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Nothing Qulifies me to help people except for my own personal experiences with in life, my mistakes, my regrets and my tiumphs.
I currently live in London, England and have my whole life, Although i do plan to Move when im Older. Havent decided where. Possibly Canada or Australia.
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Is it safe to have unprotected sex during your period?
Q. this is so stupid but I have been having protected sex for months now but i wondered if you can have unprotected sex during your period?...
A. 26 June 2007: Nope. You still are vulnerable to all the consquences of sex. HIV, STIs and pregnacy... (read in full...)
I cheated on my girlfriend and lost my virginity to another girl!
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for about 6 months. I'm in love with her(even though I haven't told her yet) and I ended up cheating on her with someone else. On top of that I was a virgin before it happened. The girl I was with was a friend of mine, ...
A. 26 June 2007: Well i dont know if youve told her that you were a virgin when you meet. As for you cheating i reckon that you should learn from your mistake and never do it again, but the negative is if you are caught you will lose alot of trust or lose her ... (read in full...)
He ejaculated on the outside of me. Can I still get pregnant?
Q. I had unprotected sex with my boyfriend the other night, and although he didn't ejaculate inside of me...he did on the outside of my vagina. Immediately I took the sheet and wiped all of it off. Is it possible for me to get pregnant anyway? Any help ...
A. 26 June 2007: Yes it is possible to be pregnant from any vaginal penitration. To confirm/unconfirm i would buy a few pregnacy tests and tests yourself.
Also i would learn a lesson from this to make you bf wear and condom and you maybe take the pill. As cond... (read in full...)
Should I tell a guy I like him before he leaves?
Q. I like this guy and he is 15. He used to live in my neighborhood and I like him a lot. But I am only 12 right now. He is only visiting his grandmother for the summer and will be going back to Alaska in August. I like him a lot, but he will be ...
A. 25 June 2007: I reckon you should.
I mean you will be kicking yourself your ages if you dont. And if you do only 2 things can happen. He can say no - you'll be hurt for a while, only a while though. Or he can say he likes you and ou could have a sumer love and ... (read in full...)
I want photos of my classmates as memories, is it too weird to ask them?
Q. So, is it ok for me to ask poeple i barely know much, [my class] to pose for photos?? i feel really weird, cuz, what if they say no? what if they think im like mental or weird and need their pic to like fantasize over it? ahah, im essagerating, but ...
A. 25 June 2007: On the last day of school most kids will jump into photos that people are taking. No one will think you are a weirdo. In fact i you ask they will love it as like kenny said school is some of our best days. Also i bet there will be a least a dozen ... (read in full...)
I'm nervous about losing my virginity but I feel pressured by my friends
Q. Im still a virgin at 14 but recently, all my friends have been losing it and I'm beginning to feel left out. I know you shouldn't give in to peer pressure but they go as far as to say "Put your hand up if your a virgin" and I find only I raise my ...
A. 25 June 2007: Its good that you arent letting peer pressure get to you.Give it 10 years and all these girls will be regreting it, bar you. Waiting until you are ready is one o the smartest decisions you can make because at 14 you cant ully comprehends the risks ... (read in full...)
Does ejaculating damage my body?
Q. dear guys, i'm 13 ad i am just beginning to masterbate, i have ejaculted once and i dont want to do it again because i don't want to damage mt body, but i crave it so much, i am not a sicko, i just want advice. please help thanks ...
A. 23 June 2007: Theres is absolutly nothing wrong with what you are doing. You are not harming your body in any way or form. In fact masterbation can be seen as healtly and a good stress release for men and woman.
Enjoy yourself and explor your body your not a si... (read in full...)
Am I average height?
Q. i am 16 and a half years old, and 5 foot 9.74 inches. i feel that all of the boys that i know are taller than me. i know that i am not VERY small, but i can't help but feel that i am below 90% of the boys that i know. Am i of average height?,...
