Is he doing it just for the thrill?
Q. Back story: My husband and I have been married for a year. We dated for two years and our families were involved in setting us up. I moved to a foreign country to live with him. He helped me build a career and life here. He's been loving caring and ...
A. 3 February 2023: I'm so sorry OP
Yes I do think people can get addicted to doing "dumb stuff" - and they have to take it to a "certain" level before they get a thrill out of it, this level gets higher and higher. Which COULD (but isn't certain) mean that he WILL ... (read in full...)
Is he doing it just for the thrill?
Q. Back story: My husband and I have been married for a year. We dated for two years and our families were involved in setting us up. I moved to a foreign country to live with him. He helped me build a career and life here. He's been loving caring and ...
A. 3 February 2023: test... (read in full...)
Should I rethink things?
Q. He expected a thank you for getting a coca cola for my mother and asked me on the phone if my mother got the coke so I said yeah why? and he told me where was his thank you and I told him that when he asks for a thank you after he wants to do ...
A. 1 February 2023: Yes, I think you should rethink your opinion.
What does it cost you to say THANK YOU when someone does something for you? Absolutely nothing!
Being polite, and having some manners COST nothing. But it CAN (and will) GAIN you something from o... (read in full...)
Want to help my sister with her problems, but how?
Q. Hi everyone, id like advice or some help with my sister. We'll call her Kylie even though i know she isnt on this site. My sister and I are in a very weird ground in my own opinion though she probably sees it differently. Currently im 24 ...
A. 31 January 2023: "How do i help my sister?"
Do you live far from each other? If not, see if she wants to meet up in person. Go for a walk in the park or out for lunch and just chit-chat. Let her know if she wants to talk about things, you want to help and listen. ... (read in full...)
Husband seeing old troublesome friends again concerns me
Q. My husband cut ties with a number of friends for various reasons - some were holding on much too tight when we first got together and acted like teenagers. Others partying, drugs etc. One of those friends he is fond of but hasn’t seen in awhile - a ...
A. 31 January 2023: How old are you two?
It sounds like you have taken on the "mommy role" here. That you have to be the grown-up who decides which people your husband can be friends with and who he can not.
Which to me sounds utterly controlling.
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Husband seeing old troublesome friends again concerns me
Q. My husband cut ties with a number of friends for various reasons - some were holding on much too tight when we first got together and acted like teenagers. Others partying, drugs etc. One of those friends he is fond of but hasn’t seen in awhile - a ...
A. 31 January 2023: test... (read in full...)
WIfe puts her friends before me
Q. Hello Cupids, I am married to my wife for 3 years, but we have been together for 5 years and we have 3 kids we take care of together. We had broken up a few weeks ago because she put her so-called friends before me and our children. She ha...
A. 30 January 2023: 1. OP you need t obe calm and consider recoding arguments so they can't be used against you later.
2. Your wife IS prioritizing this other person over you.
3. You gave her an ultimatum but you are all bark.
4. Is this really HOW you want... (read in full...)
I am too sensitive for oral sex
Q. I enjoy getting oral and it fills so good, sometimes it gets so intense that i pull away and can't handle the sensation. How can I become more relaxed. Why am I way to sensetive....
A. 30 January 2023: YCNBS is 100% on the mark!
Your lover (male OR female) is going too hard at it. You two need to learn how to communicate and YOU need to tell him/her the go gentler and slower.
The clitoris has TWICE as many nerve endings as the tip of the p... (read in full...)
Husband yells at me and blames me for everything
Q. Hello M7 husband has a tendency of yelling and blaming me for everything. We've been together 30 years. It's gotten worse the last couple of years. If something in the house goes wrong it's my fault. Example the kitchen pipe got plugged and...
A. 30 January 2023: You BOTH should have considered getting the dog spayed. It shouldn't just be one person's responsibility UNLESS the dog is yours. (or his)
Clogged pipes suck and can be costly. Again, it's rarely just one person's fault if they get clogged.... (read in full...)
