my auntys for the day tomorrow and im scared that im gonna not know what to say. what shall i ...
A. 30 July 2008: Ahhhhhh teenage awkwardness, feeling abit unconnected
Dont worry it happens'
Find an activity that you have in common, a TV show you enjoy for example
If not back it my times, even though im not that old PS2 gave me hours of joys, now its my Xbox ... (read in full...)
Is there anything I can do, to prevent C or my ex, B from making up bad lies about me to A?
Q. Im 19 and I went to school with this guy (lets call him A) who recently sent me a message over msn. We havent really seen or spoke to each other since school, just the odd 'hi how are you' when we run into each other at places. In school we werent...
A. 30 July 2008: Like oldersister said you guys are kids anymore, your adults, your getting scared of a situation that might not even happen. If C spreads rumors tell A what he did last time and if hes man enough he will ignore them.
Most likely C has grown up and ... (read in full...)
Does anyone want to quit smoking with me? We can do it!!
Q. Goodbye nasty cigarettes, hello brighter future : ) I know I'm not exactly posing a question here but today I decided to kick the habit. I have only been smoking a year, I am in college and for whatever reason I gave into the smoking peer pre...
A. 30 July 2008: I quit on Saturday (26th) cold turkey, yes it is hard, ive been smoking for 10 months now, not heavily as others, but it was getting up to 10 a day. So I quit before the cigs got a hold of me and i became addicted to them, which i was. Yes im ... (read in full...)
Do men in relationships want to have sex with other women? How much and how often?
Q. How much do guys in a relationship want to have sex with other females? I'm curious. I don't ever get the urge to have sex with some other guy. I wonder if it's the same for men? Today I was telling my boyfriend how weird it'd be for me if he was...
A. 30 July 2008: From what youve told me his comments about you being Bi are a common male fantasy. Though i probably wouldnt like it if i truely loved a woman, me and my friends have always said that we wouldnt mind if our girl had a girl on the side, shed just ... (read in full...)
Could he be serious about wanting sex because he finds me "perfect" or is he trying to use me?
Q. Im confused about this lads feelings towards me and what he REALLY wants from me. Well, we've been friends for about 2 years now and Ill admit, for most of this time, Ive fancied him. We get on really, really well. He texts me all the time and tells ...
A. 27 July 2008: Oh he is just trying to get into your pants. Hes willing to break the law and keeps asking you even though you said no says what kinda person he is.
Your correct for saying no! and keep saying it your better off without a ahole like him... (read in full...)
Would it be easier to kiss her at the club, when we are all drunk?
Q. its our results night soon and everyone is goin to this one club. The girl i've liked for many years will be there. I know everyone will be drunk, do you think it would be a good idea just to kiss her there? It would be easier wouldn't it after ...
A. 27 July 2008: Dont kiss her drunk, as easy as it may be its wrong for two reason
1. You could be taking advantage of a drunk girl
2. She might kiss you for the wrong reason (being drunk)
Talk to her while drinking, not drunk, easy into dont use her being drunk ... (read in full...)
18 yr old male dating 16 yr old female, whats legal in California?
Q. Dear Dearcupid.com, I am a 18 year old male living in California. I have a girl friend who I have been dating for over 15 months. The only problem is... She's only 16. What are the laws regarding relationships with minors? I want to move forward ...
A. 27 July 2008: From my knowledge statutory rape is sex, that being oral intercourse etc. This is mostly from me following a case of a young man recieving oral sex from a 15 year old a going to jail (extreme but true)
Looking around i found this website and some... (read in full...)
I am a scorpio, she is a capricorn, we care deeply about each other, but I have trust issues and I am very jealous of her, how do I resolve these problems?
Q. i have been dating this capricorn girl and she is sooo sweet and nice and trust worthy im a scorpio and i feel we r too open emotionaly together everything is great i feel we were born for each other she tells me that too we cant live without each ...
A. 27 July 2008: Well star signs have NOTHING to do with who we are at all
If you cannot trust her as shes better looking than you talk to her, if you are really made for each other i doubt she will cheat.