A. 23 June 2007: Well mate your taller than i am. I think the average british male is 5 10". I believe. I shorter than that. But like MYP men usually grow until 21-25 years of age. So your alright... (read in full...)
I just turned 19 and the girl I am seeing is 17 and a half. Is it illegal to do sexual acts with her?
Q. I just turned 19 and the girl I am seeing is 17 and a half. Is it illegal to do sexual acts with her?...
A. 21 June 2007: Im not american but im pretty sure it depends on the state you live in. You will have to check it out. Or tell us what state you live in... (read in full...)
She says she isn't having sex until she's 16, and I'm fine with that, but she also said that until then we could just like, fool around. But the thing is we don't EVER.
Q. I'm 15. My girlfriend and I have been going out for 4 months now, and everything is great, except there's no sexual side to our relationship. I know most of you will probably say we're too young, but seriously, it's been 4 months and we haven't done ...
A. 21 June 2007: Like yummymummy said maybe she is shy about sexual stuff. It seems like you may be pressuring her and if you do this you will lose her soon!!! Just wait until she is ready as if you force her she will regret it her whole lie which is not good. J... (read in full...)
My friends are treating me badly and it makes me snap. What should I do?
Q. I am sick of everyone my friends mostly they are all leaving me out and its making me snap at anyone and leaving me with less and less friends. I am starting to get called names and i stand up to them and they just laugh but i wont tell no one (only ...
A. 20 June 2007: Welll they arent your friends are they.
Sometimes people change and become meanspireted.
If you dont like these "friends" anymore. Find some new better friends and dont hang out with these people anymore if you dont like them.
As for a boyfriend ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to go out with your best friend's brother.
Q. Is it wrong to go out with your best friend's brother. Even though the best friend is a guy you used to like and he knew that you did??? I mean he's the one who suggested I hooked up with his brother. I'm just afraid something will go wrong what if ...
A. 20 June 2007: like kissmepink said ask your friend before you do anything. If she doesnt like it back of as good friends are rare while relationships will come in life.... (read in full...)
I want to make a boy notice me
Q. i want a boy to relieze im alive! HOW DO I ACCOMPLISH THAT? show some girl her love and respond!!!!!!!!!!!...
A. 20 June 2007: Well the best way to make him notice you is too TALK TOO HIM. When you do flirt with him. Eye contact, touch, laugh etc.
If you cant really do this, flirt with him from afar.
But your better of talking too him.... (read in full...)
Do you think she's just accepted because I asked her 3 times?
Q. there is this girl i fancied for over 7 months now. she is gorgeous! i was scared to make a move because she was much better lookin than me. i asked this girl to cinema, she twice made excuse of bein busy. but out of the blue today she wanted t...
A. 20 June 2007: I reckon that naybe she was actually busy those times. You have to remember she has her own life.
Look dont stress when going out just be yourself and have fun.
Alot of guys would kill to go out with the girl they fancy and you are!!!!
Just have... (read in full...)
I am a 12 year old girl and I really want to have sex with my boyfriend who is 14. Should I do it with him?
Q. I am a 12 year old girl and I really want to have sex with my boyfriend who is 14. He wants me to come over to night and have sex with him. Should I do it with him?...
A. 20 June 2007: Ill keep this too a short rant But you are 12. Not to be patronising but you are way to young to even be thinking about sex. Enjoy your childhood and its freedoms. Your not old enough too comprehend the consquences of sex like STD and Pregnacy. ... (read in full...)
I fancy my close friend like crazy! How do I tell her? I'm scared of being rejected.
Q. I'm a 16 year old guy and I think I'm in love with one of my best (female) friends. We've known each other for about 4 years. Our mutual friends have been teasing us since before we even really got talking about how perfect we would be for each ...