Did I do anything wrong by selling the four wheeler without talking to my brother about it first?
Q. I have a brother who is married. My sister-in-law has a little brother that is 13 years old. I owned a four wheeler that I keep at my house. I told my brother that he can borrow it as long as he asked permission first and he doesn't let his ...
A. 29 January 2023: You bought it, you own it. You can sell it, give it away, trash it, or burn it as YOU see fit.
Your brother had NO right to just come to take it. That is theft, even if he is allowed to use it.
If they WANT to ride 4x4's they can go buy one. ... (read in full...)
How do I stop him from taking advantage of my kindness?
Q. Hello I have been friends with someone about a year. He works but doesn't make much. So I have been giving him money ( not alot) a bit for food here and there. Anyways, his bay came and he asked if I could give some money. I sent 75.00. He h...
A. 25 January 2023: Stop giving him money.
He IS taking advantage of you. And you know it. He isn't a friend.
If you keep giving him the money he is going to keep asking for more.
"I have blocked him, then he will use a friend's number to contact me."
Just ... (read in full...)
Why does my bi husband want to be with other women?
Q. Why does my husband want to be with other women? I know he's bi so I have no objection to him experimenting that way, but why does he want other women?...
A. 25 January 2023: Ask him?
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He asks me out then suddenly has excuses
Q. Hello So, I've known a friend about 20 years. I've always liked him more than a friend but i was usually dating someone else and so was he (sometimes). Anyways, we used to all hang out together me, him and his brother. We lost communication, ...
A. 25 January 2023: "Am I wasting my time? Regardless he will always be a friend."
Yes, you are probably wasting your time.
You have a 20-year history but nothing has ever come of it, for whatever reason. That should give you a clue.
My guess is he has a fantasy ... (read in full...)
He asks me out then suddenly has excuses
Q. Hello So, I've known a friend about 20 years. I've always liked him more than a friend but i was usually dating someone else and so was he (sometimes). Anyways, we used to all hang out together me, him and his brother. We lost communication, ...
A. 25 January 2023: test... (read in full...)
Why does this keep happening
Q. Dont people realize that when they tell someone they need a significant other, try to introduce people together, insinuate that there "might be something" "you never know" "give him a chance" "at least talk to him/call him" etc. that they're ...
A. 24 January 2023: " It's not normal to want to be single and sex free and then comolain about being lonely"
Anon male...
THAT is utter bullshit!
If you are CONSTANTLY propositioned for SEX when you are trying to build friendships and get to know ... (read in full...)
Complicated flirting situation, really need advice!!!
Q. I really need some advice here because I have no one to talk to about this. I have a very strong crush and I think he feels the same way but I just can't be sure. He flirts with me a lot, or at least it seems that way to me. The last time I...
A. 22 January 2023: Oh, I so missed the ". He is my medical doctor."
That is absolutely frigging INAPPROPRIATE!!
You should definitely switch doctors!
This is SEXUAL harassment! Even if you find him attractive.
No wonder I got the "uncomfortable vibe" but... (read in full...)
I'm having trouble getting started
Q. I am struggling initiating sex with my girlfriend, I'm very self conscious, and prefer to let my partner initiate (that's not to say I never initiate it), atleast then I know she wants to have sex, I have an incredibly high sex drive but don't want ...
A. 22 January 2023: "I guess I could talk to her"
Yeah, if you can have sex with her you can TALK to her!
Sometimes simple touches can SHOW your partner that you are attracted to her. But it doesn't really say:" I want to jump your bones".
TALK to her. If you c... (read in full...)
Why does this keep happening
Q. Dont people realize that when they tell someone they need a significant other, try to introduce people together, insinuate that there "might be something" "you never know" "give him a chance" "at least talk to him/call him" etc. that they're ...
