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Archived questions from: October, 2008 (see latest in Virginity category)

Virginity: Help and advice

Will this "friends" thing work for us?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5640 days ago

31 October 2008 (F) - I lost my virginity to this guy (he didn't pressure me though) and after several months of being together" and not going out, I told him I couldn't do it anymore, which is when he asked me to be his girlfriend. We went out for a week before he told ...

She's coming 100 miles to see me but I'm terrified as I'm still a virgin!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5646 days ago

30 October 2008 (M) - Guys and girls! OMG I am so nervous, I'm terrified. Ok, here goes. I am a virgin. In fact, I've never kissed a girl in my 19 years of life. A girl I met on the internet (seen her on webcam, she IS real!) And she's making a special trip from...

She freaked out and doesn't want to have sex with me any more.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5654 days ago

30 October 2008 (M) - My fiancee and I just had sex for the first time. Well, some of you might not really call it that. I'll spare you the details. We were both virgins. She was even my first kiss. Basically we went slowly but once it was all the way in she started ...

I'm being bullied into losing my virginity.

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4342 days ago

28 October 2008 (F) - OK. So, I'm 14, yes fourteen. I've recently got a boyfriend who I've been going out for for 5 months, and that's pretty good I must admit. A lot of girls who have always had it out for me have been coming up to me and been going, "Hey virgin, you ...

Having trouble with girlfriend's past experiences.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5642 days ago

27 October 2008 (M) - I'm a 21 year old male and I've very innocent. I'm on my first girlfriend and I'm a virgin. My girlfriend is very religious but has gone to 3rd base with previous boyfriends. One day when we were talking, she misinterpreted when I wanted he...

How do I get more comfortable with sex?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5647 days ago

27 October 2008 (F) - I am in a new relationship...about 3 months old and my boyfriend is ready to have sex but im not sure that i am ready. I am a virgin...well he penetrated one time and there was some blood but he didnt penetrate again because I was nervous. I can ...

Am I still a virgin? We had anal sex.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5592 days ago

27 October 2008 (M) - I'm a freshman in at a catholic school college and I am catholic. I want to save myself for marriage, but one night me and this girl (we were both drunk) went to my room and started making out. One thing led to another and our cloths were off. I ...

Fell for him only to find out that he's taken...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5660 days ago

26 October 2008 (F) - I met this guy a few months ago and weve been close mates ever since he told me about a month in that he liked me but i told him i wasnt sure how i felt yet. For the past few weeks ive totally fallen for him, hes all i think about. I asked to mee...

I'm 15 and still a virgin. My boyfriend is 17 and not a virgin.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5661 days ago

26 October 2008 (F) - Okay this is really embarassing. I'm 15 and still a virgin. My boyfriend is 17 and not a virgin. I'm really nervous about having sex with him because I want him to enjoy himself. I want him to love me even more than he does now, and he really REALLY ...

Is he going to be disgusted when he sees me naked?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5661 days ago

26 October 2008 (F) - I have been dating this guy for about 3 months and I'm ready to have sex with him. I'm a virgin and he's not. He loves me so much and i love him back, but I'm not comfortable with my body AT ALL. I find it ugly, but he says that I'm beautiful every ...

I want us to touch each other in a more intimate way. I want him, and I know he wants me too. How can I give him a "sign"? Am I rushing things ?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5661 days ago

26 October 2008 (F) - Hello everyone! I'm a girl, almost 20 and I'm really happy, i'm dating an amazing guy who really makes me laugh and I feel great when I'm around him. We started as friends, we already liked each other but decided to see if what we felt for each...

Am I making the right choice here?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 5604 days ago

25 October 2008 (F) - I had sex with my boyfriend for the first time and I gave him my virginity, and now he wants it over and over again (I'm 15 and he is 15) and I try to tell him no but he pushes me too hard and just say yes. Am I making the right choice yes or no? ...

Is it possible that we could end up bi or lesbians if we keep doing this?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5645 days ago

24 October 2008 (F) - hi, i have a question that is too awkward to ask anybody that i know. it involves me and my bestfriend. we are both girls, 15 years old and have been best friends since we were small. some in our family say we are cousins, but we aren't really. ...

I'm terrified of losing my virginity.

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5171 days ago

23 October 2008 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been together for just over a year, and everything is going so well. It couldn't be going better except for one thing; I'm a virgin and am still scared of losing my virginity. My boyfriend has been so understanding, and we ...

He took my virginity but he'd already slept with 7 other girls!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5642 days ago

23 October 2008 (F) - Dear cupids. My boyfriend lied to me for 8 months about being a virgin, but then after he took my virginity he confessed to previousy sleeping with 7 girls!! He told me he didn't want to hurt my feelings, which he did twice as much by lying! W...

Should I date him to find out if I like him?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5665 days ago

21 October 2008 (F) - I am 19 and a thirty year old graduate student at my school went with me to the movies. I wasn't sure it was a date but he paid and kissed me on the cheek afterwards. He acted like a perfect gentleman and suggested another movie we could see and ...

