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Nothing Qulifies me to help people except for my own personal experiences with in life, my mistakes, my regrets and my tiumphs.
I currently live in London, England and have my whole life, Although i do plan to Move when im Older. Havent decided where. Possibly Canada or Australia.
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Is it ok to be a virgin the rest of your life and not be with any body ?
Q. Is it ok to be a virgin the rest of your life until i die and not be with any body ? i am only in my 20's and since the time i was in my teens i decided not to be with anybody . this guy i know at my job says that i am crazy and then he said what ...
A. 28 July 2007: Its completly up to you what you do with your life and your body. Dont listen to others and forge your own life path.... (read in full...)
I want to be the one who teaches my 13 year old cousin about sex
Q. My cousin is 13 and when i was young, i kind of explored in her vagina. i didn't know what i was doing. is it ok to teach her things about sex and what to do in a situation where she wants to have sex? i want to be the one to teach her what to do ...
A. 27 July 2007: NO! NO! NO! You should not do anything sexual with your cousin let alone a blood relative. Its just wrong.... (read in full...)
I'm embarassed that my boyfriend is a year younger than me
Q. i really like the guy i am involved with i have a great time with him and i love him but he's a year yonger and i don't know why i just fell inmbaressed so i won't tell my friends and i don't know if i really like him cuz i feel imbareassed to tell ...
A. 27 July 2007: Well if your embarresed by ANY part of him. Dont date him!!!
When you date someone you never be embarresed by them.... (read in full...)
I was not old enough to be looking at porn.
Q. Hi, at one time i looked at porn not out of pervertness but out of curiousity of the girls body and i felt guilty every time. I had started an addiction to it and broke it and then about a month ago i found out about having to be 18 and its done past...
A. 26 July 2007: Believe me there are ALOT of kids your age and under the legal age who look at porn. You shouldnt feel guilty for exploring your curiousity as its more than normal.
Perhaps i shouldnt be telling you to break a law, but its normal and nearly ever... (read in full...)
Should i teach my friend?
Q. I have a friend that i like. He is 12 and i am 16. is it ok to teach him how to have sex and give blowjobs and have sex and how to make out and how to drink pee and other stuff? Also, I have not gone through puberty yet. Should i be worried?...
A. 26 July 2007: No!! No to both questions. Why would you teach him to drink pee anyway... (read in full...)
Is he still a virgin if he has only ever had sex with a man?
Q. Well this is not a question about me but it is about a lot of others OK if a gay man has been gay his whole life and never had sex with a woman but a man , technically wouldn't he still be a virgin?...
A. 25 July 2007: No hes no longer a virgin. Regardless of who he had sex with... (read in full...)
What does 'gash' mean?
Q. what does gash mean ? ...
A. 23 July 2007: Like Blaz£ said its slang for girl... (read in full...)
If you don't swallow during oral, can you still get and STI?
Q. you can get an STI from giving head i know, how ever if you dont swollow, does this mean you cant get one? ...
A. 22 July 2007: Yes.
If you have open cuts in your mouth.... (read in full...)
She used to hit her mum, now she takes everything out on me.
Q. I recently asked a question anonymously about my girlfriend, we have been together 3 yrs and she has been very abusive,she use to hit her mom and now me. I say i love you always, she might say it once in awhile. I'm on a roller coaster i need help...
A. 22 July 2007: Well it sounds like she hasnt deep anger issues at the people who love her and it seems she need therapy and anger management classes too calm her down. This may be hard to get her to do but she needs it and soon before she pushes everyone away and ... (read in full...)
Can you be too young to be in love?
Q. My two close friends..lets call them Annie* and Mark*.. theyre both 15, been dating for nearly 3 years now and Annie* recently told me that she thinks shes in love with Mark*.. now ive seen the way they are together and the way they make each other ...
A. 22 July 2007: I believe that yes you can be too young to be in love with someone as you cannot fully understand it at that age, even if your mature. But you say they've been dating 3 years which is pretty long, so its possible they could be in love. But i wou... (read in full...)
19 and 14 is that ok?
Q. Is it ok for me to date a guy that is 19 and I am 14?. I really like him and don't want to let him go....
A. 22 July 2007: The answer is half yes half no. You have to think what does he want from dating a minor. Also you have to know thats its illegal to have sex or do anything sexual for 2/4 years depending on your state. The other aunt/uncle are right your child... (read in full...)
Can you get pregnant if he pulls out?