A. 22 January 2023: I guess it is somewhat the result of the "hookup culture".
I think in some circles casual sex IS the "norm" and if you step out of the "norm", people will try and coral you back in.
However, I also think it depends on the people you surro... (read in full...)
I cant shake the feeling that he cheated and wants to be with the other woman
Q. I need some help please. I KNOW my fiancé was having an affair. He never confirmed it in fact he completely denies it, but I KNOW. We’ve been together 6 years and have a 1 year old son. A year ago his behaviour changed. The usual signs. He was ma...
A. 21 January 2023: I told him to tell the truth or we’re finished. "
Here is the thing with ultimatums... Unless you stick with it, it's useless. It only teaches him to know you will bluff.
You know in your gut what went on. You know he likely cheated. Snapcha... (read in full...)
Complicated flirting situation, really need advice!!!
Q. I really need some advice here because I have no one to talk to about this. I have a very strong crush and I think he feels the same way but I just can't be sure. He flirts with me a lot, or at least it seems that way to me. The last time I...
A. 21 January 2023: To me, this seems "too much" - like love bombing. I'd be so uncomfortable!
But You don't describe in what situations he does all these things.
Is this guy single? For sure?
Or could he be married and testing YOUR boundaries for being a s... (read in full...)
How can I have peace
Q. Hello I have been with my fiancee for about 6 years. The first 2 years were great! He was loving, attentive, and very charming. Then he turned into a nightmare. He lacks communication skills and gets angry very quickly. I've pretty muc...
A. 18 January 2023: Why are you still with him?
If he hasn't "made it big" in those 6 years, what makes you think he EVER will?
He sounds like a leech. A drain on your finances AND your emotions.
Dump him and LIVE a happy peaceful life. Find someone who c... (read in full...)
Did she pick this trick up?
Q. Have been married 27 years and my wife let me cum in her mouth for the first time. I have always told her I was coming in past and she would immediately stop This time she kept going like she had done it before. Swallowed it all D...
A. 16 January 2023: Maybe one of her friends mentioned how this is received.
You could ASK her (without accusing her)?... (read in full...)
Family pushing me to get married
Q. Im really struggling with myself. I have been advised to seek therapy online by my parents. So I thought I would ask here if I can pay for mental health therapy for getting married - and where you recommend this? I have subconsciously a...
A. 15 January 2023: I think perhaps before you work on getting married, you need to move out of your parents' house and out from under their thumbs.
"I couldn't care less about any furniture when I want to move out."
Why haven't you moved out yet then? You are 32... (read in full...)
Did she pick this trick up?
Q. Have been married 27 years and my wife let me cum in her mouth for the first time. I have always told her I was coming in past and she would immediately stop This time she kept going like she had done it before. Swallowed it all D...
A. 14 January 2023: Is this the only thing that makes you think she is/was cheating?
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He is in jail and I don't need the stress
Q. Hi I met a guy in 2020 and ten months after he was arrested and kept in prison. At first he was saying he would get out and that he had done nothing wrong. Then in November just gone he was sentenced to 17 years for a serious gang related cri...
A. 14 January 2023: OP!
You have EVERY right to want a life on your own, a life HE CAN NOT be part of as HE is locked up!
"I’ve turned my phone off so he can’t contact me "
Get a new number, OP You shouldn't have to turn your phone off to avoid his calls. Just... (read in full...)
How do I politely ask my friend to move out of my home?
Q. ? ?A friend of mine that I’ve know for over 20 years recently separated from her husband- she was struggling to find somewhere to live so she asked if she could move in with me and my family for a month until she found somewhere. S...
A. 13 January 2023: Contact Citizen's Advice for how to evict someone. You probably don't have to file eviction papers as there is no rental agreement or money involved, thus she probably can't claim tenant's rights, but still call and check for sure.
She what you... (read in full...)
Why does he want me to swallow?
Q. My husband doesn't get turned on by intercourse. He only gets turned on by oral sex and he wants me to swallow, and I really don't want to most of the time. Why is that so important to him?...