I'm a virgin and worried that I will bore my boyfriend in bed... how hard is it to make a guy climax?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5458 days ago

21 October 2008 (F) - hi everyone, i feel kinda wierd asking this, but my boyfriend and i are talking about sex, im a virgin, and he definately isnt. i want to be good for him, and not be known as the boring virgin who just lied there. i have no idea what to do. how hard...

Do I do him a favour and let him lose his virginity with me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5666 days ago

21 October 2008 (F) - ugh, so i used to do alot of stuff with this one guy right? okay well, we were like seriously so close to goin out like it could've happenend but didn't. drama happenend. so we never went out just did sexual stuff..and we haven't talked for a while. ...

My boyfriend keeps getting hit on by his ex, Should I be worried?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5666 days ago

21 October 2008 (F) - I know I'm probably being paranoid, but should it bother me if my boyfriend keeps getting hit on by his ex? (who happens to be the school slut). He only dated her for a couple weeks and made the mistake of sleeping with her. She cheated on him and ...

Would friendly sex create any uncomfortable feelings?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5667 days ago

20 October 2008 (M) - I've got this really good friend, she's 14 going on 15, and I'm 16, 17 next year. We are both virgins. I've done kissing, and dry sex and she's done pretty much nothing, she's never had a boyfriend either. We tell each other everything because we ...

Condom or the pill?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5498 days ago

20 October 2008 (M) - Soo... umm... I've been with my girlfriend for about 4 months and shes already discussed with me about having sex, but shes a virgin and soo am I, but I'm not quite sure whats the best thing to do, bucause she doesnt want me to use a condom, she ...

I don't want to turn up at uni as an unexperienced virgin, what can I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5667 days ago

20 October 2008 (F) - im 17 and i havnt had a proper bf before. ive had one lousy kiss. no lad has ever called me pretty/cute/beautiful etc. i leave for university next year. i have no prospects for a bf before then but i really really dont want to turn up at uni an ...

I would have sex with him, but why does this bother me so much?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5647 days ago

20 October 2008 (F) - ive been dating my boyfriend for 9 months now and we have been talking about sex often lately. we have no problem talking about it and its not hard to tell him what bothers me and when im not ready and such. but every time he asks me if i would (he ...

I really fancy my close friend's boyfriend!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5668 days ago

19 October 2008 (F) - There is this super hot and sexy boy that I like. He plays soccer and has good grades and did I mention that he is hot? Well I really like him and he knows it and I also happen to know that he likes me. There's one problem, he has a girlfriend and ...

I enjoy sex with my boyfriend but feel cheap and sleazy afterwards. Why?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5669 days ago

18 October 2008 (F) - hey everyone i really need some advice coz im not sure why im feeling the way i do.... recently i got together with a guy that i was unoffical with 4 about 6months we finaaly got together and only then i gave him my viginity... i was planning to ...

Am I wrong to be so calculating about losing my virginity?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5668 days ago

18 October 2008 (F) - Hi I am 16 and literally the only person I know and am on a level with that hasn't lost their virginity. I dont think this bothers me too much as i DONT usually conform to peer pressure. However I am ready and do want to lose my virginity. The thin...

Is she still a virgin if the penetration didn't succeed? Is it normal that we noticed blood later?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5655 days ago

18 October 2008 (M) - i tried to penetrate my gf but it was too tight and couldn't get in so we couldnt have sex. no blood came out right away but she was saying that she feels a little burning in her vagina. 2 hours later she showed me little bit of blood on her und...

I am scared of sex!!!!!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5647 days ago

18 October 2008 (F) - I am actually 13 and one of my friends has been having sex (or so she says she does) and I was thinking maybe I should but I'm scared and my parents are overprotective -- not toooo much but I want to, now will I be a virgin forever if I'm scared to ...

I want to be his first but I'm terrified I'll lose him if I have sex with him!

This question has 22 answers - newest was posted 5656 days ago

18 October 2008 (F) - There's a guy on my school's football team and his body is close to perfect and he is absolutely gorgeous!!! I've liked him for a while (I've had band with him for 2 years, I see him everyday) He's 17 and I'm about 2-3 years younger than him. A lot ...

Girls... -what are your views on male virginity?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5666 days ago

17 October 2008 (M) - A question for females only, what are your views on male virginity?...

I'm a virgin and worried she has too high expectations of me, sexually! Any ideas?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5670 days ago

17 October 2008 (M) - ok well i think ive found the rite girl that i want to lose my virginity to...the only problem is she thinks im going 2 b real great durin our 1st time. Can u help me out? Ur advice could help me out alot...

Why do men value their women's virginity?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5653 days ago

16 October 2008 (M) - Why all this negativity towards men who value virginity of a woman? I'm astonished at certain responses which seems to candidly brush this aside as a selfish attribute. It seems people don't understand the psychological and emotional aspect...

Is it wrong to lose your virginity to someone you're not going out with?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5671 days ago

14 October 2008 (F) - I wonder - im still a virgin and this one guy wants to have sex with me but we are not going out , do you think its wrong to lose your virginity to someone you don't go out with ? and yeah im jst 16 years old ...