Q. I was wondering if you can get pregnant still if the guy withdraws before cuming? Does if matter if the stuff that comes out of a guys penis before he ejculates goes inside a girl? Will that get you pregnant? ...
A. 22 July 2007: Yes you can get pregnant even if a guy doesnt cum inside of you. Pre-Cum contains live sperm and can get u pregnant. Usa a condom if you want to advoid this... (read in full...)
I really like this guy, but he has a girlfriend.
Q. Okay, so I really like this guy. We definitely had "a thing" . But then I couldn't hang out with him for a long time(during summer), and then when I finally could hang out with him..I come back and he has a girlfriend. It sucks because I didn't real...
A. 22 July 2007: I would just wait this one out. To break them up would be completly selfish and create a name for yourself. Just be a good friend and stay on the sideline. If they do break-up you can make your move (let him heal if she did cheat on him) and then you... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Moderators needed!
Q. Hi, with the site getting busier all the time I'm looking for new volunteer moderators... PLEASE READ THIS CAREFULLY BEFORE RESPONDING -- many moderators drop out after just a couple of weeks so if you're not committed please don't apply! ...
A. 21 July 2007: Well hopefully you got the PM i sent just incase. I tried last time with no luck and i do have time on my hand with summer holidays starting... (read in full...)
Is it ok to spend the night at my girlfriends house?
Q. My special lady owns a house, so i sometime on weekends spend in her house, i live with my cousin, now my cousin is all over me saying am doing it wrong, me i dont find it wrong, my girl too does not find it wrong too. Am asking for advise about th...
A. 21 July 2007: when i read the title i was expecting a younger than 16 spending nights with a 23+. But with this info i dont see any problem at all. Tell your cousin to mind his own business... (read in full...)
My dad says I'm lazy and he refuses to buy me anything
Q. Help my dad won't speak to me. He is very mad at me for not helping him with his office work. Now he won't buy me anything. He says that I am very lazy. Not even new clothes to wear to school. What should I do?...
A. 21 July 2007: Well if you said no to helping him of course he may be angry. If he wont buy you stuff get a job and buy your own clothes your old enough now.... (read in full...)
I'm almost 18 and she is almost 14; is it Ok to date her?
Q. is it alright if i am 17 going on 18 in november and im going out with a 13 going to be 14 in dec. because i think she is worth it but i dont know what to do please i need help. and my parents are telling lies to break up with her and they say that ...
A. 21 July 2007: Of course of your and her would be worried if a 14 year old was going out with a 18 year old.
As if anything sexual happened you would get in alot of trouble which is your parents worry. Her parents would be worried as there little daughter is goin... (read in full...)
He's on holiday and he hasn't contacted me once! Am I being selfish?
Q. Is it stupid to wish he'd contact me? This is something which has been bugging me for a while. I have been on holiday in America. Whilst there I made an effort to keep in touch with my boyfriend. A few days before I came home he went away....
A. 21 July 2007: Maybe he having alot of fun where he is a might have forgoten life at home. I can imagine being in africa might do that. Why dont you do the contacting, send him an e-mail asking how he is, and hows the holiday. Sometimes life can ut present issue... (read in full...)
My teacher split up with his partner...should I make a move?
Q. Hi its me again remember before when i said i was in love with my teacher and that he was in a LTR...? Well now they have split up and i really wanted make a move but i don't have the guts because i know almost for sure he'll push me away and thin...
A. 21 July 2007: my god NO!! First of all if he was to respond he would be in alot of trouble, will lose his job and be put into jail. If you do lvoe him, Which i doubt, you wouldnt do this. Like yummymummy said as a teacher or anyone in a position of power like th... (read in full...)
My bf wants me to be more 'sexually adventurous'...is this a good thing or what?
Q. My boyfriend of 10 months wants me to be more sexual with him, is that bad? he wants me to do a lot more sexual positions as well as go down on him a lot more than I do. I dont want to disappoint him so Last night we did it in the middle of the ...
A. 21 July 2007: It can be a good thing. As long as both parties want to do it. And neither are pushed into doing something they dont want to do. If you dont want to do something say no!!... (read in full...)
Can I ask my sister if I can kiss her? Any advice?
Q. Hi, I am 5 years younger than my sister. I find her attractive. i have never kissed or anything with anyone. Can i ask her to kiss me? If so how far can this go?...
A. 20 July 2007: This can go NOWHERE. Incest is very wrong and in some places illegal.
You need to find someone your age and who is not related to you... (read in full...)