Communicate... (read in full...)
Can penis size be extended?
Q. can i make my cock longer ?please help and thanks...
A. 26 July 2008: If there was a sure fire method every man on the planet would know it, and every man would have done it. Just because it looks like bigger is better in porn most real woman will tell you it doesnt matter... (read in full...)
Guys go for my friend and not for me. Why?????????
Q. Ok so basically this is really getting me down and fed up. My best friend and i go out a lot together and meet people together, we are practically never apart socially. She is blonde and probably described as 'FIT' but not small featured or pr...
A. 26 July 2008: Firstly not all men like Blondes, is a sterotype
Prehaps your low self esteem makes you less aproachable and seem more defensive.
How about you go out alone a few times or be more friendly and open when the boys are around. Feeling good about yo... (read in full...)
Why do men say they want real women if they fantasize and desire "fake" girls, if it's the ideal woman then they should want to be with them, right?
Q. Hello, I wrote this last night: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-hate-to-think-that-a-anorexic-fake.html Basically, I was saying that guys (and my boyfriend especially) say that women in the media and strip clubs are hotter than us normal gi...
A. 26 July 2008: You know it annoys me when (some) women group men as if we can all be described under one paragraph and you got all 3 billion of us down to a t.
i read your first question and didnt bother commenting but dont blame all us men for your bf faults and ... (read in full...)
Do guys REALLY want skinny girls?
Q. ok heres my question do guys really want really skinny gf's???? i know its talked about all the time but nobody ever asks real everyday men! i'm 14/16 is that too big? is that normal? what do you guys think of women and their bodies...
A. 20 July 2008: There is no answer along the lines of men like X
Some Men like Skinny Girls
Some Men Like Big Girls
Some Men Like Curvy Girls
Some Men Like Men
There you go, men like different types of woman. Just because you see a certain woman in a magazine ... (read in full...)
Want to find out how you would act in a relationship, take this test.
Q. After reading all these articles I decided to throw this in there too! I was given this test by a "relationship theropist" LOL yes that title does exist! However it was interesting to see just which one you pick....... Read the question, don't ...
A. 16 July 2008: well i chose tigers cause i like tigers, and it doesnt sound like me. Buti do sound like the sheep a little... (read in full...)
Would it be bad if I kissed another girl while we are on break?
Q. I have recently spilt with my girlfriend of nineteen months. She ultimately called it off although she said it was me afterwards, as i had written a letter the week before saying the relationship should end. I wrote the letter as I was extremely ...
A. 16 July 2008: Your on break not broken up.
You wouldnt want her to, so dont... (read in full...)
Could I be happy with two different girls?
Q. is it possible for me to happy with 2 different girls? without them knowing. i dont want to lose the girl im with now. and the girl in my past is someone close to me and i dont want to lose her either....
A. 16 July 2008: if your happy hurting two girls than your not right plain and simple.
Sorry but you cannot have your cake and eat it too.
Leave both as if you think you can have both, you shouldnt have either... (read in full...)
How dangerous is breathing in helium?
Q. Hello, this is a weird question but is it real dangerous to breathe in helium from a balloon? Me an my friends did it for a laff but i read on the internet that it can make you really ill. Plz help, i'm worried now. x.x.x.x....
A. 16 July 2008: Yes hellium CAN be dangerou. In high quantities very high quantities. In high doses you can get light headed and pass out and in higher doses it can upset your oxygen balance and suffocate you. In High doses mind you
Breathing in hellium from ball... (read in full...)
Why would a guy have sex with a girl and not want her to be his girlfriend?
Q. If a guy doesn't want a girl to be his girlfriend but still wants to have sex with her, does that mean that shes ugly or doesnt have a good personality?...
A. 3 July 2008: It means he wants unattached sex from a woman. No strings sex... (read in full...)
Is it Ok to sleep with someone you met on holiday?
Q. Whilst I realise several of us may have done this would you all be honest especially men who might reply and say the truth - if someone has just met someone else on holiday during a two week break - is it wise to sleep with them or would they ...
