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*ervada123
writes:I met my boyfriend online. We haven't met yet. I'm not sure what to do? Is it safe to meet up with him? How can we do stuff like normal boyfriend and girlfriend do? Reply to this Question
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reader, vervada123 +, writes (7 July 2007):
vervada123 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks 4 all ur advice. After awhile i kind of suddenly woke up and realised it wasn't workin out. i mean he woz he a nice guy and i dumped him. Thanks 4 ur advice
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2007): I met my boyfriend on line over 4 months ago. After talking and really getting to know him, I went to actually meet him for the first time about a month ago. For one, I am older than you, 18. I live in California, and he lives in Florida. I flew to Florida, alone to meet him. I however do not reccomend that you do this. I am so in love and my now fiance is actually moving to california to live with me at the end of the month, however it sounds like you have doubts. I had no doubts about what I was doing when I did it. I knew that who i was meeting was safe, and I was absolutly sure of this. Had I had any reservations about meeting him, I would not have done it. I guess it depends on the person really. However it does concern me that you are only 14. Another important thing for me was that my entire family knew where i was going, what i was doing, and had spoken to my boyfriend A LOT before I actually went. We spent an amazing month together in florida, and are now engaged. He should be here in about 3 weeks, and im ecstatic. Be very careful. Im fortunate in that I found someone amazing and my situation worked the way it did. I would defiently encourage you to speak to youre parents about the situation tho. Good luck! and your still so young, I am too...lol. I already sound like an old married women.. :)
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (1 July 2007):
If you and your onlne bf want to meet up then you should tell your parents about him and ask them if they would meet him and his parents with you, altogether one day. This way when you meet him you should be very safe and your parents wont be worrying about you.
If you were to meet him alone then it would be very risky, so please do not do this.
As for your other question, how can you do things like a normal bf and gf do, it depends. How far away do each of you live? Is it a very long distance or not? You can still talk on the phone, email each other etc. And hang out here and there. At your age, most bfs and gfs dont always see each other that often anyway.
goodluck :)
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (1 July 2007):
 like flowergirl said dating people online is very risky as you never know who is on the other side of the moniter.
If you really do trust this boy and wish too meet him, tell your parents first, as its the safest and most responsible thing to do in this situation.
If you want to meet him, meet in a open public place, WITH A PARENT!!!! And if he freaks out or doesnt come you proberly meet the wrong guy.
Tell your parents soon before you go any further
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reader, flower girl +, writes (1 July 2007):
 Online dating is very risky, but at your age even more so, and i would say no to meeting him unless you have an adult with you for security.
tell your parents about him if they don't already know and then suggest that you meet up and both bring your parents with you, if he freaks out at this i would have nothing more to do with him.
Take care.xx.
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