A. 13 January 2023: I'm sorry for your loss, OP... (read in full...)
How to fix a brokenheart
Q. Help iam I love with a lovely man who loves me but I have hurt him very badly and he has fi ished our relationship. He is. Builder and recently put I. A new Back door for me. I always pay him for his work as I would not take advantage of him This ...
A. 12 January 2023: If you want a SERVICE done FOR FREE (or for a tip! WTF?) You ASK first if that is OK, you make an AGREEMENT first. You don't wait until the work is done and then say, OH, I'm not paying for the work you did, only for materials and a tip!
He di... (read in full...)
I cant stop thinking about her past
Q. I'm currently in a relationship, I have been seeing her 8 months and been official for 2. Great chemistry, loads in common and just generally going amazing, i wish I met her sooner in my life, both the same age. How ever I can't stop over thinking ...
A. 12 January 2023: "I know some jealousy is normal "
It's really not "normal" or healthy. Jealousy is like a slow-acting poison. Nothing GOOD comes from it.
You are at a stage where you feel you have to "shit or get off the pot" when it comes to the relationship... (read in full...)
Online dating problem
Q. I joined a dating site to talk to women as I’m single, a girl messaged me who liked my profile, got in touch. we had many things in common and talk every day. since then, I’ve been having doubts, as many people lie on dating sites about their age. ...
A. 12 January 2023: Try a reverse image search.
If it pops up a profile (like Facebook) If she IS 14 - see if her mom is a contact and message her with (preferably) screenshots so she knows what her daughter is up to.
Or contact the dating site and let them kno... (read in full...)
His parents know we had sex
Q. me and my "bf" had sex for the first time about a week ago (been together for a little over 3 months but we haven't made it official yet) and I guess I left a hickey on his neck .Anyways fast forward to about 2 days later and his parents saw and ...
A. 12 January 2023: If you don't want to be "judged" for doing something, don't do it.
It's that simple.
He might have a really open and honest relationship with his parents.
You don't know if they will judge you "harder" or not, you haven't even met them. I... (read in full...)
Did she pick this trick up?
Q. Have been married 27 years and my wife let me cum in her mouth for the first time. I have always told her I was coming in past and she would immediately stop This time she kept going like she had done it before. Swallowed it all D...
A. 12 January 2023: Impossible to know.
More likely, she read that men found it hot and she went for it.
It's not "proof" of anything".
It's not uncommon that the older we get the less we worry about how others perceive us. Maybe she was curious and went for... (read in full...)
Hurt over lost friend
Q. My best friend of many years is in an abusive relationship and has suddenly decided to cut me out of her life. When they first started dating, I wasn't wild about it. She has so much going for her and this guy just... doesn't. I tried to be supp...
A. 11 January 2023: I would be hurt if I were you too!!
Unfortunately, your friend loves herself less than YOU love her.
She would RATHER be with an abusive man than be on her own. Why? Probably because he has her so messed up in the head.
Logically, she KNOWS ... (read in full...)
Bed and breakfasts and sex
Q. My bf of 6 months and I are taking a weekend trip. he said he is taking me on a romantic weekend trip. We are staying at a bed and breakfast for a few nights. Have you found bed and breakfasts to be romantic? The rooms to seem to be classic and ...
A. 5 January 2023: It's like a hotel room (in a sense) but consider that you could have neighbors, so moderating your noise level would be a decent thing to do.
It will be whatever you make it.... (read in full...)
Dating websites and scammers
Q. I'm on dating sites and it's not good. We start chatting, start connecting and they request money. Why do they feel it's okay to ask a stanger whom they've never met for money? It's a complete turn off. Even on social media they reach out a...
A. 4 January 2023: Report those who ask for money, ASAP. (the the dating site)
Try another website IF you want to online date, Or try something different, like meeting people through hobbies, friends etc.