A. 2 July 2008: Well who cares what he thinks, he is your easy lay.
In sex its not always the woman who is conquered a man can be, either way i wouldnt care, sex is sex
If both parties are single, unattached, legal and willing there is no issue.
(Though y... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Over 600,000 visitors last month!
Q. Just a quickie We broke the 600,000 unique users/month (i.e. people!) last month. According to google analytics we had 638,310 visitors from June 1st to June 30th. Doesn't seem that long ago we passed the half a million mark. Thanks to all t...
A. 1 July 2008: Great News Andrew love the site
You are a saint in this world having help Millions of people (half of students in love with teachers)
And since everyone missed Irish's party i say we party it up at mine, ill even try to write up the DC manual.
... (read in full...)
How do I know if my husband has had sex with another woman?
Q. how do i know if my husband has had sex with another woman...
A. 29 June 2008: if you put a buttercup under his penis and it glows.
But seriously you cant tell unloess you ask him... (read in full...)
What should I do - she doesn't like roller coasters, should we break up?
Q. I've been going out with my GF for a year a a few months, i think she's great and we have alot in common.I found out recently that she doesn't like roller coasters (although she has only been on one). The problem is i absolutely love roller c...
A. 29 June 2008: Dump her over roller coasters? no offence but its really really really petty
If she doesnt like them and you love them i bet shes willing to wait while you have you fun or even give it a try if you love it as much as you say... (read in full...)
A young lady who is not ready for sex or to fall in love sleeps in my room...I want to have a sexual relationship with her!!
Q. A young lady who is not ready to fall in love or sexual relation, she is very strict against love but everyday she is sleeping in my room.I want to make sexual relation with her.How it is possible.How can i convince her for sex and how should ...
A. 29 June 2008: i want to have sex with alot of people around me, and if they dont want to, you imagine it and leave them to their wishes.
You say shes strict about it, well theres your answer
Leave her to her wishes... (read in full...)
No bleeding after using the dildo, am I still a virgin?
Q. ok i dont know if i am still a virgin....my friend told me to use a dildo to ease my first time with my b/f. I did use the dildo but it really hurt and there was no bleeding. i had read that you could lose my virginity without bleeding but i am not ...
A. 29 June 2008: If you never had intercourse with your bf then your a virgin
No matter of the state of your hymen or if you bleed or not
PS: Hymens can be broken in ways other than sexual ways like horseback riding... (read in full...)
If I continue like this at 15, will it affect me when I get older?
Q. Im 15 and usually cum about once a day. If i continue this at this age will it affect me when I get older? Like when I want kids and that?...
A. 28 June 2008: if that was the case few men would actually have kids
Very very few
when you cum it keeps on cumming :)... (read in full...)
Is it normal to bicker over our wedding plans?
Q. My fiance and I are getting married in september and were both stressing and bickering over plans and money,is this normal?...please help x...
A. 18 June 2008: Try and find me a wedding where the Couple didnt bicker at all. If you do youve either got a whiped/Doesnt care man, or the most agreeable couple ever... (read in full...)
I don't understand the difference?
Q. He LOVES me but is NOT IN LOVE with me. what does that mean? i'm confused....
A. 18 June 2008: He loves(cares about you, like a close person in his life) you BUT isnt in love with you (as in a romantic , having a future together with kids)
There are different types of love
Love for your Friends
Love for your family
Love for your Loved O... (read in full...)
Do 'R'-rates movies turn guys on?
Q. Hi! I'm a 17 yo girl and have just started going out with this amazingly sweet, cute, shy boy whose had no experience with girls whatsoever. this isn't a strictly "relationship" question---but... when guys are watching a very--err--rated R movie ...
A. 14 June 2008: At that age i could get happy from the mere thought of anything erotic, sometimes didnt even need to think of it.
The glory years of a couple of months ago... (read in full...)
| *amer70's friends
These are mutual friends, so *amer70 has
added them and they have added *amer70!
|