Is he being sincere or does he think he can get "benefits" again?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5674 days ago

14 October 2008 (F) - Hi, There is this guy I lost my virginity to. he's 23 and we were friends with benefits for months but i felt like I was being used so I said I couldnt do it anymore. He then asked me to be his girlfriend and intoduced me to his friends as his ...

How can I get my friend to back off without runing the relationship?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5675 days ago

13 October 2008 (F) - My boyfriend is an amazing guy. He calls me while im working to leave sweet messages on my phone and would do anything for me. I love him more then anything, but after we started having sex, which i was a virgin before hand, and now i feel like i u...

How do I 'make the move'? He's still a virgin too. Does anyone have any advice they could offer?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5674 days ago

12 October 2008 (F) - okay, well i wrote a qustion on here in august, about being raped on july 18th, the moderator deleted the part of my question, but it was the worst experience of my life and i would not wish it on my worst enemy. i got some fantastic advice back...

Should I give him my virginity?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5675 days ago

12 October 2008 (F) - i fancied my best guy friend for so long and plucked up the courage to tell him how i feel (it took me months)..and he said he used to fancy me and has been messing with my head ever sence, blowing hot and cold and then saying he wants to be ...

I know to some people, virginity is a really precious thing, But why?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5673 days ago

11 October 2008 (F) - what is the big deal about sex? i know someones virginity is a really precious thing, but why? i mean.. whats so big about sex? why's it illegal under 16? i dont get it?! i lost my virginity 2 years ago, i was 14 and to be honest i dont regret it, i ...

My bf has had sex before, now he wants me to sleep with him for my first time but I'm scared...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5677 days ago

10 October 2008 (F) - I have a bofriend that had sex oready but i didnt have sex if him jet he said come i make your frist time speacil I want to but i am scread that he will hurt me or just want to have sexwith me....

Please help save my relationship!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5675 days ago

9 October 2008 (F) - hi pleasse help me to save my relationship me and my fiancee are in relation since 5 years. we are in to physical relation since 4 yrs. we did oral sex a lot many times like on daily basis at times and even he tried inter course but some how ...

I need direction. Something. Please.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5675 days ago

9 October 2008 (F) - This is long, but I really need the help. Thanks. Um, well I'm 16 years old, and I'm a junior this year. I come from a very very very Christian family, who does not under any circumstances accept sex before you get married. I believe in God, and...

I got drunk and ended up losing my virginity to my boyfriend, I don't recall this, have I been taken advantage of?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 5661 days ago

8 October 2008 (F) - Me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 months, a week ago i got very drunk and ended up going back to stay at his. The next morning my boyfriend told me we had had sex. i do not remember this at all and i felt he had took advantage of me as ...

Will the first time hurt?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5629 days ago

8 October 2008 (F) - Me and my boyfriend are planning on having sex for the first time, since im a virgin im scared to know whether i will bleed or it will hurt as ive heard from my friends, im totally ready for sex just have my worries that it will hurt, does your ...

My wife lied to me about her past relationships. Should I doubt her faithfulness?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5680 days ago

8 October 2008 (M) - Hi Would really like all your thoughts on this one. We have been married for 11 years and have a 9 year old daughter. Just after marriage my wife told me that she was a virgin - not that i asked her but it was her own input. Well good for me as I ...

I want her back more then anything in this world, even after shes hurt me like this!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5678 days ago

8 October 2008 (M) - K so where to begin.... me and my ex dated for a while and we were both in love and she truely was and so was i but i didnt show it enough, and one day we got in a huge fight and i said really mean shit , that i didnt mean. anyways we broke up for...

Why does it hurt everytime I have sex as much as the first time?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5681 days ago

7 October 2008 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been having sex for about two weeks. We have done it about 8-9 times and every single time it hurts just as much as the first time. I don't understand why my body won't adjust and it seems that even if i take a little while ...

My girlfriend denies me sex. She says she's a virgin but has also been a lesbian?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5681 days ago

6 October 2008 (M) - My girl friend denies me of sex with her. She claims to be a virgin, only to find out she has been a lesbian. I am disappointed. What do I do?...

Would I still be considered a virgin...?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5682 days ago

6 October 2008 (F) - This guy that i kinda like was over at my house and we were thinking about having sex, but when he started it hurt really bad, and after about a minute or two of trying i just couldnt handle the pain anymore, so i made him stop. Am i still cons...

I'm now doubting everything I thought I did know about sex. Any advice?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5682 days ago

6 October 2008 (F) - Hello, I'm 16. I'm a girl. I've been in a long term sexual relationship before with a boy equally as inexperienced as me, but I don't feel I've actually gained any sexual experience, as he was equally as clueless as me. I'm now with someone I r...

Could he tell I was a virgin?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5682 days ago

5 October 2008 (F) - I was too ashamed to tell this guy I was a virgin and we ended up in bed, he fingered me (which hurt!) then put on a condom and we went to have sex. Thing is he kept losing his erection (from coming quite a lot before and being on medication for a ...