I'm an Illegal Imigrant! I am scared if I tell him, he'll think I am with him only because I want marriage fior american citizenship! Any advice?
Q. Hi I have a serious question.Sorry to all of you that might get offended from this message. I have been living in the states for few years now, but I over-stayed my visa and have been illegal Imigrant for 5 months now.Never planned on it, ...
A. 20 July 2007: i think you explain what you wrote in this post to him. Say that you are not out for a green card and that you are not ready to be married either.
If he truely loves you he wont care. But do be careful who you tell as if it gets out you may be in t... (read in full...)
How effective is using just a condom to prevent pregnancy?
Q. How effective is using a condom to prevent pregnancy, without any other form of contraception, such as the pill? ...
A. 20 July 2007: im pretty sure its within the 97.5% effective range. Dont quote me either. But it does help against STDs and AIDS/HIV. So its not 100% effective... (read in full...)
He's phoned his ex asking for phone sex; this is the third time he's cheated, what should I do?
Q. heya remember i said my bf was complimenting other girls well now i've just found out that he's been texting his ex girlfriend asking her for phone sex !!!!! i really love him but this is the 3rd time he's cheated on me with her what should i do ??? ...
A. 19 July 2007: Well if hes cheated on you before and is doing it again. You have to leave him NOW!!. You may love him, but he clearly doesnt love you. And has shown this through his actions. Your still young find someone else.... (read in full...)
I offered her the use of my car temporarily. That was 2 years ago! How do I put a stop to this?
Q. My girlfriend of 3 years and I are having problems. She came into the relationship with a beat up old station wagon in really rough shape. Brakes didn't work, tires were shot, heater didn't work, etc. The thing was a death trap and it always m...
A. 19 July 2007: How about you start using the car more of and bring up helping her look for a new one. This might be nicer than flat out saying "you cant have it"... (read in full...)
She doesnt want sex and I am getting bored
Q. my girlfriend doesnt want to go further :S what can i do? me and my girlfriend have been going out about a year now and all we have done is kiss and hug and the really petty stuff but i want to go further as im quite a 'exploring' guy if that kind...
A. 19 July 2007: If you feel bored because your not having sex move on. She doesnt need someone pressuring her into one of the most important decisions ever. If you continue you'll get dumped and have her hate you for life. Listen to Dr Pete, either respect her ... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and I'm scared to have sex with my 17 year old boyfriend; he wants me to get pregnant!
Q. i am a 14 year old girl and i am going out with a seventeen year old boy and i am stuck in a situation because he wants to have sex with me but im scared because i do not no what to do when having sex!!and he said that he wants to get me pregnant ...
A. 19 July 2007: Do NOT have sex with this boy. Firstly its illegal which will land him in very deep trouble and maybe in jail. secondly you are far too young for sex and should be enjoying your youth not thinking about sex. Thirdly if he wants you to get pregant a... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and considering having sex for the first time... I'm scared! My Mum says I should wait it out, what should I do?
Q. hi im 14 and considering having sex for the 1st time the thing is im really scared ive talked to my mum she told me that il enjoy it more if i wait and if i really like the guy i do it with. i think shes only saying this to prevent me from having ...
A. 18 July 2007: Your mums right in the fact that its better that you should wait another couple of years to have sex. At your age your body may not be ready yet and you may not be emotinally ready yet to have sex either. There are loads of consquences of s... (read in full...)
Should a guy stay with his girlfriend if she has faked a pregancy?
Q. Should a guy stay with his girlfriend if she has faked a pregancy? ...
A. 17 July 2007: i agree with everyone else here.
If shes willing to lie about something this big, she could lie about anything.
He should move on and forget her.... (read in full...)
Should I be jealous if my partner kisses someone else as part of an acting class?
Q. My partner is interesting in acting classes. I'm concerned because part of these classes will have him kissing other women and acting in various passionate scenes with them. Should I be jealous? ...
A. 17 July 2007: Its very normal to be jelous seeing a partner kissing others. But you have to remember hes acting anything he looks like hes feeling is acting. Just remember when hes with you hes not acting... (read in full...)
What's the youngest age to fall in love?
Q. What's the youngest age to fall in love? I'm 9 years old and i think that i've fallen in love with my friend's cousin who's 10. I've heard people say things like it's not possible to fall in love until you are an adult so now i'm confused whether ...
