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writes:Me and my girlfriend have been dating for 2 years now. We both said we love each other and are planning to share an apartment together. We have talked about other things in the short term and the long term. The problem we have is probably one of the biggest.I want to get married and have a child, she doesn't.We talked about it for ages and I even said that I'm not fussy on getting married but would like a child. Yet she won't budge, says she doesn't want that. 2 weeks ago I said we should break up as we want different things (just the marriage and baby thing). Yet it was tearing me apart inside as I was away from her, we got back together a week later and she felt the same.The question is what am I going to do. Should I stay with my gf who I am in love with or should I leave her as she doesn't want a kid like I do?
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reader, hilda +, writes (24 May 2007):
you deserve to be happy and she is not going to make u happy you will end up resenting her for not giving u the child you want get out now.
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reader, penta  +, writes (24 May 2007):
 You can't compromise on a child. If she never wants them, don't wait for her to change her mind. You have to decide: 10 or 20 years from now, will you resent her for taking this choice from you? If you can become okay with not having children, EVER, then you can stay with her. Otherwise, you need to make the hard choice and leave. Give yourself time to find someone to be the mother of your children.
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reader, DV1 +, writes (24 May 2007):
 I think that it's best that you two go your separate ways. I just broke up with my girlfriend because she wanted to be able to date around before committing. She's going to find me when she's ready, but until then, I know that she needs to go her own way. When you love someone more than anything on the entire planet, sometimes you have to let them go, in hopes that they will be able to find happiness where you couldn't give it to them.
She would want the same for you.
As far as the time you've been together, it's only been two years. You really should take a few more years to see how you function within a household before you decide that you want a baby. If she's clear that she doesn't share what you want, then you need to respect her and walk away, no matter how much it hurts.
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (24 May 2007):
 You want to get married and have a child.
She does not want to marry you, nor have your child.
You want different things.
Do NOT move in together. Love will not be enough to save this relationship.
Find someone that wants to have your babies.
-FBK
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