A. 17 June 2007: Simpley tell her how you feel.
I do know its not that simple, but its much worst to not tell her and wish you should have later. Even i you do get rejected (hopefully wont)you will feel better that you at least told her. And alot of people have cont... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Call for new volunteer moderators (please read carefully)
Q. Hi, with the site getting busier all the time I'm looking for new volunteer moderators... PLEASE READ THIS CAREFULLY BEFORE RESPONDING! Moderators approve new questions, think up of interesting and accurate titles and approve/reject a...
A. 15 June 2007: Hey ive been on a few months and would love to be a moderator!!!!! Thanks... (read in full...)
I am so unhappy with my life we moved to this desert and I absolutely hate it, my husband insisted on buying a house we can never afford so now what?
Q. don't know what to do, I am so unhappy with my life we moved to this desert and I absolutely hate it, my husband insisted on buying a house we can never afford so now what?...
A. 13 June 2007: i agree with yummymummy. Have a sit down communicate your feelings to him and come to a compromise you both can agree with.... (read in full...)
I like him but I don't think he feels the same way about me?
Q. Dear Agony Aunt. This year a new boy came into my school. At first I saw nothing on him but as he joined my drama group I began to realize there was something special about him. It was only on our last night performing that I realized how much I l...
A. 13 June 2007: The only way you can find out is by telling him how you feel.
Believe me from personal experience, it is better to speak up and find out how they feel, then run through a million situations in your head, and leave it so long that you will get hurt... (read in full...)
Why do I always lash out verbally at my boyfriend when I have too much to drink?
Q. hello can any1 tell me wat's goin on with me...? when i have had a bit too much to drink i lash out at my boyfriend, not physically just verbally. its happened the past 2 saturday's, it's like i have no control over wat i am saying or doing....
A. 12 June 2007: Drinking affects our mind. We lose all control over our norms and values and act in ways we never would sober. I think from now on you may have to avoid drinking so much, that you get into this midstate. I think your gonna have to explain to your ... (read in full...)
Should my friend have sex with this guy?
Q. should my friend have sex with him? there is this guy my friend works with and he is leaving soon. she has liked him for the past year and now he is leaving he has asked her to have sex with him she doesnt know what to do as she really likes the...
A. 11 June 2007: Well simply if she doesnt now if she should. Then she shouldnt really. This guy seems like he just wants to use her for sex then go of to Uni. She may regret it more if she does do it with him then he runs of.... (read in full...)
I should let him go but I can't! Help?
Q. Hello, Ok here is how it is, Im 22,i have been seeing a married guy for a year and a half now, he is 47) we started off as friends but then things happened after a few drinks, feelings developed and i totally love him, i know im crazy! I know he...
A. 11 June 2007: I think that you should end this relationship and soon.
The man may be consenting to this relationship, but you have to think of what his wife will go through if she finds out. Also think about his kids who may lose their daddy.
It may sound a ... (read in full...)
He beat me after I cheated... can I fix this or should I leave?
Q. my boyfriend and i have been dating for 4 months i know that doesn't sound long but in that time i cheated on him three times he found out and cheated on me i don't know how many times and beat the hell out of me then hit me a few times after the ...
A. 11 June 2007: It doesnt matter what you did. He beat you, you have to leave this man. Cheating does not justify getting hurt like that. And if you continue in this relationship you may get hurt over things that mean less.
You cant love someone who has hurt you ... (read in full...)
She's an online gf..is it possible to be in love with her as we have never even met??
Q. Heya guys, I love this gal but have neva met her. i chat to her on the fone and stuff but i have no idea of what she is like in real life so i guess my question is can i be in love with some1 i have never met ? Is it possible ? I'll be very grat...
A. 11 June 2007: i personally believe you can love someone without seeing them. If it is like this all the shallowness of looks has no impact. Like cuttieicy said love is very misterious!... (read in full...)
He says to me "I wish you were dead"... !
Q. My boyfriend of 4 yrs calls me names like schizo, stupid, and sometimes when he really tempers up he says " I wish you were dead". He had agression and anger problems, and it flares up on me because I dont stand up for myself and I keep it all ...