... (read in full...)
What do I say?
Q. Need some advice it's driving me mad to be honest I was seeing a guy since Aug 2022 so wasn't long Spent every weekend with him spoke everyday etc planned to spend new years eve together Exchanged Xmas presents where he bought me a lovely ne...
A. 4 January 2023: Yep, Ciar nailed it,
Just use her message and go get your laptop and move on.
You are NOT responsible for him.
If he feels YOU are too good for him, then accept that. That is HIS reality. Get your laptop and move on.... (read in full...)
Confused as to whether I want to get back with partner or not
Q. I was with my partner for 7 years until a few months ago which was due to a fight which lead to me moving out and getting my own place. The sequence of events went quickly but I have been enjoying having my own space again. We've been meeting each ...
A. 4 January 2023: I agree with Ciar!
Stay at your place and if you are unsure about your ex - set some boundaries with him.
Like NEITHER of you date other people or sleep with other people. (and perhaps keep sex off the table with him too) But YOU take the TIM... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and his mother ruined Christmas
Q. I’ll try and keep this simple. I’ve being with my boyfriend for 9 months. He had recently just come out of a relationship and he was back home, living with his mother. He had recently lost his father just four month before we met. We moved in ...
A. 4 January 2023: " Is this a toxic relationship I’m in, as I feel very confused?"
It is VERY toxic.
I would say without a doubt that you SHOULD end this relationship. You should WANT more from a partner. You have taken over the "mommy role" by being his housek... (read in full...)
Do I stay away from family get together on New Year's eve because of fight with sister?
Q. I’m probably going to be told I’m selfish for complaining about this but I’ve honestly had enough. My sister who is in her mid 40’s has been in an off and on relationship with her boyfriend- in his late 40’s for the past 5 years. They ...
A. 31 December 2022: Screw her!
Go enjoy the family get-together - ignore her and spend time with the rest of your loved ones. If there are plenty of people there you don't HAVE to interact with her at all.
You apologized, that is enough. She is mad because YOU ... (read in full...)
Wife's Party-Girl Friend
Q. My wife has a friend who has been through a lot in her life. She got married and really lived a controlled life under her ex before they got their divorce. He was very controlling and well now she is has much more freedom (you will see the relevance ...
A. 31 December 2022: OP,
I think your wife is handling this just fine BUT she feels like she CAN talk to this friend and maybe suggest the friend gets some therapy, it seems like she went through Hell and now she is being careless with her own life, thinking that she ... (read in full...)
I made a mistake coming out
Q. I think I made a mistake in coming out as bi. It's done nothing but bring me trouble. I thought I'd be welcomed with open arms by the LGBTQIA community but they're more rude to me than the evangelical ppl who tell me how wrong I am. I have not acted ...
A. 31 December 2022: I think, perhaps you should wait a while before trying ANYTHING sexual. You are in the 18-21 age group so there IS absolutely no hurry to have sex.
I don't know where you meet people that you have had interactions with but it's obviously NOT wher... (read in full...)
Why does he want me to swallow?
Q. My husband doesn't get turned on by intercourse. He only gets turned on by oral sex and he wants me to swallow, and I really don't want to most of the time. Why is that so important to him?...
A. 17 April 2022: Why hasn't he had a vacetomy?
If he is 100% sure he doesn't want kids?
I mean sex should be pleasurable for BOTH people involved, shouldn't it?
It doesn't sound like you two are very compatible in the bedroom.... (read in full...)
Why does he want me to swallow?
Q. My husband doesn't get turned on by intercourse. He only gets turned on by oral sex and he wants me to swallow, and I really don't want to most of the time. Why is that so important to him?...
A. 15 April 2022:
When you swallow you are being as submissive as heck, you are basically as intimate as it gets. 1. he doesn't have to stop his climax 2. if you swallow you are "accepting "all" of it, in a way. And 3. for some men it's a little bit about dominanc... (read in full...)
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