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writes:my husband is overseas hes been gone for 10 months and we were constantly fighting and he was always accusing me of cheatin on him and then my brother died and all he did was fight with me and i just couldnt take it anymore and i met a guy who was so nice and i made a huge mistake and cheated on my husband now things are great between us and i stop talkin to that guy but i dont know if i should tell him about my affair.im scared!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you all for your thoughts on this ive decided not to tell him hell never find out i mean it may be wrong but ive learned from my mistake and things are almost like prefect and i want to be with this man forever and have his children and that will mess it all up and i dont think i can take that i love him with all my heart i just know that when things get rough again i just cant go into another mans arms i have to be strong. thank you all!!!
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (25 May 2007):
 If there is the slightest chance he wil find out from anyone else other than you, then yes, tell him.
If there is no chance he will ever find out, keep your mouth shut, and if he ever makes a similar error, remember your own skeletons in the closet.
You will carry a guilt with you about this...it is your burden, do not make it his burden as well.
-FBK
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2007): No don't. Hopefully you've learned a lesson that won't be repeated. If you are unhappy in your relationship, cheating isn't the answer. It's usually the symptom of a much bigger problem. If you truly regret the act, have indeed ended it, and do not plan to do it again I would keep mum. You're husband doesn't sound like someone who could handle that information in a mature, rational way and it will only cause your marriage to disintegrate before your eyes. If you truly love your husband and want to remain married to him, put it behind you and don't ever let yourself do that again. I hope it works out for you.
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reader, DV1 +, writes (24 May 2007):
 Yes, you should. When you marry someone, it's for better or worse. You make a promise when you get married that if you can't handle the worst parts, that you should do your partner a favor and walk away. Couples are supposed to argue. It's part of relationships. You betrayed his trust, and you need to own up to your mistakes. You may end up losing him, but it will be for the better.
DV1
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