A. 11 June 2007: Heres some simple advice that eyeswideopen and bubbloo said. Get the HELL out of this relationship, get away from him and the trouble he brings. Try and find someone who will respect you and treat you great.... (read in full...)
All the signs are there..so does this guy really, fancy me?
Q. Hi, i really like this guy but there is 1 problem! he is 2 years older than me. He likes this girl, in his year but i think he fancies me. When we go out we always have a laugh and have a great time. i always catch him looking at me and he always ...
A. 8 June 2007: Well it does sound like he likes you, from the hugging etc.
But if your sister also likes him i would tread very carefully. Friendships are broke up over "love" and your sister i always gonna be much closer than your friend. So if she likes him aswe... (read in full...)
Do people judge you on the type of house and family you have? The guy I'm seeing is tasteful and clean, but my house is ugly and messy!
Q. Hey, this is going to sound really superficial and awful of me, but do people judge you on the type of house and family you have? and is it normal to feel scared of being judged on because of this? I'm going out with this guy and i've been to his...
A. 7 June 2007: Well i wont slander you. You sound like you dont want to be saying this.
There are a few things that you could do here, first is just explain to your bf that your house is really messy and its your family. He should understand this, i mean he is h... (read in full...)
People say I'm too young to be in a long term relationship - now I'm doubting us!
Q. Hey, I'm 19 + have been with my boyfriend for 2 years. Just recently a few people have been saying that I'm too young to be in such a long term relationship + to be honest, it's making me starting to doubt us a little bit. I love him to piece...
A. 7 June 2007: plan and simple advice. if you love your boyfriend do not listen to these people at all. Just concentrate on him and you. Of course your work etc. But just dont listen to what they tell you... (read in full...)
What does it mean that she gave me her number and asked for mine??
Q. This probably sounds rediculous, but what exactly does it mean when a girl gives you her phone number and asks for your's ... completely out of the blue? And, if she was perhaps interested in me, will she forget it because I was unable to give ...
A. 7 June 2007: Nah you havent
You gave her a real reason for not having your number.
Have you got an e-mail how about you give her that instead. Or even try and get a cheap phone, but i dont know how it works down under.
If she makes you smile how about just a... (read in full...)
I'm afraid if I dont go to the nightclub with him he'll not like me as much. What should I do?
Q. this boy who i really like keeps askin me to go to nightclubs with him but the thing is thats really not my scene as im not really into dance music and drinking and im also too young an im afraid i wont get in. but im afraid if i dont go with him ...
A. 7 June 2007: Dont do something that you dont want to do. Ask him if you can do things that your both interested in. If he doesnt like you just because you wont go to nightclubs then hes not for you... (read in full...)
I'm 16, he's 23 - he wants to sleep w/ me, but he lives with a girl! I feel guilty! Can I really go through with this?
Q. Im 16 years old and i've been in numerous relationships in the past year buti've never had sex. now this guy's come into my life, i've known him about nine months and thought he was a jerk up until about three months ago when we got to know each ...
A. 7 June 2007: Like the 1st anon said just "liking" someone is not nearly enough to have sex with them, especially the first time.
From what you are writing you sound like you are having doubts with this guy, which is enough to say that your not ready. Just wait... (read in full...)
I don't know if my bro's best friend likes me - we make out, but there is also some other girl! What do I do?
Q. ok well this guy i like is my brothers best friend and i don't know if he likes me or not but i got a pretty good idea he does because he texts me all the time and when ever he spends the night at my house we always makeout or somethin but theres ...
A. 7 June 2007: Well if he is your brothers best friend i reckon you should stop what you are doing. Theres a similar post which you should read
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-best-friend-recently-started-seeing-my-brother.html
see how it effects the pers... (read in full...)
What can I say to my friend who thinks he's ugly?
Q. i have a friend that i've known for over 5 years now he thinks his ugly and asked for my help what should i say to him he has only had two girlfriends and wants to no why can you help ???...