A. 16 July 2007: I gotta agree with the others that you may be a little young to fully understand love. Its most likely a crush that you have on your mates cousin
But overall i believe love is this complicted and i dont know when a person is truely in love... (read in full...)
If someone cheats on you, can they still really love you?
Q. if someone cheats on you...can they still really love you!!?...
A. 16 July 2007: I believe that it depends on the nature of their affair. Was it a one night stand? If they truely are sorry i believe they can. But if they went behind your back lied etc. They knew they would cause you hurt so i believe they truely dont love you... (read in full...)
I'm 13 and he's 16; can we still be together if we don't have sex?
Q. My boyfriend is 16, I'm 13, in England the age of consent is 16, if we have a non-sexual relationship can we still be together? I know people will say I'm too young for love but I know I am in love with him, we've been through so much, but I don't ...
A. 16 July 2007: You can date yes. But do nothing sexual and you are fine in the UK. Do nothing sexual until your 16 and he and you are OK... (read in full...)
I'm 12 and my 17 year old boyfriend's penis is too big for me, what do I do?
Q. im 12 and my boyfriend is 17 we have had sex but his penis is too large and wont go up can you please help me ? (give me some advice)...
A. 16 July 2007: first of all if your boyfriends 17 and your 12 doing ANYTHING sexual is illegal and will land him in alot of trouble. In reality i cant give advice except to stop until your 16 as its not only illegal but wrong as your 12 and not phsically or ... (read in full...)
I didn't bleed, does this mean I'm still a virgin?
Q. I had sex with my ex fiance for many times but I didn't bleed! Does this mean I still have the hymen? I don't want to tell anybody that I had sex. How can I hide this thing from my future fiance? other than surgery. plz help me ...
A. 15 July 2007: you had sex!
even if your hymen did/didnt break your no longer a virgin. Your hymen could still be intact or it could of broken before without your knowledge.
Your future fiance will not know if your a virgin unless he examines you like a OBGYN, s... (read in full...)
Is there any situation where a guy should hit or smack a girl?
Q. I need a lot of people's opinions on this subject so if you could give me your perspective it would be great. Ok...Is there any situation where a guy should hit or smack a girl? I mean if the girl is hitting him on his head because she is so mad at ...
A. 15 July 2007: i reckon a man should never hit a women.EVER!
If the woman is violently hitting the man i reckon he can subdue her to stop her attacking him but not hit her violently as this is wrong... (read in full...)
Shes 14, I am 16. Is it ok to date her?
Q. a girl i like said she would go out with me if i ever asked her out but she knows i wouldn't because she's 14 and i'm 16. So is she too young for me? She flirts and talks alot to me and tells me she loves me. ...
A. 15 July 2007: its perfectly fine to date her. As long as it never goes sexualual til her 16th birthday you will be fine... (read in full...)
Is is ok for a 17 year old male to have sex with a 20 year old female?
Q. Is ok if a 20yr(My Girl) and a 17yr old(Me) date and there is sex involved???...
A. 15 July 2007: In the USA im pretty sure in most states this is illegal. But you will have to either tell us your state or look it up. But like love-him said it depends.... (read in full...)
What's the point in having kids if no matter how much love you give them, these evil people take them away?
Q. Last week I was watching a documentary about mistakes by social services involving a family who had their 3 kids taken away from them in the UK (we have a really crap system in Britain in that if there was a mistake by social services, the parents ...
A. 15 July 2007: calling social services "evil" in my opinion is an overstatement. i didnt watch this docementry but Britian has a documented population of 60 million. For an underfunded overwork system to try and watch all these families is a hell of a job. A the ... (read in full...)
Is it safe to masturbate in the shower?
Q. I'm 14 and have had a sexual urge to masturbate daily for the last year and watch pornographey is this normal? Secondly I feel guilty by doing so I don't understand why it seems I enjoy it. I don't mean to be in detail but after I have done it I ...
A. 15 July 2007: Its very normal to have the urge to masterbate it happens to all of us. Men and women. no you shouldnt feel guilty for doing something completly normal for someone your age and for someone alive!! basically. Exploring yourself sexually can be ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to have asked for the expensive ring back?
Q. I just bought a $3K ring for my girlfriend and then she announces she is moving out after 10 months. I asked for the ring back and that offended her? Am I wrong to have asked?...
A. 13 July 2007: i agree with pete and flowergirl. When you gave her the ring she entered a "love" contract. She broke it so should respect your relationship and return it.... (read in full...)
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