A. 7 June 2007: Well first of all having 2 girlfriends at your age (which ill assume he is) is quite alot and more than most people would at that age. Tell him that. As for being ugly i know telling him may not exactly work, how about complimenting him every now ... (read in full...)
Social services is charging my baby's father - my boyfriend - with sexual assault!! Can we get the charges dropped??
Q. i been with my boyfriend for 3 years now we just had a baby in february 07. social services are charging him with sexual assault because he is 29 years old and i'm 17 years old. do i have a chance to drop that charge? ...
A. 6 June 2007: It depends what state you live in, to my knowledge you cannot have the charges dropped as he has most likely commited a crime (depending on the state)
You do need to talk to a Lawyer though.... (read in full...)
He tells his best friend (female) that 'he loves her'. What should I make of all this?
Q. I have a new boyfriend its only been a month, he introduced me to his whole family already, which is great but i dont know why he would im confused weather he likes me alot or not, and the reason why is because his best friend is a girl she lives in ...
A. 6 June 2007: There are two possibilities her really.
Firstly he may really Love this "Friend" and it will be hard to find out if there having an emotional affiar, in absense of being geographically close to each. If they are you will have to leave this man.... (read in full...)
Worried About My Height
Q. Hi, I've recently been feeling very concious about my height. I've always been one of the tallest, but now I'm worried, I'm going to be small. My immediate family are all average height(father 5'8'' and mother 5'6''), but my grandfather, both...
A. 6 June 2007: Well your 14, you have 4 more years to grow, maybe more.Dont feel bad 5 7" is above average for Woman i belive.
Dont worry about being Short, im shorter than everyone else and i love it, it is true best things come in small packages.
... (read in full...)
I must increase my bust!
Q. Right - I'm 18 and I have such small boobs - a 34A - but even some bras seem loose. It always really upsets me! I would just like to go up a size, but I could never consider a boob job! Is there anything I can do? pills?, exercises etc......
A. 5 June 2007: Its true other than surgery there is nothing you can do to increase your bust.
The best thing to do here is to learn to with your own body and be happy with it.
Believe me men love boobs not matter the size big,small in between. Men just love bre... (read in full...)
I suck my thumb in private and my dad said I look stupid! I don't see why I should stop, though - any opinions?
Q. This isn't really loved based but I need people's points of view. I'm 17 and I suck my thumb, only in private, I can't give up and I don't want to really as I don't see anything wrong with it. Lately, my dad has been telling me off for it and says ...
A. 5 June 2007: Hello There
Stina is complety right, some people have their comforts, like blankets.I have mine and there bad, sucking your thumb is no where near as bad. The only problem is germs that you have from touching things before you suck your thumb. Mayb... (read in full...)
I'm feeling homesick and unsettled in this new country - I have lousy jobs and am not enjoying myself! If I go home, I feel people will see me as a failure - Help!
Q. Hey, Every1. I left for Austria Saturday and I'm missing home or feeling very unsettled at the moment. Wish I didnt have the job that I'm doing here which is waitressing and housekeeping but now I dont know what to do because I want to stay in ...
A. 5 June 2007: The best thing to do here is to keep trying to enjoy yourself.
How about introducing yourself into the nightlife or even join a backpacking or nature club i bet you would not need that much money and if you need more you can find out how much or j... (read in full...)
I'm 14..is that too young to masturbate?
Q. is 14 too young to masturbate at i was just wonderin ??...
A. 5 June 2007: Not at all
Its about normal to start exploring yourself... (read in full...)
I have a crush on my best friend's little sister
Q. I have a crush on my best friend's little sister. I really don't know what to do about it...I've always been able to take confidence in the fact that if I was approached by a girl that I had moral reservations about, I could always turn it down. ...
A. 4 June 2007: As DV1 did say as long as its legal you are fine. But i do see your friend having a problem with it. It is his little sister, he proberly wont be happy with this at all. Also if ou did date and broke it off you would lose a friend. I believe you ... (read in full...)
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